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Gay dating in high school?
Q. Just a little about me, I'm an out gay sophomore, at a Catholic school, in a city that is supportive of homosexuality, though gay marriage isn't available anymore for some reason... Anyway, how am I supposed to date in high school? No sourc...
A. 7 September 2011: If you are interested in someone, whether you're gay, straight or in-between, the only way that you'll get to the point of being able to even ask them out... is to totally get to know them. At some point in the development of a friendship... ... (read in full...)
The bible tells me I'll go to hell for liking girls. Should I get help?
Q. The Bible tells me it is wrong to desire women sexually, I feel like I'm going to go to hell for liking girls. What should I do? I have like girls since I was a pre-teen, I'm now 65 yrs old. I have dated men on and off my whole like, even marri...
A. 7 September 2011: You've been brainwashed by religion. Take a read of this:
a href="http://allthingsqueer.co.za/archives/religion/60.html"Homosexuality and the Bible/a it's a reply to Dr. Laura Schlesinger's on-air rant from a few years go.
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Is it possible he'll consent to having sex with me?
Q. hey i am gay and i have a friend whom i like very much but i don't know if he is gay or straight. next month he is coming to my house to stay for a week, we will sleep in the same room alone, and i really want to have sex with him is there any way i ...
A. 7 September 2011:
Unless HE comes on to you. Don't do anything!
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Is my partner's brother just trying to be macho in front of me? Or is he trying to tell me something?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my same-sex partner for almost two years. My partner has a brother who is "straight" he has a girlfriend, and always has that macho man attitude. He treats his family, including his brother really rude, on ...
A. 7 September 2011:
Your partner's brother sounds like a total douche. I'd steer clear of him if at all possible. Just tell him yer not interested in any THING he's offering. You've already got what you want.
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Am I gay, bi or straight?
Q. i'm 23 and i'm really confused about my sexuality and have been questioning it for many years now, i used to find women very attractive and i even had a girlfriend once but i ended it because it felt awkward and there was no more feelings after the ...
A. 23 August 2011: Google the 'Kinsey Scale'.
Basically, it's a scale based on a study of human sexuality (mostly men) which essentially attempts to classify people into categories ranging from 0 (totaly straight) to 6 (exclusively homosexual).
I myself, am ... (read in full...)
He's hot! Could he be attracted to me??
Q. Okay I'm gonna get to the point straight away.I'm a 19 year old gay guy and I have a crush on this guy in one of my classes.I know he's gay for sure but Could he be attracted to me when he's a whole lot better looking.I'm a latino guy so I have dark ...
A. 22 August 2011: Get to know him... and HIS FRIENDS. You can find out, discreetly, from his friends whether he likes you or not... if you don't find out directly from him first.
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I want a relationship with this guy and I want my mother to accept it!
Q. Hi, I am 21 years old guy, just came out yesterday to my mother that I am bisexual and she didn`t over reacted but the thing is, she did not convinced that I am actually capable to love also guys and enjoy sexual intercourse. She thinks that thi...
A. 19 August 2011: Well... you can't FORCE her to do anything that she's not already inclined to do.
I think if you can get into a relationship with a guy and essentially prove to her that that is what makes you happy... then she might be a little more acceptin... (read in full...)
I got attracted to an online guy too fast and then he deleted me!
Q. Hello dear cupiders have a problem and would really want some advice. Last friday, the curious me got the better of myself so I tried to go to some online gay chat sites. There I met tons of people ranging from oldies to guys who wants to do peop...
A. 8 August 2011: Well... hate to tell you this... but this sort of thing happens all the time.
You never know whether it's something that you said/did or some situation changed on his end. Perhaps he is cheating on his boy-friend and got caught chatting with you... (read in full...)
Gay marrying a woman
Q. Hi, i am 29 yr gay, but i look like other normal guys, my family is pressurising me to get married, bt i dont like gls ,i like ther boobs bt nt vagina, i want to kno can i b able to fk my wife nd satisfy her? I am very tense,i have to marry,pls give ...
A. 5 August 2011: There are a LOT of gay guys who get married... and have children, with a woman, however in the long run they usually end up divorcing their wife and 'coming out'.
I would caution you against getting married just for the sake of pleasing your par... (read in full...)
Married man, watching gay porn and wanting to try sex with a man
Q. Male married for 26 years. The last 5 or so years, I have started looking at gay porn. I love to see two or more men together and want to try it myself. I bought myself a large dildo and love to use it on myself. I have never cheated on my wife but ...
A. 4 August 2011: Well... doing it with a guys is no less cheating than doing it with a woman.
You need to really figure out whether you're actually bi/gay and then decide what you want to do.
if your wife is open to it... you might be able to have an open ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? I think I'm bordering on Asexual
Q. Okay, I'm confused. So, I'm a seventeen year old male. I know I'm biromantic - I'm fine with being in a relationship with either a man or a woman, I do prefer men, but it's close; 40/60% I have no trouble with my sex drive, I masturbate only ...
A. 3 August 2011: It's probably just a phase you're going through. I had a 'friend' once that I hooked up with a couple of times. He hated ORAL sex - at the time. Years later we hooked up a couple of times, again, but this time he would have made a hoover vacuum ... (read in full...)
Where do I start to meet other gay men?
Q. I'm 23, have Asperger's syndrome, and although I've had some struggles in life, things have got a fair bit better over the past 2 years (well, since November 2008 to be really technical, but...). I find it difficult to make friends, unless ...
A. 1 August 2011: I think your best bet is on-line dating sites.
Try gay.com, gaydar.co.uk, gay friend finder, and gay singles online. gaydar is a little more 'cruisy' (for sex) but the others seem more date like.
The 'gay scene' (i.e. bars and clubs) isn't for... (read in full...)
I am finding it so difficult to move on....do I stand a chance?
Q. I'm extremely depressed right now. To introduce myself, i'm a 17-year old gay man who has been in love with my ex-best friend till now. I have liked a number of guys in my life before, and none had worked out (They either found out and started ...
A. 29 July 2011: Sounds to me like your, no EX, boyfriend might have been a little more straight (i.e. bisexual) than would be best for you.
You need to find someone who's GAY... not bisexual. I know at your age it's extremely difficult to do so... but you'll f... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex boyfriend is gay?
Q. So I think my ex boyfriend is gay, and just hasnt came out the closet yet. I also think thats why he comes coming back to me. Not because I look like a man. lol But because I do the things he wants me to do. So here are the things he has done or ...
A. 29 July 2011: If he's your EX... why do you care?!?!
If he's bi/gay and wants to come out to you at some point he will. Other than that, forget about it and go find another boyfriend.
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I always treated him well, so why is acting so hurtful towards me and telling such lies?
Q. I’m a 30 year old gay guy, and three months ago I split with my boyfriend, who is 20, and who I thought was the love of my life. I left him because only a couple of weeks after we began dating, he had a threesome with two girls (he is bi) at his e...
A. 28 July 2011: Drop him like a HOT ROCK! He's TOXIC and you should want NOTHING to do with him. If you have friends in common or something like that... then you need to identify who is on his side, who's on your side and who's neutral. Try to avoid those who ... (read in full...)
Can a romantic gay-straight relationship work?
Q. So, I am 20 and gay and my best friend is 21 and straight. We started chillin in high school and never thought much of it but we spent almost every day together and as a result we have fallen in love with eachother. At first I thought I just had a ...
A. 28 July 2011: Missy_Musk pretty much nailed it. Your friend is PROBABLY bisexual and until he's fully comfortable with full physical contact then it's really not fair to you... at all. You'll feel USED if you move in and things go fine for a while, and you ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's gay, but he kissed me on the lips. Why?
Q. hey, i've been hanging out with this guy recently and stuff, and a few days ago he kissed me. i'm not gay, at least I don't think i am. I don't think he is either, he's jokingly called people 'f**king fairies' and such. and it was weird he ...
A. 21 July 2011: Sounds a bit innocent to me. Depends on HOW LONG he kissed you. More than a 'peck' seems a little like a 'curiosity' thing. If he does it again and/or it lasts longer then he might be 'experimenting' a little. I wouldn't put much stock in it... ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is gay or not - do you think he likes me? What should I do about this situation?
Q. I am definitely dealing with some crap. I know that others have gone through much worse, and I am not downplaying anyone else's situation, I just have no desire to do pretty much anything unless it's with Josh. Pretty much the only reason I leave ...
A. 20 July 2011: Just cause you're 'christian' doesn't mean you can't also be gay. One can choose one's religion. One can not choose one's sexuality. In any event, you have to find out if he's gay/bi.
If you two are as close as you say... just put it to him. ... (read in full...)
If she doesn’t like boys, why is she still with him? Should I wait for him?
Q. Okay, I’m a gay guy stuck in a sticky situation, no pun intended. I’ve been hanging out with one of my friends from high school recently, and she told me how she doesn’t have feelings for guys anymore, and she introduced me to her boyfriend, whom is ...
A. 18 July 2011: It sounds to me like they haven't quite gotten to or finished the break-up process or they think they can patch things back together.
Just sit tight. It'll work itself out one way or another.
In the meantime though... don't limit yourself b... (read in full...)
I kinda like him but not in the way I used to, not yet anyway but if this carries on I might.
Q. My old best friend from when I was about 3 to 10 has recently started contancting me through facebook and we have been chatting and catching up for the last 5 or so years. Well we was chatting away and I asked if he had a girlfriend and then he told ...
A. 16 July 2011: Well... you say that you haven't seen him in YEARS. People change... A LOT.
However, I would say that since you had a previously established 'relationship' and that you liked him, a little more than just a friend - it sounds like - that you... (read in full...)
Depressed, Unhappy, I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Q. I am 22 yrs. old from Europe living in Canada. I use to be full of life and the kind of person that would light up the room when I walk in ever since I was a child. Everything changed when I was 15 and I started to feel attraction toward guys, wh...
A. 15 July 2011: Well... I hate to tell you this but the ONLY WAY to be as happy and content with yourself and everything else... is to come out to those that matter (family). As much as you might think that it'll destroy things it most likely will not. They might ... (read in full...)
What should I talk to my crush about? And when should I tell him I'm gay?
Q. Hello :), This is kind of two questions but I could really use your help...so I'm a gay teenager, still in highschool and still in the closet. There is this really cute guy that I started talking to a few days ago and I know almost NOTHING about hi...
A. 14 July 2011: Often, WHO he hangs out with is an indicator of who/what he likes. This is especially true in High School.
If he hangs out with/participates in sports... then he's most likely interested in sports. Ask him if he's going to some specific... (read in full...)
I'm not out yet, how do I ask a guy on a date?
Q. Ive liked men since i was 13 (now16) and i now have a really bad crush! I cant stop thinking about him! I just need some advice on how to go about asking him on a date( im still in the closet)....
A. 14 July 2011: First... You have to be absolutely SURE that he too is gay or bi. Otherwise, when you DO ask him... you'll be outting yourself. Not something you want to do if you're not ready to do so. If you are unsure of his orientation then you need to ... (read in full...)
I feel left out and it makes me depressed!
Q. I work at a day camp in Vancouver. I am friendly with most of the staff but I don't talk to them too much because I don't know what to say. I also have social anxiety disorder. The other staff are friendly with me but there are parties every ...
A. 13 July 2011: Well... you can't get to the top of the stairwell in one step so... Forget about getting invited to the parties for the time being... let's work on your interaction with those in the group first. Everyone LIKES a listener... but if that's all ... (read in full...)
Does my straight best friend want me to make the first move?
Q. Hi all, i recently came out to my best friend and i was absolutely shitting it before i told him. He is so homophobic it's unreal. Everytime he's seen a gay guy he said they should be shot and would fall out with me if he found out i was gay. When...
A. 11 July 2011: I wouldn't push it PHYSICALLY. I'm with XFrogLover. Just go with the flow and let him do the touchy-feely thing. My guess is your friend might be a little more 'bi' than he lets on. VERY OFTEN you'll see gays/bi's who're not very comfortable ... (read in full...)
Why is Divorce Ok? I am put off if I find a person is divorced.
Q. Im asking the question: Why isnt it shameful to be divorced? Why would anyone admit it? to me it makes the person look selfish and non commital really.. I have to admit it puts me off a person quite a lot. What does everyone else think? ...
A. 8 July 2011: Had my parents gotten divorced when I was a kid - like they should have - perhaps my father wouldn't have beaten my mother to death! Not all relationships are meant to last even if initial intentions are 'till death do us part'.
There are a WH... (read in full...)
I've never been in a relationship, and I'm worried that I'm too small. Can I get someone's opinion?
Q. This is a question to all the gay guys (straight women as well) out there. What do you consider a "short dick?" A penis that is too small to give pleasure during penetration. I'm a 16 year old closeted gay guy and I've never been in a ...
A. 8 July 2011: Well... for one, you're still VERY young to be worrying about a relationship.
That aside, SIZE isn't really THAT important (unless you're dating some size queen - someone who WANTS someone else with a huge dick).
MOST, and I mean MOST guys... (read in full...)
He has completely changed, what should I do??
Q. My story is huge but please, please read it I need help so much!! Im a gay male 19. I met my ex at the most unlikely time, I wasn't looking for anything and didn't really want it. I didn't have a physical attraction to begin with. Im...
A. 4 July 2011: This is really SAD to read. And it's really SAD that there are people out there that are like your ex.
As others have stated... get yourself re-tested. Just to make sure everything's OK.
You stated that your bf changed when he was around hi... (read in full...)
I think I might be bisexual or gay. How do I overcome my fear of asking a guy out or accepting a guy's advances?
Q. I dont know who I am or what I want. For years I tried to push the gay thoughts and desires from my head. Eventually I decided I was at least bisexual, if not gay. Now, however, it isnt the labeling that bothers me. I want to try having a relatio...
A. 28 June 2011: You CAN sign up to various gay dating sights but I think you'll find they are more for hooking up than anything... UNLESS you explicitly state in your profile that you are looking for an LTR and NOT hookups.
Like asking out girls, asking out guys... (read in full...)
He told me he fell in love with my personality. Well that doesn't help much when he ogles other men!
Q. I am a gay male of 23 years old (almost 24) and my boyfriend is 25 (almost 26). We've been together for 3 and a half years and it's be... alright. We got into a little argument today about how my boyfriend is always commenting on how other guys o...
A. 28 June 2011: It certainly isn't nice for someone to tell you that you're not very attractive. On the other hand it is difficult to find 'the one' that you indeed WANT to be with. There's also the 'validation' factor, when looking at other real guys, that is ... (read in full...)
Do guys shave their pubic hair or not? And why?
Q. Im a 15 Year old male and i would like to know if I should shave all of my pubic hair off or just trim down there?...
A. 26 June 2011: At your age!?!? NO! Not ALL of it! Keep it TRIMMED (shortish)... but you don't want to shave it all off. Other guys would totally make fun of you.... (read in full...)
Gay, bi or just confused?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 22 male and still a virgin. I fancy girls sometimes, but mostly men. i get aroused watching gay porn, I sometimes get aroused at watching straight porn (maybe because there are men in the movie) and the strange thing is that I ...
A. 25 June 2011: I'd say... that you need to get out there and date, and/or have sex with, BOTH guys and girls.
But you also have to be open about your orientation with both whomever you're dating.
You don't want to make the mistake of suppressing one ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or bi?
Q. I do unusual things like being in nude masturbation I wanna reltionship thinking of man am i gay or bi?...
A. 21 June 2011: Just cause you masturbate naked doesn't mean anything. Lots of straight guys do that too.
It's the other part about wanting a relationship with a guy that probably indicates that you are at least bi, if not entirely gay.
The key differentiat... (read in full...)
I moved in with my boyfriend but I feel homesick
Q. Hello i am 21 years old and got a wonderful boyfriend called Rick who i love. recently i moved with him when he got a promation to Wales. i love it but the problem is that im feeling homesick. i recently told Rick he it it was normal as this the ...
A. 21 June 2011: Well... that's something you're gonna have to figure out on your own. But... from my perspective... I'd say live with him and just get over the home-sickness. It's rough but you'll eventually get over it. I had the same problem when I moved 1/2 ... (read in full...)
Questions regarding college and the gay community...
Q. I'm about to start college really soon and I am very excited! Anyways, I'm a guy in the closet and I really want to come out because I want to start dating and meeting other gay people. The reason I can't at the moment is because I come from a very ...
A. 20 June 2011: 1) Dating someone in the closet: Some guys will NOT date you if you are in the closet... and some may dump you after a while if you don't 'come' out. The reason being is openness, especially if they are out and you are not. It makes them uncom... (read in full...)
Fetishes vs. Orientation - When do you know?
Q. Sexual Orientation Confusion Question (I am a male). I do not know if I have a Muscle fetish or if I am just gay. How can one tell? I am too afraid to jump of the sexual freedom cliff. I have went out with women and been aroused by kissin...
A. 19 June 2011: Well... according to dictionary.com the third definition of fetish is:
Any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.
So it sounds like you might just have a fetish. Could it be the spandex (tha... (read in full...)
Is my friend really gay or is he just playing around?
Q. Hullo, I have a friend how acts really gay, hugging guys ect all the time. He can be quite camp at times as well. When I used to study maths he was sat next to me and he would often put his hand on my leg and sometimes rub it. Other times he would...
A. 17 June 2011: Sounds like he might be testing YOU to see which way you lean. The next time he does it... go along with it to see what HIS reaction is. Who knows he may like you a little more than you think.
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Am I gay or not?
Q. Hullo, I guess I am gay. If I see a cute guy I get an erection and I often find myself looking down at their trousers. But every now and then I get to know a nice sensible woman who I find attractive, however the 'pull' just is not as strong. ...
A. 17 June 2011: I'd say you MIGHT be bi-sexual, if you find that you get physically aroused by girls. If you find that they are not really attractive, other than aesthetically pleasing, then you're probably gay.
BUT
You can't be sure (especially at y... (read in full...)
What can I do in the attempt of changing my life around?
Q. I need help. I don't have anyone I can talk to or anyone I can trust with my heart/feelings so I came to you guys. I just need to get some things off my chest. Why me? Why does everything have to be wrong with me? It's like I'm cursed, like I d...
A. 14 June 2011: When I was in high school... I took this course/program thing 'led' by one my instructors. He wasn't my 'favorite' high school teacher... but I'm SO GLAD that I took the course/program - it REALLY REALLY helped me out. It's expensive and if you ... (read in full...)
Gender dysmorphic at 29 and I don't know what to do anymore.....
Q. I'm gender dysmorphic I guess I just think I tick more feminine boxes. I'm 29, 6 foot 1, wide shouldered, deep voiced. People assume I am hard and it's a facade I've become very good at faking. I'm soft as shit and I feel bad when I squash a snail...
A. 14 June 2011: So... going back to the therapist issue(s). You DO realize that in order to get the surgery that you have to go through therapy as well - at least here in the U.S. you do. I'm pretty sure it's a fairly universal requirement for such cases. I... (read in full...)
Am I gay?
Q. When i masturbate and do this to gay porn, it seems to turn me on so much more and my orgasm would be a lot better and more "pumpy" than when i do it to heterosexual porn. Does this mean i'm gay? I have a girlfriend and she turns me on perfectly ...
A. 12 June 2011: At best I say you might be BI sexual... but you never really KNOW for sure until you've had sex with a guy.... (read in full...)
Gender dysmorphic at 29 and I don't know what to do anymore.....
Q. I'm gender dysmorphic I guess I just think I tick more feminine boxes. I'm 29, 6 foot 1, wide shouldered, deep voiced. People assume I am hard and it's a facade I've become very good at faking. I'm soft as shit and I feel bad when I squash a snail...
A. 10 June 2011: Have you spoken to a therapist about this? MANY men like to just dress up and don't want to do the whole transition. On the other hand if you FELL like you are truly a WOMAN trapped in a mans body then you're leaning more towards sexual ... (read in full...)
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