Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 25 May 2013: Hi
Yes just keep on trucking.
As you say, he can get any girl he wants but you didn't go running after him. Or go pick up your stuff. Good for you.
Men like him are professional players,know they can reel girls in,so they do.His job gives hi... (read in full...)
My BF or maybe FWB or Fiance loves eye candy, but says he wants to marry me!
Q. Ok I'm new on here. My boyfriend and I were just friends for about two yr before we took the step to f.w.b. then to dating. He has been dropping hints that he is going to proposal( he has asked in his sleep and when he was drunk, and always talking ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
If a man took me out for a birthday meal but never once looked at me but instead the waitresses, I would have said something to him there and then.It's disrespectful and if it carried on I would have left him in the place to stare alone
... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
Sounds like neither of you were over keen for the 5th date, first he can't make it till 5pm, so that cuts out an afternoon walk really. Then you text him *your* not free at 5pm now.
It doesn't shout enthusiasm so its clearly still pretty cas... (read in full...)
Why is he calling me to ask how I am after weeks of silence?
Q. Dear all. I fell out with my bf around 5 weeks ago. I.'d had enough of the arguments and his silent treatment. I was upset,but sat it out,and did not ring him,and decided that was it for me. Anyway, he tried to ring me a couple of days back. I did ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
After you didn't pick up his call he text next day and said 'I wasn't trying to get in your pants'.
To me thats a random statement and means he actually was.
As you say, you have been doing well getting over him so your silence bought h... (read in full...)
What should I do about my fiance lying about porn?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started dated we made it very clear what we expect from each other. Together we made the commitment to be a christian couple and live that kind of life. I just had a baby with him and he asked me to marry him, i said yes, ...
A. 23 March 2013: Hi
Well as you 2 aren't yet married,already have a baby and find he has looked at porn,then lied,you have a problem as none of that shouts I am a christian.
I think your just vulnerable after the birth,its a big thing for you both,a new baby ... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my boyfriend, but tired of being the 'man' in this relationship
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and have been with my bf for 1.5 years. Throughout the time we are together, I'm honestly very happy, so happy that I cannot explain. Whenever I see him, I cannot stop smiling. However, when I think of future or marriage, I don't se...
A. 23 March 2013: Hi
I can totally relate to what your saying.Am independant myself but don't want to be looking after a man,to be strong for two,sometimes we need support.
Your family network is miles away, so you have to rely on friends or your boyfriend f... (read in full...)
Should parents knock before they enter a kid's room?
Q. This is a question to all parents I want to know what do u think of the concept of a) knocking on you kids door before entering their room? 2)How do you get them to open up to you more,what if they are constantly texting,do u check their...
A. 22 March 2013: Hi
a)definately knock,it's for mutual reasons,it gives them the grounding for respecting your personal space too
b)no need for a fone at that age, monitor internet use too,have the PC in the hallway or space everyone uses.As for opening up I... (read in full...)
Would you continue to date a guy who you were completely emotionally compatible with but intellectually it's not quite there?
Q. Would you continue to date a guy who you where completely emotionally compatible with but intellectually it's not quite there???? I mean I love him but sometimes he says this that Make me think he's not intelligent. What so ya'll think?Physically ...
A. 22 March 2013: Hi
If his not being your intellectual equal matters then have a fling and move on.
If its so bad you can't have a conversation or share interests and friends then he's not for you is he?... (read in full...)
I can't accept that my husband was in prison for a sex crime but the families all give me a hard time!
Q. I've been married 20 years, my husband has been a troubled person for the majority of those years, we now have 2 adult children. 6 years ago my husband was sentenced to 6 years in jail shortly after his conviction, I learned that he was doing time ...
A. 22 March 2013: Hi
What did the family etc think when you were dating the other man while your husband was in prison? Did they not have something to say then?
Did you visit your husband in prison? Did you not read about his case in the papers at the time or g... (read in full...)
Most of the relationship is great, but ...
Q. Hi folks. I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and half. She's the best girlfriend I've ever had. She's above average in her looks, career, spirituality, fitness... you name it. But I've got a few concerns: 1) Sex. I've had sex with 3 ot...
A. 22 March 2013: Hi
Sounds to me like your looking for perfection,some sort of Stepford wife. Well,your girlfriend is human,like the rest of us.She has alot of stress from work,thats how most are nowadays with the recession going on,nobody wants to lose their in... (read in full...)
He has become 'best friends' with a female co-worker, they text all the time and go to lunch together. If I get upset about it he calls me insecure, but don't I have a right to be in this situation?
Q. My husband and I have been married for six years and he has always had the same job.. Well recently he has started talking about a coworker all the time telling me how great she is. He goes to lunches with her alone and they text back and forth ...
A. 21 March 2013: Hi
I would be annoyed if anyone text my partner at 6am,male or female.
I get the impression she is after him,perhaps he can't see it,who knows.The 'handed in my notice' trick was childish and would anger me.
Why not ask her to dinner, her p... (read in full...)
So why did he visit my workplace at the end of the day, then not speak? Yet then message me at home later?
Q. So this guy who liked me at work (he's not there anymore) turned up at work just as all the kids are leaving (I work in a school) Something went on between him and two members of female staff, so they didn't want to see him, and people generall...
A. 21 March 2013: Hi
Maybe he didn't want the other staff member to know his business.He must have a reputation with women if 2 of them there didn't want to see him.
Also why did the rest seem unhappy he was there,the man he was talking to doesn't seem to ... (read in full...)
He left, and I am desperate to know what to do
Q. So, for the past few months my husband and I have been having alot of problems. He has become very angry, to the point of verbal abuse and in his mind I am his enemy and at least every week he would blow up at me for some thing or another. Really ...
A. 21 March 2013: Hi
It's hard to say what his problem is,but clearly something triggered the change in him in the last few months.
You have done right to tell him to leave,you can't live in an atmosphere like that indefinately.
Give him time and space to co... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 21 March 2013: Hi
It's been around 5 months. If he wanted to meet he would have.
You cancelled that first time but even though you were in the same town you still couldn't manage a quick coffee together before you left.Just to say Hi.
He can have cyber sex... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable with people looking at me
Q. Why do they keep looking at me? I don't understand? So I signed up for the gym a few months ago and diet to help with my self confidence and I've lost a lot weight, toned. Uk size 10 but still curvy with big boobs. I've noticed that the guy...
A. 21 March 2013: Hi
You signed up to the gym to lose weight and gain confidence,you have lost the weight,created a hot new you.
Now develop the confidence.You've worked hard to be who you are so enjoy it.
Don't worry who stares,don't get paranoid, the men *a... (read in full...)
My mother knew my b/f before we got together, and hates him
Q. So I've been seeing a guy for 2 months! He's quite a bit older but ages isn't my issue, he's separated from his wife but not a lot of people know and I've posted on here bout me not wanting to be slagged off at work for being a "home wrecker" even ...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
Your mums reaction seems a bit extreme over an ex colleague who drank a bit - did they work in a hospital or similar?
You don't have to say anything really,not till your very seriously involved with this man
Has he moved out of the mari... (read in full...)
Men: Why is my husband watching porn that involves fat women over 60?
Q. Hi, I'm married woman in my 30s and have a small son. Me and my husband watch porn together, but recently I found out that he is watching a different type of porn when I'm not around, it involves the opposite of me, women that are over 60 and fat. ...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
Probably because it doesn't remind him of the Porn you watch together, its his private moment. It doesn't mean he has gone off you or prefers them... (read in full...)
Do I tell her? And what do I say?
Q. Hi guys, I'm in abit of a dilemma and really need some advice.... I have seen a girl around, I dont really know her that well but I've spoken to her a few times when I've seen her out. She's an artist like me and when we've spoken, there se...
A. 20 March 2013:
Yes... (read in full...)
Why does he reel me in and then pull back? What is even going on?
Q. I guess the only way this would make sense is if i start from the beginning....it seems almost unreal, like something you would only read in a book but its happened, and it still is... SO back in october 2012 I had a random friend request on FB fr...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
Sexual chats,photos,videos and cybersex. With a guy you have never met.Probably all over the internet by now or at the very least shared with his friends
Stop immediately, block him and get him out of your life.
You need to focus on ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her? And what do I say?
Q. Hi guys, I'm in abit of a dilemma and really need some advice.... I have seen a girl around, I dont really know her that well but I've spoken to her a few times when I've seen her out. She's an artist like me and when we've spoken, there se...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
She's dating.
However, you could turn up at her exhibition next month..she has told you about it after all........ (read in full...)
I think my ex got married on a short term relationship, I want to contact her, but should I?
Q. Ok, this will probably be a little complicated. Both my girlfriend and I are middle aged, so, a little older than many of the people who post here. But, I could use some advice on a tricky issue. We had been dating for 1.5 years. I was going th...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
She's a lucky woman finding all these men who want to marry her,fall in love with her, I would love to know her secret
Just give up,she has a husband now.You should keep the contact with her daughter and ex to a minimum too.
I think ... (read in full...)
Why would a man leave a classy woman for a piece of trash?
Q. How can you be in love with someone and barely know them after 2 months of dating all you really do is talk on the phone you. You dont know nothing about this person I would think that first get to know a person before calling them your trophy or ...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
Your clearly hurting and lashing out.
After 2 months you shouldn't really know or care what your Ex does or says to any woman,your only making the hurt last longer for yourself.
You and he are over,done with,he's history.Wise women move ... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 20 March 2013: Hi
Go back on Match with a false profile, see what he is up to on there,I think you *need* to see if he is on there,if he uses same lines on the new 'you'.
You didn't do anything wrong and this man has upset you by his actions.... (read in full...)
I am 3 months pregnant but my boyfriend pulled that "I am scared" crap. What's the next step?
Q. I am confused wether I am being lied to or not by the guy Ive been seeing for 6 mnths and am now 3 mnths pregnant too. When i told him i was pregnant he was happy but we had an argument after being in each others company for too long as we have both ...
A. 19 March 2013: Hi I think his 'I feel scared' means I feel trapped. After dating just 3 months you announce your pregnant - thats a HUGE thing to deal with, way too soon to.But,you two have created a new life. Do you feel ready to cope with a new baby,yo... (read in full...)
Why does my g/f say she'll have sex and then change her mind?
Q. my girl friend never shows any inetrest in sex , i can leave mentioning sex for months.. she dosent say a word. Then once in a while she will say we can have sex tonight but then drops her plans with out saying a word! She never gives me a reason.. ...
A. 19 March 2013: Hi
What keeps you two together?
Does she use sex as a reward or to get something?
It's hard to answer because you *say* you don't mind going without and she doesn't want sex either, so am guessing you actually do mind going without
Sh... (read in full...)
I don't feel my boyfriend is completely open with me and I can't fully trust him. How do I get him to open up?
Q. If you are single or married to a business man please help with this concern of mine. First let me tell you all I have some trust issues that developed earlier on with how my father was with my mom. My mom trusted my dad and when he was out on h...
A. 19 March 2013: hi
Until you sort out your trust issues for good I don't think you will be able to be in a relationship with any man long term
This one definately doesn't sound like the man for you at all ~ because of his lifestyle,the things he keeps from... (read in full...)
Wwhat do you call it when a man goes from one woman to another woman within six weeks?
Q. I wonder what do you call it when a man goes from one woman to another woman within six weeks? But at first he would constantly call her then he quit calling her now he is back calling her. Could he be in love with this woman? Has he already forgo...
A. 19 March 2013: Hi
You don't call it anything you just avoid them
He sounds like he knew her well beforehand and was deciding on a relationship with her and his feelings for her,now he has decided and is free to date her and spoil her or do whatever he want... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 19 March 2013: Hi
Its like buying a used car,the salesman will make you think it's the best thing since sliced bread and perfect for you but once you take delivery you find a million faults and the salesman is suddenly ice cold
He played you,you are not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is calling me selfish because I have no emotional connection with my biological son. It's not even her child so I can't understand why she's bringing this issue up
Q. My girlfriend is calling me selfish because I have no emotional connection with my biological son. I told her about the situation 3 weeks into the relationship but now over a year later she is bringing it up and pressuring me into getting back in ...
A. 19 March 2013: Hi
3 weeks into the relationship it probably didn't register,now a year later,she is thinking more long term and more deeply.Is she pregnant herself?
I finished an 8 month relationship with a man when he told me he had a 6 year old daughter,the... (read in full...)
Guy friend keeps staring at me - does he like me?
Q. I'm at university, and I met this guy through mutual friends before we broke up for Christmas last year. I've noticed he's always staring at me (to the point that it's embarrassing), but, when I talk to him, it seems awkward sometimes although he's ...
A. 18 March 2013: Hi I am surprised a girl like you would even notice him, or bother what he's thinking,so am guessing it's you who is interested in him. Look if he's a player he won't be shy around girls,so there's no reason he wouldn't simply make a move if h... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him? I'm scared of my safety because he's rich and influential!
Q. i like this guy and he loves me too. He is asking me out, he wants me to be his gf and lover. Yes i want that too, i want him to be my bf, but i dont really know, im confused. Because since he asked me this, i've been watching him, he doesn't ...
A. 18 March 2013: Hi I don't think he loves you, not if he behaves as you say. What is it you like about him exactly He is rude to you on the phone,you say he is selfish,your scared of him, so why on earth would you go out with him. Keep looking... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: Hi
You had a one night stand 5 years ago,got pregnant,you told the daddy and he ran a mile.He doesn't even know you kept the baby.
Before anything you need to contact him and let him know he has a daughter.
He may be married with a child,... (read in full...)
I've had sex but never a relationship. How can I have one?
Q. hi i need help as I've been in and out of prisons since 17. I went to a all boys bourding school for behaving problems which I blame no one but me for that. I find it hard to have a relationship. I 've had sex but never a relationship. Can some...
A. 17 March 2013: Hi
Sounds like your ready to grow up.You sound great to me, simply because you blame nobody for your past you take responsibility for it.
I can't say why you have never had a relationship. It starts with liking a girl enough to ask her out,t... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a man is just after sex or if he wants to start something with me
Q. What are the signs that a fella is only after sex as opposed to wanting to start something with you. At my age i should really know but iv a friend who has been after me for years and we are starting to get closer as weve been talking every si...
A. 16 March 2013: Hi
The way I see it is, he's single your single, you have mutual friends and you communicate daily, SO why has he not simply asked you out?
He must know you like him and are attracted.
I would cut back on the texts especially the sexual on... (read in full...)
I'm a single father and I'd like to approach another lady at my son's school, but I don't know how
Q. I have an almost crippling level of shyness which has never really been a problem for me until recently. I am a single father and have been happily so for a while now. Recently whilst collecting my son from school I noticed a woman and really...
A. 15 March 2013: Hi
You can't keep staring, you just need to find a reason to approach her. As you see her daily and at the school there must be a topic you can open a chat with.
Maybe ask her if the Easter holidays start on Friday..or if she knows if they ge... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of getting back with an ex but he will not tell his FWB that its over
Q. I had been dating a guy from work for about 5 months when I broke up with him. I broke up with him because he wasn't treating me the way I deserved to be treated - lying to me, not making me a priority, not being there for me when I needed him, etc. ...
A. 14 March 2013: Hi
You tried for 5 months to make it work with him and have a long list of reasons why it didn't. It was never a happy relationship for you which is why you ended it.
Now add to that this obviously good 'friend' of his and the talking, not tal... (read in full...)
My ex tells people that we were just friends and not in a relationship but we were!
Q. I was in a realtionship for 8months we broke up about 1 1/2 month ago. 3 days later he was talking to someone else I just wonder sometimes did he care for me the way that he said he did. Its just strange how peole ask him about me and he say that we ...
A. 14 March 2013: Hi
He is history, it ended 6 weeks ago. Yes ofcourse he would have cared but now he is showing what an idiot he *really* is. Whether he cared or not is irrelevant, your better off single
Don't worry,wonder or look back,just focus on a very ... (read in full...)
A troubled relationship, I"m pregnant and scared. What do I do?
Q. In this moment I'm very depressed 5 month pregnant and I don't know what can I do....I move from uk in Italy at my Italian boyfriend left everything there and come here, we try from last august for a baby and in November I felt pregnant we were ...
A. 14 March 2013: Hi
The first thing you should do is pick up the phone and ring your Mum, or Aunt or sister. If they know what's happening they can and will help you,the unborn child is their family just as you are.
Do it today.
For the babies sake and your... (read in full...)
Troubling texts from another guy on her phone, but we're about to go on holiday together, what do I do?
Q. Right, so. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years (today funnily enough). We have been very much in love and spend everyday together despite living with parents. A few months ago I saw texts from another guy who she works with. Very...
A. 14 March 2013: Hi
Wow,so sorry to hear this,the timing is rubbish too.
If it was me I would dump her sorry arse,tell her why very clearly and go have the holiday of your life - without her.
She doesn't deserve your love, I doubt she has self esteem issu... (read in full...)
Sleep deprived boyfriend has money for everything except an engagement ring. Should I cut my losses?
Q. My boyfriend is sleep deprived. He gets about 4 hours of sleep per night. It's almost like a badge of honor for him that he works nights. He often talks about "day" people who get up in the morning, go to work and come home and eat dinner like ...
A. 13 March 2013: Hi
I think the man deserves a medal. Working nights messes up everything mind,body,life add to this a 2nd job and he must be totally worn out,suffering sleep deprivation constantly.I don't blame him eating out and buying a car or whatever am just ... (read in full...)
His interest in me has waned. Why is he avoiding giving me a clear answer? How do I get an answer from him?
Q. Hi all, I need a lot of help: I was dating this guy for about 4 months. During our relationship he was great, except he would never compliment me much. However I was really happy with him and started to fall for him badly. He broke off o...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
I don't know that you will get an answer. Yes he owes you an explanation but as he told you months ago he didn't want you as a girlfriend,in a way he is just being 'single'.
You chose to continue seeing him for another 6 months just as a... (read in full...)
Help! I'm confused - have I done the right thing? If I call him again what should I say to him?
Q. I recently met a guy from a dating site, we hit it off straight away. He lived in another state but was moving home to my state within a week. We spoke in the phone for about 9 hours in the first 3 days and the day he came home we caught up tha...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
It was all way too fast the whole thing and him telling you he was in love, big red flag.
He didn't just tell one lie either, whats more your colleague knew somehow that he had met a woman on the Friday, how she knew I don't know. Was it her... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
Yes he has slowed down which is good. I think all you can do is carry on as you are, definately don't go to his place till your ready. If he doesn't want to keep going out for meals or dancing then there are cheaper alternatives for dates.
... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
Wow yes he is a bit insistant and OTT.
You should have gone for a coffee,it's only an innocent 'get to know you' thing, a chat.When you gave him your number so quickly you showed an equal interest so I think he is hanging on to that.
I... (read in full...)
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