No sex, No kissing, different religion and now my BF does not want to talk to me?
Q. I'm 22yrs plus while my guy is 25yrs plus we have been dating gettin to 4yrs now despite our religion differences,we both love eachother ,he pays me visit,he introduce me to his friends as his wife to be but now everything change suddenly.each time ...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
After 4 years together I don't think he was after just sex, he wasn't even getting a kiss. He didn't marry you and I assume never asked you or got engaged and 4 years is long enough for him to do that.
I think he has met somebody new, so... (read in full...)
If this is how he's going to parent I don't want any more kids with him
Q. I don't know how many married men out there are like my husband but it keeps me up at night weather or not there is and if those men are still happily married or still married at all to there wives. I've been married for 2 years now and my husband ...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
You got pregnant pretty fast after getting married so am guessing you really wanted a family. If you husband wasn't ready for fatherhood it could explain him not bonding with your son.
The way he is behaving sounds very wrong though, yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends loads on himself but wont even buy me a birthday gift! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend spends lots and lots on his car and bike but dosen't buy me any gifts, let it be birthday, valentines day or annivesary he dosen't bring me anything. I don't expect much from him but somtimes I do want him to make me feel important. And ...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
If he takes you to 'boring places where you have to sit for hours and hours' why do you agree to go, do you ever suggest going someplace you like?
To be honest you don't sound happy nor do you sound like a couple.
Perhaps he just isn't... (read in full...)
I am not excited about my boyfriend's teenage daughter possibly moving in with him!
Q. I met a wonderful guy 3 years ago, we both wanted the same things had similar visions for our future. My children have left home but his are still teenagers that live with their mum, so understand we cant go travelling yet until they turn 18. I was ...
A. 10 April 2013: Hi
I take it your living with your man?
I also understand how you have gone past the teenage years with your own children and are now free. I haven't dated a man who still has dependant children, on purpose, I have been there done that.
As... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 10 April 2013: Hi
Well if you've just bought/built the house I understand the need to hold on to it financially, it's your baby too,blood sweat and tears,you've done great to buy it.
If he's only paying out £50 per week to mum and working, he isn't living in ... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to stop living with his parents and marry me and contribute more financially?
Q. My bf and i have been together for just over four years. He knows I eventually want marriage and a family. I am in my late 20s and he is early 30's so we are at that age to seriously start thinking about it etc. He jokes around, but he is probab...
A. 9 April 2013: hi
You can't make him *do* anything so if he isn't rushing to your door with his belongings by now then I doubt he ever will.
He doesn't need to contribute financially if he isn't living with you, except maybe a bit for food - I take it he i... (read in full...)
BF is upset that his EX is being chatted up by his best friend?
Q. just a small question. My last relationship ended because i found him cheating on me so ended things because once a cheater alwayas a cheater. I don't want to be cheated on again, obviously. Ive just entered a new relationship but im a little ...
A. 9 April 2013: Hi Its you being a bit paranoid, your fella will feel his best friend is being disloyal. Just take things slow and give him a chance... (read in full...)
Could a policeman be called away from home on work duties for 3 weeks?
Q. hi ive just found out that a policeman fancies me, but he hasnt been at home for the last 3 weeks, do they work away for that length of time or am i paranoid and thinking he met someone else?...
A. 9 April 2013: Hi He would hardly leave home because he met somebody else, it could be training or a transfer for some reason. Who knows It's irrelevant for now anyway because he can't ask you out or whatever until he's back home. Just carry on with your li... (read in full...)
Will I be labeled as a liar? I didn't tell the truth about how many sexual partners I have had
Q. Hello, I'm writing because I'm in a bit of a situation. I was in a relationship for 7 years from the age of 15 and completely adored the guy. On reflection, he was rather manipulative, unsupprotive and didn't really care about me. This was a...
A. 9 April 2013: Hi Stop beating yourself up, your hardly a loose woman. No need to mention #2 man at all its your business. He must realise your a 'long term' person who hasn't slept her way round the city. All he needs to know is you have only had sex when yo... (read in full...)
I made a big issue of my husband not being able to about his dead mom!
Q. I feel my partner has never properly grieved for his Mother. She passed away when he was 14 after battling with cancer for years but her death came quite suddenly. He has younger brothers who were 10 and 8 at the time. He is now 27. This is litera...
A. 9 April 2013: Hi Everyone deals with death in different ways, it must have been hard for them all being so young. If their Dad didn't 'keep her memory alive' they probably just kept their feelings in. They know she was ill for a long time and died. Maybe s... (read in full...)
How can I get this man to bend? He says he doesn't want to be in a relationship
Q. I had a beautiful relationship with a man for ten months. We are both 38. We went through through alot together. He had been seperated from his wife for three years. They had no kids involved. The thing is his ex wife didnt really want him back, ...
A. 8 April 2013: Hi
I really hope you can move on and let go of him.
Even when he is divorced he will want his freedom, he has made that very clear. He may be a good man but he wants to be single. Neither you nor his family will change his views he is his ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for what career path I should take?
Q. I am currently in college, I'm just taking basic courses as of now because I'm not sure of what career I want to pursue. I am interested in criminal justice but I really don't know what i want. I enjoy working with people, but also having some ...
A. 7 April 2013: Hi
Try a few sites like this
http://www.whatcareerisrightforme.com/
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How can I get this man to bend? He says he doesn't want to be in a relationship
Q. I had a beautiful relationship with a man for ten months. We are both 38. We went through through alot together. He had been seperated from his wife for three years. They had no kids involved. The thing is his ex wife didnt really want him back, ...
A. 7 April 2013: Hi
The easy way he went back to his wife when she clicked her fingers shows he is not over her. They are not even divorced. He's emotionally attached to her still. So I guess you filled a gap sexually while he waited for her, you were a ready co... (read in full...)
I was snooping around boyfriend's home and found bags of ladies underwear, sex toys and porno!
Q. While snooping around my boyfriends house I found bags of ladies underware, sex toys and porno movies. I mean several bags! I was shocked. Why did he have these and why would be ever keep them. I can't tell him that I found this stuff because I was ...
A. 7 April 2013: Hi
I had to laugh, its his single man equipment,maybe a few trophies, he's packed it away in his 'man way' because he has you now.
Don't snoop again. I would go mad if my fella snooped round my place and what *would* he make of my electric dril... (read in full...)
What is the best and worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Q. Pickup lines have been used on both men and women. Some are good, some are very, very bad, but we can all agree that they’re pretty funny. Share with us any good or bad ones you've heard. Feel free to list more than one!...
A. 7 April 2013: Worst - In a city pub...'Hi Ime working for undercover police, security n handbag safety in Bars, your bag is vulnerable,give me your number,we can arrange a consultation - its free'
Best - 'Your single? Wow, well that's dangerous, let me keep you... (read in full...)
What actions should I take to protect myself from this demanding girl who's behaviour concerns me?
Q. I got talking to this girl on a dating website on Wednesday. She asked me firstly would I pay for sex! Obviously, I said no. I gave her my number and I thought all was legitimate, until she asked for £2500 to 'make her flat habitable' because ...
A. 5 April 2013: Hi
Block her on the dating site, if you can, block her number too.
Ignore her, don't respond to any message or pick up the phone calls.
Wise up too, you sound very niaive - if a woman asks if you would pay for sex then,unless you want to ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is asking me to send him pictures of my private bits. Why does he need them?
Q. Hello. I am a female in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives in another country. We still haven't med in person..but have communicated by email, telephone, text message and video and video messaging that he's sent me. This has been going ...
A. 4 April 2013: Hi
DO NOT send any photos, 7 months is a long time to not have met. He could be just up the road for all you know, or in the next town.
I think he is playing you, he just wants naked photos probably to share out with others.Imagine f... (read in full...)
I don’t want to rule him out but then also don’t want to be walked all over
Q. I met a guy on a dating site and he seemed really genuine and sweet. After a week of talking, despite not being 100% on his picture, I agreed to meet with him for a drink because I thought we had a lot in common. We met and had a really lovely ...
A. 3 April 2013: hi
I know somebody who had their phone stolen this weekend too, they emailed me to let me know then rang when new phone arrived.
I agree, give him another chance... (read in full...)
How can I go about making new friends?
Q. Ok I'm looking for some advice about making friends. Basically I'm 27 and I went through a painful break up about 4 months ago. I'm currently back living with my parents, but I've noticed I don't seem to have much of a social life any more so I'm a ...
A. 3 April 2013: Hi
I think the flatshare idea is brilliant it gets you into a different environment and away from your parents.
I know a lot of people who try it. Do make sure you meet all the 'sharers' and have questions ready to ask them. It can open a ne... (read in full...)
A dating question: Can it work when one person has a career and the other what they consider 'an everyday job'?
Q. Hi I've been single for 16 months now. I've had a few dates, a few casual flings and I'm ready for a serious relationship. I met a guy online a few weeks ago. He's 8 years younger than me, intelligent, funny and we get on really well. In fact I g...
A. 3 April 2013: Hi
You have only had 2 dates so perhaps neither of you really know what you want.You both feel a connection or attraction but that's just the basis, if you want to build a relationship you need to both be on the same page.
I think he's just ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this unsatisfying relationship? I want him to leave.
Q. Stuck in a Rutt and can't get out! My live in man is 45. We split briefly last year and I now totally regret us getting back together. He set up home on his own after our strained relationship failed due to his abusive behaviour. After almost a yea...
A. 2 April 2013: Hi
I don't know if the children are his,with you or just yours as he lived with his mum into his forties.If they are just your children then he doesn't have to see them if he chooses not to. If they are his,he's probably bluffing and am sure he ... (read in full...)
Let this April Fools joke slide? Or break up with him?
Q. Boyfriend pretended to break up with me as an April Fool's joke? Well, apparently, he said it was an April Fool's joke. Should i leave him?. I think that's a cruel joke....
A. 1 April 2013: Hi
He has a warped sense of humour yes, but I would let it go,unless you have other doubts about your relationship... (read in full...)
My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 1 April 2013: Hi
Re Your Update
As you have no husband, then get a male friend or relative to speak to him.If that fails to stop this,go to the Police,keep all proof on your phone to show them.It's 3 years of sexual harassment.
Definitely tell his... (read in full...)
My married friend's husband keeps calling me! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone! I first wrote for help here 3 years ago with the same problem and it is still going on. My friends husband used to ring me over and over again late at night begging me to talk to him or ring him back. Sometimes he would text. This...
A. 1 April 2013: Hi
What can you do ?
As your married I would definitely get *your* husband to speak to *her* husband and explain to him in no uncertain terms, if he rings or texts again you two will tell his wife.
That way he will know you *have* told som... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him to leave my house and be civil for our son or should I try work on things?
Q. I'm mortified my partner has gone away for a weekend with a mate we have chatted every day like normal and made plans to go on a mini break together Except tonight he sent me a message asking me if we are meant to be together I asked him why he...
A. 1 April 2013: Hi
It does sound like he is distancing himself from you, he is away from home this weekend and its a pretty low game to ring you and announce those things in a phone call.
He should have considered being too young before having a child, he can'... (read in full...)
My man's mega spend on liquor. How can I address this casually while still voicing my concerns?
Q. My husband enjoys drinking beer and will have 3 cans most nights and more on the weekend. I have just discovered the supermarket has an offer on and he has went and bulk bought spending almost £350 on beer. I'm quite alarmed to the point of sic...
A. 31 March 2013: Hi
If you can afford to spend £350 on beer and it saves money in the long run,he's made a good choice.
If however you have money troubles,or the sell-by date is in a couple of weeks,then you have problems.
Just talk to him,tell him your con... (read in full...)
What could my fwb want to 'discuss'?
Q. Friends with 'some' benefits situation: here goes: Nov 2012: approached him, started to hang out with him, told him I liked him, he told me he liked me too. Started to send flirty text messages daily. Saw him 2wice a week. Very sexually attract...
A. 31 March 2013: Hi
He wants sex and you won't put out till your exclusive.
Neither of you is going to get what you want.
If he didn't bother you,you didn't care,he was simply a mate,you wouldn't be on here questioning and detailing every move and action he... (read in full...)
What are the best options for me, if I don't want more children? I do want to get back to dating and put my life back together. What if my soul mate wanted children?
Q. I thought about getting back into the dating scene but I might meet the guy of my dreams my soul mate but I don't want to have anymore children. I have three and I have experienced a hard time with their fathers. My oldest daughter and son share th...
A. 31 March 2013: Hi
At your age - if it's correct on here, the average man will not expect you to want or have more children.Lots of men are in the same situation as you too,had their children,divorced and don't want more.
Its different when your in your 20s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of two years wont stay at my place
Q. I have been divorced for 3 yrs and I have two kids 4 and 13 I have been with my bf for two yrs. my xhusband and I had a two family home and when we divorced he lived in one half I lived in the other and I had the kids all day and he took them at ...
A. 28 March 2013: Hi
He's had it easy,you doing all the running, for too long.Plus he lives rent free.Lucky man!
If he's really unwilling to make the effort to stop over at yours more then there's not alot you can do.
Is he used to having children around -... (read in full...)
My husband constantly criticises me. How can I get him to stop and show me more respect?
Q. I have married and moved in with my husband within the past year. I'm finding he constantly criticises me, mimics what i say or actions i do (sneeze, cough). I'm nearly scared to speak. I've told him to cut it out but he just laughs says if I did ...
A. 28 March 2013: Hi
It would drive me nuts too, did he show signs of this behaviour when you were dating or is it just while being married and together?
Tell him you can't stand it,its not funny to you and unless he stops,your leaving.
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I really like this guy why does he behave the way he does?
Q. Why does he behave this way? I really like him:(? There's this guy that I really like. He's constantly staring at me when I'm not looking and looks away and runs off as soon as I catch him looking. Sometimes he's the sweetest thing ever an...
A. 27 March 2013: Hi
Is this your question too?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-he-behave-this-way-i-really.html
If he runs off when you catch him looking and gets jealous and hurt when you look or talk to other men,gets weird around just you, ... (read in full...)
When should I email him and does he like me?
Q. Hey- really brief just want your views. I'm 22 indian- he's 23 muslim- both born bred uk. We work in the same organisation and have monthly meetings together. He is always looking at his phone so i thought has a gf. He is the quiet shy guy , ...
A. 27 March 2013: Hi
No need what-so-ever to feel like a fool,you simply sent some work to a colleague.He thanked you.Thats it.... (read in full...)
How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip?
Q. I've been waitressing at a restaurant for a few months. I've noticed that certain regulars don't leave tip regardless of service. And of course there are occasional customers that don't tip at all. How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip? ...
A. 27 March 2013: Hi
If I have paid for a meal especially if it's pricey,unless it's above average food and service,I don't tip.My daughter leaves 10% of meal price because she did waitressing when a student and feels they earn it.
If a waitress *asked* me for o... (read in full...)
He had a private lap dance at his stag and now I'm having serious doubts about marrying him!
Q. I am getting married next week and I am having serious doubts. We have been to together 8 years (since we were 18) engaged for 5 and we have 2 children. We had a pretty much perfect relationship until his stag. About a week after he returned...
A. 27 March 2013: Hi
I cannot believe that this one lap-dance on his stag do is causing you to doubt marrying him and a future together.
A 'perfect 8 year relationship' you say, well are you sure you haven't had other doubts before? How long does a lap-dance... (read in full...)
Do I study something I love or do I study something more pragmatic?
Q. Hey, I have a question. I have been a bar manager for years and right now I am studying by correspondence for two qualifications in management, one of them is a BTS (French qualification equivalent to the first two years of a bachelor's degree) and ...
A. 26 March 2013: Hi
Don't go with what you love,go with practical.You have years of experience plus that bit of paper then.
Courses students love for example, Media Studies, rarely end in jobs they want as its so hard to break into.Internships are unpaid and h... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand with the friend of the girl I like. How do I discourage this girl nicely?
Q. Hello all, Firstly, I'm a 22 year old guy currently studying at University. Recently, over the past 2 months of so, I started chatting to and hanging out with a girl I'll call Rita on my course. We'd just do stuff like get coffee and talk, which ...
A. 26 March 2013: Hi
Be honest with Sophie yes,its only fair but don't mention you like Rita.
Sophie has probably told her what happened if they are friends and that she wants to see you again.... (read in full...)
How much do a woman's friends reflect who she is and her values?
Q. We had some issues a couple of years back when my wife thought about cheating on me. She never went with the other man but considered it. He worked hard to sleep with her and she lied to me about it all until I found out from others. This happened ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
How much do *your* friends reflect who you are and your values?
Trust her, she's an adult not a wayward teen. Thats all you can do.If she wanted to cheat she would,regardless of who her friends are.She enjoys her nights out with them.
I ... (read in full...)
Did he scare himself off when he nearly said that he loved me?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 months. It has been an incredible journey, we can't get enough of each other and we have both been very open and expressive with our feelings so far, although we have not yet used the L word. This guy seems very ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
It's impossible to guess what he is feeling or thinking.Three months isn't long relationship wise but its got intense pretty quick.
My advice is to relax,enjoy your holiday,don't spoil your break.
If his actions haven't changed then why... (read in full...)
When should I email him and does he like me?
Q. Hey- really brief just want your views. I'm 22 indian- he's 23 muslim- both born bred uk. We work in the same organisation and have monthly meetings together. He is always looking at his phone so i thought has a gf. He is the quiet shy guy , ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
Send it straight away,he gave you his email so you could. He just seems the friendly type so go along with that,don't expect more yet.
You could find out if he's single though, ask someone or ask him in a round about way... (read in full...)
In loved with a guy that is spoken for but unhappy
Q. Hello guys. I've known this fella for 3 years. He's in a very unhappy (unmarried) relationship.Unhappy on BOTH sides. They've been together 10+ years with property, finances and a business in both their names. He has feelings for me and he knows I ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
Do you know that TV show, 'Snog,Marry,Avoid'? Well you must avoid. There's nothing there for you
You may be in love but getting his brother to talk about his private relationship is wrong,his brother is bang out of order.
HIS relation... (read in full...)
My BF or maybe FWB or Fiance loves eye candy, but says he wants to marry me!
Q. Ok I'm new on here. My boyfriend and I were just friends for about two yr before we took the step to f.w.b. then to dating. He has been dropping hints that he is going to proposal( he has asked in his sleep and when he was drunk, and always talking ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
If a man took me out for a birthday meal but never once looked at me but instead the waitresses, I would have said something to him there and then.It's disrespectful and if it carried on I would have left him in the place to stare alone
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