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writes:Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why our minimum number of times is decreasing? From 6 times to 4 to 3 to 1 and then barely 1. I try about 2-3 times minimum a day. Sometimes he tries once or twice. Could we be on seperate pages? And since sex is the topic, is there such a thing as "too wet"?? He often makes comments on it ? And is being a "squirter" unattractive to some men? Not a huge one, just barely being qualified as one.. Advice and opinions from both genders would be appreciated. Please be as mature about it as possible as these are serious Concerns of mine about my relationship and love life. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your opinions and advice. I am a little more confident. In our relationship. Realizing nothing may be wrong because according to every answer 6 times is alot so maybe i have a very high sex drive. I dont know why just alot of things turn me on about him. I have always known it was unusual, but since it was like that in the beginning i thought it would stay like that. We do live together and it has been almost 4 years since we were "horny teens". I hope it doesnt decrease any more than it has. But perhaps I will see if there is any way to decrease my sex drive because i have toys that arent what i want after having used them for so long, and trying to talk to him on the subject is worthless. Because he refuses to believe he cant keep up how he used to (which is not how i put it word for word talking to him). But thank you all. Very appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2013): i agree, i girl never can be wet enough ;) but a squirter? thats different, i dont know, not my taste. but there are so many guys that turns them on. just not my case.To have sex 6 times per day??? i wish my gf had your sex drive!!i can barely have sex with her every night and sometimes she is not on the mood, so probably we have sex 5 times per week ;)But let me be honest, as you grow older in your relationship is completely normal that libido decreases and that doesnt have anything to do with being less attractive or less loved, we are humans and sometimes we are not in the mood. we are not sex machines, you know what i mean? if you have a very strong sex drive be open and talk to your guy, im sure he will be more than happy to get you off everytime you ask him. remember: communication is the key.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (6 February 2013):
I am and have been one horny SOB in my life. That said, six times a day is a lot, even for me, even at age 18. You need some energy for life as well.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (6 February 2013):
 When something is new it's exciting. 6 times a day is a lot!!! Too much for me now to be honest. My first girlfriend and I were at it like rabbits. We averaged 1-2 times day for a year. That was when sex was new. That was 15 years ago.
Now, I'm a bit older and for me that is way too much.
If you eat your favourite meal every day for 3 months you'll soon get bored of it and it won't be your favourite any more. It's the simple law of diminishing returns.
Once a day is a lot too. Of course at the beginning everything is new and you can't keep your hands off each other. As relationships mature the frequency becomes less. This doesn't mean once a week or once a month or even once a year. It's different for different couples.
I imagine, if it were me, I'd be wondering if there was anything more to our relationship than just sex.
As for your other question, no there is no such thing as too wet. As for being a "squirter" some men will be attracted to it and some won't.
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reader, fzald +, writes (6 February 2013):
Wow... 6 times a day? So many guys would tell you they would do anything for a girl like that...Truth is, though, us guys have limits. At the beginning if a brand new relationship, sex 6 times a day may be typical. However, once the relationship is well underway, the frequency will definitely decrease. Think about it - if you're awake say 16 hours a day, you're having sex every few hours! Compare it to eating at like a buffet. If you haven't eaten for a long time, you'll go to the buffet and stuff yourself silly. But afterwards, you really don't feel like eating much, or eating that often.It doesn't mean he loves you any less, it doesn't mean he finds you any less attractive. It doesn't mean your relationship is in any trouble. It's trouble when the sex COMPLETELY stops for a long period of time. I will tell you something pretty personal... I've never had a relationship where I had sex more than twice a day. I've masturbated for most of my teenage and adult life, and my record is still 5 times in one day... and that's only a single day. So the fact that you're not having sex 6 times a day anymore isn't anything to be worried about. No man would be able to keep that going for too long, no matter how attractive you are.If you find yourself horny a lot when he's not, maybe masturbate yourself? Try a vibrator? Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 February 2013):
 I think the frequency does slow down... 6 times a day is a bit excessive even for young horny teens not in school...
twice a day is even above the norm.
you try 2-3 times a day... so you go after him?
for men it's about being able to get it up.. girls not ready can lube up and go.... perhaps you are putting pressure on him... if you are horny that much have sex when he asks and masturbate the other times...
BTW separate pages are one partner wanting sex once a week and the other wanting it once a month or less.... BTDT
long term living together couples have sex less frequently than you think;
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexinformation/a/sex_frequency.htm
"There was, in fact, little difference across the decades, and looking at men and women from ages 20 to 45, they reported between 6.8 and 8 times per month."
This above was reported in 1938, 1970 and 2003 so it's pretty average over many generations....
I personally from a psychological POV wonder what drives you to bug him for sex so frequently.....
as for too wet... I THINK there can be too wet.... if you are too wet there is no friction.. no friction means it's harder to orgasm.
TOO wet... leaving puddles... well get hospital pads (you can get them in any pharmacy
http://www.vitalitymedical.com/disposable-underpad.html
we used to use them at the hotels for swinger parties to put under the squirters.... Once a man understands what female ejaculation is about, I've never met one that minds... just prep for the mess or have sex in the shower...
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reader, Katiey +, writes (6 February 2013):
I think 6 times a day is a bit extreme.
I know at the beginning of a relationship your always at it.
But then I think it decreases.
I just don't think a man could sustain that especially with work and other commitments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2013): 6 time s a day is unussual even in the very begginig of the relationship. Personally i had a boy-friend Who sometimes, not always thought, could do it 3-4 time s a day, and wore me down to' the point that didn't want to have sex at all. I was always swollen down there, it was burning when I needed to pee, and really, I had now desire to do it so many times a day.
You are in for an unpleasant surprise if you think that married couples or long term couples do it even once a day. Once a day is considered to be often, normal is considered to be couple times a week. Especially when kids come, and you get tired by the end of the day, sex is the last on your mind.
You are way too young to talk how age effects your libido. But 6 times a day is way too often for a guy at least, I think.
I got commented once by a guy, that I have just right amount of moisture. I asked, really, there is such thing as wrong amount of moisture. He laughed and said, o yes, I had a few girls with an ocean down there, not my particular taste.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2013): It's possible OP but it depends on a lot of factors, long working hours, stress etc. Lots of things effect libido but in general the amount of sex you have starts off at lots and then slows down. Honestly though OP 6 times a day is unsustainable for us guys, that is a very extreme number to have and most of us are able to go 2-3 times a day and even then most guys will not have that kind of libido.
The reason he is slowly winding down is probably a physical thing, OP our penis just will not work that many times a day over a long period of time, it's different for you because you just have get wet, he has to get a hard on 6 times a day. If you think any man can sustain that over a long period of the time and think that's a reason to be sexually frustrated then in for a long life of sexual frustration.
"And since sex is the topic, is there such a thing as "too wet"?"
Not really, the only time a woman can be too wet is if we're having sex on something that it would not be a good idea to get a load of sex juices on, or having sex in public not taking our clothes off. Too wet is only in terms of messiness, nothing else. I had an ex who was like a waterfall, just kissing her neck would have her gushing and if she was wearing trousers that could and sometimes was a complete disaster until she started wearing pads in her panties.
"And is being a "squirter" unattractive to some men?"
Yeah it can be for the same reasons as above and some guys just find those juices disgusting, the same as some women find the idea of having cum in their mouth to be vile.
OP you should do a little bit of online research into sexuality between couples and stuff. There's tonnes of good info on the frequency of sex etc. 6 times a day is not going to last too long, the male penis is just not designed for that kind of workload and a man's desire to have that much sex will diminish too. There is nothing wrong with your relationship, that's just how things go. Be prepared for the fact that some days he just won't want sex either OP, or maybe he'll be under a lot of stress some week and won't want sex that week either. Don't take lack of sex or slowing down to mean anything major OP. 6 times a day is a very unrealistic number.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (6 February 2013):
 No if you ask me a woman can't ever be wet enough ;)Next libido decreases as you get older Also a factor could be boredom. There are books out there that'll tell you how to keep the spice but you may not to reference such material.Talk to your guy. Find out what's up. He could be bored stressed many things could attribute. Good luck.
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