How on earth do I thank him for being so amazing?
Q. I have had a very tough year with problems at work and in my family and I can honestly say this has been the toughest year of my life so far. Through it all, my boyfriend has been a total camp. We've been together for a few years so we've shared ...
A. 19 March 2014: What a lovely refreshing post ;o)
How about a weekend away, a surprise? Or just write a poem or find appropriate song lyrics, print it out and give it to him,framed, with a ticket for him to his fave band
or buy him a special ring or bracelet... (read in full...)
How can my ex and my current boyfriend and I all get along?
Q. My ex and my boyfriend argue and throw insults at each other whenever they meet, and now I have had to arange for my ex to pick our child up at my sister's house to avoid this from happening at our family home. However it doesn't stop them bad ...
A. 19 March 2014: Its time your boyfriend grew up. The Ex and he should sit and talk, call a truce, for the sake of your daughter.
The last thing you need is for the ex to stop contact because of your boyfriend. They need to put any petty jealousy aside and man ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and I'm scared to let her into my heart again
Q. Me and my girlfreind broke up 2 weeks ago. She ended it and it was a massive shock. She said her feelings weren't as strong and didn't love me. I loved this girl sooo much and i ask her to give us some space and see. I call her before (yes i kn...
A. 18 March 2014: Don't go.
If she regrets what she said its tough, you will always be walking on glass if you got back together.
That's my opinion though, you may want to risk another chance but I think you would be better recovering and slowly moving on.
Wh... (read in full...)
I bought concert tickets in a price range I could afford but am feeling guilty now that my girlfriend wants to pay for an upgrade herself!
Q. I bought concert tickets for my gf's favorite band to surprise her, but since I'm a student, and work, money is tight for me. I could only afford the cheaper, non great seats. I wish I could afford the best seats, but they were well out of my price ...
A. 18 March 2014: No your not overreacting, her reaction is a bit off to be honest.
The thought you put into the gift and money you spent is your way of wanting to make her happy. That's lovely.
... (read in full...)
My ex won't let me move on
Q. Ok so... I had been with my ex boyfriend for 2 years. We had a very toxic relationship and looking back i really wish i had got out sooner. We would constantly argue, he was very spiteful towards me, he was addicted to porn lied to me on a numbe...
A. 18 March 2014: Been there, its a toxic situation. All you can do is continue to ignore him, your doing well so far.
If he steps up the attempts to talk to you then either call in a male relative or friend to speak to him, or if it gets extreme, get the Police i... (read in full...)
I want my lazy husband to leave my house but he wont go!
Q. hey I'm 39 years old married to a man who is 36 years old we been married for 10 years and have to children together I had two children's from my own things were good until my husband lost his job since tat he become different he don't wanna find a ...
A. 16 March 2014: Its the kids I feel sorry for, caught up in all this. If your working and he's asleep, who looks after them,the atmosphere must be awful.
You sound like you've had enough and I don't blame you at all, it would be different if he was doing jobs rou... (read in full...)
How do I stop basing my life around him and his visits?
Q. I was with my ex for 3 and half yrs on and off , we broke up last time In November last year although it was just like any other time I imagined where we would reconcile after a few weeks or months . This time though I found out just after Xmas he ...
A. 16 March 2014: I feel for you, it must have been a shock that he moved on this time. When you split up several times it's usually a sign something is not right and I guess the children arriving made it harder for him to leave.
You need to start building a new li... (read in full...)
Have any women on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 15 March 2014: Don't go to a bar alone, its dangerous, drunk men are unpredictable.
When you go to the Coffee Bar do you initiate a conversation or just sit there hoping somebody will talk to you?
Sign up for a team sport, organise a charity run or do a spon... (read in full...)
The love of my life but he blows hot and cold
Q. Iv been in a relationship for over a year and a half now and my boyfriend is a wonderful man,we both had a few bad relationships in the past and but really hurt,but the past few months he tells me he loves me and I have the whole of his heart but he ...
A. 15 March 2014: The only thing I can suggest is you sit down and talk to him next time he's there. Ask him why he is 'hot and cold', don't get emotional, just explain how your feeling as only he has the answers.
He sounds a great dad who lives up to his responsi... (read in full...)
What is with guys NOT texting back?
Q. I know this is a question most women ask but... What is with guys NOT texting back? Theres a guy I have known for about 3 years and we have always been friends work, abit of flirting sometimes but weve always been friends. We like each other...
A. 15 March 2014: Maybe he took you out to test his feelings/attraction for you?
If the X factor isn't there for him and he knows you like him and possibly want more, then he is letting you know it isn't going to happen.
I would cease the contact, don't c... (read in full...)
The love of my life but he blows hot and cold
Q. Iv been in a relationship for over a year and a half now and my boyfriend is a wonderful man,we both had a few bad relationships in the past and but really hurt,but the past few months he tells me he loves me and I have the whole of his heart but he ...
A. 14 March 2014: So even though you have a child with him, you do not live together ? Will this change soon?
As he lives elsewhere then does he pay child support?
You don't really give enough details. I am sure you do love him though. So if you could let us kno... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 13 March 2014: IF you are crazy enough to share with these two and he won't pay anything, then your friend will have to pay more to cover his expences, so split the bills 3 ways - not the rent- and she pays 2/3rds of total bills and you pay a third. If she won't ... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 12 March 2014: What you would be doing is sharing with a couple because if he is there 6 days a week he is living there. He can't deny he is living with her because its a fact. He must only be at his Dads 1 night a week.
So, if you don't want to share with a c... (read in full...)
Feeling horribly guilty after breaking up with my boyfriend.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, three weeks ago. I genuinely loved him and felt that we had a solid connection. Yet, throughout the course of our relationship, I had to pay for our $1800/month rent, the bills, and the majority of our ...
A. 12 March 2014: You have done him a favour really, he will have to work his own way out of his situation. Its his problem so he can either sink or swim. Time for him to grow up not come whining to you with sob stories.
You did the right thing cutting him loose, i... (read in full...)
Do men have sex with women they aren't attracted to?
Q. This is a question for the men: would you sleep with someone you weren't attracted to? I was recently shocked to find out that a very attractive male acquaintance of mine had a one night stand with a very unattractive woman. This has lef...
A. 11 March 2014: Depends on circumstances, how much the men have drunk, how long since they had sex etc
However being attractive doesn't mean a woman is more alluring... and what one person sees as unattractive may be gorgeous in another's eyes.
Sex appeal co... (read in full...)
Was he falling for me or was I just a distraction?
Q. I made contact with an old childhood friend on Facebook...we are both in our 40s now and it was nice to catch up on what had happened in our lives.We are both married and we would chat everyday....he said he suffered from depression, I felt sorry ...
A. 11 March 2014: You were a distraction, a fantasy in a way,nothing more.
As you are both married then chatting on Facebook every day was bang out of order. That's more developing a relationship than 2 old mates catching up (in my opinion)
Now, stop the... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone I can't be with.
Q. Dear Everyone, Some of you may say I'm a sad loser, but I'm really needing some advice. It's been almost 2 years since I split up with my girlfriend. I've never been so in love with anyone in my entire life! I've tried to move on. Dated oth...
A. 11 March 2014: My great aunt lost her husband when they were in their early 30s, she lived until 80 plus but never looked at another man. She was still in love with him and that was that. She was always happy with her life though.
The fact your Ex listened to ... (read in full...)
Need help deciding on my 30th birthday plans!
Q. I'm not sure what to do for my 30th birthday. It is on 16th May, so I don't have much time to plan this. I hope you can help. 1 . My favourite singer is doing a concert on my birthday in London. I could go to London from Wednesday or Thu...
A. 9 March 2014: Go to Spain and invite everyone to join you... that way your not rushing about all over and can kick back and relax while still seeing them all.
If your brothers villa isn't big enough then rent a separate one for the 'overspill'.
Or maybe they... (read in full...)
Don't tell me to get over it because I want him back!
Q. hi, I am in a really difficult situation right now and would need some advice. I was seeing this man for over 3 years, we had quite a big argument which was kind of the last straw for him. In my opinion I was only bit sarcastic and his reaction...
A. 9 March 2014: Its a horrible way to end things after 3 years, via email. Then to throw you out of his home when you tried to mend things.
It shows he has reached the end of his tether though. Maybe the argument was the excuse he wanted to enable him to walk. Ma... (read in full...)
Hasn't text me all day.. but got on facebook??
Q. My boyfriend is supposed to be at work today but I haven't talked to him so I really have no idea if he went or not. I text him about 3 hours ago and said "just thinking about you.. love you.. xoxo" and he didn't reply. I didn't think much of it ...
A. 7 March 2014: And if all this technology didn't exist you would have sent a love letter and then waited days for a reply....
You sent a sentiment, via text, he probably read it and smiled. Then carried on with his job....
IF he had his personal phone w... (read in full...)
He said he's met someone else ...
Q. I'm sorry. I cant write all the details of this at the moment as I am so upset.My boyfriend has told me that he has met someone else. I cant understand it. He still seemed like he was in love with me when I last saw him on Tuesday. He went to his ...
A. 3 March 2014: The first thing you must try to do is calm down. I know that's hard when your in shock, but until you take some deep breaths and can think logically you won't be able to work out what's happened here
Firstly - his friends will tell you whatever... (read in full...)
My brother's future wife is lying about her age and her sexual past! Do I tell him or keep my mouth shut?
Q. Hey, everyone...am in desperate need of advice. My elder brother is set to marry this coming july. The problem is he is marrying a woman he dated for only two months. I know most will say that it doesn't matter how long you date. But I think he...
A. 2 March 2014: Keep quiet, chances are by the time the wedding comes round he will know all he needs to know about her.
He may already have an idea, he's an adult. Let him follow his own dream and if it all goes wrong, be there for him.
... (read in full...)
Should I let this go?
Q. I'm absolutely fuming! Please read! Last night I went out to dinner for my friends birthday. There were 9 of us in total and a few friends of hers who I don't know. I wasn't feeling well as I had some work on my teeth and on tablets so I c...
A. 2 March 2014: Yea let it go, you paid for your meal and drink,why should you subsidise the others. As or the FB message - she's clearly miffed cos she had to pay for what she had. She sounds a right beetch
You went, you ate, you paid. End of... (read in full...)
Live-in boyfriend lied and went to a strip club behind my back... now my family is telling me to just get over it!
Q. I've been dating my bf for 7 months. Things moved really fast for us so please no rude comments about that. We met through my brother, they are coworkers. He started hanging out and after. A Few weeks he asked me out on a date. After the date he ...
A. 2 March 2014: The red-flag is the fact he lied about it, he then got angry because you found out and questioned him.
He was with your brother,he must have known you would find out!
a) he only had a couple of dances off a girl whos job it is, she dances f... (read in full...)
My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral
Q. Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral whi...
A. 28 February 2014: If your considering, even for a second, getting satisfaction elsewhere, then this guy is NOT for you.
Why not introduce a 'toy' to do the job, he can use it on you, that way everyone's happy. It may even encourage him to perform with his body ins... (read in full...)
Could he have been right? Am I too close to my mum?
Q. Am i too close to my mum? My ex boyfriend who i was with for 4 years and lived with recently dumped me becuase he said i'm too close to my mum. He's made me question myself, tourture myself, caused a gap between me and my mum and has made me hate...
A. 28 February 2014: I don't think your too close to your mum, no, you and she are bound to be close after all you were a duo for years.
However there are two issues, your boyfriend is one, he clearly didn't like the influence your mum has on you. That could be becau... (read in full...)
Should I tell my FWB I'm talking to someone else?
Q. Should I tell my FWB that I'm taking to somebody else? It's not sexual with the other person, but it is something I see turning into a relationship with....
A. 28 February 2014: You don't owe either guy an explanation.
The FWB is merely a friend for sex, (unless your emotionally involved with him and want him to react to the new guy by asking to date you properly) - you have no need to tell him anything do you?
... (read in full...)
Will I have to be involved in my child's life in the future?
Q. I had a night out 2 weeks ago and slept with this girl who was on holiday in the city where I live. We exchanged email addresses and now I'm told she is pregnant. I honestly don't know how that happened because we used a condom, and sure I ...
A. 14 February 2014: I doubt she is 100% certain she is pregnant after 2 weeks, in fact she could have been pregnant before you slept with her.
Ask for a DNA test after the birth, if there is a pregnancy. Don't panic yet.
If, even after using a condom, which yo... (read in full...)
I thought I was doing the right thing by being honest but he turned it against me
Q. I recently met someone and felt it right to be upfront about the fact I had ( several years ago now) been involved in an abusive relationship. I left that relationship with nothing, emotionally,financially and tbh was completely broken and had to ...
A. 12 February 2014: As others have said, leave the past in the past.
If we had all had happy relationships and no broken hearts there would be no need for this site.
Good on you for surviving, now let it all go and start afresh emotionally.
Don't scare off... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there that will look past my body and like me for who I am?
Q. This is a really hard question to ask because I'm fairly certain of the answer, but I was wondering if I will ever find some one because of my size. I'm very small for my age (18), I look much younger I'm very thin. Are there guys out there that ...
A. 12 February 2014: Ofcourse there is or ALL the small slim girls in the world would be single!
Try wearing heels, clothes that give the impression your more shapely - if it helps you feel better.
Being confident and happy with a 'life' attracts attention so lea... (read in full...)
My ex can't cope with me seeing another guy I dated before him
Q. I dated a guy last year for two months who wasnt over his ex and we broke up. We had a great time but I could see he was still hurting over her and bowed out gracefully. Soon after I met a separated guy who was close to divorce after a 4 year s...
A. 12 February 2014: Why have contact with either Ex, all it does is create stupid drama, and who needs that?
Cut them both out of your life today and find yourself someone new with no emotional hang ups, be happy with a HAPPY man.
Life's too short.... (read in full...)
My partner has moved away and his behaviour has changed. What is going on?
Q. Help I feel so lonely. .. my partner has moved away only 2 hours away but I've not seen him for over coming up to 3 weeks and that was only for a day... I've a little girl but shes not his but still feel lonely with out him here. I sometime...
A. 10 February 2014: Very odd behaviour, from the little you have told us it 'sounds' like the relationship is over. If he left your home to go live elsewhere he must have had a good reason (in his mind)
Did he move for work? Do you have his address?
He really owe... (read in full...)
I sent an embarassing drunk text to my ex. Should I apologize or leave it?
Q. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes see each other in mutual events. We are friendly with each other at the events. Sometimes we talk to each other, sometimes we don't I drunk texted him two times before. The first time was on my b...
A. 10 February 2014: Delete his number and start looking to date others.
Don't apologise it wouldn't be sincere.
He probably only sees you as an Ex who dinks too much, so don't make it worse. Have some dignity... (read in full...)
Has anyone had experience of a lump in the breast and found out later that it was not cancer? Just need some calming and reassuring please?
Q. Just wanted to say first, I have already been to the doctor and I am having tests run. Has anyone had any experience with finding a lump or something abnormal in their breast? I have found a lump recently and I am waiting on some test results ...
A. 10 February 2014: Yes, me, the stress was unbelievable prior to the test, mammogram etc.
It was a cyst which they showed me on the ultrasound, then drained - hey presto the lump was gone. All the same day as tests.
So, hang in there, its normal to worry. Its go... (read in full...)
How to get this online guy to back off?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been online dating for about 8 months now, have only met up with 3 people in that time and its never really gone past 1st or 2nd dates. I ended up talking to someone for about 5 weeks who seemed to match my sense of humour and ...
A. 7 February 2014: Unless he's named you personally you don't know that his status or profile change is related to you. He could be dating a few girls. He could be married.
However, if you are really concerned I would tell him next time he asks, that you don't fe... (read in full...)
My savings are now 1/2 of what they were because b/f borrowed money for 14 months! He's always drunk and wont talk to me about paying me back!
Q. I really don't know what to do about my situation. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years borrowed money every month for 14 months. My savings are now 1/2 what they were. About once or twice a week if I phone him in the evenings he is drunk, slurred speech, ...
A. 6 February 2014: Wine is cheap so I doubt the money he borrows is going on that. More likely he is just living above his means, maybe has a gambling problem, who knows.
If he is working then you could try meeting him the day his pay goes in the bank and asking f... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be concerned about his earnings?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend of 3 years has been hinting that he wants to ask me to marry him. I love him, that is not a problem. My concern is that I am hard working and driven and I want to advance my career. He is more laid back, self employed, just does ...
A. 6 February 2014: Your not wrong to be concerned about his earnings at all, that's your prerogative, the way you thinking.
He could read an article about stress and the career woman and decide your stroke material and your health may be poor in years to come. Th... (read in full...)
The only problem is that he never wants to remarry or have children with me, it's tearing me apart. Advice?
Q. I feel like there is no hope for my relationship even though my boyfriend has never cheated, lied or hurt me. I love him, and I have never thought of anyone else since I met him. I honestly see no one else as my future but him. The only problem ...
A. 5 February 2014: You have to decide whats more important to you,,,him or having children of your own.
He has the financial burden of 3 already so adding to that would be a big commitment. He has been down the route of marriage and children already, whereas ... (read in full...)
Can't get a job without experience, no experience without a job.
Q. Not particularly a relationship question but its really dragging me down. I graduated from university in 2012 and haven't been able to find a job. I did a business management degree and I don;t expect to walk into a higher end job or management ...
A. 5 February 2014: Yes its hard to find work,at least you have some hours which shows your willing and have work ethic.
I hope your paying some money to mum also. You can't expect to run a car, 'have a life' and give her nothing. Yes £400 is not a lot but we all h... (read in full...)
Are some people nasty or is it just me?
Q. Hey everyone, I had this conversation with some colleagues of mine today and I really need to vent somewhere as I feel a bit upset... I have these 2 female colleagues of the same age as me approximately (around 30) and we usually have very nic...
A. 5 February 2014: Sadly you will find this type of woman wherever you go, fortunately they are in the minority. They're shallow and mean spirited and boost their own confidence by belittling others. Clearly easily threatened by the competition too.
Keep your opi... (read in full...)
I find I am propping up my boyfriend financially. What should I do?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have being dating for 8 months now. What do I do? I can't afford to give him anymore money:( So my boyfriend is having finical problems at the moment and I've helped him. He works but he doesn't save for a rainy day. He...
A. 2 February 2014: If he has a house he has bought then that's his savings, he has put his money into his home.
As he has a room mate then he must be,I assume, getting rent off him so has his own wages plus rent coming in.
DO NOT give him money, you may need it ... (read in full...)
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