A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello. So I need help on stopping someone from harassing my boyfriend. I am 21 and he is 24 and since high school, his friend met a girl our age who pretended to be my friend when I didn't know her at all and she's hung out with my boyfriend's friends for years. This girl/woman had the reputation of dating boyfriends, break ups, and having sex with a lot of older guys in high school. Fast forward to now, she messages my boyfriend asking him for favors and wants to "hang out" but my boyfriend thinks she's going to use him and say that he's cheated on me. He blocked her on Facebook and blocked her phone number a couple months ago. She constantly creates a new Facebook account to contact my boyfriend and he's told his friends about it but the least they could do is block her online as well as stop hanging out with her. I don't like that she keeps wanting his attention and I don't want to get into any trouble with her. Is there a proper solution? So far he's blocked three separate accounts that send him messages/requests.
View related questions:
cheated on me, facebook Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2017): What are you expecting as an answer here? If she is going to such lengths, I think she is having a laugh at you both to be honest and any attention you give it is just prolonging her game. I wouldn't bother blocking any more friends requests as it shows you are bothered by it and giving it your attention, I never understood the whole blocking not blocking thing- anyone on any public social media cite is there for anyone to see (privacy settings aside of course) so any one can get a friend who isn't blocked to look someone up who's blocked them or anyone can set up another account to look at someone who's blocked them etc etc... what's the point exactly? Don't bother blocking anymore... just ignore.. ie stop sending her the message that she's important
A
female
reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 March 2017):
 Just throw your hands up in the air and accept you cannot change this girl's behaviour. You also cannot force your boyfriend's friends to ignore this girl, and not accept friend requests from her new, fake IDs.
Your boyfriend can set the security on his facebook so that people not on his friend's list wont be able to message him or contact in other ways.
As an extra precaution your boyfriend can print out her attempts and if they persist report her to facebook.
...............................
A
female
reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (8 March 2017):
 Can your boyfriend not just simply say/write: "Leave me alone and stop pestering me"????
She sounds like she will not take a hint so direct action is probably required.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 March 2017):
 Has he contacted Facebook and reported her for harassment? If not, I suggest HE starts there.
And I'd suggest he (at least for the time being) UP his security settings on FB including NOT accepting any requests or messages (if that is possible) from unknown accounts).
What would be the "easiest" way is to block her IP - that way no matter what account she created on her computer will be blocked - though that might not work for a cell phone account or if she uses multiple computers in multiple places to "stalk" him.
And no, I don't think YOU should add fuel to the fire. NOT your fault this girl is fixated on your BF.
Other than that? I don't know. I'd say ignore ignore ignore - because SO far nothing she has done is really illegal.
And her reputation of chasing other girl's BF doesn't mean she can "steal" yours or any other girl's BF - the GUY has to be willing......
...............................
|
