Pregnant and he finishes with me?? What the...
Q. Hi everyone. This may be a bit long-- but please bare with me. I'm very shocked. I found out yesterday I am pregnant. I'm 24 and very fortunate to be in a good well paying job with a good maternity package also. I have been with my boyfriend for...
A. 23 April 2013: Hi
He clearly isn't planning on being a dad so this shock has probably made him think you have done it on purpose, which by the sounds of it his colleagues had predicted you would.
I know it's a shock for you too,not planned, but you welcome ... (read in full...)
I prioritised my exams over diner date with GF, was I wrong?
Q. I wanted to share my little problem im having with my gf. On sunday me and my gf organised a dinner date with her friend at 7.30pm. That day i had my cpr and first aid certification school untill 6pm. So i spent all day doing cpr certific...
A. 23 April 2013: Hi I can understand her being a little upset, but it's just one of those things that happens in life. You couldn't have left the exam so even though the text didn't send your girlfriend knew where you were. Unless you make a habit of let... (read in full...)
He seems to be overreacting -- could there be more to the story?
Q. i met this man online almost two weeks ago and after exchanging phone numbers we clicked instantly. We were both smitten by each other texting all day calling every night telling each other how much we missed each other it was crazy we had such good ...
A. 22 April 2013: Hi
Yup he just wanted sex and because he had managed to hook you with his calls,texts and an early meet - at your place - he thought you were gagging and would 'put out'. But you didn't so he's gone now.
You have learned now that on no accou... (read in full...)
Is this friendship, mind games or more?
Q. Is this friendly behaviour or more? Mr A mids 40s, i am mid 20s. Both single work together. He does not do this with any one else. He throws things at me then will tease i assault him e.g hoola hoops, my sweet bag, paper clip , soft things an...
A. 22 April 2013: Hi
He is flirting but hasn't asked you out so could be an ego boost for him or maybe he thinks you would reject him. His behaviour, throwing stuff at you, is what children do to get attention, that's his midlife crisis showing.
The fact you ... (read in full...)
How do you help someone who doesn't want help?
Q. My sister is in her mid-20s. Five years ago, she was in a relationship for 3 months. When it ended, she fell into a depression, which she has allowed herself to remain in ever since. This means that she has spent 20 times more grieving the end of ...
A. 21 April 2013: Hi
She has had 5 years wallowing in self-pity which is way too long - she clearly likes playing the victim.
What would she be like if something truly awful happened to somebody she cared about - go into life-long mourning, dressed in black... (read in full...)
My controlling Aunt wants us to change the date of our wedding. How can I deal with her reaction?
Q. Recent events have upset me and dare say ruined my wedding ...Please read... My aunt (my dad’s sister) has always been a bit controlling. I remember when I was a child she'd always have tantrums and cause arguments if things didn't go her wa...
A. 21 April 2013: Hi
I can totally understand you wanting to elope. However getting things into perspective
Your aunt is in another country and is only one guest (plus husband) - the rest of your guests can make your wedding and will be only to pleased to be th... (read in full...)
Is what my sister charges for babysitting unreasonable?
Q. I've got a bit of a dilemma around family and babysitting. I have four children. When I go for a night out I ask my 19 year old sister to look after them. She said ok and I used to give her £20-30 for sitting them. Sometimes it would be at night ...
A. 20 April 2013: Hi
I advertised at the local College for a student on the childcare course when I needed a babysitter and found a great girl.I would pay £10 for an evening and cab fare home if it was late,bus fare if it's not.I always got mine home safe.Als... (read in full...)
Pregnant and my BF says its over, is this a patern as he did teh same in the first pregnancy!
Q. Hi everyone, i've been in a relationship with my partner for two and a half years now. we have a one year old together. I am now 7 months through my second pregnancy. However on monday i was shopping with him and went to hold his hand and he stopped ...
A. 20 April 2013: Hi
Two pregnancies in two and a half years is ALOT for anyone 18-21 to cope with.
He sure doesn't sound mature enough to be a father if changing his Facebook status is how he ends a relationship with the mother of his children.
As ... (read in full...)
Broken hearted over a truly nice guy who backed way off by overhanging things on his own without talking to me
Q. I started dating a man i have liked for years, about 3 months ago. He knew I had kids and my age (43) when we started dating. We live about an hour away, don't see each other alot, but texted every day. Things have been great, he's said i am ...
A. 19 April 2013: Hi
AuntyEms right,he doesn't know what he wants.He likes you but not the package by the sounds of it.Yes,he may have known beforehand but is in the 'once bitten,twice shy' zone now.
I think he is being fair to you by backing off, if he carri... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being judged about my lifestyle
Q. hey all i just need some opinions so here we go im a 23 year old girl who was in a relationship with a guy a year younger than i. we had a baby together and he did not step up to the plate to be a good dad. just a typical dead beat, yes he love his ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi
You say you moved in with the married man, but then say you live at home with your Mum. So he actually moved into your Mums with you. No wonder he can afford to spoil you and be generous.As he earns a pretty decent living why haven't you got ... (read in full...)
Does these questions mean something?
Q. Why is he asking me all these questions? Is weird? So I was hanging out with this cute guy that I've liked for months now. and he said I'm very mysterious, why am I like that? I said to him I don't know. He'd just have to figure it out once ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi
I assume he knows your single so he may wonder why you haven't flirted,it depends where you meet,if its work or social. He is asking a lot of probing questions trying to understand you better though.
You gave answers inviting him to ... (read in full...)
Things are going nowhere with my crush and I want him to ask me out!
Q. I totally have the hots for the lifeguard at my pool. Yet I'm so nervous and naturally shy I havent had a proper conversation with him as of yet. Every session I attend and he's on shift, we have so much eye contact! He smiles, i smile. It's ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi
I guess he is used to seeing girls all day with his job, maybe he isn't allowed to approach female swimmers, he is at work after all.
SO, the ball is in your court, you could pretend to be in difficulty in the water, or ask what time lane-s... (read in full...)
How do you leave a step child that is 5, but the relationship is a dead end
Q. How do I leave my stepchild, who is just 5 years old and adores me? I just can't take any more. My relationship and life are terrible. Partner isn't violent or drunk or anything, it's just all the controlling and weirdness. His brother hates me. ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi
I can see how difficult this is for you, leaving the child when you so clearly care.
Unfortunately the child has 2 parents, mum and dad and it's down to them to be responsible for his well-being.
You could try and explain in simple terms ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex burn every bridge possible during the break up
Q. My ex-boyfriend burned so many bridges during the break up. For example taking expensive furniture, not paying my grandpa his $1500 back, called the landlord on me, took my computer knowing I'm a student,and he cut my cell phone off. Only for me to ...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi Sounds like the actions of either a very nasty and bitter man or a nutjob. Either way your well shot of him, he clearly pulled the wool over your eyes for over four years.... (read in full...)
GF sister keeps making a pass at me, HELP
Q. i am 30 my girlfriend is 22 we got a good relationship but her sister keeks hitting on me the more she dose the more i think about it but she is 14 help me...
A. 18 April 2013: Hi She is what is commonly known as 'jail-bait'. Avoid her and speak to your girlfriend about it as soon as possible. Chances are at 14 she has a crush and is exercising her new found feminine allure for the first time and your the object o... (read in full...)
The Cheating young Husband and an older wife?
Q. I have been with my husband for four and a half years he has cheated 3 times and treats me like crap, will his cheating ever stop, is it my fault? He is 25 and I am 50....
A. 18 April 2013: Hi He's 25 and behaving like he is still young free and single. He has all the home comforts and you waiting while he sows his wild seed. It's not your 'fault' he can't keep it in his trousers, he made vows and is knowingly breaking them. At a... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time trying to save this marriage?
Q. My husband of 13 years had affair that went on for 6 months. She didnt know he was married and he never told her. Didnt. Take long for me to figure out what he was doing and i never left our home all info i learned thru different things. Its been 6 ...
A. 17 April 2013: Hi
If he is refusing counselling and won't talk about the affair, then there isn't much you can do.
He is still contacting women for sexual relief so what's the point in carrying on?
Rather than trying to fix things,save his marriage... (read in full...)
My ex is moving away and I want her to know I'd go too but I've called 20 times and she doesn't answer!
Q. I really hope you can help. My girlfriend dumped me at Christmas and I've been hoping beyond hope that we would eventually get back together. I've kept in touch with her throughout this time even though she's made it very difficult and has ...
A. 17 April 2013: Hi
She wants to move on - alone. You calling her 20 times in a morning will have made her even more determined.
She ended things months ago because she did not want to be with you. You really do have to come to terms with that and accept it's ... (read in full...)
Married coworker loves hugging talking to me but won't leave his wife. What is his game?
Q. How can I make him feel differently? Ok i am infatuated/obsessed with/in love with a male colleague. I put all 3 as I am not entirely sure what it is yet. I work with him everyday very closely. In fact we cannot avoid being in close proximity...
A. 17 April 2013: Hi
The simple fact is he *is* married, he has a wife at home.That means he is off limits to you or any other woman.
Do you really want to wreck his life,his wifes life, probably his job too, simply because you have a crush on him.It's a dange... (read in full...)
I kicked him out for cheating and now he's begging to come back
Q. I am 35 years old and have been with my husband for 7 years .. i found out 8 months after our marriage that he was cheating on me even before we got married... I forgave him.. in Sept 2012 i lost my baby at 6 months pregnant and 2 weeks later fo...
A. 17 April 2013: Hi
Its enough to cope with,losing the baby, he should have been there supporting you,not looking for other women, he is no man and the relationship has no future,he will never change.
Your right you can't go on like this - leave him to beg... (read in full...)
I'm losing my hair because of stress. Will it grow back?
Q. Please help. Last year my husband left me. First I heard was by email from his lawyer as I was overseas at the time on a short break. To cut story short i came back he had taken most things. We had been married 20 years he has not spoken to me ...
A. 17 April 2013: Hi
Yes and it does grow back. See your doctor if you haven't already, have a chat and explain about your hair and the circumstances.
Also a trip to the hairdressers to have it restyled will can make it less obvious and you will feel better abou... (read in full...)
During Sex I pick a younger version of my 50 year BF
Q. Is it strange that i think of my boyfriend's younger self during sex?. I'm seeing a man who is 21 years older than i am. I am 29, and he is 50. I have seen a video of him when he was 29 ( so, that's like my age now lol ). He was very handsome and ...
A. 16 April 2013: Hi
If neither of you mind then it doesn't matter if it's strange if your imagining a younger version of him or not.
I would question your choice of man though as your fantasising about him when he is younger during sex.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my partner's manipulative ex?
Q. Hope you can offer important advice please. Myself and my partner have been together 2 years, he has 2 wonderful children who I love to bits. He has been broken up from his ex 4 years so we met a long time after they broke up. We have recentl...
A. 15 April 2013: Hi
She sounds lonely and bitter and has already alienated one son so if she carries on the same way she will lose them both before long.
All you can do is continue to support your man and wait. They are his children and it's his ex, so he ha... (read in full...)
My husband is ill and no longer interested in sex. Help!
Q. My husband has a lot of issues with his heart and lungs (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). He's only 66 but acts like 80! He does not want me to show him any interest in sex or anything and acts like he wants to give it all up. help! ...
A. 15 April 2013: Hi
My father had this and was extremely debilitated. As the illness progressed he was less and less active which was extremely hard for him after a life 'doing' stuff all the time. He got very down about it.
Do what you can to learn more about... (read in full...)
Should I ask the guy for a second date or assume he's not interested?
Q. Hi I had a date with a guy on Friday night. It went well, we had a good talk, laugh etc and have things in common. I find him attractive, but don't know if he feels the same way. I don't know if the chemistry was there. After a few drinks in a ...
A. 15 April 2013: Hi
It was a first date and you went first for drinks and then a meal. If he didn't like you then I don't think he would have extended the date with the food.
Relax, he sounds as though he enjoyed himself. Give him a few days and see if he co... (read in full...)
I don't see myself marrying him, but he's good for now, what do you think?
Q. Hey guys! So me and my bf has been together for almost 2 years now and we have an amazing relationship. He's only a year younger than me but i feel like he has so much growing up to do and it literally drives me crazy! My biggest mistake was taking ...
A. 15 April 2013: Hi
You can help him by stopping the help you give, so he can learn from his mistakes. He is not unusual,lots of lads try to juggle and find it hard to focus at his age.
You have said yourself *you* plan on being a different and better person as... (read in full...)
My Crush always has a hard on around me and does nothing to hide it.
Q. I've noticed that my crush tends to have a hard on when we hang out and he stands in my face and it becomes very obvious to me that he has a hard on. I don't look at it cause I know is there. Is almost as if he wants me to know he has an erection. ...
A. 15 April 2013: hi
He must be stood up close if you know it's there without looking,so yea maybe he is turned on when your touching.
It's only happened twice but he must have sex on his brain when it does, so I would avoid him unless that's all your after.H... (read in full...)
He proposed, I turned him down. I want to be honest to him and I don't want to lose him. What is the best way to approach this?
Q. Boyfriend for 4 years, thinking of getting married, is it a good idea? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now. I say almost because almost every year we break up for a a month or 2. We have had to go through a lot together a...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi
I would leave him alone,he has new friends is going out and socialising, meeting new people.
He had waited for you to decide what you wanted and all you did was date,live with a guy,that finished,then you had rubbish sex with #2.
That... (read in full...)
Going through divorce, having an affair but this guy wants to just slow it down.
Q. I was in an abusive marriage for a long time and started an affair with someone I'd been attracted to for a while. This person was a good friend to me and also a confidante. Very quickly my husband and I separated and are going through an ...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi
He has agreed to go public, yet he wants to step back till the divorce is over, be a friend rather than your lover, so I don't get why he didn't mind everyone knowing.
Perhaps he doesn't want people knowing you two have been having an *affai... (read in full...)
Should I contact him after 1st date?
Q. One of my clients (I'm a cosmetologist) set me up with her boyfriends friend. He never really texted me a lot but when he did he seemed nice. She informed me that he's really shy so I figured that's why he doesn't text a lot. He asked me out to ...
A. 14 April 2013: Hi
One text wouldn't do any harm, but if he doesn't respond leave it at that. I wouldn't be surprised if you hear back though so maybe just ask if he's free for lunch again... (read in full...)
Every time we have an argument its always my fault according to him!
Q. My partner and I are having a rough patch, "Bob" says it'd because I am needy and I always want more than he can give. He's 28, I'm 22. I have two children, not his, but he loves them like his own. He says I need to have no expectations of him and ...
A. 13 April 2013: Hi
"he says I need to have no expectations of him"
There's your answer, he is not your partner, you see him one night a week on his terms, that's you being his no strings sex.
How can he love your children when he sees them for what, a fe... (read in full...)
Is this a relaxed body language or a sign that they like your body language
Q. I am in my 40's and sat next to a man in a pub and the guy is sitting normally at a table with a group of you all about the same age. After a while he turns his body to face slightly towards you to spread out leaning his back to the side wall of ...
A. 13 April 2013: Hi
It means he's had a drink or two and is chilled, he is confident and at ease with himself.
I have found that men will lean in when they talk, touch my hand here n there and the message is finally loud and clear they are interested when ... (read in full...)
Does sex really matter?
Q. I have a brilliant boyfriend, he really is amazing. We have been together over a year and have lived together most of that time (we met in student accomondation.)We are both twenty and lost our virginities to each other, and I can't imagine a more ...
A. 13 April 2013: Hi
Does he just not get turned on by you, or is it sex in general? Did he ever watch porn or read mags,was he curious beforehand about sex.
As your his first he will be discovering himself what sex means to him, clearly not much, maybe he n... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of filling for divorce because my husband never backs me when his friend disrespects me!
Q. I am 50year old woman who has been married for 19 years. My husband isis a retiree. We have a 16 year old autistic son. Since the beginning of my marriage, my husband's best friend has been a thorn in our marriage. His best friend is a 70 year old ...
A. 12 April 2013: Hi
Sounds like he has made his choice, he puts his friend first. What shocks me is how long you have tolerated it, your husband probably thinks you will continue to do so.
I would go see a lawyer, sort a divorce and start afresh with your... (read in full...)
Boyfriend mocks me and now I'm so self conscious!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3.5 years is always mocking me whenever we go out (like i look like an ape, or i look at him like a dog,....), its hurting me and i told him several times not to do it, but he always does. Nowadays i feel very self-conscious e...
A. 12 April 2013: Hi
Dump him and find somebody who treats you in a healthy way.
Get your self respect back, this guys a loser, not you... (read in full...)
PMS wife, Tired of being married to a shewolf!
Q. I've been married for five and a half years, and as far as I can remember my wife has had some pretty vicious PMS. Growing up my mom never did so maybe that's why I never figured out how to deal with it as a man. Previous relationships we...
A. 12 April 2013: Hi Birth control doesn't help every woman with PMS - I know from experience, but it's worth a try... (read in full...)
Who hurts more in a break up?
Q. Who hurts more in the long run? The dumper or dumpee ...
A. 12 April 2013: Hi I would say the dumpee, especially when they have thought all was good in the relationship. They will be the last to know their partner was unhappy. But there will be times the dumper may hurt more, if they have decided its not working, sa... (read in full...)
PMS wife, Tired of being married to a shewolf!
Q. I've been married for five and a half years, and as far as I can remember my wife has had some pretty vicious PMS. Growing up my mom never did so maybe that's why I never figured out how to deal with it as a man. Previous relationships we...
A. 12 April 2013: Hi If it is PMS then she must be aware of the changes it brings, it's a monthly occurrence so it must be obvious to her. She needs to get it under control via a professional before it drives you away and as soon as possible. Have a calm chat... (read in full...)
Jealous BF has a weekend away with friends and it includes a woman that has a crush on him!
Q. I am quite jealous of another girl my boyfriend knows. I know this girl is a big flirt and I've seen her flirt with my boyfriend several times. About 3 people have told me that this girl has told them that she really likes my boyfriend. Problem f...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
Well if you can't go with him you will just have to trust him.
Keep busy, even when your not working make sure you have plans for when he's away.
She may like him but he isn't the only male in the group so could be she's just friendly w... (read in full...)
How to get my abusive husband to leave?
Q. Hi, everyone. I have been with my husband for 8 years,he is emotionally and financially abusive and I want him to leave my home but he won't. I want to get him out but I do not want to get police involved because I have children and it will affect ...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
For the sake of your children you need to get him out and end the marriage. Them witnessing emotional abuse is going to do them far more damage over the years than the Police turfing him out once.
Or get legal advice - to start divorce an... (read in full...)
No sex, No kissing, different religion and now my BF does not want to talk to me?
Q. I'm 22yrs plus while my guy is 25yrs plus we have been dating gettin to 4yrs now despite our religion differences,we both love eachother ,he pays me visit,he introduce me to his friends as his wife to be but now everything change suddenly.each time ...
A. 11 April 2013: Hi
After 4 years together I don't think he was after just sex, he wasn't even getting a kiss. He didn't marry you and I assume never asked you or got engaged and 4 years is long enough for him to do that.
I think he has met somebody new, so... (read in full...)
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