I got fed up of not seeing my BF enough, so I started going out, and now he's going nuts!!
Q. Dear all, I have been dating this guy for around 2 years and never really saw him enough,( I have spoken to him on numerous occasions about this and still he wants it his way ,and no change) so recently have started going out more with freind...
A. 18 May 2013: Hi
I think your doing the right thing and his reaction just shows he thought he had you right where he wanted you.
You have shown you have had enough of sitting around by your actions and if he doesn't like it, then tough.He had his chance t... (read in full...)
I love him but he's attention seeking. I want him, but feel trapped!
Q. Dear all. I would appreciate your views please. I.ve been seeing a man for just over two years. It has been difficult,and volitile. I really love him,but have had to back off,and am seeing him alot less to avoid getting hurt,and trying to slowly ...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
Good to hear, have a great summer... (read in full...)
Date asked if we could cut date short then said we'd go out for a drink but when the time came he never responded
Q. I went on a date last week with a guy I met online. We got on well, but after a few hours he said he had to leave to go to a friend's party. He asked me if I was free the next week to go for another drink. I said yes, we arranged to meet on a ...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
Sorry but it sounds like he has or is meeting somebody else, that's the thing with online dating.
I would write him off, it was just a meet n greet drink, now you know he's unreliable, a flake or a coward.
If he contacts you in a couple... (read in full...)
My surprise weekend turned to going to his mom's! Why couldn't he have told me the truth sooner?
Q. Please help I don't know how to handle this. My boyfriend of 2 years told me he was planning a surprise weekend away for this weekend and I told my family and friends and this week ago I wanted him to give me an idea of where we were going so I know ...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
I actually feel for him, he tried to plan something and it went wrong, not his fault. Yea he should have told you - but there you were telling the world and his mother that he was taking you away for this amazing weekend.
He was listening to... (read in full...)
Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
Forget him, if he wanted to see you he would ask you *out* on a date.
Not wait weeks then say he hadn't forgotten you, he would drop off a DVD. Then not do it - again.
If his life is *that* busy you would only get to see him about 3 times... (read in full...)
I have never met anyone like him and I'm really confused by him!
Q. Hi all, I posted a question a few weeks ago to determine whether or not the guy I had started seeing was intersted. I am a 36 year old, ordinarily together woman, however feel like a confused teenager at the moment. I have been kind of seein...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
You shouldn't be having sex with a guy who never opens up or answers your questions in a normal way, that makes him a virtual stranger.
Let him contact you, initiate the dates. If he does, make sure you go *out* on a date (if you don't no... (read in full...)
Will I cheat because I lost out in dating for a few years?
Q. Ok so i have just recently got my first girlfriend--at the age of 22. The reason is that im shy and i was scared i suppose, of what i dont know. Anyway im pleased that i have finally found someone. But i feel that i have missed out on so much. The ...
A. 16 May 2013: Hi
If you think your going to cheat your with the wrong girl.
If you want to sample what you missed then don't get serious with a girl, your still very young and not exactly near your sell-by-date, so enjoy what you have and move on if it is... (read in full...)
How do I freshen up a relationship without spending too much money?
Q. How do I freshen up a relationship without spending too much money? I've been with my partner for five years now and we're already like an old married couple win have got into a bit of a rot and have a routine. I want to freshen up our relationship ...
A. 16 May 2013: Hi
This is hard! If your talking about a one off thing then try a budget break in Europe, stop in a Hostel where it's really cheap per night.There is a website Hostelworld has places all over and skyscanner is brilliant for cheap flights ... (read in full...)
How do I get over being insecure?
Q. So I've known a guy for around 3 years, in the past year we've become close friends and finally on valentines day he asked me on a date. I said yes and ever since we've been seeing each other. He's the perfect guy, treats me well, there when I nee...
A. 15 May 2013: Hi
All I can say is imagine life without your boyfriend in it. Or worse one that drinks or is abusive.
Pinch yourself because you have everything going for you and yes, it's real. Your still getting to know this boyfriend, adjusting to hav... (read in full...)
I'm falling for the wrong guys -- what's wrong with me?
Q. Dear Cupid This is my first attempt in my entire life doing soul searching. My ex-husband was a loser, good for nothing guy who was very clingy, needy. I couldnt take it, so we divorced. My ex-bf of 3 yrs was very very absive verbally and em...
A. 15 May 2013: Hi
I doubt very much there is anything wrong with you, your just growing up, learning about yourself.
You have left childhood and teens behind you and are in the next phase.Plus 2 bad relationships which were a learning curve.
Take a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly needs space. Do I give him space? Or dump him?
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months suddenly says he needs to "reconnect" with his friends (aka drinking buddies) and plans to stay out every Friday night with them. He says I'm not invited "for now" - and besides I work at 7AM on Saturdays and he wants to s...
A. 14 May 2013: Hi
Give him some space or find a guy who is prepared to live to your expectations. You don't like the idea of him being out drinking every Friday till 5am with his buddies. He wants to go.
Maybe he is sick of being on a curfew, maybe you leavin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with an old fling!
Q. Just found out my boyfriend slept with someone else on Saturday night. Background: We've been together for over a year. Moved in together after a month and although we've had our ups and downs, I've never felt this way about anyone before. ...
A. 14 May 2013: Hi
Yes I did forgive once, years ago, but he took it as an all-clear to cheat repeatedly so I divorced him. There was distance involved because of his job, but quite frankly that is a weak excuse. As is 'I was drunk'.
I don't know what you ca... (read in full...)
I am really mad at how he ended our relationship!
Q. Just realized that my boyfriend dumped me over Facebook! How immature and obnoxious is that? We are talking about a 28 year old guy here! We were on a break, and as everyone, I expected him to contact me in order to know if we would stay toget...
A. 14 May 2013: Hi
I am lost here, how does putting up a group photo mean the relationship is over? I thought they changed their status or something to 'single'.
Anyways it sounds like *you* think it's over and without talking to him, have decided he has e... (read in full...)
Which one do I let go?
Q. I am having to choose between two men and its killing me inside, i was with one for a year, we got engaged after a week, we have both had a lot happen, his mum died, then my dad but before his mum died i found out he had been texting his ex over a ...
A. 13 May 2013: Hi
You have the chance to be happy with a good man and your letting your Ex fiancée ruin your life and control you.
Do you want to live a relaxed and happy life, to grow old with a good man - or do you want some idiot Ex fiancée to ruin ... (read in full...)
I love him but he's attention seeking. I want him, but feel trapped!
Q. Dear all. I would appreciate your views please. I.ve been seeing a man for just over two years. It has been difficult,and volitile. I really love him,but have had to back off,and am seeing him alot less to avoid getting hurt,and trying to slowly ...
A. 13 May 2013: Hi
You have a volatile relationship which you are sick of. How long he takes to get over you splitting up is his problem.
He could have had a bad back, it's not uncommon with active people, just general wear and tear can cause one.Thats not th... (read in full...)
Confusion surrounding male friend's odd behaviour
Q. I'll try and keep this short and sweet but I'm a little confused as to where I stand with a male friend of mine... We're somewhat close (he knows some personal things about me and vice versa and we talk fairly often but we're not extremely close ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hi
My take is the day he was extra pleased to see you, told you he had missed you, he was trying to say 'I really like you' with his actions. Maybe he had told a friend he liked you and they said 'show it then' so in his own way,he did.
You wal... (read in full...)
I turned her down in the past after she told me she liked me and since then she won't open up around me
Q. Was wondering if you could give advise on a girl I've liked for a long time. We've know each other for about 4 years , we've been on holiday together a couple of times and used to meet up to go to the cinema and out to restaurants, it's always been ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hi
No, don't let it go, be bold, tell her how you feel and ask if there's a future together.
She had the guts to open up, but cos of your response now doesn't think you want more than platonic friendship.
Put her straight, until you do s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has moved out again, for the fifth time!
Q. My boyfriend of two years moved out again for the fifth time. He usually calls or comes back by now but not this time. His Family is being very nasty towards me and he didnt just move out he moved 3 hours away. When he left he said he was going to ...
A. 12 May 2013: Hi
This is not a healthy relationship, you lost your son which is the most traumatic thing a parent can go through, you don't need the drama this man brings to add to that.
Yes you may love him but it is not balanced, he has it cushy with you a... (read in full...)
He shows all the signs of not wanting to be with me but claims this isn't the case?
Q. I have been with my fiancee for nearly three years - we got engaged at New Year this year. He has an adorable little girl who I love too. When we got together we had a lot of problems with his ex (we still do) refusing to move on and we have had ...
A. 11 May 2013: Hi
You shouldn't really be having problems with his ex after 3 years, that doesn't help your relationship.
He has also shown his bad side when you lost your job, no support just giving you a hard time.
Why are you paying for ALL of you to... (read in full...)
Why can't I/we seem to move on?
Q. Myself and a work mate developed strong feeling for one another, we didn't act upon them because we are both attached and not cheaters. I left the company about 7 months ago and since then have periodically text him to touch base and see how it's ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
Yes cut contact. Your going to be free soon,to date whoever you want.
The thought of the attraction you had with this man makes you feel desirable when your going through a marriage break up.
So put him behind you now, he isn't free, ... (read in full...)
Its killing me that I can't tell my crush that I like him!
Q. What do I do? I like him so much is killing me.? So I was talking to this cute guy that I like so much and I asked him if he thinks a girl should tell a guy when she likes him and he said yes is 2013 so off course she can tell him. He said ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
Pretty guys around him? If you don't think your pretty or nice enough for him then you are giving off negative vibes.
He asked who it is cos he may have thought if he knows him he could put in a good word.
Or he may know its him
The ... (read in full...)
No contact with ex since he broke things off. What do I do?
Q. Hi really hope you can help i was with a man for 4 months who i really loved i met his family who i got on well with me and my ex were so in sync with each other we would say the same things at the same time we had known each other for 5 years ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
You were a couple for 4 months and in that time lived together, you got pregnant,then sadly miscarried.
It's a lot for anyone to cope with, so many events in such a short time. It sounds like he has withdrawn and moved on.
You can't ma... (read in full...)
I need some courage to leave my cheating boyfriend but I don't want to hurt him! Help!
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle, me and my boyfriend have been together for four years, we have a one year old son together. Two months after I had my son I found out that the previous year that he had been cheating on me for a month with a friend of mine ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
For your relationship to stand any chance this girl and her mates need to be stopped. I would report her to the Police and keep any messages she sends. Stop her by meaning business, its harassment and she is not going away until you do somethin... (read in full...)
I'm leaving tomorrow and probably wont ever see him again, how do I make this more bearable?
Q. We met online. Talked every day for months. He flew me over so we could meet. Halfway across the world. It was wonderful. We had a great time, it was like a dream. We were living together, which made us get to know each other more, including our ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
How romantic, it seems like right man wrong place/time. I would cook a great breakfast to eat in bed and TALK. See what he wants,if there is *any* possibility of a future.
If there is not, then keep smiling till you leave and tell him how... (read in full...)
My friends are open about going on internet dating sites despite being married, yet I don't feel comfortable with this. Opinions please?
Q. What do you think about this please. I have some friends they are a married Indian Hindu couple with a year old child. I have learnt from her that her husband goes onto Internet dating sites for fun. He was contacted by an escort who said she ...
A. 10 May 2013: Hi
I have known marrieds, women, who went on dating sites specifically for married people. One lady met up weekly with a guy off there and went to a Hotel.
No, I wouldn't do it and no I didn't agree with it. However it was her life, her marria... (read in full...)
How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?
Q. Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept ey...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
I don't think a guy would like it if a girl walked up and told him he was cute, he isn't a kitten.
Be better just to say something about the class or ask where he got his Tshirt or trainers from,say you want to buy one as a gift for yo... (read in full...)
Why is he behaving this way?
Q. I've known this guy for awhile He's friendly and charismatic There's was a point he used to check me out but make it lighthearted Once I caught him. He's always tried to talk to me but I'm really quiet Physically I'm not tip top shape but I...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
Its all a bit confusing. Why did you tell this Sam you liked him - yet couldn't tell your crush the same in the past.
Does this mean you prefer this Sam so made a move or were you just trying to make your crush jealous?
He might have b... (read in full...)
Is she hiding something from me?
Q. For 1 im with a girl together.Everything is alright, amazing actually she never said anything bad about me or my habbits she slept over at my place, she told her parents about me and they dont have anything against it. My problem is: She studys a...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
It is hard to say what is going on. You say 'everything is alright, amazing actually', then say she doesn't have a lot of time for you.
She has to go visit her family, so if her parent's know about you and are fine about it, why did you not ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can cope with another disappointment from boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. Dear Aunts. My bf moved in with me 2 years ago and then his ex wife ordered him to move back (his old place was close to hers and with me he was an hour away) because he was not so available for the 2 kids. Which he did. Now he is looking at a new ...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
If he is planning on moving back in with you then no, it is not a good idea.
If he gets his own place and keeps it for say, a year, to prove he is stopping in the area, then fine. That will make you feel more secure.
You know his kids wil... (read in full...)
I let a date get out of hand and now I feel guilty
Q. So a lot has happened since the last time I was here OBVIOUSLY because I'm 17 now. Not much in the relationship/boy department just life in general... Until last night. SO Sunday, I met this boy. He was the friend of a friend and he asked me for ...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
It wasn't rape it was you and him going too far. By going to his place you were almost saying you knew what could happen. And it did.
Now, a guy who really likes you will date you, get to know you, treat you with respect. He won't invite you... (read in full...)
In my 20's and never had an orgasm, I cant even have sex with my husband! Help!
Q. How common is it for a woman to be in her 20s, and never had an orgasm? Growing up, I had an unusual childhood, not much free time, got picked on in school for the way I looked, and never felt comfortable about my body. I also had a mother who...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
Yea I think it's psychological too,you've ruled out physical. You have the urges,the crushes and a very patient husband.
Have you tried the slow approach, massage, warm bath candles etc. No sex - just your husband relaxing you and explorin... (read in full...)
I'm so down I absolutely love him and have no idea if its mutual please help
Q. I honestly don't know what to do I dearly love my friend I didn't mean to but am so in love with him Last year he confided in me he was very unhappy with his girlfriend he said they had a lot of problems and she had emotional issues and he always s...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
He has left where you work so you have distance between you, now delete his number and texts.
He is not free, he has a girlfriend. When/if he becomes single, well, he knows where to find you.
Go out and meet others who *are* free to... (read in full...)
Will he ever want a relationship with me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy. We have sex and we go out to dinner and to the cinema. Sometimes we just chill and there's nothing sexual to it. He stays at least twice a week and is always cuddling me and kissing me. However he says he's not ready for a ...
A. 9 May 2013: Hi
Ask him, you have invested a lot into this non-relationship so until you know what he wants in future you won't know if you should move on or wait.
No more sex with him though.... (read in full...)
Thank you
Q. Just wanted to say, I think the agony aunts and uncles on this site are amazing. I don't know how such a wise group of people gathered together in one cyber place but ...I'm glad you did because you helped me get through some serious crap, and now ...
A. 9 May 2013: That is so sweet, to come back and thank the Aunts & Uncles. It's always great for everyone to get feedback.
Pleased your so much better now, onwards and upwards!... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way after I told him about my dinner plans with my friend? I really like him but he's so awkward and quiet with me!
Q. Why is he doing that? I feel really hurt:(? So I've liked this guy for a while now. He's friendly and chatty with everyone else but when it comes to me he's really quiet , awkward and doesn't talk that much. He asked what I was doi...
A. 8 May 2013: Hi
Why are you playing games with him, if you like him then why tell him you have a date with a guy who 'thinks your nice and wants to get to know you'.
Just telling him you were going out for dinner with a friend would have been enough.
... (read in full...)
Our sex life diminished after our daughter and now she told me she's not sexually attracted to me, but to her ex instead
Q. Hi.I am 24 and have been in a relationship with my fiancee for 7 years. We have a 3 year old daughter and since she was born our sex life had started going down hill, I didn't think to much of it at first. Middle of last year my partner started ...
A. 8 May 2013: Hi
That's odd as you have been together 7 years, so I assume the Ex boyfriend was around when your fiancée was 16-17?
Now, out of the blue she says she prefers him physically and wants sex with him? Is this Ex aware of her plans, has she b... (read in full...)
He is drunk every day and flirts with others. Does this mean he'll cheat while I am in hospital giving birth? Or am I having pregnancy paranoia?
Q. if a man is drunk every day and will flirt in front of you. Does this mean he is likely to cheat when you're not there? I am weeks away from giving birth so i am not very attractive at the moment. not sure if it's pregnancy paranoia or not......
A. 7 May 2013: Hi
If he is drunk every day then why do you think bringing a child into this situation is healthy.
Your average man would be sober and looking forward to the baby arriving, not getting drunk and flirting with other women.
Stop worrying i... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: Hi
If you want to stay with him then grow a thick skin. It is a *huge* age gap and most people will assume your his granddaughter not his girlfriend anyway. Just live in the moment if your happy.
However, will you be with him when he's 80 and... (read in full...)
Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?
Q. If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to st...
A. 7 May 2013: Hi
8 years is long enough to waste on him, he's just using drink as a cover for his behaviour. He remembers what he has done alright.
Unless you want to keep making excuses for him for the duration I would walk away from this one.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's ex constantly tell him how happy she is with someone new!
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for 4 and ½ years and his ex drives me nuts! For the first 3 and ½ years all she did was cause trouble. She could call him all the time, text him all the time, she’d text me saying they’re together, she’d tell our ...
A. 6 May 2013: Hi
Doesn't sound like she's that happy with the new man or she would just get on with living and life, she sounds extremely immature too.
I don't know what the children think of it all and obviously it's better they see mum n dad getting on.H... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I let another girl give me oral sex?
Q. I have seriously messed things up with my girlfriend and I need advice on how to put things right. Basically a few weeks ago I went out for my friend's birthday, my girlfriend didn't come as she couldn't get the time off work. I was annoyed ...
A. 5 May 2013: Hi
I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her to be honest. However it seems to be playing on your mind so you will have to come clean or your guilt will be too obvious and she will ask around or guess.Which will hurt her more.
Do not say an... (read in full...)
Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
I don't think he is separated,even if he is he's a terrible flirt.I would ask your nephew to find out discreetly,it shouldn't be too difficult for him he's a policeman!
Men in uniforms know full well they attract women so I would leave it, ... (read in full...)
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