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I get an orgasm each time I get intimate with my boy... Normal or lucky?
Q. I've read some of the questions about what an orgasm is and some replies said that they're not even sure it they've had one. It took him a while (about 4 mo., it was both our first times having any kind of sexual pleasure by another person), but now ...
A. 28 December 2005: There's definitely nothing abnormal about this. It happens to me too. I think we are both very lucky people!:)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pays me no attention and now I'm falling for someone else!
Q. I am with a guy who pays no attention to me and I am falling for somone else but I can't tell my boyfriend that. My friends tell me that my boyfriend isn't the one for me. Can you help me? ...
A. 23 December 2005: I had a boyfriend like this once, it lasted 2 1/2 years, but it was horrible. I couldn't handle not feeling loved and I did fall for someone else, which is who I am with now and I wouldn't change what I did for anything. I realized my ex wasn't the ... (read in full...)
He meets his ex gf for intimate dinners-he says I shouldn't be upset! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid I've been in a commited relationship for 10 months. My problem is my boyfriend meets with his ex for 1 on 1 occasional dinners exhcanging birthday/Christmas presents which upsets me a lot. I've explained to him that although I trust...
A. 22 December 2005: I know this situation isn't right. There's no reason for this to be going on. Friends is fine, but having 1 on 1 dinner's and exchanging gifts? There's gotta be a line to draw there and he's crossing it. No, usually in MOST cases, this is not ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but fell for a colleaque! What shall I do?
Q. I know this sounds crazy-I am truly happily married but fell for a colleague who's been dating someone else (not seriously) for a while. I've been trying to hide this feeling by being just a helpful friend to him. Not sure if he suspects anything. ...
A. 15 December 2005: If you are truly happily married and you think you will fall for someone, then you would stay away from this collegue and not be a helpful friend. People that are truly in love will not put themselves in this situation that they could actually fall ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this flirtatious female who flirts constantly with my husband?
Q. i have been with my husband for about 18 years and i have a problem with some mutual friends , we have been friends with these people for about 5 years from the beginning i could sense a attraction between my husband and the my husbands friends ...
A. 13 December 2005: Well, it don't sound like they're that much fun as you say. If you're having to put up with this lady, how can it be fun? He don't want you talking to her husband, well then he can't talk to her. There's no reason for some lady to act like this ... (read in full...)
I long to be with someone else but what about my girlfriend?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, she lives with me and I am her world. She cut herslef off (own choice) from all her friends and just lives for me. 3 months ago I met a lady through work who is really cool, fun and I am really attrac...
A. 13 December 2005: Well, if you want to be with this other women, leave your girlfriend. Either way, you're hurting her. You spending time with this other women and wanting to be with her. You are giving her emotional feelings and that does classify in cheating. There ... (read in full...)
Are there any ways to make your vagina smaller, without surgery?
Q. Is there any way to make a vagina smaller? My friend is asking and she doesn't have an account, so I figured what the hell, cuz if it was me, I would have asked for myself, hell, i think I will actually, Is there any way to make your vagina smaller? ...
A. 13 December 2005: If you got this surgery, there's a possibility that you could lose some feeling down there because of all the nerves that are there. Be careful about this surgery. Make sure this would be what you really absolutely need. Some ladies think that it's ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over how my boyfriend lost his virginity... Drunk, in a tent, with a non-virgin-girl older than him!
Q. Hi. My name is Polly, I am 18 years old, and I'm having a bad time. I feel I should warn you in advance that this is likely to be an extortionately long email, as I have a lot to get off my chest, but I really just want to start from the very be...
A. 12 December 2005: You didn't even know this guy when this happened. Why should this bother you so much? Shouldn't you be looking towards the future instead? I would hope so, you can never change the past, you can only make the future better. I hope you realize this ... (read in full...)
How can you make your EX-boyfriend interested in you again?
Q. How can you make you ex-boyfriend intersted in you again without making it obvious? He acts like he still likes me, but is also interested in other girls.... but when I try to talk to other guys he gets all nervous and then tries to make me scared ...
A. 12 December 2005: Let him know exactly how you feel. There's no other option really. You want to know how he feels, so ask him. If he wants to be back with you, then he will be. He may be trying to make you jealous by liking other girls and you not really being able ... (read in full...)
How can I win his heart though he is with someone else?
Q. i am starting to really like this man, but he has a girlfriend. he says there's nothing there, but he is afraid to make her go because she has no where to go. but he won't make our dating experience known to her. but everyone in my family knows and ...
A. 12 December 2005: I would suggest that you let him know how you feel about this situation. This isn't fair to you and definitely not his girlfriend. Tell him, that if he really wants to be with you, then he has to let his girlfriend go. Who does he really care about ... (read in full...)
I refuse to be 2nd best to his former gf...am I just wasting my time on him?
Q. You may remember this question from last week, but I still need some advice real bad. On our first date my boyfriend told me (after I asked him if he'd been in a relationship since he separated) that he had wanted to be in a relationship with his ...
A. 12 December 2005: Thistle, if this is how you feel, then you're probably better off without him. I'm sure you don't want to be like this for the rest of your life. I would feel the same way you do. I'd feel like I was second best too and I'd be uncomfortable in that ... (read in full...)
Ok so he IS a goth AND shorter than me BUT we both like each other. That IS all that counts... Right!?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are different in a lot of ways. For instance I'm a girle-girl while hes a goth, I'm a year older than him, I'm a little taller than him...... then again does it really matter? We both like each other thats all that ...
A. 12 December 2005: Sometimes, opposites attract and it works over quite well. If you guys really like eachother, then who cares what type of person you are. It shouldn't matter how one dresses and if anyone has a problem with you guys being together, then that's their ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 12 December 2005: Thanks TankerNC, you must be pretty ignorant yourself then. If my boyfriend said he wouldn't appreciate me saying stuff such as what he says, obviously it's not a very good joke then, huh? And you "poppin' me one" is a lot worse than me smacking a ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 9 December 2005: Anyways, you are way off the subject of what this was supposed to be. I slapped him in the freakin' arm, if he didn't appreciate it, I'm sure he would have told me or "hit me back" as you think is going to happen. Maybe you should quit writing on ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 9 December 2005: Thank you all for the GOOD advice that you have given me, but some of you are probably not well brought up or have sick minds. I do feel sorry for you really that no one can teach you how to respect others as everyone deserves.
This girl that kee... (read in full...)
My ex bf has assaulted me and smashed my car...what can I do?
Q. I have an ex boyfriend who has been giving my life hell for the last 4 months he has smashed my car and assaulted me....
A. 9 December 2005: I would think you would go file a police report on him and get a restraining order against him so he can not come around anymore and if he does then he goes to jail. That would be the only answer I would think. No one should have to deal with ... (read in full...)
My current gf told me to choose between my two daughters! What can I do?
Q. I have 2 children to different mothers! one child is 7 one child is 7 months. I met my girlfriend 3 years ago. Our relationship was great and i looked after my 7 year old child every second weekend, but as soon as my other child was born my ...
A. 8 December 2005: This is no way for her to be acting. That is your child, family and friends. She's not your boss and she shouldn't be controlling as she is. Who does she think she is? Why does she think she can treat you like this? It's not right at all to be ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 7 December 2005: Thank you Irish for your answer, he is 21 by the way. So, he's no teen, that's for sure. I'm just not quite sure the reason he says this stuff, but he must think it's humerous.
I admit it probably was funny the first few times I heard him say ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 7 December 2005: Well I guess you're as sick as he is then. I'm not being abusive either, it's not like I hurt him, it was a reaction. I guess mental abuse is just better than physical then huh?
I don't find his remarks funny anymore, this shit is said over and... (read in full...)
I am not attracted to my wife physically..should I have sex with an old gf?
Q. I love my wife very much and would never want to hurt her. We get along very well and are very connected, except for one area: sex. I am no longer attracted to her physically. In the meantime, an old girlfriend of mine has contacted me and really ...
A. 7 December 2005: Well, I'm pretty sure you just said that you wouldn't want to hurt your wife and you love her very much. So why would you think that having sex with your old gf wouldn't hurt her? If you are not attracted to your wife, maybe you should try to get ... (read in full...)
He hits me and then tells me I'm lucky to have him! Help me..
Q. Hi there, i am in my early thirties and so is my bf. we have been on for 2yrs. they are some many problems in the relationship but am just too scared to leave cos i am an albino(hyper-pigmentation) and i dont usually get much attention at all. ...
A. 7 December 2005: Honey, you don't deserve this treatment whatsoever. You ARE better off not being with anyone then being with this creep. Why would you want to live your life with someone that is abusive and don't care about you're feelings whatsoever. This isn't a ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating on me or is this drunken stupidnees on his part?
Q. I made the mistake of snooping through my bf's phone. Ever since, I can't get it out of my head he's cheating, and it's making both our lives miserable! We've been dating about 8 months, and there were texts to his ex saying "whats up babe" and ...
A. 7 December 2005: There's not reason to be texting his ex with those sayings while he is drunk. Where are you at? Why can't he want you to come over while he's drunk so at least if there is temptation for him he'll have you to give it into. It's nice that they're ... (read in full...)
I love him but he texts other woman..I can't trust him. What should I do?
Q. really need some advice. I have been in two serious relationships in my past - one for 7 years (he cheated on me and left me for someone else) and one for 2 years (he was very controlling and mentally abusive). I have started seeing somone (who i ...
A. 7 December 2005: Well, for one, you can't have a relationship without trust. It would never work. If you don't trust him there's no chance for happiness. It sounds like he's very committed to you and you should be lucky to have such a guy. I think the texting women ... (read in full...)
He's cheating-but I'd go to hell and back for this man
Q. My fiance and i have been together 8 years and have a 3 year old son. We are from very different backgrounds as he is asian and due to this we have had to overcome many obstacles. From day one everyone has been against us except for a few close ...
A. 1 December 2005: It don't seem like this guy would do anything for you, so why would you do that for him? Have you talked to him about how he has changed and how you feel about that? Maybe he doesn't realize what he is doing to you and your child.
I just don't un... (read in full...)
Our sex life has all but disappeared! How can we improve the intimacy?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 10 months and our sex life has all but disappeared. I am very troubled by this because we were friends before we started dating and she used to tell me openly about her sex life with former boyfriends. ...
A. 29 November 2005: Have you talked to her about how she is? Asked her how she feels about the situation? Let her know your concerns. Maybe she's not aware of them herself.
If you want to improve the intimacy then try just focusing on her and what pleasures her. Tha... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend...but very intrigued with her best friend
Q. I am 16 years old and i love my girlfriend very much. But recently I'm feeling strange about her best friend. I think I might be in love with her too. What do I do? I feel like my girlfriend could be my soul mate but then I'm intrigued by the best ...
A. 29 November 2005: If you fancy someone else, your girlfriend is not your soul mate. You wouldn't be intrigued by her friend. It just depends on who you really want. Do you want her friend or do you want her. You need to make up your mind because it's not fair to your ... (read in full...)
How do I get back with him again?
Q. Im confused. My boyfriend of one year and i recently split. There was no real reason why we broke up - it was more of a spare of the moment decision out of anger over a stupid fight. Trouble is, now i deeply regret breaking up with him. We still see ...
A. 29 November 2005: Justene24_7,
Honey, you need to let him know that if he don't want a girlfriend anymore, he can't be telling you that he loves you and acting like you guys are still together. It's not fair to you.
Have you talked to him about how you feel? If... (read in full...)
Does she really care enough to want me back?
Q. I had a relationship with this girl,she told me one day,its over and i said "cool" even though i was hurt inside.She dated another guy but she has left her recenlty.she is now sending sms's and emails telling me she still cares.i realy still love ...
A. 29 November 2005: Maybe she started to realize what she had given up on. The only way that you're going to know is by asking her. This is a tough situation, but you need to talk to her about it and she how she really feels. Don't jump right back into the relationship ... (read in full...)
Scared to hear his verdict about our relationship. Will he want to break up?
Q. My boyfriend has "come back" from his time of space, he has sent me a message asking to call him, as we have a lot of things to talk about. I have feeling THAT THIS IS IT. He is breaking up with me, he always signed of his messages reading i love ...
A. 28 November 2005: There no reason for you to just drop what you want to do just because HE wants to talk now. He wanted his space, that doesn't mean that he can get the time to talk about this whenever he wants. If you want to wait to talk to him, just let him know ... (read in full...)
How do I end the flirting with my online friend without hurting her?
Q. I have got myself into a bit of trouble,or could do if i can't break my habit.I have been playing on my webcam with a lady for the past month and she thinks i am single and want to meet her,she is married as well but says she doesn't love her ...
A. 28 November 2005: There's really no way to not hurt her. Just let her know that this communicating has got to stop. Let her know the truth about you and that you didn't want all this to go to the extreme that it has. Let her know that you are sorry as well, but must ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back-but she's with another guy. Should I leave her alone?
Q. Any tips? My ex is with another man. I desperately want her back. I've told her this, she's listened to me. She's not told me no or yes. She keeps saying she needs time to live a little. I can't work out whether she's serious with this guy or whet...
A. 28 November 2005: She has already told you to leave her alone. What other answers could you possibly need. She has found someone else, so why would you keep trying to get her back. Why don't you go and find someone else that's available. You may still want this girl, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still in love with his ex!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. He was really upset the other day (I have never seen him like this before). Later that night he admitted to be that he has been spending time with his ex, and that he is still in love with her. She is in a ...
A. 21 November 2005: You should probably talk with him about this and see what he wants to do then. Maybe you should suggest him NOT spending time with his ex or he will never get over her. There is definitely no reason for him to be spending time with her if it's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend looks at other men in front of me!
Q. why does my girlfriend check out other guys?And sometimes in front of me.It makes me feel like i'm not good enough for her....
A. 21 November 2005: You really need to talk to her about this and ask her why she does this. Is your relationship on good terms when she does this? Think about aspects of your relationship and if she is satisfied with all of them. It's usually ok to look as long as you ... (read in full...)
Love the guy, but not crazy about the sex. How do we improve it?
Q. I love the guy but the sex is bad. Im almost positive it isnt me thats making it bad. How should I go about making it better without telling him he's a bad lover?...
A. 18 November 2005: Just while you're doing the deed, direct him to what makes you feel good. Some men you just have to teach how to please you. It may take some time, but practice always makes perfect. Maybe you could get on top and do what you want. There's many ways ... (read in full...)
How can I earn the trust of a man who says he starts out trusting no one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months and i have a problem. I asked him on a scale of 1-10 (this is childish but) how much he trusted me. I had my mouth open when he told me four. He said he starts out with no trust in people and they ...
A. 18 November 2005: I would think just stay honest and faithful and you shouldn't have a problem earning his trust. If this is how he is, you can't change that or hurry the process. Maybe something happen to him before that enables him to trust everyone like you. For ... (read in full...)
If I can't get oral from my girlfriend, can I get it somewhere else?
Q. My girl doesn't want to give me oral sex anymore. But there is this other woman who told me she she wants to give me oral sex. Is there a way I can get my girl to give me oral or do I go to the other woman?...
A. 18 November 2005: It's probably not the best idea to go elsewhere for you oral pleasures. Why would this girl tell you that she would give you oral pleasures anyway? Are you thinking about cheating on your girlfriend? How would you like it if she went elsewhere for ... (read in full...)
I have to lie to my boyfriend just to have a girls' night out!
Q. My boyfriend gets extremely mad when I go out. It's gotten to the point where I have to ask permission or lie about it. He is very protective and is a jealous person. I try to explain to him that I love him and wouldn't do anything to hurt him, ...
A. 18 November 2005: Lying doesn't really get you anywhere in a relationship. You shouldn't have to go to such measures just so you can go out with the girls, especially if you're not doing anything wrong.
Maybe you should sit down and have a talk with him about ho... (read in full...)
I've been with my girl for two months, but I really don't know anything about her past...
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend now for just over 2 months. Everything has been fine and we really get on well with each other and have a good time. However I have an issue which I can't talk to her about.. I don't know anything about t...
A. 18 November 2005: Usually if you want to know something about someone's past, you just ask them. If you're that curious especially. It's not usually the past that matters, it's your future that you want with her. Sometimes part of her past she may not be happy about ... (read in full...)
My baby's father only comes around to borrow something, or for a favour... or for sex!
Q. I think my bf, with whom I share a child, doesn't love or care for me any more. He doesn't call or come around, and when he does, it seems like it's only for a ride, sex, money or something stupid like that. He will go days without calling me. (But ...
A. 17 November 2005: I'm sure this boyfriend of yours wouldn't appreciate you treating him in such manor. You should just leave him. Let him be the ex-boyfriend that it seems he's being already. If he wants to come and see his kid, that's fine, he has the right, but ... (read in full...)
I gave up my interested male friend for my boyfriend's sake, so why won't he dump his female admirer?
Q. My partner and I have been together for about 10 months. Our relationship is fantastic, other than one thing. About 2 months ago a girl started texting him (it was a friend of his ex). She made it clear that she is keen on him and is constantly ...
A. 17 November 2005: Well, if he's not willing to give up texting this lady, then let him know that you will start talking to your friend again. It's not fair to you that you follow these rules, but he don't abide by them as well. He's no better than you and this is ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about the messages I found on his phone?
Q. We have been seeing each other for 2 years and we live together. About 1 month ago I was going through his phone and read some messages from a girl I dont know. It said "I don't like to share, call me when you're single". I don't know what to do, o...
A. 17 November 2005: lisa_01,
I think this is definitely something that should be brought up. Something seems fishy to me. Do you have any idea who this girl is? Is he keeping her a secret from you. If you answered yes to the second question, there is definite... (read in full...)
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