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writes:Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything I can do? Do you people prefer light girls? Most of my friends are light I feel weird sometimes when we go out. Why do you prefer light girls? What do guys look for in a girl, that could make me feel better Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico +, writes (13 December 2012):
I am as white as they come - my ancestry is all northern European - primarily Norway and Germany.
My fiancee is Colombian. Black hair, very dark brown eyes, and mocha colored skin. I wouldnt trade any of those things for anything in the world.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (13 December 2012):
 F@@@ that. I love all colors of women even when men make fun of me for doing so. Thats shallow disrespectful n arguably discriminatory. Hang with diff ppl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): this is only my taste. I don't know if I'm among the majority or the minority. But I prefer a white girl if I'm going to have sex with her. White girls have less hair on their skin (specially the pubic area), and their nipples are pink (as well as their labia). I have to admit that this is more attractive than thick black pubic hair and dark brown nipples.
What to do? simply ignore idiots like me and get yourself a guy who admires you the way you are. Every girl is special in her own way. And there is someone out there who thinks you are perfect.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 December 2012):
 Don't worry about this. You can't be everything to everyone. Just be who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2012): I have nothing against men colors but I love me some light skinned black men.Its just something about them I really can't think of it now but they just look like they taste so sweet.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2012): (I'm white for what it's worth)
MANY men, including myself, find brown skin to be very beautiful. In fact if I had to list the features I prefer most in a woman, brown skin would easily be number one. I find it to be exotic and different, unlike the same cookie cutter "beautiful" woman you see all over.
You can't spend your time wondering why people prefer something. If you don't have it you don't and there is no use feeling bad about it. In no way does it mean there is something wrong with you.
I'm sure you even have your preferences, right? You wouldn't go out with just anybody, and sometimes you don't know what it is about someone that makes you attracted to them.
Also, don't worry about feeling out of place among your friends. I don't know what to say to that except that you're being overly self conscious. Once you realize that you can't control what other people think and that what they think has nothing to do with you, you'll be a happier person. Plus, I'm confident you're the only one who's thinking anything of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2012): Personally I find dark skin to be the one thing that most attracts me to a woman.
Unfortunately light skin seems to be the "standard" of beauty. This doesn't mean that men don't find darker skinned women attractive. Men like all shapes and colors, just like you have personal preferences when you look at a man.
I can tell you this: the little bit you hear from these people doesn't represent men as a whole. I'm white but I'm married to a brown skinned Guatemalan woman. My male friends come in all colors and while some do like lighter skin, there are just as many who have tripped over a beautiful brown skinned exotic beauty like yourself.
Don't worry about what someone says. Wait for the right guy who will love everything about you cause he's definitely out there.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (12 December 2012):
Look hot, ask him about stuff he does, be yourself and I think you can pick up any guy you want. Preference is something which can't be helped, it's only natural. And many guys just knock it before having tried it.
Surely, a lot of women have the same preferences as guys.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (11 December 2012):
 Why is it that Women prefer tall men? Why are short men automatically classed as shifty and untrustworthy. Check any dating site, men must be at least 5'8" tall to be acceptable. What can I do to be taller?
But, seriously, Way back when I was in High School the hottest girl in my small class had the darkest skin. She had a Mediterranean olive complexion. I guess she just seemed exotic to us. I think her attractiveness was more than skin deep.
I do hope that that makes you feel better about yourself.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (11 December 2012):
 Sorry to have to say this to you OP but the world we live in is infested with shallow minded people. Their definition of beauty, for a long time has been dictated by those glossy magazines and other media forms, and has created a society that is vain to the core. Most guys who date women for their looks do it so that they have some sort of trophy by their side, they want to feel cool, I really doubt that they will be doing it out of genuwine love. There are a variety of reasons that attracts a man to a woman. My boyfriend says my sense of humour and my smile are what caught his attention. We had been friends for a while before we started dating. Some guys prefer girls who are into sports like one of my friends, some guys dig the nerdy/brainy type of chick, the list is endless. Like the saying goes different strokes for different folks.Just be happy in your own skin and stop worrying about boys who are into the light skinned chicks and comparing yourself to your friends, rather concentrate on the guys who are into you for you, and from what you wrote you can get any guy you want so surely those dudes see something special in you dont you think? Goodluck love.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (11 December 2012):
 Its all personal taste, some men prefer darker girls, why do you think so many wear fake tan?! It may just be a coincidence that you heard these guys. Some guys like pale girls, some like darker ones, most probably dont have a preference! Everyone has a different preference :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): Even if its a common thing, I bet if you lined ten guys up against the wall who liked lighter skinned girls and asked for their reason(s), I'm sure each guys answer would vary from another to a degree. Since not all guys are the same, it has to be just a personal preference rather than a single common reason. I've seen white guys dating really dark skinned african/nigerian/jamaican girls before today. Also I'd say people who date others for their physical appearance are shallow, I believe its what is on the inside that really counts at the end of the day.
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