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He said he would pull out, now I am late

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Question - (8 June 2006) 9 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

hi everyone, my boyfriend lives far away and he was down a couple wks ago, we had unprotected sex as he said he would pull out(definently not a smart idea) he has now gone home and I am 5 days late...should I wait it out before telling him? or should i tell him now?? I dont know if its best to just deal with it myself so he doesnt need the stress or let him now whats going on? Ive never been in this situation so Im not really sure. Id love ANY advice, ecspically any males advice! thanks soo much

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (9 June 2006):

tux agony auntWell first I will say.. do not worry too much.. You are only 5 days late. You first need to take a pregnancy test to see if it's a late because of pregnancy or just arriving late.

Second.. The "pull-out" method is not a good method... He may very well pull out.. and you can still can get pregnant from pre-cum.. it is not as likely as if he did ejaculate inside of you, but it can lead to pregnancy. so if you are planning on not having a child yet... use other forms of contraceptives or abstaind from sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006):

Whether you are pregnant or not---of course, you most definitely tell him. Why would you want to carry this worry all on your own. He's the other half of this union and relationship. I think you need his emotional support to get through this stressfully anxious time. Make him step up to the plate, girl. He'll think twice next time, he promises to 'pull out' in time. Perhaps he'll agree to wearing a condom? He does need to know whether this is a scare or not.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006):

My advice, If possible, tell someone you trust the most. Having someone to talk to will make it much easier.

In any case, you should get a pregnancy test, that until you do there is not much else you can do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006):

Go out and buy yourself one of those digital pregnancy test. No need to stress yourself and your boyfriend if you're not sure of it. Did you know that if you're are stressed (no matter what you are stressed of) your period could delay. Sometimes eating certain foods or having excess excersise could delay your period also. Girl and if you are pregnant, tell your boyfriend right away. It takes two to tango and its his responsibility also and its not fair that you have to stress this on your own just cause he's away or whatever. If you arent, tell him that you want birth control next time or he isnt going to lay a finger on you. LOL.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006):

Get a test....if it's blue then call him straight away, as then he is not stressing whether you actually are pregnant or not. A definate answer is always better.

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A female reader, Aunt Audrey United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2006):

Aunt Audrey agony auntGo buy yourself a test and if it's positive give him the news. If you're not pregnant get some form of reliable contraception there's enough to chhose from, really no need for unplanned pregnancies these days!

Most certainly don't rely on his ability to "pull out" you'll definately end up pregnant!

Good luck, and protect yourself!

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A female reader, camille United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2006):

camille agony auntTell him what exactly? That you're late? Just get a test, see if you're pregnant. Worry can make you even later so know for sure. It takes 2 so whether or not he 'said he'd pull out', is not relevant....men can get carried away, they can lose control, they think they can stop but then it happens sooner than expected. YOU have to take some responsibility, it's your body. Either find an alternative method of contraception or don't trust that "I'll pull out" will actually happen (unintentionally or otherwise). p.s "he doesn't need the stress", what's that all about? Neither do YOU! Tell him if you want but get on with the test, for YOUR sake.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006):

it depends on what you mean by stressing him, if hes young and has got exams coming up i suggest you leave him until the exams finishes, and if your in the same position you should talk to your parents or DR. for advice and i know how you must feel, havent been through it or anything but i can relate to being paranoid about my hair, and if i had a girl telling me that i would either be a man about it and ask her to keep the baby or ask her to get an abortion

hope this helps u

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006):

I think the first thing you should do is take a pregancy test before anything else. Don't tell your boyfriend yet, as you don't want to complicate things, so take a preganancy test and if you are pregnant, then you should tell him

Good Luck

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