Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 23 February 2013: Hi
Well you have given it your best shot,him too.While he is gone do not contact him,give him his week.
I think you have been more than patient with him but he is still holding all the cards.You haven't given him a week, *he* has chosen that ... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 24 January 2013: Good luck honey ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy telling people that we had a relationship?
Q. About five years ago I had a casual fling with a guy I met at a work do. By 'casual fling' I mean we met up, went on a few dates, had dinner together, etc. over a period of about three months. We were both working away a lot, so we must have seen ...
A. 24 January 2013: Hi
So long as you and your partner know the truth of it all it doesn't really matter what he,or anyone else thinks.As you have worked there longer your colleagues must know you well enough.
Have a word with him if it's bothering you, W... (read in full...)
My ex keeps texting me wanting an explanation for why I broke up with him
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up October last year, but it was a long drawn out process of being off and on since April. He cheated on me back then and I still loved him but couldn't trust him, realised I needed some space. Eventually when we done ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
You don't owe him an explanation, you finished it, he cheated,you do not trust him.If he can't get his head round that its his problem,not yours.
Enjoy your new relationship and ignore your Ex.... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
Yes, confront her, admit you have seen the texts and tell her you don't trust her.
She shouldn't be telling the girls their dad is a 'mummys friend' either,they should be told the truth.
All sounds a bit messy to me and you should consid... (read in full...)
We are married but separated and husband has signed up for dating site. What steps do I take now?
Q. Hello I've had problems since I married and moved in together (been married 2 years. We have taken a 'break' where he has moved out. I find im a happier on my own, no stress of arguing about how much he drinks each evening, him not going to bed...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
Divorce?
He has or is moving on already, your not happy together,you live apart and he is looking for a replacement.... (read in full...)
I wish I didn't have feelings for him
Q. I need help. What do you think is the best solution for two people who can't let go of one another, yet what drove them apart in the first place is a fundamental issue of principle. Neither one of us has been able to move along with our lives for ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
He initially persued you when you were dating his best-friend, that alone should have given you a clue he was no saint.
You say there was no cheating on your part, back then at the start, so this guy you love couldn't have cheated either.H... (read in full...)
Whats a fair amount for boyfriend to pay if he moves in?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years. We are both late 20s. Lately we have been talking about moving in together. i have my own place and he still lives at home. Its not the best time to try and sell my house with out loosing money (he ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
Erm why would you want to live with a man who leaves food around to rot,never tidies up and thats when he's just a visitor.Also YOU tell him what he pays, its your house, your not a charity, no rent, no sharing home,simple
Bad idea to m... (read in full...)
Partner's mother belittles me. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone , I'm in a long distance relationship, we see each other every 2 weeks or more . The problem is his mother, she belittles me quiet a lot, she talks to me as a child and i am finding it really annoying now . I told him how I felt in a ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
Can he not make arrangements for her to go into respite or another relative to care for her,so he can come to you? Why do you have to go there?
I don't see why you should have to put up with her,she may need caring but it doesn't mean she... (read in full...)
Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?
Q. Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long...
A. 22 January 2013: Hi
It can happen, yes, especially if you haven't a reputation for having sex first date with every man you meet,it all depends on the man,his views,his feelings.
A guy I knew said he didn't hold it against the girl as if they didnt click sexu... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly belittling my looks, my opinions and my intelligence.
Q. I love my partner and he loves me, but I dont feel like he appreciates me. I am an attractive lady and have always had a lot of male attention my whole life. I am now 36 yrs old and look probably 28 yrs old. Not that I am basing who I am off my ...
A. 22 January 2013: Hi
Yes he has issues, he seems to want to keep you in your place so to speak. He knows your attractive young looking and get male attention, he isn't blind.Its like he's saying he is wonderful and youdon't need any of these men.
Thing is you ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend for permission to sleep with her husband?
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I think it's important to have the details.. the devil is always in the details... Me: I'm single and approaching 50. It's been a few years since my last serious relationship but I'm fine with that. Having see...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi
Well the pillow talk would be interesting.....
Do not ask her if you value her friendship, never crap on your own doorstep.
If you want an FWB look further afield,plenty of men would be up for regular no strings sex I am certain.But rem... (read in full...)
Should my husband go to the funeral of his ex girlfriend's father?
Q. My husband's x-girlfriend's father passed away. They have two children together. She tried to trap him into marriage.. Didn't work. She has also tried to cause many problems between us.. She hates me.. Should he attend her father's funeral? I ...
A. 21 January 2013: hi
Yes, the children have lost their Grandad, he only needs to go to the service and burial though. I think that shows support for his kids and respect for her Dad.
I don't think he will need to sit with his Ex and as there will probably be... (read in full...)
Am I stupid to go it alone at 39?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 years. We own a place together. We broke up for a few months a couple of years ago (my instigation), but missed each other and got back together. However, the things that broke us up haven’t really been res...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi
Are you in love with him? I don't think you are,when a man proposes you don't look at him in horror when he does.
As to staying with him, it would be easy to,your comfortable together,have a home together you have 10years history and ... (read in full...)
How do I get him back? He has ignored me since our breakup
Q. how to get back my guy who has totally ignored me after 7 months of being in a sweet relationship.i fell for him and he knew that.we were so happy together. The problem started between us when he let a female friend to come between us and h...
A. 21 January 2013: Hi
You can't do anything now, he is never going to come back to you I am sorry,but its a fact.
You have to stop texting and calling him,it's over and you are only prolonging the agony.
Your friends are right,listen to them,you CAN move on ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to expect any future girlfriend not to have more experience than me and to not have dated a "bad boy" then?
Q. I am very inexperienced, and am still a virgin at 19. I want a girlfriend who will be loyal, loving, beautiful and giving. I have some confidence issues when it comes to girls. The few compliments I ever get, other girls tell me about a girl talking ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
All I am saying is don't assume all girls are like your Ex after dating a bad boy. Few would really want to share their experiences like she did,you just got unlucky.And listened.
If you date around you will find that girls are all differen... (read in full...)
A girl at work told me that she's been having an affair with my dad, she's pregnant, and that she wants to marry him, and they're in love!! How will I ever cope?
Q. Recently I found out off my friend [a girl in work] that she's been having an affair with my dad. What she said next was the kicker - she told me she's pregnant, and that she wants to marry him, and they're in love!!! I feel sick, disgusted and up...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
What a complete bitch this so called 'friend' is.
Sadly there isn't much you can do, it's down to your parents to get through this.You have to take a back seat now.Your Dad and this girl have hurt you all but the marriage is your parents to ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to expect any future girlfriend not to have more experience than me and to not have dated a "bad boy" then?
Q. I am very inexperienced, and am still a virgin at 19. I want a girlfriend who will be loyal, loving, beautiful and giving. I have some confidence issues when it comes to girls. The few compliments I ever get, other girls tell me about a girl talking ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
Join the queue, I have no doubt every man wants a girl who is beautiful,loyal loving and giving. It doesn't matter if she has dated a bad boy before,it doesn't change what is essentially 'her'.
You have something to offer her too, it does... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
Why on earth should you and the children move out?
SEE A LAWYER,you have to protect you and the children here, DO NOT move out, it's your childrens home! Why did he even suggest this?
Use this month to get things planned.
Maybe see if... (read in full...)
I broke up with abusive boyfriend but he keeps bothering me!
Q. i broke up with my ex four months ago.He was quite abusive and very manipulative. He used to blame me for everything which was happening in his life. he lost his job also. on that time i was very emotional but still i broke up because it was t...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
I don't know why your feeling guilty,it didn't work out so you finished it,end of,he has to get over it.
Can one of your family go and talk to him,make it clear he is to leave you alone or you will take it to the Police.
He needs help t... (read in full...)
My sister has an obsession in staying in touch with my ex boyfriends. Its very unsettling!
Q. This may sound strange, but my sister seems to have some kind of obsession with my ex boyfriends. When I break up with someone I rarely stay friends with them, not because I dislike them, but because I like to make a clean break and move on and I ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
Weird! Just tell her to keep YOUR private life private,explain you don't feel the need to stay in touch with your past even if she does. And what you do now is your business,not theirs.
I wouldn't introduce her to any more,or talk to ... (read in full...)
I am my husband's punching bag! I'm very lonely in this marriage
Q. My husband is 12 years older then I. We dated for 1.5. Then married. I feel so lonely in this marriage. He complains about everything. Talks about everyone behind their backs. But will not confort them. So i become the punching bag. He allows people ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
He doesn't sound as though he's exactly happy in this marriage either, or with life in general.
Have you told him how you feel,communicated at all? Was he like this before you married?
Don't let him or the marriage drag you down f... (read in full...)
Why does she keep on asking me about my Gf?
Q. This girl I work with continuously asks me about my relationship. She (and I) were a little bit flirty with each other for a while but I know she has a husband so I never persued anything. Any way I started dated another girl about a few months ago ...
A. 20 January 2013: Hi
She's a bit obsessive isn't she, reckon she hopes you will say your splitting up with your girlfriend.I think she wanted a fling but thinks you seeing somebody is whats stopping you.Thats how it sounds.
I would say very clearly, 'look,s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has let a female friend come between us because he won't stop texting her
Q. my guy and I were doing nicely. he is 4 years older than me. we work at same office, travel by the same bus. i met him 6 months ago. Soon we were so close(went for shopping,movie, beach and restaurant together even made love).everything was g...
A. 19 January 2013: Hi
Well it moved way too fast for him by the sounds of it and he wasn't as committed as you as he has shown by moving onto this new girl so fast. I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't make a habit of it.
You were right to question him abo... (read in full...)
Valentine's day gift? I don't want to get him the generic stuff
Q. Okay.. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 months, and I have NO idea what to get him for Valentines day. I really want it to be something great, and not just the generic card or candy from Walmart. I just need some good ideas please!! ...
A. 19 January 2013: Hi
After only 2 months don't go over the top,a funny card and something not too romantic and definately not expensive.
If he likes beer or whatever get him a bottle of his favourite or even a CD.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't financially stable. After 3 years should I accept that I would be the breadwinner? Or leave?
Q. Hi dearcupid, I am not sure what to do in my relationship of 2 years. When I met my bf he presented himself as a financially comfortable insurance salesman and of course I didn't ask deeply personal questions. Then as time passed and we enjoyed ...
A. 19 January 2013: Hi
Ask him whats going on you can't build a castle on shifting sand.If you want to be in a financially stable partnership then you need to sit down and sort the nitty gritty.
If you find his commitments to his child are draining his fin... (read in full...)
Husband obsessed with teenage girls, trying to be ok now but I feel depressed I keep getting images in my head
Q. I am 28 next month, my husband is 30, we've been together 13 years, we have 2 children and he has constanly cheated on me!, all of them much younger, mostly teenagers!, I have gone through his phone and emails and facebook and found out there's ...
A. 19 January 2013: Hi
He is a serial cheat and he will NEVER change.
If he wants teenage girls kick him out, divorce him and get your life,self esteem back and he can go rot. Even his mum has told you in her way,what to do.I just hope these girls aren't TOO young... (read in full...)
Husband sent a "lets have sex" message to a colleague
Q. My husband went out a few weeks ago with his friends to a concert. In the morning he was a bit hungover, but got up, went to the washroom and then hid his phone. I felt bad for snooping, but I wondered why he hid his phone so I found it and looked ...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi
He's a lowlife, I wonder what he would think if you had sent the same message to some guy you work with?... (read in full...)
Should my wife and I try swinging?
Q. My wife is keen for us to move in the direction of swinging, really soft-swinging, at least at first. What she has in mind is us each doing stuff (everything short of penatrative sex) with other couples. She is also keen for each of us to do...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi
Everyone I know that have tried this - it was a prelude to breaking up. Its like cheating with consent and messed with their head and relationship.One or two suggested it because they were bored with their OH.
Up to you.
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What can I expect as far as possible symptoms as a result of ceasing to take birth control pills?
Q. Been on microgynon 30 for about 3 years now. I've slowly become fed up with it, took it to lighten periods and ive become unorganised(joining packs together without breaks, missing them) and I've decided to come off it now as I hate pumping my body ...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi
Everyones different. I just lost weight and thats it really,that was after 10yrs on it.
Carry spare tampons and panty liners etc your period will just settle into a new routine.
See the Nurse or GP at your practice if you have con... (read in full...)
The more I try, the more I think he will hate me. How do I handle my depressed LDR boyfriend?
Q. how do you help someone you love that seems depressed? im in a LDR at the moment with my boyfriend and whenever we talk on the phone etc he can be lovely and cheerful one minute but if i say one thing wrong or something he doesnt like he will get...
A. 18 January 2013: Hi
You sound great, a really sweet girl. He sounds like he's a bit depressed,plus has a really bad attitude, especially toward you.
Has his GP told him he has depression and is he being treated for it?
I know its hard and gets you down i... (read in full...)
Why would my friends with benefits ignore me?
Q. Hi iv been sleeping with a guy I know for about two years now. I normally go to his on a weekend say after a night out and he'll take me home in the morning. We get on really well and have a laugh we both know its just fun and I'm happy with that.if ...
A. 17 January 2013: Hi
He isn't playing games he's being immature. If you want your things message or phone him, tell him when you will be round to collect them.
If he doesn't respond then just show up when you think he will be in,if you want them back.
The thi... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
You need a lawyer and/or legal advice asap. You need to stop cleaning up after him and cooking for him.You need to get tough.
He can't expect you to wait any longer its no good for you or the children,the atmosphere must be awful
He has ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? Should I believe him, or the people who say he's cheated?
Q. Please aunts and uncles can you help me?? .. Here goes.. I have a profile on a popular dating site. One day goin back 2+ years I received a msg from 'M' saying he saw me driving along, and so we struck up a conversation. It was on and off chatting...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
I don't think your family member would tell you these things to be hurtful, unless they are a total lowlife, do you?
However did the 'spooning' refer to him and had he responded? Your relative must know it did before she told you.
The... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't want to lose her virginity until we're married, but that won't be for 10 years! What can we do?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We both never had sex, we only experimented with foreplay etc.(Basically everything but just the most vital part, sex) She told me she will only be willing to do that once we get m...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
Why wait 10 years to marry her? IF you do wait that long then you will,if you want them,be having babies pretty soon afterwards as you will be 30.Is that part of your plan too?
You could marry her sooner - but ONLY if your 100% sure its no... (read in full...)
Am I a loser for not drinking or doing drugs? Will I find a girl to date?
Q. How can I be comfortable with the fact that I dont drink or do drugs. Last night, I went out with my friends to a partyhiuse and there was rndless amounts of drinks and drugs there. I never drink, so I am the sober one. I have some friends who do ...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
At least if your sober you will remember meeting a gorgeous girl, plus no beer goggles so she will actually be as you remember!
Look its sort of a right of passage the drinking, carefree stuff at your age. Drugs is always a definate NO and ... (read in full...)
Starting to feel used in this relationship -- am I blowing things out of proportion?
Q. I have a range of niggling issues with my boyfriend who Ive been seeing for 6 months. On the whole he is kind and loving but I have noticed that when we go out for a meal, the cinema or somewhere else I end up paying... he never offers or reaches ...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
If your unemployed he shouldn't even be expecting you to pay more than your share.Nor should he expect you to be giving him lifts,fuel and running costs for a car don't come cheap and your not working.As he only sees you or you go out once a f... (read in full...)
I feel good but bad at he same time. I told my FWB that I'd developed feelings for him. Now he wants a break?
Q. Oh gosh, okay, sorry if this is a little long it may just end up viewed as venting. I've been seeing this guy and I've posted about this situation a couple of months ago. Well, we continued seeing each other and it seems now that it was clearly ...
A. 16 January 2013: Hi
Well at least he didn't just scream and ride off into the sunset, he has shown concern for your well being.He cares a bit.
The best thing for YOU though is distance and no contact,no checking his profile either. He has been honest and so ha... (read in full...)
Relationship with an old parent and siblings.
Q. I am a 45 year old single male - I have an old mother (75+) who lives with me - we share a reasonable relationship most of the times but there are instances when things just get too difficult. I strongly believe my mother's ability to compr...
A. 15 January 2013: Hi
First,it sounds like your doing a great job to me.
As for your mum, she is old yes, likes to gossip too like all us women. Seems its your siblings that take it too far, their way of feeling part of the arrangement I guess.
However they... (read in full...)
Should I be with someone who thinks of me as a slut?
Q. So this guy and I were talking for about 4 months, then at a party we had one on one time. He brought me home and walked me into my room. I had drank a bit we than ended up having sex, he asked me to be his GF. I avoided the question, 2 months have ...
A. 15 January 2013: Hi
Don't bother with him, he disrespects you. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?
Q. Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home ...
A. 15 January 2013: Hi
If this question is for real ........
then I think its totally unfair to evict this poor lad
Your the experienced one, the mature one, the married one, control yourself, its quite easy.Stop playing games with him
Your husband shou... (read in full...)
We've been a couple for three years. Yet he's told me the thought of sex terrifies him. What do I say to discuss this problem with him?
Q. Ok, so I've been with this guy for about 3 years now. I'll be 18 in 4 days and he just turned 20 two months ago. He's is literally my best friend and we do everything together, we are inseperable. Its coming time to where hes getting his own plac...
A. 15 January 2013: Hi
He needs counselling, so a visit to his doctor is the first step.Then if/when you do move in together he will be able to have a normal loving sex life with you.
Its a natural part of loving somebody,showing them that love,and even th... (read in full...)
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