He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 21 June 2010: He can't make you pay back the money for school. That was a gift made within the relationship. However, why would you drop out of school?
If you're breaking up with him, wouldn't working on your school/career be the smart thing for you to do?... (read in full...)
My best friend practically ignores me online now. What do I do?
Q. Well right now i feel so sad because me and my best friend used to talk every day on messenger cause she is in mexico and i came to the united states when i was 6 years old but i go every year. Well the problem is that since she meet a boy she ...
A. 21 June 2010: Awww....this happens in real life too when a close friend gets a guy and then no one and nothing else matters. If she's the same age you are, she hasn't learned how to balance her life and this guy.
Don't take it personally. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
It takes him so long to ejaculate!
Q. My partner is unable to ejaculate, we have tried various methods but to no avail, it takes him over 2 hours to make himself ejaculate through masturbation. Could this be medical problem or is this just natural for him? ...
A. 21 June 2010: OUCH!! LOL..Talk about rug burn! :P
Sorry. Your partner would do really well by scheduling a visit to his doctor to see what the problem is and maybe get something to help him out.
It sounds like a medical issue. Is he circumcized? So... (read in full...)
There's always little things in every relationship that don't need to be said.
Q. I love my girlfriend and couldn't ask for anything better, we tell each other everything. When it comes to our past partners I have told her the truth (3 people before) but have lied about who they are. Just about ages, because I was kind of ...
A. 21 June 2010: I wouldn't condone lying, but CaringGuy is absolutely right. The past is the past, and you don't need to divulge everything that's ever happened with you sexually, unless you have an STD or you might be gay or you've been married before or you have ... (read in full...)
Why do women fake being pregnant?
Q. Why do women fake being pregnant. Twice in my life (not now) I've had girl fake that they are pregnant with my child. I've called them out each time. One was normal girl, who I would never expect that behavior from. She was a fling of sorts but a ...
A. 21 June 2010: Most women don't do this, but the ones who do do it to obligate the guy to stay in their lives or to "hold on" a bit longer.
However, there's one thing that bothers me about what you wrote:
"One was normal girl, who I would never expect tha... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 20 June 2010: I hope this guy doesn't have an Argentine lover stashed somewhere that he's seeing on his long getaways, because behavior like this almost always points to someone else that's come into the picture.
It sounds like he's got another girl (or a gu... (read in full...)
What causes me to to have an intense tingling sensation buzz through my body during sex?
Q. What causes me to to have an intense tingling sensation buzz through my body during sex? This doesn't happen every time, but I am curious to know the name of the nerve responsible or condition. I liken it to being electrocuted or intense "pins and ...
A. 20 June 2010: Good question! That might be a good question for your doctor to answer. It may be nothing, as I've heard of people whose hands and feet tingle during orgasm before.
Sorry I can't be more help!... (read in full...)
SOS!! boyfriend VS parents!!!
Q. umm...okay, my bf wants to meet my parents, and we been together for 2 years and 5 months. he really wants meet my parents, because he is serious about our relationship (he is 20 in college already and im 17 still in high school) i'm going to the ...
A. 20 June 2010: I could use more info on this one before I advise you.
Exactly why don't your parents like him?? A reaction this strong is usually brought about for a reason.... (read in full...)
Farewell from an aunt
Q. After being an aunt on this wonderful site for well over 5 years, I've decided to finally see the writing on the wall and call it quits. I truly gave it my best shot and spoke the truth as I know it to be. I will always treasure my time here and the ...
A. 20 June 2010: Good luck! I wish I could have gotten to know you.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when she says "It was a shame I left you"
Q. hey i need to know if my ex still loves me. because today we were taking on facebook and she is coming up to visit her parents because she lives down south. and she wants to meet up with me and she also said to me it was a shame i left you. she even ...
A. 20 June 2010: Your ex is feeling nostalgic. I don't know if she "loves" you, but she still has feelings for you.
The question is - do you love your current girlfriend? Think about it this way - your ex dumped you and put you through pain. Can you put your... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went on a jealousy rampage..how do I convince him it is unfounded?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 months. I have fallen madly in love with him. We have been talking about getting married after he is done with basic training for the military, and want to be with each other forever. He was staying the week...
A. 20 June 2010: You can't show him that you never cheated, and he doesn't deserve you to crawl to him on your hands and knees. He blew it the first time he dared to call you a "slut".
Here's the thing. He went and snooped all over your computer. It takes so... (read in full...)
How do I stay close to my mom, when she is calling me a traitor because I am moving out for study reasons...?
Q. Hey all. I'm going off to college soon (this fall), and my mother has been freaking out for a while. She and my father are divorced, and because neither of them ever saved any money for college for me I'm on my own (although I understand - we had ...
A. 20 June 2010: You've gotta be the adult here. Your mom is going through empty nest syndrome and separation anxiety when it comes to you. She also I'm guessing is going through menopause, which plays holy havoc on her hormones.
Don't take anything she says... (read in full...)
He's one of my best friends! Does he like me?
Q. I find my one of my best friends very attractive, and all of my friends are very touchy so i normally dont think to deep into things when he is being sexual towards me. But today we were coming back from a vacation with our friends and when everyone ...
A. 20 June 2010: Trust me, it was going through his head too. No guy touches a girl like that unless it's more than friendship. Sounds to me that in this guy's case, it's not a bad thing for you!
You are the one with the experience. If you're interest... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to want to make time for my any more...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months. he works at nights but whenever he has days off he gets up does what he has to and goes off with his mates. I feel he doesnt spend any time with me at all. he's a bit broke at the moment but he ...
A. 20 June 2010: Are you kidding?!??! He's out smoking dope (more expensive than drinking!) and he flies into rages and hits you. What a winner.
What in God's name are you doing with him?! You're talking about getting engaged??? He lives with his parents,... (read in full...)
I want a threesome too, but I also feel jealous and insecure about it?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have only been dating for four months but have been friends for over two years. He wants to have a threesome and I am not against it but I need advice on helping with coping with it. When I think about it I get angry and ...
A. 19 June 2010: Why not insist on a threesome with another guy??
I'm thinking your boyfriend wouldn't be so gung ho about that!
Listen, you don't have to do ANYTHING you're not comfortable with. Don't feel like you HAVE to do a threesome. It's NOT... (read in full...)
Will this new "open" thing be good for my long-distance relationship?
Q. The guy I'm kinda seeing (J) and I have opened things up for the summer because we live over 3000 miles apart. I'm not really liking this open thing but, my ex, (K) recently was talking about a hook up possibility once my new job starts in a couple ...
A. 19 June 2010: Why bother with either one of them??? What do you get out of this except getting used by K?? Open relationships are absolutely bad news. They'll erode the trust of a relationship, especially if the "open" thing is temporary.
Ask yourself... (read in full...)
I love him but he neglects me, we have a daughter and I want her to have a mum and a dad, but this relationship is making me miserable!
Q. how do i tell him it's over? we've been together for 3 years his daughter was born one month when we started dating and he told me he didn't know he was having a kid with his ex...that she lied to him about the abortion.. we have a 3 month old ...
A. 19 June 2010: You already know what you have to do. Time to drop this guy before you have any more children with him. And I believe that when you're frustrated enough, you'll do just that.
However, I want to talk about something else. You need to not only... (read in full...)
He keeps joining dating sites even though we're engaged and I'm pregnant, am I wasting my time?
Q. So... I'm almost 8 months pregnant. I was just engaged on mothers day and my relationship was a fairy tale.. i never imagined things could be so good but i also knew it was too good to be true. 2 days ago i caught my fiance signing up for dating ...
A. 19 June 2010: Okay, well, it's good that the guy is seeing a therapist, and I understand the dilemma you're in because of your pregnancy. However, you should never let your heart be such that it takes another person to "complete" you. If you approach any ... (read in full...)
How can I pick myself up and move on after this "friends with benefits" mess?
Q. I have been with this guy for almost two years and has had a miscarriage this year for him. The relationship is only a friends with benefits type situation until I got pregnant and had to have surgery cause I was pregnant in my tube so my baby died. ...
A. 19 June 2010: First, I'm so very sorry you had to go through the pain and pregnancy. I can only imagine how awful that made you feel. I hope you're okay physically, and I wish the best for you emotionally.
That being said, this is exactly the problem with "fr... (read in full...)
Intimacy is becoming an issue for my long distance relationship!
Q. i have a long distance relationship, or i say i did have one. But things have never been to intimate between us. Last night he said he was feeling frisky and wanted me to do thinks for him, even if it was just prance around in my knickers. But i did ...
A. 19 June 2010: Let me ask you this - why do you want HIM to want you again? Sounds like he wanted to use you for his own gratification, and when you said that you didn't want to give him sexual favors, he breaks up with you.
NO man should pressure you for ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this breakup?
Q. Hi! I feel in love with a guy this last spring. He broke off with me and I thought he was afraid of commitment. Maybe he was so I wrote him emails without any answers. He finally mad me angry so I told him off! Then I decided to let him have his way ...
A. 19 June 2010: I know it hurts. I know your heart is torn open, but you did the right thing. You should beg and pine for no man. He broke it off with you, and rejection is one of the hardest things to bear. However, it won't last forever.
Take comfort ... (read in full...)
Is cutting off all contact the best thing to do here?
Q. I have a question about my ex. He is a narcissist. I have figured out that much and am doing a good job at overcoming the situation. He left me. Anyways, it has been almost two months of being broken up. He finally moved out but have done some ...
A. 19 June 2010: Okay, you need to change the locks on your doors immediately, and you need to let go of any stuff or money he owes you. You need to eliminate ALL reasons you have for communicating with him, period.
You don't see it, but you are the one sust... (read in full...)
How can I handle my girlfriend's trust and anger issues?
Q. my girlfriend of 8months appears to have trust and anger issues.I am a photographer.i mostly shoot with models or i used to.after 2 months and me moving to her city,she tells me she hates me knowing these models and hates their pics.Ive NEVER ...
A. 19 June 2010: YIKES. You're 41-50 and you both are throwing things at each other??? What's going on here? I'm sure you know that it's wrong to assault one another, and I'm stating the glaringly obvious.
Putting that aside for one moment, your photogra... (read in full...)
Nervous about first-time sex!
Q. Ok, so this is a question to guys and girls. I am 18, and still a virgin. I have this fear when I am going to get to the moment of having sex, I'll be too excited and cum too quick (maybe even before sex starts?) idk, help me out, does that happen? ...
A. 18 June 2010: One thing you might want to try is the "insurance" orgasm, meaning you might want to give yourself an orgasm shortly before your date. That way, that'll take the edge off of your excitement when you get with your girl.
Also, condoms (which y... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits or work on a relationship that makes me miserable?
Q. I am a 26 year old woman. I have met the 'love of my life' two years ago. At first things went smoothly and we enjoyed the same things. As days passed things started to change. He does not respect my privacy. He asked me to give him my email ...
A. 18 June 2010: Good god. This guy will only get more controlling as time goes by. But that's not what intrigues me.
What interests me is that you LET him. Why did you give him your email password? You didn't have to do that, as he's not entitled to have it.... (read in full...)
Should I act on these thoughts?
Q. I am a young woman and i have always been aroused by the thought of getting a strap on and having sex with a gay male. I am worried that people will think im strange especially my mom who is highly religious and gays are not accepted in her eyes or ...
A. 18 June 2010: You're an adult and can do whatever you want!
Just keep things safe in terms of STD's, and have fun!... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? If so why does it hurt so much?
Q. Okay so I've been crushing on a teacher of mine for maybe 2 years now, and well, I haven't done much to hide it, and he hasn't done much to stop it. In fact, we're really close like we talk almost every day and we completely understand each other ...
A. 18 June 2010: YES!!!!!! YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION!
And good for you too! You saved yourself from one of the biggest regrets you would have had in your entire life.
Whenever those "I miss him" feelings pop up, think about how he would have cheated on ... (read in full...)
Weird question about my friend... help!
Q. I can't seem to define this relationship I have with this girl and its starting to bug me so I thought I could ask for some help because I don't want to tell her about it since i think it would be weird after. Basically she's my best friend but ...
A. 18 June 2010: The real question isn't "What kind of a relationship is this". The real question is "what kind of relationship do you want it to be?"
This weird phase in a friendship between the opposite sex is kind of a fun one. There are sparks flying f... (read in full...)
Ex and I slept together just like old times... but he has a girlfriend! What to do???
Q. Me and my boy friend broke up about 1 month ago and now he is seeing someone else but the other day we meet up for the first time since we broke up. we went to dinner and then the cinema it was like we was still together having fun laughin joking ...
A. 18 June 2010: Wow. Imagine if you were the current girlfriend and he went behind your back and had sex with his ex. How would that make you feel??
This guy is no one you should be anywhere near. He cheats on his girlfriends and uses his ex because of some ... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past that I didn't know about has made me a different person today.
Q. My wife lied to me about her sexual past and has now told me... 12 years later!!! Hi guys, I just wanted to say how much this site helped me become a different person i am today. what ive learned is that if my wife would of told me about her sexual...
A. 18 June 2010: Good for you. :)
I hope a lot more guys (and women who have problems with their guys' sexual past) come to see things as you have.... (read in full...)
Everyone is laughing at me because I was set upon totally unawares...
Q. Me and two girls were playing strip poker in the basement of a party and we were getting down to no clothes. The two of them lost their bras and then they decided I should lose my shorts, cause that is all I had left. So they tackled me and one sat ...
A. 18 June 2010: WHAT?! OMG. If you were a girl, and two guys did that to you, it would be RAPE. You were raped. You gave no consent to two girls ripping off your shorts and violating you.
Of COURSE you're not excited. Of course you're trying to get up! You... (read in full...)
I'm married... but I love someone else!
Q. I have been married for 16 years. I have been horriable about staying faithful in my marriage. I cheated within my first year. I thought that the fling was just something I needed to get out of my system and stayed faithful for a couple of years. I ...
A. 18 June 2010: You don't know how many guys who come in here and justify their cheating on their wives with their wives' lower sex drive and amount of work they do for their family. We're hard on them for trashing their marriage vows when it suits them.
You'r... (read in full...)
I'm done with my friend's emotional games!
Q. Ok i have this close friend that was my gf but she broke up with me for this other guy..... well i stayed freinds with her and eventually she broke up with that guy, and weve been talking a lot recently she told me i should marry her i said ok after ...
A. 18 June 2010: She is addicted to love for love's sake. She cares for neither you nor her ex. She's stringing both of you along. You're right - the correct question is "Why am I letting her?"
Here's why you're letting her: You stayed friends with your ex ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to want to make time for my any more...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months. he works at nights but whenever he has days off he gets up does what he has to and goes off with his mates. I feel he doesnt spend any time with me at all. he's a bit broke at the moment but he ...
A. 18 June 2010: This guy says he's broke. It's expensive to go out drinking all the time to odd hours. He doesn't care one bit about you. You are there to serve his sexual needs and to keep him from being alone when he's home.
He has plenty of sex drive, b... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't want me to go to strip clubs but why???
Q. Hi i have a question... the situation is my friend gets mad when i go to the strip club... im a virgin but i still go for lap dances... there's strippers that would have sex with me though or at least a bJ and some werent even going to charge.. ...
A. 18 June 2010: You are a virgin who goes to strip clubs and lap dances to look for love? I don't know how to tell you this, but that's not love. That's services rendered for payment. That will never take the place of a good loving relationship.
The stripper... (read in full...)
How can I get my self esteem back?
Q. my self esteem is so low at the moment. What can i do to make myself feel better please!xxx...
A. 18 June 2010: You are 13-15. Right now, your hormones are changing and playing havoc on you. Grab a piece of paper and list 10 things that you LIKE about yourself. Don't get all goofy and cop out and say "but I don't like anything" because we all know that's ... (read in full...)
Why should my brother get all the attention???
Q. I have a problem with my little brother. He's like 12 and im 14, and whenever my girl who is friends see him, they say "awhhh he's so cuteee"... then they forget about me, so what the freak? how can i change this? This girl that i like saw him...
A. 18 June 2010: Ahh...it's sibling rivalry. The girl you like isn't interested in him over you. The "aww he's so cute" could have been said about a puppy she saw at a pet store.
Don't worry about it. Just be yourself.... (read in full...)
Why is he blanking me now?
Q. on the boy i likes birthday i put happy birthday on his wall but a couple of days later he asked me whether or not i liked him on facebook chat. everyone in the class believd he liked me, he always talked to only me and ALWAYS stares at me in class ...
A. 18 June 2010: He's immature. If he's 13-15 like you, he might not even have gone all the way through puberty. You mature and reach puberty faster than he does, so he may not be at the point where he feels comfortable communicating with girls on any level except ... (read in full...)
Is there anybody out there like us?
Q. Me and my best friend are extremely close to one another. I am a straight girl and he is gay. We do every thing together and are happy with life. Everybody including his mom say we act like a couple. His mom swears that we are in love but in denial. ...
A. 18 June 2010: You have a great relationship. It's an awesome friendship, and it sounds like you two are very good for each other. The only thing is, he can't be your true love and soul mate. Eventually, you will want more than he can give you. You are jealous ... (read in full...)
I'm confused, does he love me or not?
Q. hi peeps :) First of all Im 18 and Bisexual.. So there is this guy (hes 17) who I met in Facebook I added him because I was looking for a new friend around my area (we just moved in) and also I want to be more fluet in English. we meet up and i can ...
A. 18 June 2010: Okay, the way this guy treated you is NOT indicative of the Western Culture. You were used by this guy for sex and nothing more. Sex isn't a form of love. It can be an expression of love and it can also be a selfish, self-serving act.
What ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my fiance its time to move out of his parents house?
Q. i am a 20yr old accountant. who lives with her in laws. my fiance will not move out of his parent home because hhe feels he'll be miserable. we've been fighting an awful lot lately and its mainly because i want to start apt hunting. i feel its time ...
A. 18 June 2010: Awww, that's gotta be rough to have that kind of over-closeness with the future in-laws. I know you'd love nothing else than to just BREATHE, for crying out loud.
Let me give you a few things to think about. First, you're 20, and unless you foll... (read in full...)
I can't get the thought of her one night stand before we were together out of my head, and its killing me!
Q. I met my fiance in college at the end of my freshman year. I noticed her from the beginning. I had a crush on her the entire year but she had a boyfriend that went to a school nearby who she had been with for 2 years. They went to high school ...
A. 18 June 2010: Maybe you could put yourself in her shoes. You're right, you are being unfair to her. How would you feel if she was obsessing over your sexual past history? There's nothing you or she can do about the past.
Think of her ex-boyfriends (and you... (read in full...)
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