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I'm obsessed with my cousin!
Q. ok I met my cousin for the first time last weekend, and the moment i saw him i have been obsesed with him. i think its wrong by law but i cannot help it. he was so nice when i met him and has been everseen (on facebook) but he lives miles away and ...
A. 15 June 2010:
If it were me, infatuated with a cousin I just met, and I thought he MIGHT be at least BI I would foster a good friendship with him first. Even if he's straight and I really like him... I might befriend him.
Really you should get to know him ... (read in full...)
Love this guy, but my ex hates him! Confused!
Q. hi, bascially i really really really like this guy. I no he will go out with me, BUT ,my ex boyfriend is like worst enimies with him. now i dont want people to think im only going out with him to get back at my ex. also i dont want him 2 try and ...
A. 11 June 2010: Your EX... is just that... Your EX. You should go out with WHOMEVER you want to (basically). If you REALLY REALLY REALLY like 'guy B' then go out with him.... (read in full...)
Is there more to this friendship?
Q. Over the past few months, me and my slightly younger (by 3 years) male cousins have been getting to spend quite a bit of time together, and I've developed a bit of a attraction to both of them, both for different reasons... The first one, lets ...
A. 10 June 2010: I see by your 'posting' that you say you are 18-21. If your cousins are 3 years younger... that makes them 15-18. There are LEGAL ramifications involved here that you should be VERY VERY CAREFUL about crossing. It doesn't matter who they are. If ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for a gay partner, but I am told that people can't tell that I'm gay.. how do I change this to attract the right people?
Q. So after coming into terms that I'm gay, actually this was at age 18. Its been two years and now I am twenty. I am not as shy as I used to be but it appears I can't get any guy to really like me. From my part I try to do what I can I groom myself...
A. 10 June 2010: I too have this problem as I'm no screaming nelly queen and MOST people who work with me can't believe it... until they've known me for a while. You could wear T-shirts that are 'obvioius'(there are some that are humorous and subtle), but ser... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for not having more sexual partners?
Q. This might come across as being a confused question. I am in a loving gay relationship for one year and a half and my partner has alot more sexual experience and has had many relationships with many people, some that weren't sexually intimat...
A. 10 June 2010:
If his bringing up past partners makes you uncomfortable... then you need to TELL him that. Plain and simple. It sounds like HE doesn't really want to hear about YOUR past... you shouldn't have to put up with a barrage of his past exploits eith... (read in full...)
Can love conquer the closet???
Q. I have an issue, my first issue actually. I'm an openly gay male (try and dress cute, carry bags, wear makeup on the occasion, very hard to miss that I'm not straight.) and I met this man who is bisexual. He's only dated women, which irronicaly is ...
A. 10 June 2010: Um... if it's OBVIOUS that you are gay. And others SEE you with him. Won't they figure it out? What's he going to tell others about you? You might want to talk to him about this one point... as it sounds like you're not too keen on being shoved ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the secret bank account?
Q. Well my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and we always talk about everything, we are totally honest but that doesn't mean we agree or we come to a compromise. I am the most financially stable thinker between the both of us, I ...
A. 6 June 2010: WOW... this is a REALLY hot topic. Understandably. My BF and I work it like this... as others have suggested.
Separate Checking accounts into which your company makes direct-deposits of payroll. Never ever direct deposit into joint accounts... (read in full...)
I want a quiet relationship with him -- how do I approach him?
Q. i like a boy in high school, and i know he is AT LEAST bisexual. he didn't tell me, i just know from the way he talks and acts around me. im not out or plan to be out about my sexuality, and neither is he, but i told him i like him over messagin...
A. 5 June 2010:
His lack of reply means he was probably thrown off a little. You also need to let him know that you didn't mean to make him feel uncomfortable when you expressed your feelings for him. You can tell him that you'd LIKE to get closer and that you'... (read in full...)
Told teacher I had a crush on him, what will administration do?
Q. I am a gay male, so recently I told my MALE teacher that I had a crush on him. I made sure to tell him that i did not intend to take in any further since first of all, he is straight and married (with a daughter). and obviously it is illegal. The ...
A. 5 June 2010: The only think that they MIGHT do... is transfer you to another class. And I'll bet they would ONLY do that if your grades seem to be affected by it.
I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Have you told your parents (that you're gay)??? ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or not?
Q. I recently questioned that i might be gay so i met up with a guy i met online to see if I enjoyed it. We preformed oral on each other then he preformed anal sex on me. I did cum but am still not sure if I'm gay or not?...
A. 3 June 2010: I would say that you are AT LEAST Bi. Although, if you can't/don't want to have sex with women - at all - then you are most definitely gay.
You're probably feeling very confused and possibly even scared. This is normal, especially for first ex... (read in full...)
My manager brings her baby to the office every week but doesn't allow anyone else to bring in their kids!
Q. Hi guys, My manager at work had a baby 4 months ago and since it's been born she has bought him (the baby) in to the office practically every week! 1 week she came in 3 times. She came in to show off the baby- not for anything work related. ...
A. 28 May 2010:
Speaking from a management perspective (I've been a 'manager').
You need to check with and bring up this issue with your HR department.
Here in the US, depending on which state you live in, you can't do something for one employee that yo... (read in full...)
My manager brings her baby to the office every week but doesn't allow anyone else to bring in their kids!
Q. Hi guys, My manager at work had a baby 4 months ago and since it's been born she has bought him (the baby) in to the office practically every week! 1 week she came in 3 times. She came in to show off the baby- not for anything work related. ...
A. 27 May 2010:
Speaking from a management perspective (I've been a 'manager').
You need to check with and bring up this issue with your HR department.
Here in the US, depending on which state you live in, you can't do something for one employee that yo... (read in full...)
Is he into me? Or is he not that into me?
Q. Okay, so there's this guy I am somewhat interested in. And one day he came up to me, and asked me for my name. He purposely came over to talk to me even knowing I am gay. On top of it, he's very shy with everyone else, but he seems to only talk to ...
A. 27 May 2010: Answer to your next questions.
1. YES start studying with him. Do ANYTHING that can get face time with him. Even if it seems innocuous. You only get to know someone better by spending time with them.
2. You can't really make a request t... (read in full...)
I have feelings for both girls and boys, but I don't want to be gay!
Q. Hi there, I'm 16 years old, and I'm gay. I don't want to be gay, because I want to have a life, where I get married to a beautiful woman, and have great kids, and be successful (I'd like to). Plus people who are gay are really frowned upon where I ...
A. 21 May 2010:
Growing up... I DIDN'T _WANT_ to be gay either. But at some point, if you truly are gay, you'll just face up to it. I would say though, that if you really feel that you are gay and you suppress it... the more difficult it will be and the more... (read in full...)
Is he into me? Or is he not that into me?
Q. Okay, so there's this guy I am somewhat interested in. And one day he came up to me, and asked me for my name. He purposely came over to talk to me even knowing I am gay. On top of it, he's very shy with everyone else, but he seems to only talk to ...
A. 21 May 2010:
HE's TOTALLY into you!
I was like that with my best friend in college. You could say... I even 'stalked' him. I knew every class he was takings, when it was scheduled, where he'd be, everything. He's into you! The question is... are you into... (read in full...)
B/f wants to get more intimate but I'm unsure about it
Q. Im a 16 year old guy. And I'm gay. Me and my boyfriend have been togethr for a while..but now he wants to get more intimate with me. I want to.. but i'm afraid at the same time. What do i do?...
A. 13 May 2010: Everyone here is right. You should only go as far as you feel comfortable. He should be willing to understand that... and help you work through it... but not force you or coerce you into doing something that you are not comfortable with. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is selfish with sex!
Q. I'm a 23-year-old gay guy, and I've been with my partner for over three years now. The one major problem in our relationship is lack of sex. My partner never touches my penis, never gives me a handjob, never gives me a blowjob, and never let's me ...
A. 7 May 2010:
Some guys are exclusively TOPS... and sometimes SELFISH TOPS (not that there's anything wrong with any particular role). Other guys, like you - and me - are VERSATILE - like it both ways. And some are BOTTOMS and TOTAL BOTTOMS (wanna BE used... (read in full...)
I'm gay, but I'm too girlish when it comes to love..any advice
Q. *OP`s own title* I am a 18 years old gay and I want to have a relationship. The problem is that I got turn off to a guy when i found out he's gay, specially i can easily detect a guy who is gay...the thing is that, I have so girlish attitude...
A. 7 May 2010: OK... Look. ALL gays are NOT nelly queens. You just need to find someone that's essentially hyper-masculine and gay. You might be looking in the wrong places. EyesWideOpen is right. You need to get out and experience more. And by all mean... (read in full...)
Bisexual feelings interferring with committed relationship!
Q. ive been w/ my gf for 6 months. i really love her and seriously think she could be the one im w/ for life but about a week ago i realized im bi or at least bicuriuos. i told her and shes totally ok w/ it but since im in a commited relatioship i cant ...
A. 7 May 2010:
Have you asked he what should would think or feel about you connecting with another guy... now, or later? What about her thoughts on a three-way with you, her, and another guy? Perhaps she would be totally comfortable being with you... in a poly... (read in full...)
Will masturbating make my penis bigger?
Q. Hi! I am Gay and in my Teens and have an issue that I need help with. The thing is that I am unsure about the results of masturbating. I have a regular size penis but I want to know if masturbation or time will change my penis to regular size for my ...
A. 30 April 2010: The best indicator of penile size... is that of other males in your family (father & older brothers). If you can get a look at their(s) you'll be able to see about what you'll end up with... in the long run.... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex that I didn't want, now what?
Q. I am gay and without me realising ended up having unprotected anal sex. I am freaking out! Sorry for the details but here they are... Things were moving along and I sat up to put a condom on myself and he was like we're not f***ing yet, so ...
A. 30 April 2010:
1. Go get tested - just to make sure you're all ok. TOPS can catch bugs too. Just to maintain your own bit of sanity.
2. From now on, obey the golden rule - No Glove, No Love! It's that simple.
As for HIM freaking out, because you sho... (read in full...)
He's seems angry all the time and I don't know why
Q. My boyfriend and I, (we are both gay) recently moved in together about a month and a half ago. Lately, however, he seems like he's always angry at me or just cranky. Today, when he came home, he didn't even smile or say hello to me. He just went ...
A. 22 April 2010: Ok, there's NO REASON that you can't have your own friends... and you SHOULD have your own friends. Other than this forum, it gives you a more interactive, and I would suggest more trusted source of support... for issues just like this. I used to... (read in full...)
Should I keep my account a secret from my family?
Q. Hi I asked a question about a week ago 'Am I Gay or Bi?' and gave read the answers and most if you said Im Gay so I was happy that the decision is made so I joined a Teen Chat Site for Gays and I'm happy chatting and stuff but I hate sneaking around ...
A. 22 April 2010: You shouldn't tell anyone... until you're absolutely comfortable in doing so. So continue on, as you are/have been, until you're ready to come out to them. I can't speak for your parents... but from what I've read on here most are fairly sup... (read in full...)
I get so scared and nervous around him!
Q. So for back ground information, I"m a 16 year old gay male and my boyfriend is 17. We've been together for 4 months. Well everything is perfect with our relationship, he's the perfect bf. We could spend hours talking about nothing. Hes smart, f...
A. 22 April 2010: YEP sounds like you're in love... totally. I had a relationship like that... when I was younger too. Made me nauseous when I wasn't with him. Sounds like you're suffering from something similar - separation anxeity. You should eventual... (read in full...)
How can I stop acting dumb around boys?
Q. Hi I am Gay and I have so much problems but I'm only gonna talk about one. I Act so Dumb around all my guy straight friends and all boys in my year and the thing is I haven't told them I've only told one person wich is my friend that's a girl and I ...
A. 21 April 2010:
First, you need to figure out what's really making you so embarrassed... to talk to them. You are probably worrying TOO much about whether they will like you or not. They will either like you, or they won't. If they don't like you... that's thei... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend! How do I go about getting one when I am the only gay in my school?
Q. Hi I am in my teens and I'm gay. I've been masturbating to gay sex like millions if time and I feel pleasured but the thought that makes me have an orgasm is having a boyfriend and there's no gays in my school except me but no one knows. ...
A. 21 April 2010: Well... I can certainly guarantee you that you are NOT the only gay in school, even though you probably feel like you are. There are other gays there, they're just not 'out'. What's worse is your 'gaydar' - your ability to 'tell' who else is gay ... (read in full...)
Men don't cut it any more, is same sex the way to go?
Q. Dear cupid, I am sick of men I am sick of boys I am sick of bad relationships, broken hearted, being used, lied to, cheated, strung around, toyed with, abused, abandoned, and every Tom Dick and Harry that tries very hard to impregnate me. This has...
A. 16 April 2010: LA Latina nailed it. It doesn't matter which sex you date. You'll always find that BAD qualities are present. It's about the PERSON you are dating.
Do you seem to keep dating the same kind - e.g. bad-boys, geeks, workaholics, druggies... (read in full...)
Help! I think I'm bi. How do I only think about girls?
Q. help! i think im bi. i think about guys and girls but i only wanna thik about girls. help! ...
A. 14 April 2010: At your age... your hormones are all arage. If you are getting aroused looking at other guys, don't beat yourself up for it. It happens to EVERY GUY, gay, straight or in-between. If you find you are being emotionally attracted to guys as well... ... (read in full...)
How do I imply that I'm gay and I like him?
Q. So I like This Guy,and i'm almost positive he's Bi or maybe even gay(He doesn't know i'm gay).We talk a lot online and at school in class,when we pass each other in the hall he gives me a smile or a friendly shove, and in class he's always looking ...
A. 12 April 2010:
First, since you have one, or more classes together you could ask him if he wants to study some time. Either as part of a group or just the two of you alone. Once you're in your study session... at some point, talk about non-class related stuf... (read in full...)
He has a low sex drive, yet still masterbates. Why?
Q. Hi My partner and I are gay and I find that I am always wanting sex with him as I can not get enough but he has a very little sex drive but is happy to wank everyday with out me can you tell me what is wrong with this....
A. 12 April 2010:
This has happened with me and my partner... I like spontaneity he just likes to lay there and be a bottom. After a while... it got very boring and then he basically started cutting me off. So now, I just jack off. You need to find out what it i... (read in full...)
Why do I have these feelings and thoughts about guys?
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put together on same post>> I have a big problem im currently dating a girl, im an uncircumsised male and i love how my girl performs oral on me and plays with my foreskin everything is good and all but the thought of me pe...
A. 10 April 2010:
Just from what I've read... I'd say you're probably 'bi' you just haven't had any male experiences with guys yet... and that's what's a little frustrating... not to mention the fact that you have and love a girl friend.
Sounds like you just nee... (read in full...)
How can I reconcile my boyfriend's sexual history with my lack of one?
Q. I'm a gay 22-year-old male involved in my first relationship with another man, which has lasted now for a bit over a year. We've been long distance for almost 10 months, as I'm spending a year working on the other side of the planet (in a ...
A. 10 April 2010:
You are worried that he has had intimate contact with... _4_ (from what I could count) people and you have essentially had none - other than him???
Let's reverse the situation. How would you feel if YOU had more experience than him??? My p... (read in full...)
The loveful blues....
Q. Hello People, I'm a 17 year old guy and I think I love this other slightly younger guy who goes to a different college and says that he is completely head over heels in love with me. All seems good.. Apart from the fact that he is an ex...
A. 9 April 2010:
You've only started into this relationship (e.g. actually met)... and you're worried about it?!?!
Give it time. Only that will really tell you whether he's genuine about his feelings for you... or not. He might be better looking thank you...... (read in full...)
He'll never feel the same about me what do I do?
Q. There's this guy I know. I've know him for about 3 years, but we haven't really been close friends. But being around him these 3 years has made me grow really fond him of to the point where i'm pretty sure I'm in love with him. The only problem ...
A. 6 April 2010:
If you are/were that close to him, shouldn't you have told him BEFORE he left for school in Colorado?
Is there a chance that he's coming back (to where you are)?
The same thing happened to me when I was in school. Made friends with and eve... (read in full...)
Is his love genuine?
Q. Okay, well first let me start by saying that I am bi and I am a young guy. Here is my issue, which by the way has been occupying a great deal of my time for a while now...I have been dating this guy i met online about five months ago and in the ...
A. 4 April 2010:
I don't want this to sound too rude.. but I can almost guarantee that you are no higher than THIRD on his priority list... and here's why:
1. FAMILY (kids) - If he has primary custody (or not), they will always be his MAIN priority.
2... (read in full...)
Is he gay/bi curious or straight? It's really confusing me
Q. Hi I'm 16 and I'm really confused atm. I'm male and bisexual and I have a really good male friend the same age as me and I don't know if he's gay/bi or not. The thing is, the first time we really became best friends was when we went camping with a ...
A. 4 April 2010:
I'll bet he's at least bi. If not totally gay. As pointed out previously. Coming to grips with it, can be extremely frightening. Don't push him. Take it all slowly.
Sounds like you both have a very NICE relationship which could lead to some... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this mindset and gain more confidence?
Q. I'm male and in relation with another guy for past 2 years. By looks, am average looking, but decent looking. cannot say am ugly. I never felt inferior about my looks, because i have lot more valuable qualities. Good job and good finance sta...
A. 2 April 2010:
Well... I hate to say this... but YOU have got to start thinking that YOU are attractive first, before everyone else will. Inner confidence really does 'attract' people. Cause you'll start paying attention to how you dress, smell, hold your... (read in full...)
My first anal, will it hurt much?
Q. *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...
A. 2 April 2010:
Yep... it'll hurt. It varies from one person to another. I find that initial penetration to be the hardest part... but... once I get someone in me... and I'm comfortable with it... it's WONDERFUL! As everyone else has pointed out. LUBE... and ... (read in full...)
I thought I was gay, but agreeing to date a guy freaked me and I backed out.
Q. im 16 and i thought i was gay because i like to masterbate to men and not women so i thought i was gay but yesterday this boy in my class amitted he like me and we called each other and he said he wanted to date me and i havent had no one since ...
A. 2 April 2010:
Well... that was kind of a 'mean' thing to do. Find out that someone LIKES you and agree to actually 'go out on a date' with them... and then back out. BUT... I know where you're coming from. My first few 'dates' with guys... just about made... (read in full...)
I'm gay, don't know if he is and don't know how to go about finding out if he is!
Q. Hey guys, I really need help, there's this guy at work I really like, he's such a sweet guy, very cute and kind, we talk kinda often and he always gives me mixed signals, here's the problem, I'm gay and I have no idea if he is straight, bi, gay...I ...
A. 2 April 2010:
One of the best ways to tell... and it's been pointed out on this board numerous times before ... is to WATCH what he looks at.
Have lunch with him, or something like that, and just pay attention (don't stare) to his eyes. If he's interested i... (read in full...)
Do my dreams mean I'm gay?
Q. So I've never been in a relationship before. So i really don't know what I am. I'm 15 and I've always had weird feelings.Always felt different. But I have a close friend named Joe. Now since like the new year I've been having weird dreams. Not ...
A. 2 April 2010: At your age... it's really difficult to know if you're gay or straight... until/unless your actually fixating on guys pretty much exclusively.
Personally, I don't think dreams mean much of anything. Some say that they are a manifestation of your ... (read in full...)
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