Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi
Forget him, if he wanted to see you he would ask you *out* on a date.
Not wait weeks then say he hadn't forgotten you, he would drop off a DVD. Then not do it - again.
If his life is *that* busy you would only get to see him about 3 times... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I let another girl give me oral sex?
Q. I have seriously messed things up with my girlfriend and I need advice on how to put things right. Basically a few weeks ago I went out for my friend's birthday, my girlfriend didn't come as she couldn't get the time off work. I was annoyed ...
A. 5 May 2013: Hi
I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her to be honest. However it seems to be playing on your mind so you will have to come clean or your guilt will be too obvious and she will ask around or guess.Which will hurt her more.
Do not say an... (read in full...)
We've been together for three years but now it seems we have gone back to stage one.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend three years. He has been in the uk fir 7 years and revently applied for uk residency which he has now obtained. He has supported me through a serious illness and has helped me with my two kids when i need help. He l...
A. 4 May 2013: Hi
He has got a lot on his plate right now, also has this good friend he lives with, which he didn't have before, so he has company and somebody to talk to about home.
He seems to have relegated you to sex only so if I was you I would keep awa... (read in full...)
B/f broke up with me saying I'm boring. I have no where to go!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years dumped me saying he is bored with me, im the worlds most boring person and he cannot stand to spend even 5 mins with me in a day and im being petite (my hright is 5'0) is not working out for him. Did i happen to ment...
A. 4 May 2013: Hi
Go to family,ring them, or as Person12345 says, get to a womens shelter.Do it today, find one via the Net if you can.
He sounds like a nasty piece of work and you are well shot,he has used you.
I wish you luck and hope you get the hel... (read in full...)
We love each other but cannot be together. How can I heal?
Q. What do you do when you have fallen in love with someone and they feel the same but you cannot be together. How do i get over the heartbreak. ...
A. 4 May 2013: Hi
You move on, you don't forget you just take a day at a time. As time passes it becomes less of a focus and more in the background.
I don't know why you can't be together but things change down the line so you could end up with them in yea... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable for my boyfriend to disappear without me knowing where he is?
Q. my boyfriend and i are going through a bad patch. Im going through a custody battle with my ex and its taken its toll on our telationship. I admit I get upset but most people would. Well anyway im now up at 3.30 am not knowing where on earth he is. ...
A. 4 May 2013: Hi
He was probably at home in bed, with his phone off because he knew you would ring and wake him up.Or one of his mates would. Its not unusual to have the phone off at 3am, or earlier if you want some peace.
Your just hyper sensitive becaus... (read in full...)
Does he think I'm The One?!
Q. I told my boyfriend last night that I thought he was The One! We're together about 7 months. Anyway, he replied: "good". Did he just say that to shut me up? Or does he think the same of me!? He's not the very best at being sensitive and emotional ...
A. 3 May 2013: Hi
Who knows, not enough information!
Go with your gut feeling about the relationship in general, his actions and you should be able to work out what he thinks... (read in full...)
Can guys with commitment issues ever change?
Q. can guys with commitment issues ever change? my ex is 23 and we have been on and off for 16 months. seems every time things begin to get pretty serious he freaks out and runs off! the last time we broke up was in january, we broke up because he said ...
A. 3 May 2013: Hi
I have a son that age, he knows he is not nearly ready to settle down or commit,he is he says, way too young. Some of his friends have had LTRs and one or two are going strong.They didn't start with serious at 17 though.
My advise to you wo... (read in full...)
Out of nowhere he tells me that he's going to date this girl, that he loves her more then he ever loved me and he's completely positive that he's going to marry her. Um..what just happened?
Q. I started talking to an ex again about 5 months back. We'd been talking and it seemed like things were headed back toward a relationship. (Yay, because this was the one guy that I could actually see any future with). Then out of no where he tells me ...
A. 3 May 2013: Hi
What he has done is tell you in no uncertain terms there is nothing ever going to happen between you two. He is now seeing the woman of his dreams (apparently) and is not even talking to you.
Why would you wait for a man who tells you he is ... (read in full...)
Sometimes he can be the sweetest person I know and sometimes he can act like a complete and utter pig.
Q. It's driving me mad. There this bloke that I really, really like. Sometimes he can be the sweetest person I know. He laughs at my jokes and I laugh at his. We've got quite a bit in common and I have known him now for 5 years. Sometimes though h...
A. 2 May 2013: Hi
I agree with AuntieEm, your friend zoned, so start looking on him as one of your mates and don't give him so much of your time and energy.
... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instinct regarding this Medium and let it give me comfort, or am I being ripped off?
Q. I'm hoping all you good people can help me. I was very close to my nan who dies last year and I haven't really gotten over her loss yet. As a result i've been seeing a medium for the last few week who charges around £30 per sitting. My Boyfriend i...
A. 2 May 2013: hi
If you really feel the need for contact with your Nan then stop wasting money on this fraud, go to your local Spiritualist Church, at least it's free.
Its hard losing somebody you love, especially when your young because then everyone se... (read in full...)
The Crying Game: what to do other than leave this relationship?
Q. Im 40 years old and tired of a four year relationship with a 33 yaer old woman who cry's all the time. Ive asked and tried to comfort but she does it and has done it so much it infuriates me to hear her whiney voice and its always over attention she ...
A. 1 May 2013: Hi
Its good she cares for her father, not good what it's doing to her,her life and you.
You didn't sign up for this,she isn't the woman you first met.Why does she feel she isn't getting attention off you,do you neglect her? Is that why you mov... (read in full...)
From the sounds of things is this still worth pursuing?
Q. A couple of months ago, I met a guy via online dating and I have not felt this excited about someone in such a long time. I have been single for 3 years. In the early stages, we mentioned about the idea of meeting up and seeing what happens. He ...
A. 1 May 2013: Hi
2 months on and you haven't met up yet. Its not like your I another country,you could meet halfway. Seems odd.
In my experience of online dating if they aren't texting you as much then they're texting somebody else.
Online dating means j... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years has lost interest in me!
Q. Dear Cupid I believe my bf of 3 years lost interest in me. He is not calling/picking up calls when he is away. Not spending any time with me even @ home. Always fighting. I'm not nagging, I don't fight, literally do everything he ask for. What s...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
Have you ever gone off something, say a pair of shoes or a band who's music you loved for ages?
Well that's where he is at by the sounds of it. He has lost interest, if he hadn't he would be with you, phoning you, taking your calls. To h... (read in full...)
He cant be bothered with intimacy anymore, am I wrong for wanting more than just companionship?
Q. Is it wrong to want more than companionship?? Hi I'm in a relationship with a guy who I've known 10 yrs. I'm in my late thirties. My relationship has been a Rocky one. He has always been the one running back and I have allowed this. The last 6 mths ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
Yup your like the proverbial old pair of slippers, just part of the furniture. 44 is not too old for sex, that's a pathetic excuse.
If he wants companionship he should have his own place and a few cats.
Just don't allow this to continue i... (read in full...)
Need some help reading the signs from this girl....
Q. I know this girl for like 10 months she's a bit weird to me sometimes she's really nice eye contact and everything and then sometimes she's distant, cold etc.. Sometimes when we're walking together she walks really close to me we're always bumping ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
Why not try asking her out, she sounds like she's dropped enough hints... (read in full...)
Does it mean my LDR is over?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We talk about our future plans sometimes and decided to live together in Aug. He studies abroad and has a part-time job. He has to work almost every day so he can afford the rent and other ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
You are being needy yes. He is just trying to survive,working and studying, it's what he HAS to do right now. It won't always be like this. Now you have pushed him away by calling constantly, demanding his time and attention.
He needs a br... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a loveless relationship. Should I just pay him to leave?
Q. Trapped in a loveless relationship. I am not married. I've been in a on/off relationship for 8 yrs. my problem is that after a split of around 9 mths I stupidly got back with my ex. He had lived with his mother most of our relationship which had ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
Why would you pay him? Did he share the money he got for selling his furniture or something? Either way it's your home and his childrens,just tell him it's time to go.
He can find somewhere else to live I am sure. You have just taken over ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? I'm not sure what to do next!
Q. Hi guys, I am ordinarily a well put together 36 year old woman but find myself in Unchartered territory. I have recently been having a flirtation with a guy (which is an alien concept as I have been on my own for a long time) in person he is ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi
He could be a text hater, you don't know where he is at that time so he could be pre-occupied.
As he replies though and met you for coffee then he must be interested,even slightly. Don't overwhelm him, he has a life,so do you and this is ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my BFs advice and smarten up for work?
Q. HI guys, This isnt a relationship question per sa, but I hope you can offer me some guidance. Basically I work in an office with no dress code so I go to work in jeans and tee shirt. I am allowed to do this if I wish but some of the staff cho...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
These no dress code jobs are fine, but it's just good to have a work wardrobe, say wearing smart casual instead, it shows you know your 'at work' that you made an effort rather than roll up wearing your weekend clothes, with no apparent... (read in full...)
Why is it that he can afford this rent and living expenses now, when he said he couldn't when we moved in together?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He has been living with me for over 2 but he has always called it my place. He claimed he couldn't afford to split the rent ($1200/month) so instead contributed $300 a month plus we take turns ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
Will his salary be more when he starts his new job? If not then he has definitely taken advantage of your home and the fact you didn't demand more money off him. He saw it that he was a lodger in your house and paid 'dig' money rather than sha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has asked if I'm ok if he goes to Amsterdam with 2 single friends. I already don't completely trust him! Should I tell him to stay behind?
Q. HI all, Im in a sticky situation with my boyfriend of 3 years, and really need some advice! last year for valentines we went away to Amsterdam on a city break for a couple of days and had such a good time we went again in december, my boyfriend has ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
He will probably go if you want him to or not, he just asked because your his girlfriend and it's what some couples do. If I want to go someplace I just say 'Hey am off to ****** in a few weeks' and that's it.
The fact you don't trust him ... (read in full...)
I need to cancel a trip for work reasons. How do I tell my friend?
Q. i told one of my friends i will be coming to visit nim nect month and even bought my ticket. however i got a job offer from a very good company and i don't want to request days off right ow. please tell me how i can explain to him that i need to ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
When you start a new job they usually ask about and honour any planned holidays
However I am sure your friend will be pleased for you and not mind in the least that you are postponing.
Congratulations too.... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to hope there might be more between us or should I just move on?
Q. I have had a FWB for three years (we've known each other fir 16 years) when we are together we act just like any other couple but if we're at work or out with friends we act as if nothing is going oneven though mist of them know we're sleeping ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
Cut off all contact. He is not giving you what you want, a relationship, he has had 3 years to do so.He gets sex, your not demanding more,he assumes your happy with things.
Sounds like he is still hung up on his Ex anyway or she wouldn't aff... (read in full...)
I need help in ending a 2 year relationship. She has done nothing wrong and I don't know how to do this!
Q. Need help ending a relationship. Even thought marriage counselor looked at me and said "do not start a new relationship" when my divorce started I did. The person was wonderful and supportive and sweet and I can say nothing but nice about h...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
By ending it your being cruel to be kind.No you shouldn't have jumped right in but what's done is done.
I would tell her when you get there,face to face,inside, and then leave.Or better still meet her before then because the sooner the bette... (read in full...)
I know I deserve way better than this! What do I do about this marriage?
Q. Ok here is the situation at hand, my husband, I just don't know anymore with him, on 4/27/13 I was having bad chest pains and I was thinking about going to the er, he wouldn't even go with me, he said that all my anxiety attacks are coming from me, ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
Leave him and life will be better instantly. I don't know why you stay.
If seeing your family gives you panic attacks, then don't see them.
Your an adult so you can make choices in your life, choose a fresh start.... (read in full...)
'that was nice, good to see you looking good' How do I interpret these remarks by my ex?
Q. I will bullet point this to get the main information you need across; We dated for a year Split up last nov 12 - agreed to remain friends. Stayed in contact but only saw each other for the first time since the split last weekend. It was really...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
He's just being polite, bumping into the Ex is way up there in the worst things to happen scenario's. You got through it and he responded in a non offensive way to your text.
Just carry on with life as you were,at least there's no bitte... (read in full...)
Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 29 April 2013: Hi
I don't think he is separated,even if he is he's a terrible flirt.I would ask your nephew to find out discreetly,it shouldn't be too difficult for him he's a policeman!
Men in uniforms know full well they attract women so I would leave it, ... (read in full...)
Desperate for sexual contact after long time single - what to do?
Q. Keeping it brief. Was in a 10-yr LTR that was sexless for last 5 years. My girlfriend always had a low sex drive, I loved her, decided I could cope but it eventually totalled petered out. After 5 years I couldn't cope without intimacy any more, ...
A. 28 April 2013: Hi
Well living in a rural area won't help, why not do a city break, you never know!
Are there any functions locally you can go to or join a darts team or whatever to get you out mingling.You don't say what you do with your spare time so it... (read in full...)
Does everything has to be "his way"? Is there anyway to get him to see reason?
Q. Hello everyone, hoping to get some objective feedback. My partner and I have been together for three and a half years, but have been in a long distance relationship for the past 1 year and 8 months (approx) and we have a two year old son who live...
A. 27 April 2013: Hi
It just sounds like everything is unplanned, your in an LDR as he is away at Uni, your local and going to College. Add to that your son.
It seems like you haven't considered the fact your both parents with a son. You are both doing your ... (read in full...)
Did she cop out of the relationship and choose her career?
Q. Did she Cop out ? We were together for 1 year and like any couples we have our ups and downs.Im not perfect and never claim to be but then again who is? The last 4 months have been a right test for both of us because we were going to move in toget...
A. 27 April 2013: Hi
Hard as it is I agree with your friends, let her come to you.
You were serious enough to plan to move in together and now she sounds like she has lost confidence because of your work situation.
Maybe she decided you can't give her what ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is this slightly older guy at work just trying to be nice?
Q. I just want to know if he's just trying to be friendly. There's this guy at work, he's a bit older than myself. I've noticed him around the office but never thought much of it. He sits a few rows in front now and everytime he goes back to his seat...
A. 27 April 2013: Hi
Just look up and say 'Hi' and smile, it opens the way for more conversation, he may like you yes, but until you get to know him you won't know.... (read in full...)
Husband has gone away again to think... I really need some help and strategies
Q. My husband of two years has left the family home again for a few days to "clear his head" and to "sort himself out" and I'm bewildered! We have had discussions (not arguments) with one another recently as we understand the marriage is not as good ...
A. 27 April 2013: Hi
You know it makes me mad that he can just waltz off, leave you hanging and looking after everything while he supposedly prepares to come back a better person!
He is incredibly selfish.
I think when he returns *you* should go off for ... (read in full...)
Why would he call me a Princess and then tell me that I like to get my own way and I sulk? Is that a compliment or is he flirting with me?
Q. Why would he say that to me? Is it a compliment? I was talking to this cute guy I like. I'm very quiet and shy around him and he's quiet Around me too. He said I'm very mysterious and a princess I said why does he calls me a princess he said I...
A. 27 April 2013: Hi
Sounds like he thinks the fact your quiet and shy means you think your above people and aloof. A princess is somebody who throws a strop or sulks to get their own way.Who thinks they are special.
If this sounds like you then no, it was defin... (read in full...)
Are these fishy goings-on, or am I paranoid?
Q. Hi there, I found a message in my boyfriends phone, he was flirting with a girl, but she lives/ works in another country, but yearly at least they come together at a conference in the same place. There was a lot of prompting from her side, ...
A. 25 April 2013: Hi
You know even in a relationship we are entitled to a private life and conversations.
It probably doesn't mean anything, he isn't reeking of perfume or covered in scratches or grass stains is he?
You clearly don't trust him, feel insecure... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: Hi
Yes it's time for you to leave, her whole attitude is so out of proportion with the issue, so what if your on a stag-do and there's a stripper.
Really,if you have never cheated or given her any reason to mistrust you then she is the one w... (read in full...)
I want to move in with my BF but get the mortgage on the place myself. Is this right?
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend are moving in together soon and it might be possible for me to have a mortgage on a place. However I don't want to go into a mortgage with my boyfriend. It sounds cruel but even though i adore him I just dont fe...
A. 25 April 2013: Hi
Just don't let him move in, you don't live together now.
Buy it for yourself,in your name and when he improves and your confident about him financially he can move in.
If you need his money to pay the mortgage then perhaps you could g... (read in full...)
Going on holiday without my boyfriend - should I tell him the truth about where I'm going?
Q. Am i being selfish going on holiday without my boyfriend? I'm going to London for three days next week with my mum. My boyfriend doesn't even know yet! When my boyfriend gets paid, he goes to see his friends for about three days. Sometimes less, ...
A. 25 April 2013: Hi
I hardly think 3 days in London with your mum is anything to hide. Its not like your going to Ibiza on a hen-do with your mates is it. Even if you were,so what?
3 days is a long weekend - go and have a great time with mum. And tell your bo... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 25 April 2013: Hi
You know the more you write and explain, the more I hear alarm bells ringing and red flags flying.I take back my initial advice.
Its far more than a man who has never grieved. Its now supposedly a psycho ex wife, a mother and friends who ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 24 April 2013: Hi
Your his future,she is his past. You have 2 children together and are in love.
Could be he has never grieved or that the happiness he feels now reminds him of what he felt for her.Had she lived they may have split up by now,moved onto n... (read in full...)
22 and never been in a relationship... What can I do to change that?
Q. So I just turned 22 the other week and something came to my realization... I've never EVER been in an actual relationship with a guy. I've flirted, I've had a little fun (nothing leading to sex, I am still a virgin...) but have never had someone I ...
A. 24 April 2013: Hi
You have been asked out and flirted with but have chosen not to give them a chance. So obviously lads find you attractive, you just haven't met anyone who meets your standards.
The advice you were given when you asked was to change your appe... (read in full...)
Pregnant and he finishes with me?? What the...
Q. Hi everyone. This may be a bit long-- but please bare with me. I'm very shocked. I found out yesterday I am pregnant. I'm 24 and very fortunate to be in a good well paying job with a good maternity package also. I have been with my boyfriend for...
A. 23 April 2013: Hi
He clearly isn't planning on being a dad so this shock has probably made him think you have done it on purpose, which by the sounds of it his colleagues had predicted you would.
I know it's a shock for you too,not planned, but you welcome ... (read in full...)
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