I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids.
Q. Hello, hope all of you are doing well with god's blessings upon us every day. My question is I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids. I am a moslem am not growing younger, he is a roman catholic p...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi there,
You know this guy's not going to leave his wife and kids for you or anyone else.....7 years is a long time to sit on the side lines, don't you want a husband and family of your own?
Let this guy go and make a life with a future for your... (read in full...)
He talks about my sister when we are having sex.
Q. i have a boyfreind who is just a lil older than me. he is 24 and im 17 .we got along so well in the begining of our relationship and now its just falling apart it seems .he asked me if i wanted to have a threesome with my sister! i feel uncomfor...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi there,
Please explain to me why you would want to continue having sex with a man who so obviously wants to be doing it with your SISTER!
Wake up and smell the coffee, time to tell this loser where to go!!!!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I still question him about the affair? How can he act like it never happened?
Q. On June 1 2006 I read an email that my husband had sent to one of my closest friends, she lived across the street from us. The email said that he had this hug guilt complex hit him, "It's not that I don't want to see you or talk to you, believe ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi there,
I feel for you here, not only have you been betrayed by your husband, but also your friend and confidant, double whammy!
If you and your husband have decided to try and put his infidelity behind you, to save your marriage and move on,... (read in full...)
On again, off again? How do we move forward?
Q. How do I win him back? Onagain, off again... he doesn't know what he wants... can't fully commit, butcan't seem to leave me alone either. Right now on a break as both are tired of the yo-yo of me wanting more and his not knowing what he wants. ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi there,
I think most definately it's time for him to get off the fence and make his mind up one way or the other.
Your idea of asking him to meet you is fine as long as things really do change if he comes or you really do call it a day on the r... (read in full...)
I told him I found out about his sexual chats w/ other girls - now we don't trust each other!
Q. I found chatting communication of my boyfriend and girls on the net. We just bought a house and talking about having kids. Those conversations, were recent and he was initiating them. To girls he chatted long time ago. Last year he had sexual ...
A. 16 August 2007: Hi there,
I've been in your situation myself and know only too well how this affects a relationship....not nice!
I seem to have solved the problem by downloading a chat logger on my home network, I told my husband it was there and told him should I... (read in full...)
He doesn't appreciate me. I feel like furniture - I'm just there!
Q. Hello all, I have a big problem. I'm too attached to my boyfriend. Let me start from the beginning. We met in high school, and everything was great. He always reassured me that we were gonna be together, that he was gonna take care of me, and ...
A. 14 August 2007: Hello there,
The first thing I think you need to change here is the fact you have no friends, that being so you are reliant on your boyfriend for any social interaction, it seems he has a large network of frinds, and the fact that you are not incl... (read in full...)
I get violent and moody just before my period! Help!?
Q. heya im just wondering for help from either a proffesional or another girl that has something to help her. Before im due for my period i get really violent and moody and shout at everyone for no reason or for the slightest thing. I want to c...
A. 13 August 2007: Hi there, something I personally find helps me with PMT symptoms is a vitimin B complex tablet once a day....give it a go for a couple of months it may help, so does keeping a little reminder of when your period is due so you know when and why your ... (read in full...)
She broke my heart but wants to be friends
Q. hi again plz read my other question:posted on 28th june She went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do? we have been together for 5 years iv tryed giving her space but she txt me last ...
A. 30 June 2007: Hello there,
Obviously you are feeling bad at the moment any break from a long term relationship hurts. The thing is if your ex has made her mind up that she no longer wants to be with you there's little you can do but try to move on. There's noth... (read in full...)
I can't cope with idea of ever losing her! How do I deal with these feelings?
Q. Okay this is a bit complicated but I'm going to try to explain the best way I can. I'm in love with a girl. And although there is no way I can find out (you'll have to trust me on this one) I am fairly certain that she feels the same way as I do. ...
A. 25 May 2007: Hi there,
You don't say how old you are, but I am assuming you are both quite young.
I would not worry yourself right now about something that may or may not happen in the future, enjoy the relationship now for what it is, not for what it may be i... (read in full...)
How can I be with my boyfriend when the money is tight and the visas are causing a problem?
Q. well here it is. I met a guy when i was working abroad and what was supposed to be a fling became a full on relationship and we fell for each other. I have since returned home and have been back for nearly a year. Somehow we have managed to keep the ...
A. 21 May 2007: Hi there,
I can understand your frustration here, as I went through the same thing myself many years ago.
The problem is if he is having trouble obtaining a visa on normal grounds ie. visitor's visa or he does not qualify for a working visa, th... (read in full...)
How can I get my confidence back and break out of this negative relationship?
Q. Hi, i am a very confused person and i don't know where my life is heading. I feel as though i have reached 50 and am only 24. I have been in a relationship for 5years. The guy i loved over these years has really treated my badly. I really have never ...
A. 10 May 2007: Hello
It looks like your boyfriend is treating you this way simply because you allow him to! Each time he walks out of your life and then comes back into it, it is because you are allowing him to do so, basically it looks as though he takes you for ... (read in full...)
How can I get my confidence back and break out of this negative relationship?
Q. Hi, i am a very confused person and i don't know where my life is heading. I feel as though i have reached 50 and am only 24. I have been in a relationship for 5years. The guy i loved over these years has really treated my badly. I really have never ...
A. 10 May 2007: Hello
It looks like your boyfriend is treating you this way simply because you allow him to! Each time he walks out of your life and then comes back into it, it is because you are allowing him to do so, basically it looks as though he takes you for ... (read in full...)
I just can't cope with my dad's alcoholism any more! What do I do?
Q. My dad is an alcoholic and my mum died when I was 11. Now I am 16 and don't know how to cope with my dad. He doesn't always drink, but when something happens in the family to upset him he always turns to drink. My grandmother is dying with cancer a...
A. 17 November 2006: Hi,
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time regarding your father's drinking, but unless he accepts he has a drinking problem and decides to help himself there's really no stopping him, and little you can do to stop his self dest... (read in full...)
Due to grief and sorrow..my heart seems empty! What should I do?
Q. My mom died four months ago, and the more time passes by, the more upset I feel. Also, my dad died four years prior to her. I've tried grief counseling, but that didn't seem to help at all, plus there are very few people I can talk to, and I don't ...
A. 17 November 2006: Hi,
I'm sorry for your loss, but there is unfortunatly no time scale where grief is concerned.Having lost my own mother, who was also my best friend some 22 years ago, I can only say take one day at a time and the pain does eventually subside. You ... (read in full...)
I'm so heartbroken -I can't sleep at night! Should I see him again or not?
Q. hello, NEED HELP well, me and my boyfriend have been broken up for the past month and it started off to be very hard to be apart, it was sleepless nights cryin myself to sleep,waking up dreadin the day and always trying to preoccupy myself. that wen...
A. 17 November 2006: Hi,
I don't think you feel the way you do because you never loved your ex, but because you have accepted that the relationship is over and have made your mind up that there is no going back. You have done well so far and I feel personally that if y... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a family now, but my husband wants to wait and keeps putting it off!!
Q. I'm 31 and have been married for just over 10 months and the problem is that I am ready to start having a family, but my husband want to leave it 'for a few years.' The thing is, he seemed very keen on children before we got married and I know deep ...
A. 5 July 2006: It sounds as if your husband wants everything to be right before having children, a bigger place costs money, and maybe he feels that by moving into a property more suitable for when children come along now is easier done while you do not have the ... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex after nearly 4 years apart?
Q. Should I get back with my ex after nearly 4 years apart? He claims he wants me back. He's living with another woman and says he'll leave her to get back with me. This was two weeks ago. He is still with her and by the looks of it has not ...
A. 30 June 2006: I think if he is serious about wanting you back he should start to put the wheels in motion and start proving it, firstly by finishing the relationship he's in now.
Of course you have to be certain that you want him back for the right reasons, not ... (read in full...)
Is it better for my friend to gradually pull back her son's contact with the Ex, or do it all at once?
Q. Hi I have a friend whose boyfriend (S) left 6 weeks ago after 8 years together. He is very confused and says he doesn't know how he feels and he doesn't love her anymore, but wants to be friends. She is finding it very hard to get closure as he ...
A. 12 June 2006: S has been part of D's life for a long time, he no doubt views him as a father figure, you don't say if D has contact with his biological father, but if he doesn't I think it will be very upsetting and confusing if he is suddenly stopped having any ... (read in full...)
My father in law is still harrassing me
Q. Hi, I'm back again with "I am not comfortable with the attention I'm getting from my husband's father!". I know it should tell my hubby about this matter but I am SO AFRAID! DAMN AFRAID! Yesterday, we visited my in-law again as my sis in-law i...
A. 12 June 2006: You will be unable to keep this from your husband for much longer, as long as this man continues to harass you. Things will come to a head in the end, probably by you refusing to go anywhere near him (who could blame you) and your husband wanting to ... (read in full...)
I really cant handle my mums new relationship!!
Q. My mother has been divorced from my father since i was three. He was a bad person, and ended up in prison for sexual harrassment (he was not charged for harrassing her, although she has admitted to me that he did). 13 years on and she has joined a ...
A. 11 June 2006: I think you maybe see this new man in your mum's life as a threat. You don't say why your mum hated your ex apart from the phone bills, something tells me there is a bit more to it than that, maybe she's looking out for you and could see something ... (read in full...)
Gone from loving me to not wanting contact in a week. What do i do??
Q. HELP!!! 6 weeks ago me and my girlfriend of 5 1/2yrs (i'm 25 and she's 22) made a decision to split up - we both agreed 'something was missing' from our relationship...we weren't unhappy - but the fact this 'thing' was missing was causing problems...
A. 11 June 2006: I think the problem you have here is that your g/f obviously needs time and space to decide if your relationship will go the distance and to discover within herself what her true feelings for you are. By continuing to date and sleep together she is ... (read in full...)
Will this guy work out long-term??
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years but just recently I've realised he and my dad have many similar characteristics. When I was 12 I was given the choice of living with either my mam or dad. I choose my mam because I felt she needed me ...
A. 11 June 2006: You have had a very difficult life, and I know how hard is it to grow up with a parent who is dependent on alchohol (my father was a chronic alchoholic), but you have proved that no matter how hard things can be, if you are determined enough you ... (read in full...)
Am i too old for her?
Q. i would like to know if its wrong to talk to a girl 2 or 3 years younger i got added by this girl whos 2 years younger then me and i would like to know if its wrong to talk to her and what would happen if i asked her out on a link, because she said...
A. 10 June 2006: I can't see what's wrong with you chatting to a 13 year old as long as it's normal chit chat, nothing smutty or sordid.
... (read in full...)
I moved to be with my partner but I am homesick
Q. i moved to a diferent country to be with my partner. We knew eachother for 6months before we decided to move in together. In the beginning everything was great and we were really happy. We have been together just over a year now, but I am very ...
A. 10 June 2006: Before you make a decision to move back home for good, go home for a visit and see your family and friends. If your homesickness is no better having done that maybe you should call it a day with your b/f and go home, you will only make him miserable ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my ex's sister, but she doesn't want to upset her family...
Q. im in love with my friend she is 31 im 43 i use to be with her sister at first we were just friends but it turned into love on my part i told her how i felt and she said that we could not see each other as her mother would not be happy but i still ...
A. 10 June 2006: Your friend may well like you and have feelings for you, but it seems she is not prepared to upset her family or her sister, your ex, by acting on her feelings and you have to respect that.
You have said you don't get on with your ex, so if you ... (read in full...)
He confessed he loved me, I love him, but he says we cant be together right now, im confused,what do I do?!(long)
Q. I had a post called "Fallen in love with my business mentor/friend! But I don't know how he feels" So the advice that I got was to come clean. To go and get him. So the other night we are at it again. He is kissing me and of course im melting,...
A. 10 June 2006: I can only imagine that he is still a little aprehensive about total commitment after going through his divorce, not sure why as it seems his divorce happened a long while ago.
It sounds as if you are fed up and frustrated that you cannot move on w... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 8 June 2006: Your intentions are just about helping her then? Perleezz! Take Dr T's advice and get yourself to a councellor and sort yourself out! ... (read in full...)
I think I caught something from the boy that I had sex with...what can I do?
Q. hiya, im 15 and iv had sex with 4 boys! i last had sex with a boy about a month ago, in the last 2weeks iv been having realy bad discharge. the boy i had sex with is not my boyfriend and i know that hes had oral sex many times but never had sex i ...
A. 8 June 2006: If you are getting a discharge that you don't normally get, it says something has changed, it could be nothing or something, don't wait around get yourself to an STD clinic where they will test you there and then (U.K.) or to a doctors that can test ... (read in full...)
He said he would pull out, now I am late
Q. hi everyone, my boyfriend lives far away and he was down a couple wks ago, we had unprotected sex as he said he would pull out(definently not a smart idea) he has now gone home and I am 5 days late...should I wait it out before telling him? or ...
A. 8 June 2006: Go buy yourself a test and if it's positive give him the news. If you're not pregnant get some form of reliable contraception there's enough to chhose from, really no need for unplanned pregnancies these days!
Most certainly don't rely on his abil... (read in full...)
My BF of two years just confided that he's actually married!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we have plans of getting married. One day he told me he has a secret to tell me. He said he is married back home and is planning to divorce. He also said he is crazy ab...
A. 8 June 2006: Hmmm Well its a difficult situation you're in here, you don't say where your b/f is originally from or where he has left his wife, my guess here is that it will not be so easy for him to divorce his wife, in fact my gut instinct tells me he never ... (read in full...)
I know I am being immature, but I want him to come back....
Q. Need some quick advice and serious blunt answers, and opinions, I've written before about this, and I read what someone just wrote and it made me realise something, I'm being stupid. my ex and I recently split and I'm finding it very hard to mov...
A. 7 June 2006: If your b/f wants you back I think he'll come back sooner if you leave him alone. You're right sending text messages and e-mails telling him how hurt you are will feed his ego and make you look immature and needy, I'm sure that's not how you want ... (read in full...)
She continously cheats on me, but I love her, I want to be with her, what can I do ?
Q. In a relationship for one a half years and i have been cheated upon 8 times what do i do? I am in a realtionship with a girl of the same age. We have been together for 1 and a half years and i have got cheated almost 8 times with different girls ...
A. 7 June 2006: Never mind being totally in love with your g/f, you should learn to love yourself more, and stop letting this girl treat you like a complete doormat!
It sounds like she likes to play the field and you are looking for a bit more commitment in the ... (read in full...)
How can I let her know that I Love her!?
Q. hi all just need to now wat a guy has to do to make a girl relize that i love her...
A. 7 June 2006: If you love her why don't you try telling her?
Good luck!... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 7 June 2006: As the mother of three daughters I'd like to say that no matter what your pathetic excuses are for supposedly being in love with a 14 year old are, you now know her real age and should act like any normal responsible adult and cease all contact with ... (read in full...)
Can I make him hurry up and decide sooner, or should I just give him time?
Q. I have posted a few times about my boyfriend just going overseas on a working holiday- thanks for the advice. Anyway, as it was something he had planned a long time before he met me to do alone, he thinks that after about a month of experien...
A. 7 June 2006: I've read your past posts and it seems your boyfriend wants time out travelling and will give you a decision as to whether he wants you to join him at a later date.....nice!
I'd keep saving while you wait, as you will wait whatever anyone says, and ... (read in full...)
He'd rather have a one night stand than have sex with me
Q. My boyfriend is not interested in sex with me. I feel like I'm constantly pressuring him into it all the time, then I don't enjoy it, but I have a really high sex drive!!! I'm 19 and he's 28. This causes more problems because he's had so many one ...
A. 5 June 2006: How do you know he's having one night stands, does he come home and tell you? If you know for sure this is a fact what on earth makes you think he loves you? Sorry he would not behave in such a way if he did, and anyhow even if he does love you in ... (read in full...)
After his accident I did everything for him now he says that I was fling
Q. 3 years ago my life was so wonderful. I was going out with a great, caring boy and I had a great social life. Then I met Dan and my world was turned upside down. The first time I met him I fell in love with him hard. I tried to ignore my feelings ...
A. 5 June 2006: The bottom line is you loved him, but he didn't have the same feelings for you. You cared for him and stood by him in his hour of need, this is nothing to feel bad about, it shows you are a loving and caring person.
Now it's time to take care of y... (read in full...)
Pressure to have sex, but I'm not comfortable with it!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I've done it before but I don't feel comfortable with him. What should I do?...
A. 5 June 2006: Just say NO! If he doesn't like it tell him to get lost, have sex when you are ready and with someone you know has some respect for you and is not only interested in one thing. If he wants to be with you he will understand and wait till you're ... (read in full...)
I am trying to get pregnant and I think I am obsessed!
Q. I dont know where to start...to cut a long story short i found out almost 3yrs ago that i may not be able to have a baby if i leave it too late. My bf and I are very happy together and havent used contraception now for 2yrs though we have been quite ...
A. 5 June 2006: No point getting stressed about getting pregnant it will happen when it happens. Relax and just enjoy trying, don't worry if it doesn't happen right away it could take months for you to concieve, or it could have already happened, you'll know soon ... (read in full...)
I think I have caught my BF cheating.
Q. dear cupid, i really am very down at the minute. while i was pregnant i found a photograph of a mystery girl in my boyfriends wallet, on the back of the pic it said i hope you like it keep it with you claudia!! i thought this was very disrespectful. ...
A. 5 June 2006: What does your own instinct tell you, do you feel this is a load of s**t, do you want to believe your b/f or is everything inside you telling you you've been had?
I'm not sure which one of you he is making the bigger fool of, but I bet she hasn... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell him I'm scared about getting pregnant, what should I do?
Q. i'm 15yrs old and my boyfriend is 23 he's already got a daughter, and i've been pregnant before but miscarried. when we have sex he doesn't use condoms and i don't want to get pregnant again, he says he wants me to have his kids but only when i'm ...
A. 5 June 2006: Whatever my personal thoughts on a young girl getting involved with someone who is so obviously totally irresponcible, you main priority here is to get yoursef to a family planning clinic or your doctor and get some form of reliable contraception ... (read in full...)
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