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writes:hi again plz read my other question:posted on 28th juneShe went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do? we have been together for 5 yearsiv tryed giving her space but she txt me last night saying "hope your doing ok" but i didnt txt back. So she phoned me today but i didnt answer so she txt me again saying "just wanted to know if your ok txt bk i thought we were trying to be friends" so i called her back but she didnt answer. dont know if i done the right move?? So she called me back and we spoke for 5mins, so i asked her at the end if she wanted to meet 4 a little bit and she said no. I need help?? should i ignore her calls and txtes??should i show that im hurt??what sould i do?i just want her to give it one more go Her feelings could change. before she went away we where so close together. i cant see her with another boy that will kill me from inside. How should i play this?? i want to fight for this relationship. The holiday has changed her mind about things, because shes done it before about 2years ago she said she "was confused about things and wants to be friend" thats when she moved out from home to stay at uni.But i said i cont be friends coz i love her and i have feelings. Then within 2 weeks she got back with me.should i do the same thing again? i really need as much advice as possiblethanks people
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reader, BexyB +, writes (1 July 2007):
She knows how much you care for her and is secure in this knowledge. She is playing with you - not intentionally, but because she knows she can.
I think she loves you in a way but you need to show her that you have a life of your own and move on. If you do this it will probably draw her nearer. However, when you have really managed to move on, properly, you then need to take a step back and evaluate whether or not you still want her!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): If you think you can get her back, then try. Let her know all of your feelings. See if you can find out what is bothering her. This may help clear things up. If she does not want to get back together, then end it. Trying to be just friends is to hard, and will eat you up. I am finding this out. My ex left me after 10 years together. It has been very hard for me. Remember, in the end, do what is best for you. Do what will make you happy. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): you will get over it.. she is not worth it. Believe it or not someone else is probably ur destiny/Flirt with other women in her presence, show her u can get any girl u want.good luck xxmary
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 I agree with Aunt Audrey. There is no use in trying to win her heart again, as her mind is made up. Pay attention to the fact that first she went away and then SHE dumped you. Now, all you can do is move on.If I were you, the next time she sent me a message or called me or whatever, I would tell her that, if she really wanted to be helpful, she shouldn't call me. Her contacting you makes it harder for you to move on. If she wants to remaind friends with you, well, she can surely give you the space she demanded in the first place, so you can move on and contact her when you consider it appropriate.Don't push it, man.
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reader, pantelis0383  +, writes (30 June 2007):
If you have feelings for her its nearly impossible to be friends.Ask her, what do you have to share right now?What do you have in common right now?What binds you to be friends?Ask yourself the same question.The answer of that will lead you to your choice.
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Hello there,
Obviously you are feeling bad at the moment any break from a long term relationship hurts. The thing is if your ex has made her mind up that she no longer wants to be with you there's little you can do but try to move on. There's nothing to say she won't have a change of heart in the future, she may well be confused as to what she wants right now and needs some space to figure things out.
You have to decide if being friends with her is going to prolong an already hurtful process, personally i feel it's much harder to move on if an ex is still in the picture, so I would advise very little contact if any for the time being. When raw emotions have settled, and you have accepted there is no going back, you can always try being friends again then.
Good luck!
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