Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 10 May 2006: Hey everyone wasting their time answering this post, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink!
Cazzy, you have obviously made your choice, no advice given to you will change that, and no excuses made for your man will excuse chea... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 8 May 2006: Whatever!!!!... (read in full...)
My friend asks guys out I want for herself!!
Q. How can i get boyfriend if my friend whenever i tell her who i like goes and asks him out for herself?...
A. 30 April 2006: Best solution to this is DON'T tell your mate who you fancy, keep it to yourself and ask the guy out before your so called friend knows you like him.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My wife wants to end our marriage as she found someone else. What should I do?
Q. My wife wants our relationship to end after 9 years of marrage. She obviously wants someone else. I don't want it to end but she gets upset and angry when I let her know this. I don't know what has made her decide this exactly and she wont tell me ...
A. 30 April 2006: I would imagine your wife must have some reason for wanting to end your marriage, and you deserve an honest explanation as to why she feels this way.
She may have met someone else, but this is not necessarily the reason, and unless you both sit down... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him but I don't trust him. Should I end it or keep on trying?
Q. hiya.. ive been seeing my boyfriend a couple of months now..it was going great at first, we enjoyed doing the same things, watching the same films.. I think i am falling in love with him but for some reason i dont trust him anymore!! I dont see the ...
A. 30 April 2006: You don't say why you don't trust your boyfriend anymore. Have you good reason to feel this way? If you have no reason not to trust him why break up with him if you both get on so well.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'd rather have him in my life hurting me!!
Q. I'm in love - very very badly so. He doesnt wanna be with me but for reasons stated above i still let him f*ck me...trust me, the only thing worse than getting with him and it never going anywhere, is not getting with him and regreting it. In abo...
A. 29 April 2006:
Your're with a guy that treats you like dirt but you would rather be treated like that than dump him.......
Have you ever had a decent relationship where your partner treats you well?
If he's getting out of your life for good, sure if you love ... (read in full...)
I fear my fiance is a big cheater, how do I know for sure?
Q. I need help!! I have been with my fiance for just over three years but believe me its not all been plain sailing...when he split up with his ex she was pregnant and claimed it was his, for the whole of the pregnancy she was on our case, I knew the ...
A. 29 April 2006: Quite frankly you will never really know if he's being faithfull to you or not as he has cheated in the past and managed to keep you in the dark....
The problem here is the lack of trust you have for him now, you say you parted for a while and now ... (read in full...)
She says her feelings went away when she got a gf but I think she still likes me!!
Q. So to start off with, I guess it's important to say that I'm a lesbian. That aside, I need opinions as to whether or not this girl still likes me. She's got a girlfriend now, but admitted to me a few months back when we first began talking,...
A. 29 April 2006: I think she likes you, but as a friend. She's maybe
attracted to you, but values your friendship and doesn't want to take a chance by having a full blown relationship with you, incase it goes wrong, and she loses your friendship.
I would enjoy th... (read in full...)
How do i stop being jealous of my ex and her new guy??
Q. I still live with my ex girlfriend in a student house with a few mates. We remained very close- practically going out but without the sex. But now shes seeing a new guy. I'm so jealous, i don't know how to control it- i end up causing argument...
A. 29 April 2006: Yep angelron's right, meet someone else!
If this really is getting to you I think you should consider moving out and putting some distance between you and your ex, before you do or say something you may regret later out of anger caused by the gree... (read in full...)
Broken down marriage, Please help!
Q. i need to get out of my marrige but dont know how please help. ...
A. 29 April 2006: Go see a lawyer, they'll tell you the best way to go about wrapping the marriage up financially, and guide you on arrangements for children if you have any.
I think you need to tell your husband that you think the marriage is over for starters thou... (read in full...)
I just want a life like everybody else but i feel so alone due to my weight!
Q. hi, Im at such a loose end. This is going to be very long but i really need some help, i just don't know what 2 do anymore. Im 15 years old and i have topped the scales at 19.6 stones. Im so worried i don't want to reach 20 stones, its so embarras...
A. 28 April 2006: I'm sorry that your weight problem is causing you such heartache, but it seems you have a problem with "diets" this I think is because you connect the word "diet" with feelings of hunger and depriving yourself of the things you like to eat, foods ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 25 April 2006: Hmm..... your right here Martini, it's not advice Cazzy was looking for, but approval, not sure she'll get that!
Get the feeling that you will go for it anyway Cazzy, you're not interested in how this could effect others, you like him and you want... (read in full...)
Feel like Im going crazy because ex has a neew girlfriend, Any advice appreciated..
Q. I feel like im going mad. My ex split up with me a year ago now and im still not over it. Right after he split up with me I got very depressed and and cried alot but time was a great healer and my friends and family helped me through that. I knew I ...
A. 24 April 2006: Sorry this posted before I had finished!
It can sometimes take a long, long time to get over someone we have loved, and as you say time is a great healer. You say you still loved him even though you accepted that it is over between you. Did you ... (read in full...)
Feel like Im going crazy because ex has a neew girlfriend, Any advice appreciated..
Q. I feel like im going mad. My ex split up with me a year ago now and im still not over it. Right after he split up with me I got very depressed and and cried alot but time was a great healer and my friends and family helped me through that. I knew I ...
A. 24 April 2006: It can sometimes take a long, long time to get over someone we have loved, and as you say time is a great healer. You say you still loved him even though you accepted that it is over between you. Did you somewhere at the back of your mind secretly ... (read in full...)
My cheating ex wants a second chance... what should I do?
Q. My son's father and I have been seperated for 3 1/2yrs now. He cheated multiple times, so I did what was best for me and left him. We had a bitter court custody battle and really never talked for that time. For the past 2 months we've been ...
A. 24 April 2006: Tell him you won't be sleeping with him till he sorts his head out, and knows what and who he wants.
He can't commit to you again when he is feeling guilty about the other girl, he needs some time alone to decide what he wants and who he wants to b... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the "dirty secret" anymore!
Q. Hi I need some serious advice on an incident that has really hurt me. I need the honest blunt truth please My boyfriend is visiting from overseas we've been going out for 2years- oneyr was long distance. we're faithful to one another. but no ...
A. 24 April 2006: I think you have posted about this a couple of times, and you are still having the same problem.
I think you are being treated this way beacuse your b/f hasn't told anyone about his sexuality and you basically are his secret!
You live close to... (read in full...)
He went round his exs to see his son and now hes dumped me. What should i do??
Q. Saw D on fri evening, we had a great time, he said he'd ring me sun, when he came back from visiting his son. We had also planned for the first time for me to go over and stay this sat night coming. I text him sat evening just to say Hi, but he ...
A. 24 April 2006: Let him get on with it, he's obviously made his choice.
Finishing with you by text was a cowardly thing to so, but he obviously doesn't want the hassel of you calling and texting him while he's at his ex's, sounds like somethings going on ther... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 24 April 2006: Sure it would suit you, no strings and no commitment, same for him, but what about his WIFE!!!!
Find a single guy who's happy with a casual relationship, believe me there's plenty out there!
Tell this man to do his wife a favour, get a divorce ... (read in full...)
Can't seem to leave my cheating ex... What can I do?
Q. i am in a bit of a dilemma.... i am with my boyf 3 years now.. when we first got together we were toegther one month and he cheated on me with an older woman. i forgave him but he then left me for her.. there relationship lasted 2 moonths and then...
A. 24 April 2006: You are young enough to move away from this relationship and be with someone you can trust, you will never be 100% happy with this guy because of the trust issues you have, you can't even trust him with your best mates. He betrayed you in a bad ... (read in full...)
My guy 'fell hard' in the past and has told me that he doesnt want to get physical before he is mentally ready. Is this a fancy way of saying goodbye or does he really care??
Q. Got fixed up with a guy one month ago. During that time, we have instantly "clicked" and find that we are very similar in almost every important way. He is divorced with two children (his wife had an affair)and has been divorced for three years. ...
A. 24 April 2006: He sounds like he is being very honest with both you and himself. Obviously he doesn't want to rush into the relationship with you for fear of hurting you because he maybe isn't fully ready to move on at the moment, and wants to be sure he's not on ... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him about my intoxicated kiss?
Q. I've been seeing this guy on and off for about five years. Waiting for things to click. Three months into this time around, and we've decided that we are "seeing each other" some of the same old habits are back, like not calling for 2 days at at ...
A. 24 April 2006: Unless there's a good chance he could find out from somebody else, I wouldn't bother to tell him if you've learnt your lesson and it won't happen again, sometimes what you don't know doesn't hurt you.
Your feeling guilty about kissing someone else... (read in full...)
All we do is argue, Is there hope for us?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind who is 15 years older than me for 3 years- i moved to another part of the country with my daughter to be with him, he has severe sexual problems (premature ejaculatuon) we do nothing but argue and i am feeling like do ...
A. 24 April 2006: You don't say if the arguments are caused by the fact your partner suffers from P.E. or because of other relationship issues, but as you have mentioned the sexual problem, I will focus on that.
Premature Ejaculation is a very common problem and thou... (read in full...)
He's too busy with his family to see me, and it's really peeved me off. What should I do?
Q. now I'm really really peeved. i've given enough time a week, and I've only seen my boyfriend once,since he's been here for the birth of his nephew, and he lives far away that I rarely see him! but he has time for everyone else but when it comes to ...
A. 23 April 2006: Have you posted this question before? I seem to remember something similar, anyway.....
Its understandable you are feeling hurt and rejected, you don't seem to be too high on his list of prioroties at the moment. Living away from home I would imag... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man, feel used, What should I do?
Q. I am madly in love with a married man I work with and I don't know what to do. We were having an affair for two months, and I fell in love with him and told him this. He said that he felt the same but that he would never leave his wife for me, and ...
A. 23 April 2006: You feel used because you were being used....for sex!
You know that, you know he still sleeps with his wife and you know he'll never leave her...WAKE UP !
There's more to life than waiting around for some guy to spare a few hours for you, try and ... (read in full...)
Don't want to be a homewrecker, but I think I love my workmate..
Q. I am considering trying to start a relationship with someone I work with. We are both public officials in a small community who work together - but not in the same office. The only problem is that she is married with three kids and I'm not anxious ...
A. 23 April 2006: Come on, your not telling me that you don't know what the RIGHT thing to do is!
O.K. you fancy this woman, but you know she is married....SO LEAVE WELL ALONE !!!!!
The strong passionate feelings you have for her is lust, and I'm sorry the only thi... (read in full...)
Don't want to be a homewrecker, but I think I love my workmate..
Q. I am considering trying to start a relationship with someone I work with. We are both public officials in a small community who work together - but not in the same office. The only problem is that she is married with three kids and I'm not anxious ...
A. 23 April 2006: Come on, your not telling me that you don't know what the RIGHT thing to do is!
O.K. you fancy this woman, but you know she is married....SO LEAVE WELL ALONE !!!!!
The strong passionate feelings you have for her is lust, and I'm sorry the only thi... (read in full...)
My ex is obsessed over us having sex!!!
Q. Well,this boy i used to go out with and i just broke up with my boyfriend and now my and my ex are starting 2 get really close and now he is asking if we can have sex and i said ok but where should we and he said at your house and then he says when ...
A. 23 April 2006: You don't state your age, but you seem quite young and although you may be flattered your ex has made it clear he would like to have sex with you now you are no longer with your boyfriend, you should make sure that its not the only thing he is ... (read in full...)
The special pendant is arriving late...so do I just go ahead and propose to her without it? Or should I wait?
Q. Hey there. Need some quick advice. I'll be proposing to my partner very soon. But we've discused that we'll be getting our wedding bands together. I want to make it official, and ask her. Since we're getting the rings together I want to get some...
A. 21 April 2006: I think it would be nice to give her the pendant when you propose. You have obviously taken the trouble of choosing it with the proposal in mind, that makes it a special gift that marks the ocassion and well worth waiting for, even if it is a little ... (read in full...)
What signals is my ex giving me??
Q. I'm confused by the signals my ex is giving me. We broke up in January, he has a gf who he's been with since we've broke up. I'm still in love with him, and i accidentally told him this when i saw him a month ago (it was the first time we'd seen eac...
A. 19 April 2006: Agree with Shania here, why ask for advice if you know you won't ake it?
You know what this guy is all about, and you know as well as he does if he clicks his his fingers you'd be there in a shot!
You're going to get hurt, but you already know tha... (read in full...)
Torn between two guys. Which one should be my friend and which my lover??
Q. I stopped talking to my now x bf 6 mo ago. He was my consistant flame from day one to 4 yrs later but lacked mutual direction so I broke it off. Soon after, an old friend of the family found me and started picking me up on casual dates. He was my ...
A. 19 April 2006: You seem to have been back and forth between these two guys like a yo-yo, and so I can see why one wants you to have no contact with the other, they can obviously see you would forever be tempted to change over if things were not going too well.
Y... (read in full...)
Should I have broken up over his pot smoking and gambling addiction??
Q. The night before I broke up with my boyfriend we got in a fight because he was mad that I told my friend (that he doesn't like) that he smoked pot. So, we went home instead of celebrating my birthday. He wanted to smoke some weed to calm down. I...
A. 18 April 2006: Are you regretting breaking up with him and looking for reasurance that you did the right thing?
The bottom line is he made you unhappy, you broke up with him for other reasons, pot smoking and gambling, but the main reason was you were fed up with... (read in full...)
My friend is spinning lies about me to a teacher at school!
Q. This question is about my best friend, almost ex friend. I am 17 years old and she told a teacher that I wanted to kill myself (not true). She said that she still wanted to be friends and being me, I said that we could try and fix things (still w...
A. 13 April 2006: Talk to your teacher and put the record straight, tell him/her that they have nothing to worry about and voice your concerns about what your friend has been saying about you.
Tell your parents what's been going on and maybe you can go to the scho... (read in full...)
I want another child. Am I being too selfish?
Q. hi i just want to ask this .i have two kids first is five amd the younger one is nearly two .But i still yearn to have another .i am married ,and right now im just on top of things even cxosidering going back to work in a year.My husband definately ...
A. 13 April 2006: You have plenty of time to have more children, maybe your husband will change his mind oneday.
I agree with Irish here though it should be a joint decision. Your not being selfish in wanting more children, you would be if you got pregnant deli... (read in full...)
Why would a man want to end a "great" relationship?
Q. Does anyone know why a man can suddenly want to end a relationship that 'appeared' to be great? My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years had always been infatuated with me, wanted us to get married and spend the rest of his life with me. He used to tell me he ...
A. 12 April 2006: I think thing have moved a little too quickly for your man, and he has found himself feeling trapped.
You need to sit him down and find out what he's thinking and what went wrong for him.
Having children changes a relationship dramatic... (read in full...)
I've cheated on my girlfriend and now she's pregnant!
Q. hello i am in a deep situation and i need some very truthful advise. I have been cheating on my 4 years girlfriend and with another girl for 8 months and now the 8 month girl is pregnant but i dont wanna be with her and i dont know how to tell my 4 ...
A. 12 April 2006: Firstly you should never have cheated in the first place, secondly you should have made sure you used some form of contraception if you weren't ready to be a father!
You have made a mess of things and you need to tell your girlfriend of 4 years the ... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like I have to compete with my boyfriend's 6-year-old daughter
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He has a 6 year old daughter that I seem to get jealous over. I feel really bad when I start feeling like that, I don't know what to do. I hate the idea of being second in his life, even tho...
A. 12 April 2006: Firstly you have taken on a man who fathered a child before he met you, you must now consider your life with him with that in mind. He may well end up your husband and the father to your children, but that will not mean he is no longer this child's ... (read in full...)
Engaged to marry in three weeks'... but I'm not in love with my fiancee and I AM in love with someone else
Q. I am due to get married in three weeks time to my partner of 4 years, but I have fallen in love with another woman who is my soulmate and who I feel for and care for so much. We have known each other for 6 months and since then have been talking ...
A. 12 April 2006: In these situations unfortunatly you have to be cruel to be kind!
There is no point in getting married when you know you are in love with someone else, it is not fair to the girl you are marrying and not fair to yourself.
It is better to call off... (read in full...)
Going through a rough patch in my marriage and I don't think we can take the added stress of her adult son living with us!
Q. I am married recently had a brief emotional affair with a married co-worker. My wife and I are going through a tough time right now. I don't have any kids. I just changed jobs. My wife and I are going to counseling and trying to work on our ...
A. 12 April 2006: This is not a young man we are talking about here,your step-son is a grown man who should be quite capable of looking after himself.
Of course your wife feels obligated in helping her son out, he is still her baby no matter what his age is.
You n... (read in full...)
Realised that I want to try again with my ex-husband. Should I try or let it go?
Q. I'm 21yrs old and have been divorced for nine months. I finally sat down with my ex-husband and we had a good heart to heart. I have come to realise that I still love him and want to try again. Do I ask to try again or do I try to move on?...
A. 12 April 2006: Whether you want to give your relationship another go depends on whether your ex feels the same way.
You do not say why you divorced in the first place and Aunt Claire is quite right in what she says, you have to be quite certain that you can both... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 12 April 2006: I totally agree with everyone else here, your girlfriend wants to get pregnant!
Unless you are ready to be a father and take on all the responcibilities that having a child entails you had better stop having sex with her.
She is being incredib... (read in full...)
We're both unhappy in this relationship. Is there anything left to save?
Q. OK, to cut a looong story short: 20 years old, met a guy two and a half years ago, relationship, diff religions. My parents found out and flipped! Suffice to say I've practically lost them, both gone to unis in same city now, see each other al...
A. 11 April 2006: This is obviously not the right person for you.
I have nothing against anyone having relationships with people from different cultures or religions, but there has to be a certain amount of compromise and the relationship has to be on equal term... (read in full...)
Why does he get to be jealous and possessive, but he's also cheated on me?
Q. I need help! I've been with my man for over a year now. He cheated on me several times in the past. I forgave him because he said he'd stop. I believe him only because he's honest and tells me everything. He even admitted with his own mouth he...
A. 6 April 2006: Do you feel that you deserve to be treated this way?
Do you think most other women would put up with a man who continually sleeps with other women?
What do you think your future is going to be spending your life with him?.......It'll be hell!
T... (read in full...)
I still want him.....but he was in bed with someone else....NAKED!!!!
Q. I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman both naked.I still want him in my life i cant let go.Is this right?...
A. 6 April 2006: If only we could turn off our feelings like a tap when it suited us.
Your boyfriend has hurt you and treated you badly, but you say you can't let go.
How much more humiliation are you willing to take?
This guy is bad news and you deserve bett... (read in full...)
| *unt Audrey's friends
These are mutual friends, so *unt Audrey has
added them and they have added *unt Audrey!
|
