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writes: So I'm 16 and have been denying my true feelings my whole life. I'm bi-sexual but I mostly like guys. so about 8 months ago I got sick of hiding everything so I came out to my close friends..I didn't tell my parents because I didn't feel that it's any of their business. Plus we don't get along in the first place..so I just wanted to avoid that. Anyway throughout that 8 month period I met a nice guy. We were friends at first because we've had each other in most of our classes. We got to know each other a lot. And I found out he was into guys. So I asked him out. And now we've been together for 2 months. He's great; he's my first actual bf and my first relationship. He treats me right and he makes me happy and I don't want to mess that up. But the thing is...I've always been a very horny guy since puberty hit.(oh the joy of growing up)So I've been craving to be more intimate with him. But I'm scared to go about it, And I don't know how to go about it. I don't want to think weirdly of me. I want share that moment with because I think I love him. And I want it bad. Fantasies about it all the time. What should I do?? All we do is make out and touch..but nothing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you AvgGuy1. Very helpful.
See the thing is, even though I'm soo excited about this..I really have no experience. We both are virgins but he's been in relationships before. So even though I want this...I would be hesitant because I'd be scared of doing the wrong thing. So I was kinda hoping he would guide me...
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (18 June 2010):
 WOW, It sounds like you both have the makings of a REALLY good relationship.
One things for sure DON'T FORCE yourself upon him. That'll totally ruin things. Additionally, HE might be thinking the same thing about you.
So, Talk to him.
Find a nice quiet time - put on some nice instrumental music ; something that you don't really wanna sing or dance to... and just lay around cuddling/kissing - on the couch, bed, whatever... and talk.
Ask him if he's ever done anything with anyone else before. If he has... ask him if he liked it or didn't. Tell him he doesn't have to tell you any gritty details - unless he wants to. And offer up similar information about yourself.
Then at some point... while you laying there being cuddly with each other... ask him if he wants to do more with you? You need to let him know that YOU really appreciate him SO MUCH and that you don't wanna screw it up by being too pushy... that you can go at his speed (even though this may not be what you REALLY want you have to live by his rules... so to speak).
And who knows... he might be just as horny as you... and think that you don't want to progress too quickly.
Good Luck.
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