He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
Sounds like neither of you were over keen for the 5th date, first he can't make it till 5pm, so that cuts out an afternoon walk really. Then you text him *your* not free at 5pm now.
It doesn't shout enthusiasm so its clearly still pretty cas... (read in full...)
Help! I'm confused - have I done the right thing? If I call him again what should I say to him?
Q. I recently met a guy from a dating site, we hit it off straight away. He lived in another state but was moving home to my state within a week. We spoke in the phone for about 9 hours in the first 3 days and the day he came home we caught up tha...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
It was all way too fast the whole thing and him telling you he was in love, big red flag.
He didn't just tell one lie either, whats more your colleague knew somehow that he had met a woman on the Friday, how she knew I don't know. Was it her... (read in full...)
I am facing some major lifestyle decisions. How do I decide what will be the right direction and actions to help me go forward?
Q. Hi Everyone, I need help please. I need to make a decision about my home soon but I'm worried that it will have a knock on effect onto any potential relationship. I live in London in an area that I've been in for 15 years now. Eleven years...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
So you put everything on the line to do your Phd,but now can't find work in your chosen field,so, will need to sell your home ? Is that right..
Why not rent out your childs room until you find work,if they have left home it's empty I ass... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting? What are the tips to help me become more positive about my life?
Q. I'm nearing my twenties and have been single all my life. Anyone I have liked haven't liked me back, anyone who does like me either want me for one night only or 'just as a friend'. I'm starting to feel very lonely and unwanted. Maybe i'm over reac...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
When I hit 14 I had lads queuing up,this lasted years,I flitted about like a butterfly dating and moving on,could never understand it as I never went looking.I was proposed to at 16 but said I was too young.I was still a virgin. Then I met some... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
Yes he has slowed down which is good. I think all you can do is carry on as you are, definately don't go to his place till your ready. If he doesn't want to keep going out for meals or dancing then there are cheaper alternatives for dates.
... (read in full...)
Why does this guy and his friends watch me all the time?
Q. Why does he and his friends watch me all the time? So there's this guy that I really like and he doesn't speak to me much. He's friendly and chatty with everyone but acts so quiet and so calm around me. I asked him a few questions the ot...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
Probably they think you have a cute arse, so they watch as you walk past
Why don't you just say to him 'So, where do you go at night/weekend' and he should pick up your interested.If he is,then he will make a move.... (read in full...)
Are people that take risks better off than those who play it safe?
Q. Everybody is against him (Save for friends who support me), yet i love him by everybody i mean my family they dont like him because he has a baby mama However we love each other. its depressing sometimes.. i have been telling them that its just...
A. 11 March 2013: hi
Your an adult in love, he makes you very happy, I don't see a risk.
No it's not great your folks don't approve,maybe they saw you in a different situation,can see his obligations to his child/children being a problem in future.Only time... (read in full...)
Could he actually be interested? Do guys after a FWB relationship usually make a point of keeping in touch every day, making 'dates' in advance?
Q. Thanks to a lack of willing participants, a casual acquaintance and I ended up having a night out at the pub. We're both single and ended up going back to his place. We had an amazing few hours and crashed out. He was supposed to be heading out f...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
You have offered no strings sex,he is not going to turn it down. It's a novelty right now and he probably can't believe his luck,is still on his best behaviour.
*If* your happy to continue as his free sex,and for your needs and can guarante... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I don't believe in friends with benefits?
Q. I met this guy online, know him for 2 months, after a week emailing, he gave me his number, then he called, after another week he ask me out, i accept it, he was nice to talk. Then i got surgery, i could not see him for some time, but he will always ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
If you don't want friends with benefits,then do not go to his apartment.
You barely know him and it puts you in a vulnerable situation because he only has a studio so you have to lie on the bed. It gives out the wrong message.
Ther... (read in full...)
Broke up. No sleep for three days. Very troubled relationship. How is the best way to handle this situation?
Q. My boyfriend of 18 months finished with me on Thursday via FaceBook and won’t speak to me or see me. He said he's had enough of me putting him down and shouting at him, but I haven’t, yes we have had arguments but I don’t think I’ve been as horr...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
There is nothing you CAN do, he has finished it. To be honest from your description your incompatable anyway. You have tried living together and it didn't really work out,thats a good test.
You can love people but just be so different or at ... (read in full...)
He sent me a naked photo with a comment about his penis. I was unimpressed. Shall I just give up? What do you think he's playing at?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this guy for nearly a month now. We had three dates only. First one, we just got to know each other over coffee and it was good, we liked each other! Then, before the second date, he wooed me by texts, we then saw each ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
What a plonker. Yes he does want sex, don't know if that's all he wants.If I read right you invited him to your place for the last date,kissed alot and he left - frustrated.
He then sent *the* photo and message, which made it crystal clear... (read in full...)
3 days after our breakup my ex was dating someone else. Could he really care about her?
Q. My ex has now a new woman in his life we split up almost two months ago and three days later he was dating someone else. Could he really care about her as much as I am hearing from other people or is this just a rebound relationship. I was told they ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
Sounds like he already knew her,had her lined up, so he finished things with you in order to develop the relationship.
Forget them, there will be a man out there for you who is right, he just wasn't *the* one. x... (read in full...)
Breakup has left me heartbreak and I'm not coping. How can I cope?
Q. Hi Can you help me. I am in week two of being totally and utterly heartbroken... pretty mich the same as all of the above... he was unhappily married, chased me for 2 years and I said no, he left her (even though he had been cheating on her ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
You CAN cope, his wife,the mother of his children did. She had to get on with her life while he lived with you.
The man has a history of being a cheat so you must have known he would go one day.He chased,he won,he left.
Now, toughen up... (read in full...)
Do I leave my b/f because my biological clock is ticking and he's not even close to being ready for children?
Q. My partner is five years younger than me (I'm 33, he's 28). Before we got together, I told him I was worried about the age gap as I don't think I'm willing to leave trying to have children later than 36, as I don't think it's safe. He said he wanted ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
He is nowhere near ready, he can't support himself financially so bringing a very expensive child into the equasion would be foolish.he isn't 30 yet so has years to establish himself and have children.
If however *you* have the financial me... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a baby and I already have 2. If he spends time with my kids will he get over this?
Q. We have been together for 9 months and now my boyfriend has confessed that he wants a baby. Problem is, I already have 2, and have no inclination to have any more. My kids love him to bits. We don't live together, but do u think if he spent more ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
This is a dealbreaker,you need to talk.
Though it's way too soon to think about actually *having* children together,you don't even share a home and its only been 9months.
You need to make it very clear a baby is NOT on your agenda, that... (read in full...)
I feel like one of my best pals no longer needs me. What is the best way to deal with this?
Q. Hi. I feel like one of my best pals doesn't need me anymore and couldn't care less about me. Since he's had his new gf neither me nor any of our mates have really seen him. At first I understood this as at the start of a relationship you...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
Its a mistake girls make usually, cutting out their mates for the new boyfriend
Could be he just doesn't want to go out drinking with the lads,maybe he feels like he has been there,done that. I would stop asking him, leave him to his new l... (read in full...)
I want to get a tattoo but I know my mother won't understand. How can I explain to her how important it is to me?
Q. I'm at this point in life where I have a lot of things on my heart and mind. In spite of that I really need advice about one of the ''little'' things. I want very badly to get a tattoo, even though I am well above the age of consent I am ups...
A. 8 March 2013: Hi
My daughter surprised me by booking me in for a tattoo on my 45th b'day. It's discreet,hidden when dressed and I usually forget its there.
If you want one,do it, it can be various places where it doesn't show,what your Mother thinks is... (read in full...)
I overhear people saying 'why is she with him' because I'm just an average guy whereas she is beautiful inside and out, should I ask my girlfriend what she saw in me?
Q. I have been dating this beautiful girl for abt a year now!she's nice,kinda,a well educated woman she's working at a hospital..she's beautiful not only on the outside but also the inside and that's what attracted me to her! But the only thing that ...
A. 8 March 2013: Hi
Just shrug it off, wink and say 'why dya think she's with me'
She is clearly a great judge of character,she loves you,is proud of you, why worry what these stupid people think ?
I know it's hard to ignore but don't let these comments... (read in full...)
He abandoned me in a strange city!
Q. I could do with some wisdom/isight/davice/thoughts on this...thanks Last weekend it was arranged that myself and a man I having been casually seeing on and off (he lives in another country) would meet in Milan. This involved me flying over from...
A. 7 March 2013: Hi
As soon as he tried to get out of meeting by saying he was short of money alarm bells would have rung.
It was just a casual relationship,you don't even live in the same country. You flew to another country to meet and he let you down big tim... (read in full...)
Money isssues between my partner and me
Q. My girlfriend and I are having issues over finance.The circumstances are as follows: I run my own business, which has suffered a lot in the recession.I still make a profit, but not vast amounts.I probably earn just above the national average ...
A. 7 March 2013: Hi
For her own sake she needs to be looking into working 30+ hours because once the girls finish education she will need to be working more than 3 days for financial reasons.I don't see why either of her children can't work more hours, mine and... (read in full...)
He prefers the internet and porn over sex with me!
Q. I really need help. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend almost 4 years. When we met i thought i found my dream guy. He spends a lot of time on internet. We had sex but very seldom. But he stoped having sex with the exuses not to make me ...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
What should you do? Walk away.
He appears to have no interest in improving the relationship.He is not meeting your needs,he is just plain selfish.You have tried talking,you have tried to make it work.Leave him to his online porn.
And lea... (read in full...)
New baby last year. So how can I convince my husband that I need less visitors at home?
Q. Dear cupid, I am at the end of my tether with visitors in my house! I had a baby last year and since then I have never had any peace. I'm feeling overwhelmed by too many people always around here. I feel like my home isn't my own and I am running ...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
I don't think he will see your point of view,he likes his life as it is.He doesn't care what you want. It sounds more like the local doss house than your home.Do none of these people go to work?
It must cost a small fortune to feed and make... (read in full...)
I'm dating my best friend but there aren't any sparks for me. Is it because we've known each other for so long?
Q. I posted on here a while ago about a dilemma I had. My best friend (who's male) told me he had feelings for me. I didn't want to ruin the friendship and didn't know how I felt about having a relationship with him. I know him inside out, we've been ...
A. 6 March 2013: hi
I think he's just too familiar,it's like you've been married for 30 years instead of 6 months into a relationship. He holds no surprises,he's comfortable.Your in a rut.
Maybe you should try a few new things,inject some spontinaiety.Sur... (read in full...)
He won't tell his fan base about me or us! I'm tired of the drama.
Q. Hey everyone, Its been about 3 months now and I'm dating this guy who is a public figure and has recently shot to fame and since he's young has this huge female fan following!he hasn't been public about me,cause his PR and his entrouge think it...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
If it was me I would leave him to his PR machine and go find 'the boy next door'.
It's up to him to put his foot down and be seen with you and have it known your his girl,if he doesn't want to,then his career is more important right ... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
She told you thankyou for the V.day card and single rose, she told you it made her feel a bit 'overwhelmed' and she wanted space.She is away again on vacation.
You don't come across as 'just wanting fun', you have alot of feelings for her... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
She told you thankyou for the V.day card and single rose, she told you it made her feel a bit 'overwhelmed' and she wanted space.She is away again on vacation.
You don't come across as 'just wanting fun', you have alot of feelings for her... (read in full...)
Was it just a surprise one night stand? Or could it lead to more?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I have been single for about 9 months after a bad break up of a long term rship. I had been hung up on meeting someone but then decided not to let this be my focus and and then suddenly i started meetin...
A. 6 March 2013: Hi
I would just try and smile then put it out of your mind. You met a stranger,had sex,ships that pass in the night. He probably thinks you do the same every weekend,he probably does, if he gets lucky.
Alchohol is a great aphrodisiac..nex... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 5 March 2013: Hi
Better yes, I like the amateur dramatics story and the career update. You could try and condense it, a shorter introduction to you, so the women can ask questions. Also never appear to be so busy with friends,family and other commitme... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
Hmmm its not bad,just bland, I would question 'living life to the full' and 'relaxing in front of a film' - in the same paragraph too.
May I suggest *demonstrating* your sense of humour, mention your most embarassing moment maybe...or intro... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my boyfriend even though I am not physically attracted to him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He loves me a lot and wants to be with me forever. I'm not sure if i want to stay with him though. His character is great, loving, caring, clever, honest etc but i don't feel that sexually attra...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
It's only been 9 months so you really don't have to make any long term choices for ages yet.
As for all his bad points, how would you feel if he had a list of dislikes about you. Would you try to change for him do you think?
If you... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
You haven't been dumped, you were/are not in a relationship.Also,you sent her a Valentines card,you didn't spend time with her over a romantic dinner so I assume you didn't even see her that day?
Now she is away on holiday and your just so... (read in full...)
I like this guy but think he has a girlfriend. How can I get over him?
Q. How could I have been so stupid:( I actually thought he liked me.? He'd watch me all the time and look away as soon as I look at him. Always friendly and chatty to everyone else but me. He'd stare into my eyes and I actually thought th...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
You just got carried away in fantasy land thats all, you had a 'crush'. Ime sure we have all had crushes.
Just decide thats enough of your time he has had.As your clearly ready to meet somebody then start a spring clean of your life and ge... (read in full...)
For mothers -- would you appreciate this sort of heartfelt message?
Q. This is more of a personal question than relationship wise. If there are any mothers on this website, this question would be for you! It's mothers day this sunday coming and I wont be home for it because of university, so instead I want to send s...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
I would be crying my eyes out and thanking *YOU* for being my daughter, it's a lovely gesture. x... (read in full...)
My partner won't say he was breaking up with me but told his friend I was stalking him.
Q. My partner just upped and left and I don't know how to deal with it. We never lived together and the last few months had been hard as he had to move away for work - only 150 miles away though so we went from seeing eachother 4 or 5 times a week to ...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
This is a gutless coward your dealing with. Its clear its over and he has moved on.Your not going to get closure or reasons,he doesn't have the balls.
Delete and block him from everything, stop thinking about him,checking on him.... (read in full...)
Met ex at a beach and received flowers. Are we meant to be?
Q. My ex saw me driving along as i was on my way to the beach. Then he turned around and found me at the beach and asked if I wanted to go for a walk. It was really nice, and I was going surfing, so he went back home and got his board and we were both ...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
Run a mile, make it plain it is over,by phone.This is not some romantic coincidence it's him planning every move and stalking you.
Start to record every thing he does,every call, the name of the delivery people for the flowers the lot.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like to talk about the future. Is she thinking of leaving me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and we always a talk about getting a flat or something together and how great it would be to spend even more time together. However, when I bring up the idea of getting engaged in the near ...
A. 4 March 2013: Hi
I think the 3 weeks not seeing her then her deciding to go shopping instead of meeting you - is a warning she is stepping back and maybe reconsidering the whole relationship.
She wanted a devoted boyfriend but not one who wants 'happy eve... (read in full...)
What's changed? I'm attractive and the same weight etc. Yet guys have stopped asking me for dates, since I turned 40. Is it me? Why the change?
Q. I'm a pretty woman in my early 40s. I look very young, not my opinion, but others say it. I have a great job, friends, my only child is away in college. I decided not to have a boyfriend after my divorce few years ago, as I couldnt fit one ...
A. 25 February 2013: Hi
Everyones getting older! If it's a relationship you want then you don't need to *just* see the lust in their eyes.
You need a guy like the one you met at the New Years party.Build from that,ask him out,go somewhere like a sporting or musi... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with our second child but now he's hardly talking to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years ad we have a daughter who is currently one. We had her kinda early in our relationship but we both agreed that was fine. Now pregnant again and after I got pregnant he stopped wanting to touch ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi
Well his life is you and your daughter, now you have another on the way.
Suddenly his life (and yours) is set out.Two children,a girlfriend and a ton of responsibilty.Not the fun of dating,holidays, new clothes,cars and lads weekends.
... (read in full...)
Received advice before, but still feeling bad . . .
Q. I have posted a couple of questions on this site and I received a lot of good answers that built me up. However, I am still in the same place I was when I started posting because for every kind answer I received here there were others on the ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi
I don't know what your original post was but sounds like your back to square one.
You say others on the internet and in real life reinforced why you were feeling bad.Why do you let them?
You and you alone are responsible for how you ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with our second child but now he's hardly talking to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for two years ad we have a daughter who is currently one. We had her kinda early in our relationship but we both agreed that was fine. Now pregnant again and after I got pregnant he stopped wanting to touch ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi
I think it's because of the 2nd pregnancy, that *IS* stressful, another mouth to feed,clothe etc another little person and your daughter is only one years old.Perhaps he is feeling overwhelmed,especially if it was unplanned.
You have only... (read in full...)
Would a guy text you every day if he just wanted sex?
Q. Hi, Would a guy text you every single day if he was just after sex. Me and this guy ( i know him yrs as were in the same group of friends years) had a drunken kiss at christmas. He had been trying it on a few times over the last couple of y...
A. 24 February 2013: hi
He just wants sex...he's trying hard too, so thinks you will cave in,your a challenge
Don't bother with him, he has a girlfriend and I don't envy her.... (read in full...)
My married lover won't leave his wife for me. Its not fair!
Q. I am deeply in love with a married man that doesn't love me back. Why do all of these lucky bitc*es get their married boyfriend to love them. Let me guess its all about looks?? Only beautiful and attractive women can get the man to fall for them. ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi
It's not ALL about looks, it's integrity too and so many different things.
*He* knows you will see a married man for sex, that you don't care about his wife or children. What does that tell him about you?
*He* is a liar and a cheat who w... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
Wow yes he is a bit insistant and OTT.
You should have gone for a coffee,it's only an innocent 'get to know you' thing, a chat.When you gave him your number so quickly you showed an equal interest so I think he is hanging on to that.
I... (read in full...)
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