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Do you think smokimg pot affects a future marriage or that is ok?
Q. My current bf smokes pot three times a day,but he seems like a nice guy, my ex wants me back (he does not smoke weed),do you think smokimg pot affects a future marriage or that is ok? Help...
A. 12 June 2008: Honestly, it depends on the smoker. Pot IS NOT what makes people undependable. It might make them lazy, it might make them have the munchies, BUT they will be dependable if they want to be. Yes, pot smoking does affect sperm, but it just really ... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Are you actually considering believing what he has said to you? It's ok for him to cheat? YEAH RIGHT!!! I would just dump him if that's how he thinks. He's obviously not going to change if that's how he thinks. You should not have to put up with ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a MFM threesome, but I do not want to...
Q. my wife of 10 months wants to have mfm threesome but i dont think i want to. what should i do?...
A. 3 June 2008: If you don't want to and she loves you, she will understand. You shouldn't have to do anything that you don't want to do, especially sexually. Just sit her down and let her know your reasons that you don't want to have the threesome and she should ... (read in full...)
Can he go to jail for being with a 13 year old girl?
Q. Yes, I am 13 years old and I have a boyfriend and he is 17 years old, can he go to jail for being with a 13 year old girl?...
A. 3 June 2008: I don't believe he can. But when he turns 18 and if you guys sleep together, THEN there's a possibility that he would be able to go to jail and that's if your parents don't approve. Until then, you guys are fine.... (read in full...)
I found explicit text messages on my bf's phone, and it's eating away at me!
Q. I recently went through my boyfriend's cell phone after an argument, and found some very detailed explicit sex messages indicating some oral sex acts he performed on her and how she wanted to do certain sexual things to him again. He does not know ...
A. 14 May 2008: Confused? You should just dump him. What are you confused about? Your boyfriend is CHEATING on you. Is that someone you want to stay with? It's actually a good thing you found those texts or otherwise you wouldn't know any of this information. If ... (read in full...)
My neighbor is allowed to kill my dog because my dog "murdered"? What the hell?
Q. hi everyone im gettin really agravated with my neighbor he lives 2 houses down from me and my dog lucy is a lab and a retriever mix n is 12 years old and is still very playfull but now shes to be confined in2 the house because of my dumb ass ...
A. 9 May 2008: Honestly, I don't like other animals in my yard either. I think if a dog is going outside, it should stay in it's own yard. I'm sure there really may not be anything wrong with your dog being playful. But just remember, yours is a lot bigger than ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 13 March 2008: Nope, sure can't.... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 13 March 2008: There's two different things they can do for you. One is the pill that you take and the other is the vacuum that they use to suck the unborn baby out. As long as you are below the 3 months, you should be fine and no problem with having the abortion. ... (read in full...)
Found inappropriate conversations between them on the computer...I'm afraid my husband is cheating on me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for nearly a year now and so far everything has been great between us. I've never thought him to be one to do things behind my back or anything like that. But throughout our entire relationship, even before we were ...
A. 26 January 2008: I'm sorry to tell you honey, but that's good evidence right there that he's cheating on you. I don't know many people that talk like that to others because they're joking around. Don't take that excuse and actually believe it! See what happe... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty, I deleted a text from his ex girlfriend without him knowing, am I wrong?
Q. I feel so guilty, I saw a text from my boyfriend's ex girlfriend on Christmas Day saying she missed him, and I deleted it, so he has no idea she text. The background on this is that they broke up a year ago, just after Christmas. I have been with...
A. 31 December 2007: I understand where you're coming from. I'd probably do the same thing. It's not that you don't trust HIM, you just don't want to really deal with this ex anymore. It was wrong that you deleted the text, just tell him about it and tell him why you ... (read in full...)
All I do is flirt and talk sexy for harmless fun, yet he sees it as cheating. Am I mad to be with such a man?
Q. I am horrified to find my fiance has been using aliases to make dates with me on chat sites. When he found my first profile i changed it. Somehow he found my other and strung me along. I am livid. How dare he! I feel invaded, he is pathetic. Sad ...
A. 29 December 2007: If my other half was going on dating sites, saying they were single and talking sexy to others, I'd probably not trust them neither. It's hard to trust someone like that. Your fiance don't deserve someone like that, he needs someone that respects ... (read in full...)
To girls: Do you prefer a shaved chest or hairy chest? Shaved pubic hair or just trimmed?
Q. What do you girls like more, a Shaved chest or one with hair? And same question about pubic hair: Shaved completely or just trimed? ...
A. 27 December 2007: I personally like my man to be a little hairy, not TOO much though. Hair on the chest, a definite. For the pubic hair, just trimmed or shaved all the way, either way works for me!!!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to give up porn...and I would choose her but I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not.
Q. Before anyone chips in and says that I don't understand this from the female perspective, please hear me out - because I have read posts, and heard views from the female side - and believe me they are pretty mixed. My girlfriend and I have been tog...
A. 12 December 2007: It's not being something you're not. It's respecting your girlfriend's feelings and seeing this situation from her point of view. The one time I had found out my bf looked at porn, I was hurt and felt as if I wasn't good enough for him. I let him ... (read in full...)
Is he board with me?
Q. I'm currently with a man i have been with for over 3 and a half years. and i have never had a problem with this, but yesterday night i busted him looking at all this Drunk chick stuff, like on youtube, "young girl on webcam" showing her ass n shit, ...
A. 1 November 2007: I'm not one to say that he's bored of you, but you need to talk to him about his actions. He really doesn't need to be looking at the kind of stuff on the computer. Let him know exactly how you feel about that and if he respected you, he wouldn't do ... (read in full...)
We have just had a baby and now he wants to sleep with other women.
Q. We've been together 2 years. He's been fathering my 4 year old and we just had a baby in August. We bought a house in June. He just told me he wants to sleep with other women for new and different experiences?!?...
A. 30 October 2007: Tell him if he respects and cares for you, these thoughts wouldn't even enter his mind! What do you think about this? I would be disgusted at even the thought that my boyfriend would want to do this. Has this issue ever come up before? I personally ... (read in full...)
What is the right age to start having sex?
Q. What age do you think people should start having sex? People i know still havent had sex yet but im not sure if that is better or should you start young? ...
A. 26 October 2007: You start when you feel you are ready. People are all ready at different ages. Starting young isn't the best way to start, but some do. It just depends on the individual and if he/she feels they are ready and if they have found the right person to ... (read in full...)
Should i be concerned about my guy and this girl?
Q. Okay what should I make of this? My b/f said he had to go out on a field trip with a female co-worker today. He had her come by our house and pick him up at 7:00 AM. This was a little weird, as he usually drives to work and employees take a field ...
A. 29 August 2007: I wouldn't be concerned quite yet, but pay attention to little details from now on and keep tabs of them. It does seem a little odd his actions this morning, but don't get too hyped up about it quite yet. Has he been acting differently towards you? ... (read in full...)
Started the pill 11 days ago. Am I protected from prenancy, yet?
Q. Hi,i just need some advice. I started a pogestron only pill 11 days ago. I had sex tonight, am i protected from pregnancy? as i was told by a nurse i have to use protection for 2 weeks?...
A. 20 July 2007: No, it takes about a full pack before it's fully affective. Just wait a few more weeks and then you should be fine.... (read in full...)
He lies to me about where he goes and gets mad when I confront him!!!
Q. My Husband and I have been married for 12 years. 4 years ago he had an affair. we stayed together and got past that. He for some reason has continued to lie to me about where he goes, he gets angry when i confront him and turns in on me. This has ...
A. 18 June 2007: If you are miserable, then you should just leave him. You are better off without this liar in your life. He don't deserve you if this is how he wants to treat you. You could always find someone better that will treat you better and stay faithful ... (read in full...)
My period was late. Was this because of the morning after pill?
Q. i had sex with my ex we used a condom although he didnt ejaculate i took the morning after pill 14 hours after the incident, 4 days later i came on even though my period was the week before, is this normal?? any advice gratefully recieved...
A. 22 May 2007: Perfectly normal. If you period still becomes irregular again, you might want to take a test to be sure. But the morning after pill WILL make your period irregular.
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My husband still talks to his ex-mistress! He says there is no harm in it...Am i being unreasonable here to think otherwise?
Q. My husband of 17 years has been having an affair since last summer, I found out in February and he hasn't seen her since. But they still phone each other up several times a week which I find really hurtful. I have asked him to stop ringing her and ...
A. 18 May 2007: He's totally in the wrong here. He shouldn't be talking to her at all anymore...You are NOT being unreasonable by any means....it is very harmful that he is still talking to her. What's the reason behind this? Does he plan on having another affair ... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay faithful
Q. I have been with my partner for nine years and we have a 4yr old together. I do love my partner, but i cant stay faithful. Whenever someone shows interest in me (which is usually his friends) and i feel attracted to them i cant say no. Im good when ...
A. 7 May 2007: Maybe if you don't drink anymore, you would do better. You said yourself that it's when you get alcohol in you. You obviously can not control yourself when you drink, so just try not drinking and see what happens. Or just don't drink as much...
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Didn't hear from my so called boyfriend the entire weekend! What should I do about this guy?
Q. I didn't hear from my so called boyfriend the entire weekend, but as soon as I got into the car he had texted me twice saying sorry, that he loved me, and missed me. There were a few more after that. He asked if I would talk to him if he called. ...
A. 24 April 2007: I personally think you guys have a communication problem. If he really missed you and loved you like he says he does, he would make time to call you no matter what. Remember that if a guy really wants to be with someone, NOTHING can keep him away, ... (read in full...)
He tells me it's natural that he watches porn and chats with women, online. How do I deal with this?
Q. i have been with my partner for 4years we are both23 and have a 2yr old child. recently he never sleeps with me and is constantly watching porn and chatting to women online. i do love him but its making me feel unwanted and whenever i try and talk ...
A. 13 April 2007: It's not natural for some guy to continuously chat with other woman online.....maybe look at porn, but if he don't sleep with you anymore, obviously something is going on. Try and explain to him how you feel. You guys have been together long enough ... (read in full...)
My bf matches his undershirt to his underwear, but don't people only do this when they know they're going to sleep with someone!?
Q. Is this weird? My b/f matches his undershirt to his underwear(like grey, black, blue)...He has been doing this since i can remember and does it most times i see him..but isnt this something you do when you are going to sleep with someone? Someti...
A. 6 April 2007: I still match my underwear to my clothes EVERY day, no matter what. I have a boyfriend of over 2 years and it's completely nothing. Just relax. If you see some other signs that point more towards cheating, then start to worry, but until then, you ... (read in full...)
He emailed her and arranged to meet! When confronted he said it was just to see who she was! Is this cheating?
Q. A woman on myspace was sending my husband emails. She would tell him how she would like to meet him. One day he went to a local computer store to email her and in the email he gave her his work phone number so she could call him. He changed his ...
A. 3 April 2007: I'm sorry honey, but I think he was planning to cheat on you. There's really no other reason to go to some woman's house you don't even know, especially when he's trying to hide all this from you. I wouldn't trust him whatsoever. His intentions were ... (read in full...)
When I'm drunk guys feel me up and take advantage! I feel like a slut--what can I do to stop this?
Q. When i'm drunk, occassionally i'm taken advantage of a fair bit, not overly far or anything, some guys will just start feeling me up yet when i wouldn't want them to. I do stop them from doing this but not immediately, like my common sense doesn't ...
A. 1 April 2007: Maybe you just shouldn't drink as much as you do then. Or don't put yourself in those kind of situations anymore if that's how you feel. I personally think that's wrong, but you are your own person. Only you can change what happens to you and what ... (read in full...)
My current BF has become uncomfortbale with me seeing my Ex, hes making me choose!!
Q. I have an ex bf whom I am friends with. We talk on the phone sometimes and have dinner or coffee sometimes. We have not been a couple for 6yrs. My current bf whom I have been with for 9months has a problem with my friendship with my ex. He feels ...
A. 29 March 2007: I would probably be doing the same thing your bf is doing. I wouldn't appreciate my boyfriend going off with his ex on occasions. I agree that your ex is part of your PAST and your bf should be part of your FUTURE. Which guy means more to you and ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can lose weight and tone up?
Q. has anyone got any tips or know of any websites showing exercises that i can do in my home that will help me loose weight and tone up? i really cant afford to go to the gym and am too self conscious to go running in public. thanks!!!!...
A. 26 February 2007: You can check out www.sparkpeople.com. It will give you exercises to do and also a diet menu for you to follow if you would like. You can also just add in what you ate and it will add up all the calories and whatnot for you.
Enjoy!... (read in full...)
My husbands affair is over but the women wont go away!! Any advice to get rid of her ??
Q. My husband has had an affair which is over.The woman involved keeps phoning and texting both of us.She is now involving work and his ex wife.She says all she wants is to talk to him and needs answers.I told him he was not to have any contact with ...
A. 15 February 2007: It's good that you told him not to have contact with this woman and he's complying with your wishes. I think that YOU need to talk to her. If she needs answers, give her what she wants so she'll go away. Maybe there is more to it than you know. How ... (read in full...)
Girls! What foundation could I use to cover up my pimples? It's so embarrassing!
Q. i get big spots around my chin and find them really embarasing. When i try to cover them up with foundation as it just seems to look worse, does anyone know any amazing makeup that would look like i have no spots at all or anything that would get ...
A. 25 January 2007: There is a great acne treatment you can get from Mary Kay and also a Blemish control treatment to go with that. They also have medium coverage foundation that just blends everything on your face together. That would be my best guess since those ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Mom that Dad looks at porn?
Q. Hi, I'm 13 years old and about three days ago i was searching through my parent's computer's search history. To my horror, I found that my father had been looking at porn. I went to google desktop to find that he had been looking at it since Aug of ...
A. 24 January 2007: I think it would be best to just leave well enough alone. It might not be a big deal to your mom. I am not quite sure on how their relationship is, but I'm sure if your mom had a problem with your dad looking at porn and found out, if she doesn't ... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust me yet he wants a threesome! I feel like he doesn't wwant me..what can I do?
Q. Well,i've had this boyfriend for 6 months,and it's been crazy the whole time.he always accuses me of cheating on him and i never have.he always tells me he doesnt trust me,and it bothers me because a relationship is built on trust. my main problem ...
A. 24 January 2007: Honey, to be honest, it doesn't sound like this relationship is going to be able to last if he keeps accusing you of cheating on him and you're right, a relationship IS built on trust and obviously he doesn't have any of that for you. THEN he wants ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a late period after taking a morning after pill?
Q. Whats going on? I had unprotected sex last month and i took the morning after pill, but i think my period is a few days late... I dont understand, is this normal?...
A. 24 January 2007: Yes this is normal. Did you read the directions on the package. It should've explained that your period will not come back from anywhere between 4 - 8 weeks. It is perfectly normal. If it don't return by then, take a pregnancy test or go see your ... (read in full...)
I want him to show me affection and not just during sex. I don't know what to do.
Q. hey. my boyfriend doesn't know how to show love or affection. he can't cuddle me or kiss me unless there is another reason. the only time i ever feel this real love and affection is when we are having sex. i know he isn't just with me for t...
A. 19 January 2007: I had this same problem with one of my ex's. He never knew how to give me love and affection and sometimes I just felt as if it just wasn't important to him as it was to me. I also tried explaining this to him, but he would never listen and never ... (read in full...)
Why is he looking at other girls' profiles on myspace? It's driving me crazy!
Q. Everybody knows what myspace is i'm assuming? What does it mean when your bf is looking at other girls myspace pages? why is he doing that, is it a bad thing like he's checking out other girls or what? Its driving me crazy. I asked him if he's ...
A. 18 December 2006: My boyfriend does the exact same thing. I just finally left it alone. As long as he is not chatting them up or inviting them to be his friend, you should be fine. Don't worry about it until he's getting messages from girls or he's sending them.
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HAd unprotected sex and took the morning after pill but..I missed my period. Am I pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend at least 7 times in the same night 5 weeks ago and i took the morning after pill 4 days later. the lady at the clinic said it is only 65% effective because i took it late. Now i have missed my period and i ...
A. 6 December 2006: You may or may not be pregnant. When taking the morning after pill, it takes about 6-8 weeks for your periods to be normal again. Still take a pregnancy test to make sure though. But if it comes up negative, wait a couple more weeks before you get ... (read in full...)
He was holding her at a club - I went mental and now we might break up!
Q. Hi everyone, I need help and quick! My partner was in a club last night holding hands with a girl and holding her, but he claims they are just mates. I saw this and went mental and now we're on the verge of splitting up! I want him back but i don't ...
A. 27 November 2006: I think I would probably act the same way you did. If he is YOUR partner, he really doesn't have any business holding hands with some other girl or holding her in any way, unless of course, there was a short hug or something, but this doesn't sound ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I want to try anal sex but tell me...does it hurt??
Q. Girls,Just wanted to know whether anal sex hurts because i wanna try it with my new man!! Does it hurt more than having sex as a virgin?? thanx ...
A. 2 November 2006: It does hurt, but it don't have to hurt soooo bad. Just relax yourself and it should be fine. Tensing up makes it harder for both of you to enjoy it. Definitely use A LOT of lube and if it hurts too bad, just don't do it. It's not for everyone...
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My best friend slept with my crush!! Should I forgive her?
Q. My best friend slept with my crush. ive had a crush on a guy named pete for 5 years now and i HAD the bestest friend ever. She helped me get with my crush and she said we were perfect together and i was pleased that she did all of this for me. ...
A. 28 August 2006: Honestly honey, this is no friend. A real friend wouldn't do this to you. You should listen to both sides of the story though and see exactly which one is believable. I just don't understand why she would do this to you. I, personally wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
I need a mole removed on my back but I don't know how to go about it...
Q. can i have more answers plz. i have a finger tip size mole on my back and i am so self conscience about it. im 16. what age do you have to be to get it removed? also i dont wanna ask my mum if i can get it removed cos its embaressing, i dont wanna ...
A. 7 June 2006: You shouldn't be so self conscious about your mole. Just simply ask your mom if you can get it removed...it shouldn't be embarrassing to ask your mom about this. I'm not quite sure what age you need to be, but if you have your mom go about doing ... (read in full...)
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