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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I honestly don't know what to do I dearly love my friend I didn't mean to but am so in love with himLast year he confided in me he was very unhappy with his girlfriend he said they had a lot of problems and she had emotional issues and he always seemed miserablePlease don't judge but inadvertently we became close and kissed a couple of times I've never felt so happy I really thought he felt the same then he pulled away and said he felt guilty to leave her because if these problems he couldn't talk about I was devastated And acted silly becoming weepy and cryingEventually I gained control and we have some friendship now although we only text. - he's worked somewhere else for a while so haven't seem him for ages I miss him do muchThe other day he said Things is ok.......... I just need some time to sort things out at home. I know in your eyes, that will not happen. But to me I like to take things gradually to avid maximum damage. Everyone have their own way to deal with things, either that is a right way or not. We do what we feel comfortabe to resolve our own issues. You got my point? I will always stay in touch and be a good friends. It's that still not enough ?I have no idea if he still feels anything but he also saidDon't worry about it. In life, what meant to be yours and it will be yours. It may take sometime, but eventually it will come with surprised. I asked him jokingly if that applied to everything -I meant him and he said yesI'm do confused. ;(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): He has a girlfriend. Regardless of whether they have issues as a couple and whatever he has told you about their relationship - they are still together. Very few people stay in a relationship that makes them miserable, so you have to assume they have some sort of bond. So where does that leave you? Basically you have to wean yourself off him because you are only going to be hurt. I know it is very hard, but do your best to move on.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (9 May 2013):
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He has left where you work so you have distance between you, now delete his number and texts.
He is not free, he has a girlfriend. When/if he becomes single, well, he knows where to find you.
Go out and meet others who *are* free to date, you don't have to go to Bars, the evenings are light now, go for a run or walk, even buy a bike and cycle, invite friends for a picnic - you just don't know who you will meet
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): Yeah please read haven't been meeting up "kissing" as first poster says it was unintentional and never happened since
I'm not a horrible person and I do love him and he is a really nice person everyone likes him so please understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): Have you stopped and thought about his girlfriend whilst you were meeting up, kissing and being wrapped up in your own emotions? His a grown man if he wanted to be with you he would be, sounds like by keeping you hanging on to be his security blanket IF he and very unlikely breaks up with his current girlfriend. And would you ever feel completely comfortable with a man that is breaking his girlfriends trust by bring emotionally intimate with you and sharing problems he should be talking about with his own patner. I understand you can't help falling for someone but you've put yourself in this situation by allowing yourself to become close to a unavailable man, you have to also take responsibility for your own emotions. I would cut contact and find someone who is available because believe me if his done this to you and her he will have no problems doing the same to you if you began a relationship with him however "special" if make you feel now.
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