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Recently discovered I'm bi and afraid of my parents' reaction

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Question - (13 July 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 13 July 2010)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I am 15. I have recently discovered I'm bi. No not bi-curious. And I don't know what to do I'm afraid of what my parents might do.

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A female reader, Megan Deetes United Kingdom +, writes (13 July 2010):

Megan Deetes agony auntIf you know you are bisexual, you don't have to tell anybody if you don't want to. I am bisexual, and realised when I was 15. I told my Dad and he was extremely supportive but still haven't told my Mum because I don't feel comfortable in doing so yet =)

There is nothing wrong with being bisexual or homosexual it doesn't make any difference to the person you are. If you decide to tell anyone, tell people who you trust and you know will support you if you don't feel comfortable coming out openly straight away. It's a difficult thing to do, don't let anybody rush you into it.

Just remember, it's nothing to be ashamed of- Good luck!

Megan

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A male reader, AvgGuy1 United States +, writes (13 July 2010):

AvgGuy1 agony aunts/he wanted to know whether s/he should tell their parent(s)... not whether or not s/he is actually bi... so all this other discussion is really just academic.

LLindy87 does state correctly though. I'm gay, and EVERY gay person - without exception - that I know, said they knew they were when they were very young (e.g. 5-9).

That being said, Strontiumdog hit it right on the head... you DON'T HAVE to tell ANYONE. Especially at his/her age... perhaps it is only an experimental phase and that's why I caution against it. There are a whole BUNCH of other variables that we are not privy to which could affect whether or not to tell his/her parents. When in doubt... err on the side of caution.

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (13 July 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntto mr. anonymous who posted first,

she could know. how do you know that she couldn't know? seriously, she made it clear that she is for sure bi. I have a lot of gay friends and most that ive talked to said that they knew they liked the same sex from the age of five.

think back to when you first had a baby crush on someone. I know the first guy I liked I was in kindergarten. For people who are gay or bi, they could have had a crush on the same sex just that young.

bi curious is more like when you already know you're mostly straight but your curious you might like the same sex too. Most people do go through a bi curious stage, she probably already went through that at even a younger age than 13.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010):

I'm sorry, but there's no way you know you're bi. You're like 14 or 15, you have no life experience! You're probably just curious.

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A female reader, love.lover.heartbreaker.brokenhearted. United States +, writes (13 July 2010):

love.lover.heartbreaker.brokenhearted. agony auntno matter what anyone else says it is always your decision. and there is no rush to tell anyone if it makes you uncomfortable. Things'll be fine! don stress

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A male reader, Boombadaboom Belgium +, writes (13 July 2010):

Boombadaboom agony auntJust be honest... To yourself and to your family and friends. It will get you a long way. Pay good attention to 'how' you say it and timing is a lot. As long as they respect you, there is not much to worry about.

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