I still want him.....but he was in bed with someone else....NAKED!!!!
Q. I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman both naked.I still want him in my life i cant let go.Is this right?...
A. 6 April 2006: If only we could turn off our feelings like a tap when it suited us.
Your boyfriend has hurt you and treated you badly, but you say you can't let go.
How much more humiliation are you willing to take?
This guy is bad news and you deserve bett... (read in full...)
Did my husband cheat or were the txts i found a joke??
Q. hi, I have been married for 3 years, together for 8 years. my problem is that after just one year of marriage i found texts on my husbands phone to another woman, i dont even know why i looked. He was telling her to come to his place of work so ...
A. 6 April 2006: When this happened originally you obviously accepted his explanation, probably because you couldn't prove otherwise and brushed the whole thing under the carpet. This got rid of the problem for him, and he had a lucky escape.(sorry but these ... (read in full...)
I would love to be with her, what should I do?
Q. please people, i could use your advice. i hav become close friends with a girl i am really starting to feel more for her, we almost went out a while ago but i didn't feel like it would work out. now i'm the one who just feels that we would be good ...
A. 5 April 2006: I think that if you tell her now how you feel, knowing she's just been dumped you may end up catching her on the rebound.
I would remain good friends with her and I'm sure given a little more time she may be ready to embark on a new rela... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smokes while he's away at school! What can I do about this?
Q. My boyfriend and I of almost 2 years have hit a rough patch. He went away to school about 5 hours away. Nothing seemed wrong at all the first 4 months of him being away. I thought we were closer and on the same page. As It turns out we weren't The ...
A. 5 April 2006: We all know the dangers of smoking and so no doubt does your boyfriend.
We can make a choice with the given information, to smoke or not to smoke.
I know you obviously do not want your boyfriend to smoke, and so he should respect your wishes w... (read in full...)
I'd don't care that his marred... But does he like me?
Q. I like a guy who is married and he flirts with me majorly. does he really like me or is he just flirting just for fun? and he is always giving me those looks like "i want you" and today we saw eachother and he got a huge smile and waved and stared ...
A. 5 April 2006: You may not care that he is married, but you should!
Oneday you will go on to meet the love of your life, and I'm sure you'll want the whole package, marriage, kids, and commitment. Think how you would feel being the wife who's being betrayed, woul... (read in full...)
Why should she be annoyed now we are no longer together??
Q. Hey guys, maybe some of you are familiar with my situation, I have posted several times before about my breakup and you've been a great help. My ex is on the rebound with another guy and I'm still in love. Here's the latest: She was singing ...
A. 5 April 2006: I think your ex finised the relationship and started another one, as you say, on the rebound.
She has been lucky to keep you as a friend, and she knows that.
I think the fact you chose to be elsewhere the night you were supposed to be watching... (read in full...)
He don't like my past and gets depressed while he's away. What can I do to make him feel better?
Q. My husband of one month says he really loves me but has huge hang ups about my past. About 20 years ago I slept with a married man and then I had a relationship with a man who was seperated from his wife and we had a son now 15, we are still on ...
A. 4 April 2006: If he knew of your past when he married you I can't see where the problem is, after all the past is past and should be left there, if it is causing him so much turmoil why marry you in the first place..... does he worry about your past all the time ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my abusive partner but I don't want to leave him!
Q. I cheated on my husband, and failed to admit it to him when he found out. The brief is that , i met this guy online and he came out to see me, we got married after 4 days of seeing each other. i feel in love with him, he had to leave and go bac...
A. 4 April 2006: I am assuming that you were talking for some time on the internet with this man before you married him.
Although many people find true love meeting people this way, many also find themselves marrying someone who they do not really know. I think this... (read in full...)
What can I say to shut him up?
Q. He got back together with his ex-girlfriend months ago. He is now consistently emailing me a one-liner about once a month, apparently so I don't forget about him...gag. I know the best thing to do is nothing, but I'd love to reply with something ...
A. 4 April 2006: I agree with everyone else here, one more e-mail saying "get a life!" and then I'd block his mail......some guys...it's sad!
good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to be nice to my toxic friend?
Q. Should I stay friends with a girl who: - competes with everything about me and what I do - flirted with the guy I loved for 3years, JUST to piss me off (because I think she thought the guy she fancied, fancied me), and then the guy I loved to...
A. 2 April 2006: With friends like her who needs enemies........get shot of her she's a waste of time!
Good luck.x... (read in full...)
We planned our lives together and now he's acting so cold, what's going on!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and have lived with him for a year. We had been talking about getting married, and following each other wherever we need to go for grad school. Recently he broke up with me, saying that he still loves me, ...
A. 1 April 2006: I agree with hickeyhickey, I think your guy is starting to think he's maybe a little young for the whole settling down thing and maybe thinks the grass is greener on the other side.
The thing is though you are still living with him.... you shou... (read in full...)
Unhappy with him or unhappy without?
Q. Hey. Im 17 and my boyfriends 18, we've been dating over a year now and ever since the begining our relationshi has had problems. Alot of them have involved his ex and im so sick of it. He lies to me, and treats me horriably. i want to break up with ...
A. 1 April 2006: Can breaking up with this guy be worst than having to be with someone you are obviously not happy with?
Only you can decide what or who is right for you and you sure don't sound like a happy bunny to me!
Finish with him and find someone who make... (read in full...)
How do I regain trust?
Q. Could someone give me some ideas to help regain trust in a relationship? I am lost of ideas. I love him and leaving him is not an option....
A. 1 April 2006: You do not say if it's you that needs to regain trust or if you need to convince your partner they can trust you, but anyhow..........
Lack of trust in a relationship causes insecurity, to be
able to trust your partner you have to feel secure i... (read in full...)
I met a man, but he's married!
Q. I met a man a little over a week ago when I was at a club last weekend. I noticed him from across the room and one of my friends went over to him and he came over to our table. We ended up really hitting it off it was amazing and I think at that ...
A. 31 March 2006: You say you'll regret not being friends with him and seeing where it goes......you know where its going!
Don't be a fool and get involved, it rarely leads to happiness.
Put yourself in the wife's shoes, they may have thier up's and downs, but he's... (read in full...)
I've had dreams about this man since high school, its seems like we are meant to be but we are both married! Why am I feeling like this?
Q. why should i feel sad knowing that an old friend got married..? we used to be classmates during high school days, way back then , all we do is fight and we dont seem to agree on anything. but both of us know that we secretly like each other so mu...
A. 31 March 2006: It sounds to me like this guy was your first love, all be it a secret love. They say you never forget your first love, and it looks like he's never been far from your mind all these years.
It's great you are in contact now, be glad that he foun... (read in full...)
Our emotional affair (never had sex) ended two years ago. Now he's back in contact shall I savour the moment? (editor: long but worth it)
Q. Can anyone help me? I am a single woman, aged 32, who fell in love (unintentionally) with a man I met 4 years ago. He was 31 at the time and had a girlfriend of 10 years - he had just started living with her. As much as I tried to walk away, th...
A. 31 March 2006: You have lived without this man for 2 years and are still here to tell the tale, which means no matter how much you love him you can live without him, which is exactly what I'd do if I was you.
I understand this man has been in a relationship for ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to make the moves?
Q. Hi All, Recently I have told a 28 yr-old guy about how I feel about him, basically I like him. He told me it was very flattering and that he admired my courage of telling him. He told me not to worry since I have done my very best and it is his re...
A. 30 March 2006: I wouldn't put any pressure on this guy to make his mind up,maybe he is taking a while to decide because he feels that if he starts a serious relationship with you and it all goes wrong he will probably lose a good friend.
In saying that I woul... (read in full...)
A week into dating my ex's best friend and already having SERIOUS doubts
Q. about a month ago i split from my boyfriend of 8 months. It was a tough time becuase he was the one that ended it and never really gave me a reason for the split. Anyway I vowed to stay single and concentrate on my studies-1 month down the line an...
A. 29 March 2006: This I think is a rebound relationship, and you need to be honest about your feelings and tell him. I can't see you having a change of heart and things getting better for you, so let him down gently but finish with him, the sooner the better, if you ... (read in full...)
I don't know how he is, I would like to help, but not sure if I should....
Q. I want to know how he is doing, but afraid that it would send mixed signals or open healing wounds. I ended us and it wasn't very pleasant, it was very verbally brutal. SInce then he went ahead and sold his house without a plan, when he put it u...
A. 29 March 2006: I think you should leave him alone for now, sounds like he's gone off to lick his wounds and get over you.
You say you ended it, do I sense a bit of guilt there?
Maybe he feels having no contact with you will enable him to move on more quickly.... (read in full...)
His new bitchy gf is poisoning his mind against his friends...how do we stop this?
Q. For about five years I've had 3 best friends- a girl and two boys. We are all really close and spend a lot of time together. We've had girlfriends and boyfriends in the past but now one of my best friends, one of the boys, has a girlfriend. Normally ...
A. 29 March 2006: The more you try convincing your friend that his girlfriend is not nice the more he'll distance himself from you.
He has choosen to be with her and as much as you may not like her, he obviously does.
Let it go and I'm sure if she's as two faced as... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to aggrevate me about my breasts, why does he do this?
Q. my boyfriend of almost 2 yrs. will make jokes about my breasts. saying they are little and all, but then when I try to ignore it he will make another joke, then it bothers me and he will apologize and say he is just joking and that my breasts are ...
A. 29 March 2006: The reason your boyfriend continues to make fun of your breast size is because he knows it bothers you, and he obviously gets off on making you mad.
Next time he starts tell him to go find a woman with bigger breasts if that'll make him happy and ... (read in full...)
How can I get to know my shy co-worker better?
Q. I dont really have a problem but would like some advice. I used to be a fairly confident person, i was quite popular in school and never had any problems talking to guys I like but I have been having that problem recently. I broke up with my...
A. 29 March 2006: Sure there's an easy solution to this.....ask around at work and find out if he's single, and if he is e-mail him and ask him out. You'll never know until you try, the days of us girls waiting for guys to ask has long gone, and I'm sure he won't ... (read in full...)
Me and my bf broke up and he moved in with somebody else but then he rang me out the blue. Does he still care??
Q. I was with my boyfriend for seven years and we broke up several months ago. He decided to relocate back to his hometown. He met a girl soon after his arrival there and they are now living together. I was hurt by his departure and hurt by the fact ...
A. 28 March 2006: I would imagine he still cares about you, you were together a long time and it seems you split amicably.
I wouldn't read too much into his call though, sounds like a guilt trip to me. He probably feels bad for the relationship ending and felt he n... (read in full...)
My partner has fallen for the guy we brought back for a threesome!
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years now. The sex was great at first and after 8 months we moved in together, then he started saying he thought we should try threesomes or clubs to make things more interesting. I agreed to go along but I was ...
A. 28 March 2006: Time for you to move on, as its obvious he has. Put this one down to experience and think very carefully next time you want to spice up your sex life, there are other ways to do that other than bringing another person into the equation, these ... (read in full...)
He's my best friend and he's engaged to be married, and we're kissing and fooling around together!?
Q. I am 17. I have known my 22 year old best friend for a little over a year now. He is like a brother to me, and he is the greatest person I have ever met. He has been happily engaged for over a year (shortly before i met him) and i am good friends ...
A. 28 March 2006: My advice is get out of this guys life, your going to either a) get hurt yourself or b) hurt his fiancee.
The relationship you have with him will not go unnoticed for much longer and will bring a whole lot of trouble your way.
If he wants to be wi... (read in full...)
On all his online profiles he lists himself as single!
Q. Hi, i'm a 20 years old and in need of some unbiased advice. My bf and i have been going out for 2 and half years, we're both in university. We only have small disagreements and i think that we still have a strong relationship. However the other day ...
A. 28 March 2006: Confront him, ask him why he wants the world to think he's single, would he rather be? He will probably be annoyed you went through his computer, and you'll of course have to admit to that to confront him.
Tell him to change his profile if it both... (read in full...)
My possesive ex is threatening to kill himself but i really dont want to be with him. Please help!!1
Q. Hi. I am quite scared as this has never happened to me before. I went out with a guy. It was more a rebound from my ex of 3 years. WE were together about 2/3 months and I realised I still liked my ex and also that this guy was very possesiv...
A. 28 March 2006: You cannot continue in a relationship due to emotional blackmail, you will end up very unhappy and probably lose the person you really want to be with.
If he is sending texts that are bothering you, change your number. Tell him again you have no f... (read in full...)
Abused as a child, I get panic attacks and can't socialise properly. Now I'm afraid I'll be called a nut job for going to a psychologist!
Q. Hi there people I hope all those great agony aunts like d4uo4 can help!! Well, I am worried I'll lose everything that I have got. I'm 21 and I was abused as a child. And although years have passed I still find it really really hard to carry on...
A. 19 March 2006: Firstly well done for seeking help, there's certainly no shame in that.
Secondly why does anyone need to know about your therapy, apart from close friends and your family?
I'm sure anyone who knows you well enough will understand, the most importan... (read in full...)
Is he just not that into me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. For the most part it is okay but it is more comfortable than a real relationship. I understand that he needs to hang out with the guys sometimes but for a long time now he seems to be avoiding ...
A. 19 March 2006: Well if I'd been dating someone for three years and the relationship had got to the point yours has, with me having to put all the effort in to it, I think I'd start wondering where it was heading if anywhere!
Time to turn the tables and stop doin... (read in full...)
I've never been round his house, met his friends, or his family, and he won't tell me where he lives!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 7 months. I have never been to his apartment. When we first started talking to each other, he told me that he had a bad experience with someone keying his car and was not ready to tell me where he ...
A. 17 March 2006: I'm having to agree with everyone else here, this guy is weird!
I would have to find out more about him, its just not normal to be with someone for 7 months and be completly excluded from his personal life. What does he think, that you are some sort... (read in full...)
My ex raped me and I blame it all on myself. HELP!
Q. my ex bf of 5 yrs raped me infront of my children, he has been charged by police and i am due to appear in court soonish. he was violent towards me during the relationship, which he has also been charged for. The problem i have apart from the above ...
A. 17 March 2006: Hi there,
Please don't blame yourself over what this man has done to you, the beast has robbed you of you confidence and self worth, and no doubt made you feel guilty about your children having to witness his behaviour.
The main thing is you were... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but I know there's another guy! I miss her, so how do I get her back.
Q. well i am 15 but this girl is my life.we both told each other that we love each other she said that she feels theres too much goin on in her life and we are better as friends so she dumped me. butI know she has an "interest" in another guy. please ...
A. 17 March 2006: At only 15 you have a whole lot of living to do, and so has she.
I think she's made her feelings clear, so accept her wishes and look for another girl to make you happy.
It will take a while to get over her, but time is a great healer.
Be gratef... (read in full...)
Sex, sex, sex. Sex. Sexsex. That's all he wants to talk about, and I'm SICK of it!
Q. I have a problem My boyfriend and I have been together 2 months. He seems to have a very high sex drive. We haven't had sex yet as i want to wait, but my problem is, i want to talk about things in our relationship and how much i love him and thi...
A. 17 March 2006: Seems there is only one thing on this guys mind and its not love!
If you're not ready to have sex with him tell him why and tell him his continual talk of it is driving you apart.
If he loves you as I think you love him he will back off, If not f... (read in full...)
Is she keeping me on the back-burner?
Q. This is driving me crazy! My ex wants to remain friends (I want more than that but will settle for now if that's the only way I can keep her in my life) but says she is either too busy to hang with me or blows me off to hang with her rebound guy. ...
A. 17 March 2006: Sounds like she's keeping you hanging in case she should ever be in a position to use you, she knows how you feel about her and knows you would have her back in a second.
You say you have remained friends, but would you be interested in a frie... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I like him when I see him, but how am I to do this?
Q. Hi there I am in a dilemma, over a boy (shock horror) I have been friends with him for about 8 years, not mega close- but catch up occasionally, I saw him a couple of years ago before he was to go to Australia with his girlfriend and he asked me...
A. 16 March 2006: There must be a connection of some kind for you to have stayed in contact all this time albeit sporadically.
If he is coming to stay with you and you have plans to go out, see how it goes, if you still feel the same way then go for it and ask him ... (read in full...)
I divorced him, but now he's announced his engagement I am devastated!
Q. We were married for 22yrs, a turbulent marriage, but loved each deeply, 3 grown up children now, my ex was a heavy drinker and an angry man. After a few break ups my ex always begged for another chance. In the last 3 yrs i've had cancer twice (now ...
A. 16 March 2006: Firstly you have to ask yourself if you want to get back together with your ex husband and give your relationship another go for all the right reasons, or just because you are lonely and he has said he's meet someone else and you can't bear the ... (read in full...)
I met him, gave him my number and never heard from him
Q. After the break-up of a long term relationship, I have been single for 4 years. I am very shy and do find it difficult to talk to people I don't know well. One night when I was out I made eye contact with a man I felt very attracted to. He also ...
A. 15 March 2006: If you have given him your number and he has not rung even after saying he would be in contact a second time, I really wouldn't bank on him calling in the future. He may well be shy, or he may already be in a relationship, do you know that he is ... (read in full...)
Stunned by my ex's news, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I have recently split with my gay boyfriend, 21, after six months together. I am 33 and found out at the weekend that he has left me for his best friend who is 37. This man has just separated from his wife after 13 years of marriage and has...
A. 15 March 2006: Its understandable that you are hurt that your relationship has ended and seems you were not given an adequate explaination as to why, which has left you wondering what you did wrong....probably nothing! If you boyfriend left you for his friend a... (read in full...)
Can I get my fiance back into my and our son's lives?
Q. My ex-fiance and I broke up about 2 months ago. He blames me for our relationship ending, but he's the one who broke it off. I'm still in love with him but he wants nothing to do with me besides discussing our son, and it's probably because he's ...
A. 14 March 2006: Frankly it doesn't look like you can do anything to change his mind, certainly not at the moment. The most important thing right now is that he maintains contact with your son and is still involved in his life. You may not like the fact he's moved ... (read in full...)
He was cheating on me with the girl next door!
Q. Hi there i've been involved with this guy for 7 years now, we were so in love and we were both committed to each other. last year i found out hew as cheating on me with a girl from next door, he says it was just plan sex , he doesn't love her,i ...
A. 14 March 2006: If you are still together after you have both dated different people during your relationship, I would say that there is a good chance you can continue being together if you both agree that you will stay faithfull to one another from now on. Trust ... (read in full...)
She seemed like she loved me, but now she's with someone else!
Q. I'm in luv with a girl.then she seem to luv me too coz we kiss and chat alot.But some few weeks ago she told me she wanted us to break up coz shes got exam and that its againt her soul to be in a relationship but just a few days ago i saw her with a ...
A. 14 March 2006: I think she was letting you down gently, time to move on and find someone new, it sounds as if she has.
Put this one down to experience, don't worry you'll love again!
If you love her as much as you say you do, you'll let her get on with her life... (read in full...)
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