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writes:Help, I think I have entered the friends zone!!!I had a one night stand a few months ago with a guy I knew vaguely from a long time ago. He lives about 200 miles away and was visiting his parents in my home town. Since our night together we have kept in contact via msn. Our conversations often refered back to this night and have been quite fun and flirty as well as getting to know him better.The problem is that at the time of our night together I was interested in someone else and I told him so that morning. Nothing came of this but my guy continued to ask me about him during our conversations. Subsequently, although its really him I am interested in I have found myself talking to him about other men mostly because I was afraid that he didn't feel the same way and because I thought the distance meant a relationship was out of the question. Now he has told me he has met someone he really likes and this has really thrown me. I told him how happy I was for him and that it's really cool, but it's not how I really feel. Telling him the truth now isn't an option as it wouldn't be fair to him as he has met someone he likes. All I can do is wait to see if this new relationship works out for him, but in the meantime do I continue my contact with him? He has invited me over to spend a weekend with him but I would have to meet her and I don't think I could manage that. Should I hang on in there and see what happens or cut contact?
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (4 May 2009):
 I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want to remain friends
Go on ahead ., but if you want a relationship
That will be harder. I don't think it's worth it.
So many other fish in the sea!!!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (4 May 2009):
I say cut contact. Realistically it'll never work
Because of the distance and also because
You had a one night stand with him.
Also you shared stories of other guys to
Him so he already has judged you based
On these stories. If u want to remain friends
Go on ahead ., but if you want a relationship
That will be harder. I don't think it's worth it.
So many other fish in the sea!!!
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reader, Dbiddy +, writes (4 May 2009):
 I'm good at giving other folk’s advice, but myself (LOL)You should never talk about being with other men to someone you're interested in. He probably had and still has feelings for you, but felt you are not feeling him. It's a possibility that he's not into his new girlfriend as much as he claims. If you really like this guy, let him know, tell him you have no other guys, you were just nervous about the distance being a problem and felt it would never work. Don’t wait to see if his new relationship will fail, because the only thing that will happen is, they will get closer and closer. And if you guys fall for each other, then the distance will work itself out.
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