Tell me everything I need to know (and already know) about married men who cheat?
Q. I'm married too...He's nearly 20 years older than me. We've been attracted to each other for months after we met professionally, but I didn't think it was anything more than flirting. I perceived him as someone who had set limits for himself and ...
A. 21 May 2008: You are also married why do you need advise about cheating men because you are a woman thinking of doing it does not make you any different to him! YOU ARE BOTH AS BAD AS EACH OTHER!!!!!!!!
Affairs wreck people's lives, destroy family units and in m... (read in full...)
Anoher man fancies me and I can't keep away!
Q. I really need advice, a few years ago I met a man that was a good friend of my partner's family and I really liked him, and my partner jokingly(although he meant it) said this guy fancied me. I thought nothing of it, but I found everytime there was ...
A. 21 May 2008: You are feeling flattered by the attention of this man and you are playing with fire which inevitably will burn you. This man is a friend of your partner's family, bit close to home don't you think?
Not sure how he views you, but he knows your part... (read in full...)
Had a drunken one-night stand, turns out it was the boss's daughter, but I don't want to see her again! Help!
Q. I had a stupid drunken one night stand, in the morning I felt really sick about it because i was not at all attracted to the woman...I couldnt even look at her. I was nice enough to her and left not wanting to see her again. I went to work and on my ...
A. 20 May 2008: This could be a good film script, man unknowingly drunkedly sleeps with boss's daughter and ends up marrying her to keep his job!
There's nothing us aunts and uncles can do here, maybe if she doesn't know where you work and you ignore her she may ... (read in full...)
Any natural way to get more energy and combat depression?
Q. Any natural ways to get more energy???? Vitamins or shakes, anything will help, i think it's a bit of depression too. thanx...
A. 20 May 2008: Exersize is a great way to beat depression, you may feel like doing nothing but if you make the effort the after effect are well worth it.
I have taken St John's Wart, a natural remedy for depression, it works for me. There are lots of natural reme... (read in full...)
I am so annoyed at myself for letting this person who I never invited into my life invade my life so much!
Q. Ok - I like to think of myself as a pretty mature and intelligent person, I have a repetoire of good coping strategies and a reasonable understanding of human behaviour and the types of things that motivate people to behave in certain ways, and ...
A. 20 May 2008: Forgiving your husband's infidelity is one thing forgetting it another!
You were betrayed and lied to and no matter how much information you gather about this other woman you will still never really know what went on with them, you are looking for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad is cheating and it's becoming my problem
Q. Well the thing is me and my bf have been together for 4 years and went to the uk when i finished school now that were back were living with his parents but his dad is cheating on his mom and they never speak to each other so u can imagine the ...
A. 20 May 2008: Why do you have to pretend to be something you're not around your boyfriends parents? I would say his father is hardly a role model!
His parents problems are not yours and so don't worry about it, if his parents do not speak to each other what can ... (read in full...)
I'm bored and disconnected. It's as if he isn't there. What is going on?
Q. I love my boyfriend. We've been together for well over a year now but the problem is I've been feeling sad, bored and disconnected from him. We've only had sex 3 times since december 07. I've tried talking to him but it's as if he's not really ...
A. 20 May 2008: It sounds as though you are falling out of love with him, slowly but surely. I'm not saying that you don't love him but when you say you cannot imagine life without him I think that you're maybe trying to hold onto something that is no longer there. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to become a Buddhist monk. What can I do?
Q. I have been together with my bf for 3 years. He is stable and nice guy. Few days back, he told me that he wants to become a monk when he is 55 years old and that was his goal in his life. I was totally speechless, besides tears i really dont know ...
A. 20 May 2008: How old is your boyfriend now, and why does he want to become a monk at 55? If he's no where near that age now what does he want to do with his life in the meantime?
It's hard to give advise to you not knowing the time frame maybe you could give... (read in full...)
My ex got violent
Q. I posted this yesterday and had no replies so thought i would try again.. Me and my ex had a row the other night, and he grabbed me and pinned me up against a cupboard. I fought him off, and got him out the house. My children and his child were in ...
A. 19 May 2008: Maybe he thinks he has a chance at some stage to get you back although obviously he knows that you are still too angry with him at present, but is trying to cover his backside with your mum so there won't be too much of a problem with your family ... (read in full...)
In it for the kids, how do I choose a life of my choice instead of a life for others??
Q. THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE... QUOTES I FOUND ON LINE.. HOW DO I CHOICE A LIFE OF MY CHOICE INSTEAD OF A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN? I can choose to stay married until the pain of staying married becomes greater than the pain of...
A. 19 May 2008: I think a lot of people stay married or with a partner for the sake of the children, but in my experience it never goes unoticed by the children just how unhappy their parants actually are. Children will not thank their parents when they have grown, ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about this girl?
Q. I've been talking to a woman on the phone for several months now, and becoming emotionally involved. She's in a kept-woman, loveless relationship with a live-in boyfriend who, she says, she has not had sex with for months. Our own relationship is ...
A. 19 May 2008: Hmmm thought she said she didn't have sex with him? Ask yourself what else she practises with him? The writings on the wall here, take off your love goggles and see this for what it is, a bit of fun on her part!
Have you actually ever met this woma... (read in full...)
Why would he make plans with me if he has a girlfriend?
Q. i feel incredibly depressed, i feel like i've lost my self confidence and i'm not worth anything, i started seeing this guy a while ago...it was my own fault to get intimate with him only after a few dates but the chemistry and his genuine ...
A. 19 May 2008: Put this one down to experience, at least you found out sooner rather than later! What would you want a cheating rat like him for anyway, doubt he'll stay faithfull to his girlfriend so you had a lucky escape.
Sorry to say this time you backed a lo... (read in full...)
I love my baby's father, but he has destroyed me emotionally, tell me what you think?
Q. I am 22 year old, who had or have a relationship with a 42 year old man, and a 5 months baby boy. Since we started he has been lying and cheating on me, but i always forgive him, i feel that i can't take anymore, i am so depressed i feel i should ...
A. 18 May 2008: You are under the impression that if you keep forgiving him and putting aside the fact that he uses you for sex, admits to sleeping around, disrespects you and basically has no concerns for your well being that he will see the error of his ways and ... (read in full...)
Problems with his ex-wife, I'm not allowed to see my step-daughter and our marriage is falling apart.
Q. I have been married for almost 2 years and have never met my 15 year old stepdaughter. Her mother won't allow it. My current husband's visitation has been reduced, by his ex, to daytime visits every other weekend as his daughter is not allowed in ...
A. 17 May 2008: I agree with dearkelja here, your husband needs to put a firm foot down here with his ex. This boils down to the green eyed monster on behalf of your husband's ex, she does not want your step daughter to have a relationship with you, she must feel ... (read in full...)
My ex won't stop calling. I want to respond but it hurts too much! What do I do??
Q. My ex is moving across country for a job. He said he just wants to be friends---so I am trying to honor that request. No email, text, call, etc. He keeps doing all of that and doesn't understand that it hurts me too much to keep in contact during ...
A. 17 May 2008: The easy answer to this is that you have to be blunt and tell him straight NO MORE CONTACT !!!!! Don't answer his calss, txt messages or emails...IGNORE HIM
You are in a situation that you want him back, but he's moved on and wants different thin... (read in full...)
She says there's no chance of her turning back but always gives me a glimpse of hope?
Q. ok so now that we have been separated for 3-4 weeks we are talking more now i try not to call her when we do talk she is in a happy mood laughes jokes around and we often talk about sex. we have had amazing sex the last 2 weeks total of 4 times ...
A. 17 May 2008: Separated as in broken up, I take it? It's looking like you've gone from boyfriend to sexual entertainer...
She is giving you mixed messages, "no turning back", "glimmer of hope", Ask this woman what she wants, stop having sex with her until you ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive husband?
Q. i have been married to my husband for 4 years and we have a two year old son. I am fed up of my married life as my husband can be verbally abusive towards me and slags off my family, he is also screams, shouts at our son and his idea of disapline in ...
A. 16 May 2008: Don't keep this to yourself, confide in your family you may find that you will need their love and support should you ever decide to leave your husband.
If you feel you are depressed go back to the doctors and get yourself some more anti depp... (read in full...)
He told me he was clean, but I cannot believe him because of his actions!
Q. Hi I have been with my fiance for 2 and half years, and im feeling very confused at the moment when I first met hime he told me about his past that he used to take herion, but assured me he was clean. He has now found out he has bipolar we are ...
A. 16 May 2008: You know in your heart this man is still in the grip of heroin addiction, he may not admit it but the syringes speak for themselves!
You will never change him, he has to want to help himself, you will however have to live with the consequences of d... (read in full...)
I need immediate help.. please! I'm being blackmailed!
Q. I need immediate help, please. Before I explain my situation, I just want the people to know that I'm not really.. 'this' kind of a person. I don't know why I acted this way, and now I'm paying the price for my stupidity. I've always been independ...
A. 16 May 2008: This guy sounds like he could be trouble and you need more than anything to protect yourself... Like others have said you need to talk to the police and give them any information you have on this man he's stalking you and that's illegal.
Tell him ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, I believe him, but the moment he's gone I ask myself lots of questions,
Q. I met my boyfriend January this year, he told me that he does not have a girlfriend, and i did not believe him because all man say that. Later my friend told me that he has girlfriend, a long time one, that did not bother me much... until he told...
A. 16 May 2008: You don't sound too sure about this man, and if he has a long term girlfriend why is he telling you he loves you and wants to have a child with you?
It doesn't look to me that this man is committed to you. You have not been in this relationship for ... (read in full...)
Should I cut off my cheating ex boyfriend from my kids? He broke my heart in pieces!
Q. I met this guy in 2004. He already had a girlfriend but said that he really did not want to be with her. I never expected anything to come from this relationship and when I was ready to stop communicating with him he kept calling and harrasing. ...
A. 11 April 2008: Hi,
I can understand you wanting nothing to do with your ex, he's betrayed you and hurt you. You obviously have no trust in him and if you're struggling to raise the children alone financially, things must be difficult for you.
Being a bad husband ... (read in full...)
It seems like she dumped me so she could be single and sleep around....
Q. I sent my ex an email the other day telling her that I couldn't be friends with her anymore because it is too hard. She sent me a response this afternoon and I just don't really have a clear head as to what it all means... what do you guys thin...
A. 5 April 2008: Hi,
You shouldn't feel too badly of her for being honest with you, after all she could be doing all the things you THINK she is (she probably isn't) and lead you to believe that nothings changed between you when it obviously has.
From what I r... (read in full...)
I'm getting threatening calls from strangers who claim to know me, saying they're going to beat me up! What can I do?
Q. Hii .. i keep getting prank phone calls of an annonomus number they keep threatenin me to batter me for a reason that isn even true makin excuses up to pick on me and stuff .. im so scared in case they jump me . they o my name were i live and my o...
A. 26 November 2007: Hi there,
Firstly i assume you have spoken to your parents or carer about these bullies, if not you should.
There area few things you could do to stop this, one is to get the bill payer to call the telephone company to block any witheld numbers.... (read in full...)
He cheated twice, then left me, but we still love each other , should I take him back?
Q. My husband had an affair January 2006 which went on for 6 months and I found out about it when it finished. We tried to make it work but he lied and cheated again and in Janaruy 2007 he left. He then started seeing her again I really thought it was ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi there,
I think sometimes relationships go wrong, and can break down completly, but there's nothing to say they can't be rebuilt.
I feel that when trust has been broken and a partner has been unfaithful that the forgiving is sometimes much eas... (read in full...)
I accused my current girlfriend of cheating because she looks like an ex, and I'm on the whole very confused!
Q. Ive been going out with my new GF about 4months now, i split from my babys mum about 4 months now....The other night my babys mum told me she still cares for me and I told her i still care for her. I spoke to my babys mum today, and i told her that ...
A. 4 September 2007: Hi there, It seems to me that you need some time on your own to make up your mind what you want in your life and who you want to be with. Not sure what happened between your girlfriend of 5 yrs ago, or why the relationship with your child's mot... (read in full...)
I've tried to move on for 4 years and don't know how to!
Q. well i'm new at this so i dont really know what to do ha... i guess i will just type what is going on right now.... me and my old boyfriend.. brian.. dated for a year and 9 months.. he was my first boyfriend ever.. first kiss.. first everything...
A. 4 September 2007: Hello there, This is your first love and you will always remember it. Your problem is getting over it, no easy task... the one thing you have to do if you really want to let go and move on is that you have to do just that, move on, stop goin... (read in full...)
My dad has just died and my guy has finished with me, I cant stop crying. Help me out please?
Q. Please help me, in the early hours of Friday morning my fiance finished with me, reason being that he simply doesnt feel the same anymore. We have been together almost 3 years, engaged for almost 1 - he proposed on christmas morning. The year ...
A. 29 August 2007: Hi there,
I'm sorry for your loss...
Grief is a painful process, whether it be through death or through the lost love of a partner, you are trying to deal with both....
I agree with the previous post, contact CRUISE the berevement helpline, th... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: Hi there,
I think affairs in relationships are wrong, but we are all human and liable to make mistakes....
The most important thing is that it should be a mistake that is learnt from, the problems that caused the infidelity in the first place sh... (read in full...)
My friends guy kissed me. I really like him. Shall i tell my friend?
Q. hi recently i kissed one of my friends boyfriends, i really like him and a couple of friends have told me he likes me more than his own girlfriend. he had made a pass at me a few times before this time and i rejected them, then finally i just gave ...
A. 28 August 2007: Hi there,
You have to let your conscience be your guide here....
Tell your friend if you must, but don't be suprised if you lose her friendship, she may feel she can no longer trust you.
If you really like this guy and are not too bothered wha... (read in full...)
He had an affair and I feel low, I'm also pregnant. I dont know anyone where we live...
Q. Things have not been good through my life I have been made to feel lower than everyone else by bullies at school, work and my partner has not been nice. He has now had an affair and my esteem is at the lowest. I have no friends my husband and chil...
A. 28 August 2007: Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so down at the moment and it's understandable that you do.
The people who have bullied you throughout your life are just cowards who get their kicks from making your life miserable and are not worth th... (read in full...)
Our friend is a liar, and a self harmer and we are at the end of our tether! Please advise..
Q. okay how can i put this, well one of my best friends is, lets say an attention seeker, but its getting quite serious she makes up stuff fo attention and now belives it herself. She used to self harm really badly but we got her to go an see a coun...
A. 28 August 2007: Hi there,
You seem like a very caring person and your friend is lucky to have you as a confident and someone who she can rely on.
It's great that she has listened to you and is now having councelling and trying to resolve her problems.
I think t... (read in full...)
He thinks he should try again, just to prove a point to her.
Q. Re: My boyfriend ex-wife is driving us crazy. My boyfriend has been divorced for 3 years, his ex-wife filed for divorce. He met me 7 months before his divorce was final and was having a very hard time. That is how we became good friend. We then...
A. 25 August 2007: Hi there,
I think your b/f is being a little insensitive towards your feelings here to say the least!
If you are living together now, surely he has made some sort of commiment to you....
If he gets back with his ex on the pretext of making her r... (read in full...)
There is an attraction between myself and my ex's son.
Q. I split up with my boyfriend(who is over 12 yrs older than me) almost a yr ago now, but have remained friends with his family. There is no hard feelings between us, in fact we speak when we see each other.I know i definitely don't want him back, and ...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi there,
I think you need to keep the lid on this can of worms, you know the problems getting involved with your ex's son will cause you or you would not feel the need to be discreet about it....
I'm sure you're flattered but I would resist t... (read in full...)
Is he worth it.
Q. my boyfriend of 6 months, has a 8 week old baby. but everywhere i go, like on the social scene (myself, boyfriend and mother of his kid(they were with each other 3 years))we are all in the same circle of people. everywhere i go i think people a...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi there,
It seems your boyfriend and his ex were over before you got involved and so what have you got to worry about or feel guilty about...
Maybe you should be thinking about changing your circle of friends for some that have nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her but she's MY WIFE'S SISTER!!!
Q. I have fallen in love with my wife's sister. I love and care for my wife but not the way I feel for her sister. I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her. If she asked me to sleep with her I ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi there,
I don't think you're in love with your sister-in-law more in lust!
All I can say is don't go there unless you want to turn your life upside down.... if you tell your sister-in-law how you feel about her she may feel duty bound to inform h... (read in full...)
What was last night all about?
Q. WHAT HAPPENED LAST NITE??? I have posted 3 other Q's re: this ongoing relationship problem... see those if you want to be filled in... it's a doozie, LOL! So, my man of over 2 years who can't seem to commit yet says it's not me, but his being ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi there,
I don't know exactly what went on that night, but I do know one thing..... you're back to where you started!!
Still confused, still flogging a dead horse, and stll feelig s**t about it!
I have to agree with the previous post, he is ... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about my wife.
Q. Right where to start my question isn't about me its about my wife, I'm very worried about her. Well we have been married for nearly 7 yrs and have a 17 yr old daughter. We also have a 2 month old daughter as well. We have someone to come to the ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi there,
I know from experience that a new baby turns lives and emotions upside down, and you and your wife are not alone in finding this situation daunting....
If it was 2 months ago that she gave birth, she should by now physically be healing,... (read in full...)
He has subjected me to mental abuse.
Q. I have been with my partner for 13 years. I am 32 and he is 42. About a year ago we decided we were in a good position in our lives to have a family. We always said if we had children we would get married so we also decided we would do this as well. ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi there,
I have to agree with others here, mental abuse is soul destroying and life is too short to live in the situation you find yourself in.
I cannot imagine he will change should you have a child together, you will still suffer from his abus... (read in full...)
The problem is that I have changed and I no longer want to be married.
Q. I have been with my wife since I was 17 years old. She is 18 years older than me and we have been married for the past 7 years. The problem is that I have changed and I no longer want to be married. I've made alot of promises that I can no longer ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi there,
I feel sad for you as I think in your heart you want to do the right thing by your wife, and you don't want to hurt her. Do you feel you have missed out on life a little getting married so young to someone considerably older than your... (read in full...)
The problem is that I have changed and I no longer want to be married.
Q. I have been with my wife since I was 17 years old. She is 18 years older than me and we have been married for the past 7 years. The problem is that I have changed and I no longer want to be married. I've made alot of promises that I can no longer ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi there,
I feel sad for you as I think in your heart you want to do the right thing by your wife, and you don't want to hurt her. Do you feel you have missed out on life a little getting married so young to someone considerably older than your... (read in full...)
I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids.
Q. Hello, hope all of you are doing well with god's blessings upon us every day. My question is I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids. I am a moslem am not growing younger, he is a roman catholic p...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi there,
You know this guy's not going to leave his wife and kids for you or anyone else.....7 years is a long time to sit on the side lines, don't you want a husband and family of your own?
Let this guy go and make a life with a future for your... (read in full...)
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