He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 25 March 2013: Hi
Sounds like neither of you were over keen for the 5th date, first he can't make it till 5pm, so that cuts out an afternoon walk really. Then you text him *your* not free at 5pm now.
It doesn't shout enthusiasm so its clearly still pretty cas... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 12 March 2013: Hi
Yes he has slowed down which is good. I think all you can do is carry on as you are, definately don't go to his place till your ready. If he doesn't want to keep going out for meals or dancing then there are cheaper alternatives for dates.
... (read in full...)
My married lover won't leave his wife for me. Its not fair!
Q. I am deeply in love with a married man that doesn't love me back. Why do all of these lucky bitc*es get their married boyfriend to love them. Let me guess its all about looks?? Only beautiful and attractive women can get the man to fall for them. ...
A. 24 February 2013: Hi
It's not ALL about looks, it's integrity too and so many different things.
*He* knows you will see a married man for sex, that you don't care about his wife or children. What does that tell him about you?
*He* is a liar and a cheat who w... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips on how I can break my bad eating habits?
Q. I know this is not a diet and exercise forum but I'm hoping some of you may have gone through this before and can offer some advice. I have put on about 15lbs in the last year. Ever since I was a child, I could eat whatever I wanted and I always ...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi
If your too tired for exercise after work then go before,get up earlier, go for a run,swim,the gym or cycle,then have breakfast. I eat (don't laugh) porridge with banana on, to fill me up and don't feel the need to snack till lunchtim... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi
Well you have given it your best shot,him too.While he is gone do not contact him,give him his week.
I think you have been more than patient with him but he is still holding all the cards.You haven't given him a week, *he* has chosen that ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this baby Dad Drama, caused by his new GF? I need help.
Q. My child's father and I have been really going through the drama. His new girlfriend is the cause of it. She does things to influence our arguing I'm honestly tired out of fighting and I'm tired of her causing problems I talked to him about ...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi
You need to think of him as your childs Dad,not a potential partner. He has a girlriend and you are single.
The child does not need to be in the middle of all this bad feeling and all it will achieve is alienating your Ex,who may decid... (read in full...)
I'm feeling isolated, lonely and I'm going stir crazy. What can I do?
Q. I moved from a big city to a very small town to be with my fiance. In my fiances line of work, he can't talk about anyone or his work because of privacy laws, so there is never any work talk from him. Due to his position he can't really become fr...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi
Its hard moving away from all your friends, the fact your working from home limits making new one's too.
I don't know what your fiancees job is but it carries a high price, it's a pity you can't live in another location and him commute to w... (read in full...)
Two days ago my online guy was distant. What should I do?
Q. I started dating a guy about 2 months ago and we hit it off immediately. He would text me everyday and our conversations lasted all day and all night. He works, goes to school, and has an 8 year old son. For the first month he was off of work ...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi
His life is very busy, working and raising a child is hard enough but he is also going to school AND dating you too.Could be he is simply tired out or maybe focusing on his son more,maybe his son isn't well or has a problem.
I think the o... (read in full...)
We're both about to be single -- should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hi there, this is driving me nuts, and I'm not sure if I should move forward and do this, so I figured I would ask a forum of people! hope you guys can help me out. So, about 6 years ago, I met an awesome guy at work, after he was hired to he...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi
I think yes,you should tell him. 6 years is a long time and you both have a string of failed relationships with others during that time.
The only thing you haven't done is have sex really.Tell him how you feel,could be he is just waiting to ... (read in full...)
I HATE my ex! I need a healthy way of letting go!
Q. I need help to control my anger before i seriously burst with rage! I absolutly HATE my ex boyfriend with a passion right now, he has made a complete fool out fo me and i have literally just thrown everything he ever bought me on ebay to get rid....
A. 22 February 2013: Hi
You don't say when you split up, if it was days or weeks then still being angry is part of getting over him and will pass. Sounds like you have every right to be mad.
If you split a while ago then no you shouldn't be this angry.You need t... (read in full...)
Online woman is pinning all her hopes on me but we are not exclusive. Is it ok if I meet someone else to date till we meet?
Q. I been single over 12 months and joined a few dating sites. Have been chatting to a woman in the USA for about 2 weeks and we really get on. Because we get on she has now set her profile to 'private' so she can concentrate on me, and she has plans ...
A. 22 February 2013: Hi
I understand the wanting to meet, to see if there is anything 'there' in the flesh so to speak but you have only been chatting for 2 weeks. Unless you do absolutely nothing else in your life, it only adds up to a few hours conversa... (read in full...)
Do I need to worry about this? And should I break up with him?
Q. I posted here last week ,saying that my boyfriend spent part of Valentine's Day with a male friend of his who is gay, who is transgender. The people who replied to my original post said they didnt think there was anything sinister going on, but i ...
A. 21 February 2013: Hi
Has he met up with him since Valentines, or at any other time that you know of,or is it just FB stuff?
I don't think you have anything to worry about I do think your man loves you,from what you have said.
The messages have weirded yo... (read in full...)
When should I call it a day with relationships?
Q. When should I call it a day with relationships? I'm 26 and have never been able to stay in a relationship for more than a couple of months. I get bored easily, I'm a loner and don't like being tied down. I keep thinking it will be different with any...
A. 21 February 2013: Hi
I don't think you should stop forever, but certainly take a break.
Focus on getting to know yourself better, on building up your life, finding new things to do.Make a bucket list.Just forget about dating or finding the one for now.Build fr... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 20 February 2013: Hi
Oh dear what a mess he left you in.Be thankful he's gone.
He sounds like some sort of con-man to be honest, wondering if he hasn't done this before to another woman/women, especially as he seems to have vanished. It may well be worth looking... (read in full...)
Is marriage worth it? Should I give up on the idea of being married at my age?
Q. I just wondered, to those of you who are on here who are married, is it worth it? I'm approaching 40 and had loads of boyfriends but never yet met someone I seriously wanted to marry. I really loved some of them but knew it wasn't right in some wa...
A. 20 February 2013: Hi
I was single for 16 years,after a marriage broke up. Yes it is amazing being single, you have your life sorted,don't have to answer to anyone, got your own space.If you want to do something,buy something, you just do it.I did date, but nobody c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems repulsed by my weight loss and breast size being smaller
Q. I was 14lbs heavier when I met my boyfriend and I'm losing weight quickly through stress that I'm experiencing at the moment. Well I've always had big boobs and I'm now a uk size 10 and they're 34 e, he doesn't like it because they're getting ...
A. 19 February 2013: Hi
It's fine we have physical preferances,things that attract us, but your boyfriend is being downright cruel.He must know your difficulties,that your stressed.
He should be supporting you through this time.Your weight loss proves how it is... (read in full...)
Why don't people like to share their feelings?? are they normal?
Q. i am getting a little crazy after spending few years with my bf who thinks it's a bad thing to tell the world what you feel, who you are... etc... it makes me think i'm wrong to tell friends about what's going on in our relationship, like when i'm ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
I would *never* say bad things about a partner,to others,while my partner was in our company.Thats just humiliating or embarassing for everyone.I may joke he never brings me coffee in bed maybe,but nothing major.
I do have heart to hearts ... (read in full...)
Can there be ONLY friendship between men and women?
Q. I have a bf and he is very outgoing, talkative, and humorous... I'm attracted to him because I'm not that out-going, at times shy, so I find him very charming. But what I don't understand is, he seems to have a lot of female friends, and wou...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
Yes it is possible, I work with mainly men and have a good relationship with them,alot of laughs.I have always had alot of male friends.
However I wouldn't dream of telling them I missed them, when your in a relationship you draw a line out ... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
Wow yes he is a bit insistant and OTT.
You should have gone for a coffee,it's only an innocent 'get to know you' thing, a chat.When you gave him your number so quickly you showed an equal interest so I think he is hanging on to that.
I... (read in full...)
The relationship almost seems too good to be true but I can't risk getting hurt again!
Q. Hi everyone I have been dating a man for a couple of months now. We had an instant connection which niether of said we'd ever felt before. We have the most wonderful time together. It almost seems too good to be true. I'm not sure but I think ...
A. 18 February 2013: Hi
Take a deep from breath and step back, keep busy when your not with him.Shift the focus away from him a bit.
When you meet a man you click so well with it's easy to fall for them,but it's early days and your only seeing him twice a week jus... (read in full...)
I signed up to personal training with him and I feel there's something there. What are my chances that he might like me?
Q. So I really like this guy at my gym and he's always looking at me whenever I look up and my thought is that he might like me because I don't think it's a coincidence that a guy would be staring at me for seven months. Anyway I signed up to per...
A. 17 February 2013: Hi
He made you a Valentines mix CD.Thats not something you do for random people.
Just ask him to go for a drink/coffee after your next session.Simple.
He knows your single now so there's nothing stopping him asking you out really,unless he... (read in full...)
Single mom finds it hard to date again.
Q. I'm scared I will never meet anyone. Not in a hurry, currently getting out of an abusive marriage. However, I'm scared that I will never meet anyone now. I'm 31, I have a child, and I work out of my home. I've never left my child with a sitte...
A. 17 February 2013: Hi
Yes it is hard to get back into dating,with or without children.
I was a single Mum,I didn't find that put men off though.I found *I* was overly selective because I had children.You have to be so careful,keeping them away from the kids ti... (read in full...)
My parents will never let me marry a man of my choice
Q. My parents are very traditional and believe rather have imposed this one me that I should get married to the man of their choice! I have spoken to them about it and they give a deaf ear!I am here to ask you I'm currently single but if I'm in love ...
A. 17 February 2013: Hi
Is it because of religeous reasons ? Need some more information really.... (read in full...)
Please remember to be kind when you give advice on the site!
Q. I have been on this site for years,I sometimes come in as a person who needs advise or sometimes to give one..but recently I have been noticing quite a change in the attitude of some agony aunts,down right mean and cruel,I think you need to remember ...
A. 17 February 2013: Hi
I think the Aunts and Uncles know the emotional condition some posters are in. They try to help by giving advice from experience or pure common sense.When your an outsider to a problem it's easier to see things and frustrating that the person i... (read in full...)
What makes for a successful relationship?
Q. What are the attributes you look in a relationship that it will work. What make relationships successful and what things to look as traits that make it worthy and long lasting?? I am hurt and being cheated upon so I need help to find the ri...
A. 16 February 2013: Hi
for me...
Good two-way communication
Trust
Respect
Ability to laugh at each other and with each other
Same goals
The *X* factor
Consideration
Compramise
Letting me sleep window side of the bed
To name but ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex so cruel to me?
Q. Why would he do that? I hate him so much:(? My ex bf cheated on me and dumped me so he could sleep around. I was heart broken for over a year. He came back begging to try and I gave him another chance cause I loved him so much. But it didn...
A. 16 February 2013: Hi
He has already spoilt several years of your life, so why let him ruin any more?
You don't want to let his bad behaviour dictate your future,he let you down badly when you loved him.You've given him 2 chances so enough is enough.
Time ... (read in full...)
Completely confused with exes behaviour!?
Q. Hi I am totally confused with my exes behaviour! We broke up at Christmas after an argument. He barely spoke to me over Christmas then told me the day after boxing day that he wanted to break up and he'd arranged somewhere else to live! ...
A. 15 February 2013: Hi
This relationship ended when he moved out. Actions speak louder than words.
Stop the communication and accept it's over.You will only hurt yourself more if you keep hoping
Good Luck... (read in full...)
The romantic Valentines dinner and surprise turned out to be a stirfry on the sofa and an iTunes voucher! Am I right to be upset?
Q. So it was Valentine's Day yesterday and my boyfriend said I would be getting a 'romantic meal and a surprise'. I was quite excited and made plans for the rest of the day to show him how much I love him which he really enjoyed (like horse riding and ...
A. 15 February 2013: Hi
Well you did get a meal and a surprise gift. How much he spent is irrelevant.Yes you planned an awful alot,maybe he felt he had packed enough into one day and was happy to just chill out after he'd cooked for you.It's one day and about romance,... (read in full...)
I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 13 February 2013: Hi
I do like a happy ending. All the very best to you and your lovely husband ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend married someone else a few weeks ago. Should I listen to his words that we could be together?
Q. my boyfriend got married to some other person few weeks back. He says they are not staying together, and he still tells me that he loves me and want to be with me forever and will marry me. i am not getting what to do I am not able to go away ...
A. 12 February 2013: hi
He is a newly wed, he has a new wife,they are married
You can spend the rest of your life waiting for him and sharing him
or
Walk away,get over the pain and find happiness with a man who marries YOU. x... (read in full...)
Could it be that my boyfriend still loves his ex? He tells me he's slept with her several times since they broke up
Q. My boyfriend told me that he has slept with his ex several times since they broke up, she is the mother of his children. This has made me feel paranoid that this could happen again or that at least he still fancies her. I hate how this has made me ...
A. 12 February 2013: Hi
Do you mean he has slept with her while he has been seeing you?
If so, dump him.
If it happened *before* you met,he has probably just used her for his own needs and she has gone along with it to try to get him back...MAYBE.Depends on ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a fool for taking my ex back but I don't want to abandon him either! I don't know what to do
Q. My ex and I split from 3 years together because I found out he cheated on me over a year ago (several times) and has been inappropriately messaging other girls ever since. We've been talking since we split, and even hoped to be able to patch things ...
A. 12 February 2013: Hi
Just simply stop listening to him. He can only communicate with you if you answer calls,texts,or are in his vicinity.
If you have told him to leave you alone,that your not interested in getting back,the rest is up to him.If he thinks there ... (read in full...)
I wouldn't send my love interest an intimate photo so he broke up. Should we stay friends, as he is suggesting?
Q. I met a man on facebook about 5 months ago. We have never met in real life. But we are very close to each other. We have shared everything about our past--his ex's and my ex. I told him about my ex, who blackmails me with pics that he had taken of ...
A. 12 February 2013: Hi
No, he is definately not a friend, he is a chancer.Just block him.
You have done exactly the right thing refusing,in future don't 'share' so much intimate and personal information with a total stranger.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a fool for taking my ex back but I don't want to abandon him either! I don't know what to do
Q. My ex and I split from 3 years together because I found out he cheated on me over a year ago (several times) and has been inappropriately messaging other girls ever since. We've been talking since we split, and even hoped to be able to patch things ...
A. 12 February 2013: Hi
What on earth do you see in him?
Just leave him to sort out his own mess, your not abandoning him,he's an adult.He chooses to take drugs its up to him to sort out his life,get professional help.
Stop playing stupid jealousy games wi... (read in full...)
Is five months too soon to move in with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months and we're thinking of moving in together. I spend about three or four nights a week with him anyway and we were on holidays together for over a week and got on great! I've known him for about ten ...
A. 12 February 2013: Hi
Who's idea was it and what's his history re girlfriends and living together?
Yes it may make financial sense but I would find a flatshare with others instead if I was you.Don't get swept away with emotions and the honeymoon feeling.
If y... (read in full...)
Just moved house and have no friends here.
Q. I am 17 years old. I have just moved from London to Hampshire with my mum and stepdad. I have no friends in this area and I dont know anybody either. I have seen a few teens around, But i would never know how to approach them. I need friends help ...
A. 11 February 2013: Hi
Thats a culture shock! You don't say if your at college,school or working - which is where you initially meet people?
Once you kick start your life you will soon make friends,just get out there and 'join in' ask questions, be approachable.... (read in full...)
Did cancelling once mean I missed my chance?
Q. I've been texting back and forth with this guy for ages and he hasn't asked me out more than one time, which I had to reschedule and eventually cancel at extremely short notice when my sat nav wasn't finding our meeting place. I probably should have ...
A. 11 February 2013: Hi
Put it this way he is STILL texting you so he hasn't lost interest. Why don't you bring it up,like when's my 2nd chance type of thing?
Meet him someplace you do know instead of an area you don't.
You could have just explained you were ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend says I'm boring and I "mother" him. How can I regain his interest?
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that hes bored with me and that i dont "challenge" him enough. After 2 years together he thinks we have nothing to talk about and that i mother him too much. i was shocked. I thought he was happy with how things ...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi
After that little speech I am surprised he is still around,sounds like a 'this is the end' talk so there must be something he likes about you
You can stop mothering him,that bits easy.What do you do when your TOGETHER,do you go out at night,... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi
Find another job and a proper boyfriend.
Imagine if it was your Dad who was doing this to your Mum,how would you feel about the *young girl* or your Dad in that situation?
His wife will be watching him,his mobile and you,she's already qu... (read in full...)
How can I be so very upset about our breakup? The breakup was OK and he was OK as a BF.
Q. Hi. I don't understand why I am upset over my break up with my boyfriend a week ago when I am the one that broke up with him, I didn't get dumped after all. We were together for 4 years. Started off OK but some issues like money and marriage and...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi
Because you were together for 4 years and cared about him, he wasn't a bad boyfriend you just had different views on important issues.
It was a *good* break up, your lucky.Now you have to allow time to get over him,once your getting on with ... (read in full...)
Do I settle for what I have with my ex now? He says he's not ready to settle down. What's the best way to deal with this?
Q. I never stopped seeing my ex after we broke up. It has been over a year and we never stopped hanging out and sleeping together, we just eliminated a title. It all gets confusing because for the most part it seems like we are together still but we a...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi
Stop seeing him, he has no reason to give you back the girlfriend title just now, he is *available* to others while still getting his needs met by you.
Tell him as he is not your boyfriend the privilages stop until/ or unless he gives ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I asked my BF for a break, but he is pushing me to end the break. He's so controlling.
Q. If you were in my situation, what would you do? Long story short, I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 8 years. The first 2 years in our relationship were amazing, he was loving, caring and very sweet. We talked about moving in ...
A. 10 February 2013: Hi
He has been stringing you along for 8 years now, he has probably got several women on the go,maybe even a wife and kids.
He isn't 'controlling the break' it was merely a message,he wasn't on your doorstep.He probably thinks you will calm do... (read in full...)
New town. His town. How do I overcome problems with making friends with my partner's buddies? They don't seem to like me
Q. I've been with my partner for two years. He was unhappy in the town we lived in (where we met) so I agreed to move with him back to the town he lived in previously, where he has lots of friends and was happier. I am freelance and work from home s...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
You have to read Brand New Friend by Mike Gayle, I got it out from the library recently,you can buy it online.Its actually about a man in your exact situation and the author used to be an agony uncle.
I don't think your boyfriend is hel... (read in full...)
I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 31 January 2013: HI
Well at least you have seperated from your husband.
I really hope this man has split from his girlfriend too.
Your being sensible not wanting to rush into living with him, don't let him push you.
I find it strange you haven't been inti... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
Why on earth should you and the children move out?
SEE A LAWYER,you have to protect you and the children here, DO NOT move out, it's your childrens home! Why did he even suggest this?
Use this month to get things planned.
Maybe see if... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
You need a lawyer and/or legal advice asap. You need to stop cleaning up after him and cooking for him.You need to get tough.
He can't expect you to wait any longer its no good for you or the children,the atmosphere must be awful
He has ... (read in full...)
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