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Do I tell my boyfriend about the messages I found on his phone?
Q. We have been seeing each other for 2 years and we live together. About 1 month ago I was going through his phone and read some messages from a girl I dont know. It said "I don't like to share, call me when you're single". I don't know what to do, o...
A. 17 November 2005: lisa_01,
I think this is definitely something that should be brought up. Something seems fishy to me. Do you have any idea who this girl is? Is he keeping her a secret from you. If you answered yes to the second question, there is definite... (read in full...)
What do I do when my friend says he loves me?
Q. My best mate has recently told me he loves me and I don't know how I feel about him because I love him to bits - but as a friend. Wwhat shall I do?...
A. 15 November 2005: You should most likely just tell him the truth. You love him, as a friend, let him know that. Don't let him think any different. Let him know that you are flattered by the feelings he has for you, but you only want him as you guys are already and ... (read in full...)
He hasn't learned not to mess around with other girls, and now he wants a 3rd chance...
Q. I was with my boyfriend for maybe about 1 month an a half but throughout the whole relationship it was nothing but him playing games with my head and us fighting all the time. It all started out in the beginning he cheated on me with on of my frien...
A. 14 November 2005: bootie09,
First off, you guys were only together for a month and a half, if he's done these things to you already, I wonder how he's gonna be in a year or two. You don't want to have to deal with someone like this. You can always find someone ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for sex, but my boyfriend is!
Q. I have a boyfriend and he wants me to have sex with him. I'm not ready to. What should I do?...
A. 11 November 2005: You should never do anything that you are not comfortable with or are not ready to do. Don't let him pressure you into anything. If you want to wait, let him know that and if he don't want to wait for you, then he's not worth it. I hope you don't ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend's brother but I don't know how the brother feels!
Q. I'm in love with my boyfriend's brother. His brother has told me time and time again that he feels the same way. I am not happy with my boyfriend and really don't know what to do. I need to find out whether his brother is stringing me along or if ...
A. 11 November 2005: Well first off, if you're not happy with your relationship that you are in now, get rid of your boyfriend and then start worrying about his brother. Maybe his brother knows that his feelings are wrong and don't want to act upon this knowing that ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex has driven me into the arms of my partner's best friend...
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 4 years, I love him with all my soul but when it comes to sex, he has no interest. When we first started dating we had great sex but not anymore. I've tried everything to spice up our sex life and nothing seemed to ...
A. 9 November 2005: Well, first off, if you're cheating on your boyfriend, you obviously don't love him as much as you say you do. You've basically already ruined your guys' relationship, so you should do him a favor and get rid of him. You are a bit selfish. I ... (read in full...)
Could his cheating with his ex have been a "mistake"?
Q. My boyfriend of four months recently cheated on mewith his ex-girlfriend when I went away. He rang her after he spoke to me and took her back to his house. He says it's the biggest mistake of his life and is completely distraught. He says he has ...
A. 8 November 2005: Moocha,
Let me get this straight... He CALLED her and TOOK her back to his house. It don't seem like it was a mistake to me. It's only been four months of a relationship and things like that are happening? I wouldn't let that happen, if it was a... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband with my half-cousin and now he tells me our affair is over!
Q. Hello. I just dont know where to start! I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have a great 5 year old son. Earlier in the year i met up again with my half cousin that i haven't seen for years, he was really good looking!We exchange...
A. 8 November 2005: What you're doing is plain wrong. I agree with eyeswideopen whole heartedly. Divorce your husband, he don't even deserve someone like you, especially if he is wonderful. You have cheated on him and are more worried about your lover than your ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend want me touching him any more?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about eight months now. In the beginning everything was wonderful. Here lately, it's not the same. We go out and still do things together, but he is never affectionate anymore. If I try to hold his hand, or ...
A. 1 November 2005: I think you should just get rid of him. He obviously don't want you anymore and you don't need to stay around for someone like that. No one deserves such treatment for anyone. He's not telling you straight up how he feels, which he probably should ... (read in full...)
On again... off again... on again. Should I stay with my guy or let him go?
Q. I met this guy in November of last year. We told each other that we loved each other in February. For 6 months we had the perfect relationship. But then I went away for 2 weeks and when I came back he wasn't the same. He started treating me ...
A. 31 October 2005: No, you should definitely not stay with him. There's not reason for all of this behavior from him. He don't have the right to treat you this way either. You should move on and get over him. He's not worth your time. If you want to stay friends, ... (read in full...)
Before we were married, my wife had sex with my friend. It feels weird to all of us but her!
Q. When we were younger and single, my wife and I had a very on and off relationship. During one of the "off" times, she had sex twice with my best friend. Time has passed and my friend and I have both gotten married but since that time, our f...
A. 31 October 2005: Chicagojoe,
It's sad to hear what happened. I don't understand how anyone can have sex with they're partners best-friend, ex partner whatever. Well, how can your best-friend do that to you? That's another question. It's not getting blown out of p... (read in full...)
My boyfrriend has dumped me twice, because he wants to try dating others...
Q. I'm 20 years old and I've been dating the same guy for the past two years. We are normally very happy and have an awesome time together. However, 2 months ago, we broke up because he was scared he was never going to date anyone besides me. After 2 ...
A. 31 October 2005: Nobody should have to put up with this treatment. I'm sure you can find someone that will want to be with you and KNOWS that, and wouldn't want to hurt you like this. It's not fair to you, especially if you wait around for him to come back to you. ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 already and still have never had a boyfriend...
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. This is ...
A. 31 October 2005: OK, you are only 14, you're not exactly that old, but if this is bothering you, then do something about it. It works both ways. Do you like someone? If you do, why don't you go ask him out? If you're tired of waiting around for someone to ask you, ... (read in full...)
He cheated and the other woman might be pregnant. Do I cut my losses and move on, or forgive him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has just admitted to cheating on me and possibly getting someone else pregnant. I am devestated yet still in love with him. Should I forgive him and try to work on our relationship or just move on with my life?...
A. 26 October 2005: You may be in love with him, but obviously he don't take your feelings into consideration if he has the nerve to go and cheat. Is the only reason he told you about this is because this girl might be pregnant? You don't need to deal with any of this, ... (read in full...)
I know my husband is still in contact with his ex-wife, even after she betrayed him and cheated
Q. I'm not sure where to start or how to make this brief, but I will try. I met my now husband on line and he moved from TX to NY just to be with me. I'd always had doubts though because he didn't seem to have the capability to say I love you to me du...
A. 26 October 2005: lostmommy,
First off, if this is bothering you everyday, you need to have a talk with your husband. Nothing will get resolved unless you do. You can't do this yourself. If you think something is not right, let him know. Tell him to tell you the ... (read in full...)
I want to trust my bf, but he chats to other female friends and overtly ogles other women...
Q. I'm 16 nearly 17, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. He's 20, and it's been brilliant. We have a good sex life and everything is going great. But since he's lost his internet he will come round mine with me and he checks his emails but then ...
A. 25 October 2005: Well, you're not being paranoid, you do have reason to worry! I think you should talk to him about how you feel before acting upon any of your actions though. Have you talked to him about how he acts and how uncomfortable it makes you? That's the ... (read in full...)
Been dating an old friend and I can't work out why he's hot, then cold!
Q. I known this guy for about seven years. We went all through high school together. For the last couple of weeks we have been hooking up most weekends. The whole time I have found him to be really hot then really cold. Maybe I'm acting too full on? I ...
A. 25 October 2005: Maybe you should let him know how you feel about this so he's not giving you mixed signals. There always a chance that he feels the same way, but doesn't know how to tell you or act around you because of this. If you think you two would have a... (read in full...)
I think when my boyfriend's upset that he tries deliberately to hurt me. Was I wrong to break up?
Q. Today I finished with my Bf of 2 years. I love him, he definitely loves me, he was inconsolable when he left. In the last 3 months, when we argue, he goes out, sometimes 3-4 in morning and doesnt come back to the next day. He goes round friends ...
A. 24 October 2005: Yes honey, you were very right! No one deserves to be treated the way he was treating you. Yes, he's nice to you sometimes, but it should be all the time. No guy has the right to go out to some woman's house after you guys were arguing and not ... (read in full...)
My online guy says he won't use a condom when we meet because he's too big!
Q. I'm 17 and this guy is 25, we haven't met but have talked about meeting. I'm a virgin, and we have talked about having sex alot and had cyber sex. He says that he has a 9" penis when erect, (I don't know whether he's telling the truth), and he s...
A. 24 October 2005: Well, it's not always a good idea to go and meet people off the internet that you meet in the first place. It's a very NOT smart idea. Haven't you heard horror stories of people going and meeting people and something bad happens. I'm not saying this ... (read in full...)
Do I keep supporting my boyfriend, even though he's done nothing to support me?
Q. I am having some issues with my boyfriend. We've been together going on 4 1/2 years and starting from 2003 to now he's been in and out of jail, not really working, and just not doing anything with himself. He keeps promising me that things will get ...
A. 20 October 2005: If you want to be with this man, you should just leave him and tell him that you guys can get back together when he starts acting right and doing what he's said he's going to do. There's no reason to be with someone if the same thing is said over ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my girlfriend's sexual history. Should I look at the hidden computer files?
Q. I have had problems with my girlfriend's sexual past before and sometimes I think I am getting over it. However, last night I was using her computer and I noticed that there were some hidden files that I could not access. Judging from the file names ...
A. 18 October 2005: I think what happened in her past, should most likely stay in her past. You sound like my boyfriend. He read my diaries and found out things he really didn't want to know, but thanks to his snooping he found stuff out that I have to hear about now. ... (read in full...)
He calls and wants to see me, but he doesn't seem to want to be my boyfriend,,,
Q. Hi everyone, what can you do when it's obvious a guy finds you attractive and comes to see you and calls you but says nothing committal about being your boyfriend? My brother says just to always refuse him sex and that will make him have to say some...
A. 18 October 2005: Sounds like what I was going through with my boyfriend before we got together. He was always coming to see me and spending a tremendous amount of time with me, but never once said anything about getting together with me officially. One day I finally ... (read in full...)
Can you have a trouble-free relationship all the time?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance thinks that it is possible to have a relationship without any snags? What do you think about that? Thanks, Secret Sara...
A. 18 October 2005: I think that's a bunch of bs actually. Who has a relationship without ANY snags? It has been said that every relationship has its ups and downs, and that means it also has snags. Maybe some relationships don't have as bad as ones as others, but ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend overreacting? The abuse happened 12 years ago...
Q. I was sexually abused when I was 6 and I always tell the guy I'm seeing about it so they can understand things I have a problem with or make me feel uncomfortable in the bedroom. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and w...
A. 17 October 2005: If you feel uncomfortable being touched in some way or are still telling your boyfriends about this, obviously you are NOT over what this jerk did to you or it wouldn't still be bothering you in any way. You should do something about this. You can't ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the guy who cheated, just to make a point?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months cheated on me, and I can't move on or forget what happened, but I don't want this to end, I don't know what to do. Should I leave or stay?...
A. 17 October 2005: 4 months, correct? This is all it took for him to cheat on you? Was there a reason? No reason is good enough. If he's cheated on you already, he's bound to do it again. There's no reason to be forgive and forget, MOVE ON!!!! You are so much better ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I should be "over" his cheating. But I'm not. Is it over?
Q. My husband and I are having some difficulties in our marriage. He thinks that a seperation's an option. He had a relationship with someone much younger 5 months ago and feels I should be over it by now. His reason for the relationship is that she ...
A. 17 October 2005: There is no reason you should be over this already. Maybe 5 YEARS ago, but not 5 MONTHS ago. I don't think he actually has any excuse that would be a good enough reason for him to cheat. If he feels that you don't support him then maybe he shouldn't ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I've become used to my husband's moods, but I think I love Dave...
Q. I have gotten myself into a very bad situation that is going to hurt my husband beyond belief if I follow through with what I want to do. We have been together since we were 15 (18 years now). I moved from UK to Australia to be with him which left ...
A. 17 October 2005: Nobody deserves to be unhappy or "walking on eggshells". That's no way to live. If you are unhappy, then take that step to leave your husband and find yourself a new life. One you will be happy in.
If you 90% sure you want to be with "Dave", ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex lured him back, after he swore he'd never see her again!
Q. My name is Joanna. I have been in a realsionship together with my boyfriend for five months now. We have so many problems because of his ex girlfriend. They were together for five years. When I first got together with this man, He said that he did ...
A. 14 October 2005: I agree with eyeswideopen. Just leave this guy and get on with your life. Obviously he didn't care too much about your feelings so why would you do him the favor of caring??? YOU DON'T!! This guys not worth any kind of attention or explanation of ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my boyfriend that I'm innocent?
Q. I need help and advice. Me (16) and my boyfriend (16) dated for about eight months. Everything was going great. But he called me one day and said that one of his friends told him I cheated on him when I didn't. We broke up and now he wants me to ...
A. 14 October 2005: I agree with both these answers. This guy is definitely not worth it. He seems to be a little immature at the moment too. You have your whole life ahead of you and many more men out there for you to meet. This guy seems to be making it difficult for ... (read in full...)
His ex keeps staring at me when we're at the gym. It makes me uncomfortable!
Q. I work out at the rec centre and the gym is right above the pool. There are huge windows so the people in the pool area are able to see the people working out in the gym, which is upstairs. The problem is that my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend sw...
A. 14 October 2005: Maybe you should stare back and let it be known you're not afraid of her whatsoever. Or you can just start laughing at her to yourself because she has nothing else better to do and obviously she's thinking of you in some way or another.
Peopl... (read in full...)
A stray text led me to find out that he's been calling 2 other women...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We live together, and everything has been great until about a month ago, when I realized we hadn't made love for almost 2 months. I asked him why, and he said we have different schedules. ...
A. 13 October 2005: This isn't physical evidence, but ask him who these other ladies are and why he's constantly calling them? If he don't want to be with you, have him tell you instead of leading you on. Let him know how you feel about this situation that you aren't ... (read in full...)
Was I disrespectful to my fiancee?
Q. I have been in my relationship for five years. I am in the US Coast Guard Station overseas. I have been here for 4 months. This maybe sounds stupid or not, I don't know, but I have been using the website myspace.com to talk with old friends. I...
A. 12 October 2005: In a way you were and in a way you weren't. It all depends. She's probably thinking you have no business looking at other women and especially telling her how hot she is. This would mean that you were a bit attracted to this women to actually go and ... (read in full...)
My best friend has started chasing my boyfriend!
Q. I've been seeing my partner for two years and recently my best friend has started texting him constantly, often using phrases only used by a lover/partner. I asked him about it after I couldn't stand it anymore and they both said I was just bei...
A. 11 October 2005: I doubt you're just being paranoid. There has to be something going on between them if she's stopped talking to you and is texting your boyfriend all the time. There's no reason for this if there's nothing to hide.
I don't think you should t... (read in full...)
I don't want to end his friendships, but must he be so chummy with his ex-girlfriends?
Q. Hi there, I was wondering if you could help me figure something out? I have a bf who I have been seeing for about 4 months now and it just so happens he is good friends with his two exes. This makes me feel uncomfortable and as though they are a ...
A. 10 October 2005: I agree with pops. Your boyfriend has NO right hanging out with his exes whatsoever. You're right, they are exes for a reason, so he should keep it that way and move on. I had the same problem kindof, but I'm only my boyfriends second girlfriend, so ... (read in full...)
It seems like he's interested... but he also has a girlfriend.
Q. Hi A while ago I noticed that a guy at work seemed to be flirting with me a lot. I have lost weight recently and I am starting to feel much better about my appearance but my confidence is still very low. I started to talk to him more and we have a l...
A. 6 October 2005: Sarah,
If he's in a relationship, just leave it at that. Maybe he's just a friendly guy and maybe he's like he is with you with everyone. If he has a girlfriend, leave him alone and find someone that is available. I'm sure you wouldn't apprecia... (read in full...)
Since I discovered my girl once slept with someone I know, I can't get the image out of my head!
Q. I'm with a girl I really really love, really deeply. But in a conversation when we was talking about our past sex lives I found out she had slept with somebody I know. It has begun to really bug me, to the point sometimes I don't look at her the ...
A. 4 October 2005: You know, I'm almost in the same position. My boyfriend found out recently that I had slept with someone that he knows, but he was just joking at the time, but it was the truth. Ever since then, he's been bringing crap like that up to me and he ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my boyfriend? He'd never know!
Q. I am out on a holiday without my boyfriend of a year and a half. I met another man that I really like and know he likes me too. I can't stop thinking about this other man. I am thinking about cheating one my boyfriend as he will never know. I can't ...
A. 28 September 2005: I wouldn't, if I were you. Your boyfriend may not know or find out the decision you make, but you will. If you cheated on him, wouldn't you care? Is your relationship not worth being faithful for? You may like someone else, but if you love your ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on the hot, funny and intelligent guy I work with?
Q. I have a bf have been with him for three years in November but I am not sure how I feel about him anymore because I find he is too controlling and we have not much in common. I just started a new job and have met this new really gorgeous, funny, i...
A. 22 September 2005: I think that you should leave well enough alone. He has told you that he's happy with his g/f, a few times. I wouldn't appreciate it if someone like you were trying to come on to my man. No matter how much you guys have flirted. How would you like ... (read in full...)
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