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writes:if a man is drunk every day and will flirt in front of you. Does this mean he is likely to cheat when you're not there? I am weeks away from giving birth so i am not very attractive at the moment. not sure if it's pregnancy paranoia or not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): If someone gets drunk every night, they have a problem. I would be most concerned about having someone around who is like that. NOT a good atmosphere for a child to grow up in. When kids are old enough to understand, they HATE having a parent or parents who are alcoholics. They won't likely say it to their faces, but it comes out at school, choice of friends, behaviors (what they can get away with because the parent/s is always in an altered state of mind), etc, eventually having a choice to be just like their loser alcoholic parent/s or stay away from it because of what they had to live with.
I would be far more concerned with all of the above.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): Is there any way you can get away from him for the birth? Stay with your mother for example? His drunk behaviour is seriously the last thing you need right now.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (7 May 2013):
I think him cheating is unrelated to his flirting and that's not your real problem anyways.
Having a kid with a drunk is what you need to be worried about now. Alcoholism kills a lot of people, and it can run in the family.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 May 2013):
 He may cheat… he may not… flirting is not cheating. I flirt all the time, I would never cheat. I would sooner ask permission or tell before I did it.
BTW pregnant women FEEL unattractive with good reason but they glow and are very attractive to many people.
My bigger concern is that he drinks every day… this is not a safe environment for a young child. I am married to an alcoholic. He drinks every day. He gets drunk several times a week. He has blackouts. IF I had small children I would not want them around him, even when he’s a happy drunk (at least 80% of the time) he’s sloppy and not safe. You must NEVER leave your child alone with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): My husband gets drunk every night too. I don't mind it because he is a happy drunk. Alcohol does not make people bad nor does it make people cheat. Let him know that his flirting bothers you. If he loves you, he will stop flirting. Statistically, most men do NOT cheat. So please don't worry. Go have your baby and try to trust him. I'm sure that he loves you very much. He doesn't care if you look bad.
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reader, Mariab +, writes (7 May 2013):
 I think that you have answered your own question. He is drunk everyday and flirts with others and you have a baby on the way... I mean Really...are you seriously worried about him cheating when you're off having the baby?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): Nothing good comes from a drunk, unless they choose to get sober and stay that way.
Why do you want to be with, a have a child around an alcoholic??? It's time for this man to grow up, be responsible and do right by his family. This has nothing to do with whether you are attractive right now or not. And if you continue to allow him to be like this, he will continue to do it.
I would not have a man in my life that put alcohol over everyone and everything else.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (7 May 2013):
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If he is drunk every day then why do you think bringing a child into this situation is healthy.
Your average man would be sober and looking forward to the baby arriving, not getting drunk and flirting with other women.
Stop worrying if he will cheat or not,which yes he probably will, using drink as an excuse and look at him as a potential father - is he really what you want at your age?
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