I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 13 February 2013: Hi
I do like a happy ending. All the very best to you and your lovely husband ... (read in full...)
I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 31 January 2013: HI
Well at least you have seperated from your husband.
I really hope this man has split from his girlfriend too.
Your being sensible not wanting to rush into living with him, don't let him push you.
I find it strange you haven't been inti... (read in full...)
How can I live more comfortably in this flat living with the kind of people I live with?
Q. Helloo, I'm having a problem that causes me a lot of stress and would appreciate advice on how to handle it. Please bear with me as I've just come out of a 'chat' which involves the problem. Thank you. At the moment, I'm living in a flat with my...
A. 31 January 2013: Hi
Just move out, find a flatshare for just you, with a couple of girls. You don't have to take your boyfriend with you,or split up with him.
Your not happy with your living arrangements,your merely a tennant in somebody elses flat,sharing wit... (read in full...)
Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Q. I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated ...
A. 31 January 2013:
Hi
He thought the Sunday night Cabaret would be lame and he didn't want to go,you would be reading poetry so wanted his support in the wings I guess.
Now it's this huge thing between you,he is getting over being 'pissed' with you, so unless ... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 31 January 2013: hi
This is a site for problems so when women come on here they are talking about men who are addicted to or refuse to give up porn. The worst case scenarios.
If your man say he does not watch porn,then he doesn't, why would you question this? I... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't.
Q. I need help or someone to talk to... I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't. We've been broken up for 2 months but he is moving halfway across the country in a month, so we've been spending time with each other, acting li...
A. 31 January 2013: Hi
As soon as he is gone then make that an end to it, no more contact,sooner if you can.
At the moment your providing all he needs girlfriend wise so he is just using your availability until he leaves.
I don't know why you broke up,but one... (read in full...)
Is it a waste of money to see an exhibition of my favorite band's pictures? Should I save my money to see them in concert?
Q. I know this isn't much of a problem, but i would appreciate some advice. There will be an exhibition of photographs of my favourite band next month. I'm not sure if any of the band members will be at the opening night, but it's possible. One of them ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
If its only 2hours away you don't need to stop over,plus you can go by coach which is less money and stop in a Hostel if it's too late to travel home,there's good ones and they're cheap.
Find out if the Exhibition will be showing around t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't keep it up and I'm ready to walk!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We came across a sex problem after about 6 mths. The problem was, he couldn't stay hard and we got into an about that aftet it happened several times cuz I was left hanging. Now, it...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
A vaccuum cleaner? Are you serious?
He needs a doctors help.
... (read in full...)
I need the strength to despise him for cheating on me
Q. I don't know what to do. I'm 26, found out my boyfriend of 4 years has cheated on me 2 times, once each time with two different girls. He seemed so sweet and loving up until I just found this out. I have 100% concrete evidence, there's no doubt he...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
I don't think you need help to despise him,just the strength to leave him.Even if you do hate him for a while its only natural,it will pass. Just think how he lied,how he treated you like a fool when you trusted him.
Then remember your yo... (read in full...)
A phone call shattered my world, find out husband had an affair. If I leave will it stop the pain?
Q. Hi One evening I got a call from a girl saying to ask my husband who she is. I asked ... it is a work collegue who he has being having an affair with for 4 months. He said he ended it 1 month ago and didnt have sex. I believe him and he's promise...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
If he works with her he will see her,every day. He said they had no sex,so why did he not mention her,she would merely be a friend.
If you want to get past this and try to work it out HE needs to be 100% honest with you.The girl is clearly ... (read in full...)
Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!!
Q. Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!! She was seeing this guy for a few months, but he ended things with them so suddenly and in ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
I think your right,she's not Ok at all. Keep a close eye on her,all of you.Watch her weight loss. If she is still losing weight in 2-4 weeks, then it's time to say something harsh.
Most people have weight loss after a break-up but she... (read in full...)
Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Q. I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
I don't think its abuse or manipulation at all.
YouWish has said it all, I agree totally.
You tried to cross the boundery he has for your 'relationship' and your view and his, of your situation, was highlighted as being different.
I do... (read in full...)
Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?
Q. I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
Its either 'if you can't beat them,join them' or let it go over your head,it's their lives and them that will end up hurting others.
You liked one of the women but you were put off as she had a fling with a married guy, well she was/is marri... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.
Q. Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...
A. 30 January 2013: Hi
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-was-excited-about-the-pregnancy-at-first45.html
Is this question yours as well? If so he has told you to move out once already and your still wondering how to make it easier for HIM.
The clue is he ... (read in full...)
Should I give up at the last hurdle of 5 year long distance relationship?
Q. I have no idea what to do with myself. We live in different countries in Europe. When we first met nearly 6 years ago, he promised me [m24] he would be there with me after we finished university/college. At one point I just wanted to dump it all a...
A. 29 January 2013: Hi
I don't think he is being immature,he is being realistic, the jobs over here are few and he's right to stay where he is and develop his career.There are many graduates already living here working in jobs they hate because there is nothing ... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 29 January 2013: Hi
Don't judge him so harshly, he is single,you got along and he was respectful.That's a good start.
Chewing gum and talking to you is multi tasking and probably bad nerves.Or maybe he is a smoker ?
At least give him a 2nd date if he asks.... (read in full...)
Got dumped by BBM and then he deleted me as a contact as soon as I read it
Q. If you are familiar with BBM you will know that someone knows when their message has been delivered and then eventually read. Today I got dumped by BBM and then as soon as he saw that I had read the message, he deleted me! What a coward!! Duh... I ...
A. 29 January 2013: Hi
Do not respond, don't give him the satisfaction of knowing how angry and upset you are with him.
If he should ever contact you again,ignore him. He is a user.But you know that now.
If it makes you feel better write him a letter but d... (read in full...)
He was excited about the pregnancy at first but now he has asked me to move out! What should I do?
Q. Hi i am in a very hard situation at the minute, i was with a man i liked for years and he liked me. i think i may now be pregnant and i have told him this, he was really pleased at first as he has wanted a child. i have a 3 year old daughter who he ...
A. 28 January 2013: Hi
Pregnancy test first.
Then go and see your local Housing Office, you will be homeless with one or even 2 children,finding a place to live is a priority,explain your situation to them.
He is not going to change his mind and as he doesn... (read in full...)
My grandaughter has been taken into care and it looks like neither me or my daughter can have her! What can I do?
Q. Last year my 6 month old granddaughter got taken into foster care because of a suspected broken rib. Her dad was charged with assault and neglect and my daughter was charged with neglect though I am not sure what is going to happen with the both of ...
A. 28 January 2013: Hi
I feel for you. I would ask for supervised access to start with if you want contact. Social Services would rather have a child with parents or family but if they consider the child will be at risk it is not going to happen.
Get some lega... (read in full...)
Help! Priorities? My health? What the NHS demands? Attend the 8 year paediatrics programme and lose contact with friends? Find time to do things I enjoy? Which should I choose?
Q. This is about my life. I gave up teaching English as a foreign language to go to medical school aged 30. I knew it would be tough. No money, starting at the bottom, my peer group all being 10-12 years younger. I went from having classes of mainly ...
A. 28 January 2013: hi
Wow stress or what. The sheer responsibility is enough to make you on edge. If your confident in the role you have can your skills be transferred to say a Private Hospital where there is less pressure?
I don't think your in the right frame ... (read in full...)
Do I ask for a second date? Or wait for her to ask me?
Q. I met this girl on a dating website, we have lots in common and we have the same sense of humour. I went on a date with her last weekend and it went really well, there was no awkwardness or silences and the conversation flowed. She is absolutely ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
First,take a deep breath and relax
Yes, ask her for a 2nd date then SLOWLY take it from there - or not - depends how she responds.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have to pay board to their parents?
Q. Hi, just a quick question! I am 20 years old, and have just moved back home. My parents have asked me to contribute $100 a week, for rent/bills/food. I work full-time, making about $600 (aus) a week. I also have my phone bill to pay, as well as ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
If you had your own place it would cost you alot more so your gaining here.
They don't have to subsidise your living arrangements,they raised you,their jobs done, time to accept thats what it costs to live there.... (read in full...)
Husband texting ex and making comments about me that are leaving me feeling very insecure
Q. I heard my now husband tell a friend of his that I was not much to look at but I make him happy. It killed me inside. I asked him about and basically said I took it out of context and has since made me feel like a beautiful princess and we have ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
I am not surprised you feel insecure. Its a weird set-up you have anyway,being married but living apart. He clearly gets bored when your not around and the Devil makes light work of idle hands.
It does make me wonder why he GOT married,or y... (read in full...)
Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% of his attention
Q. Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% attention ? I see a bunch of couples that are our friends and they seem to have a cute relationship, they actually touch and kiss one another more than maybe once a day or ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
Maybe he just doesn't want to be like his friends,or he just doesn't feel that closeness yet. Maybe he just is how he is even when in love.
If you want different, find somebody who you feel compatable with or just learn to accept your man ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend's gesture and behaviour strange in this situation?
Q. Recently my boyfriend (who makes an excellent living) brought me a bouquet of flowers. They were the grocery store variety and the price tag that he left on the cellophane said $7. He came to my front door with said flowers still in the plastic ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
I reckon he isn't used to being romantic, so he covered his embarassment by being flippant.
Its lovely he bought them and thought of you so don't bring the topic up,just see it as it is,he bought you flowers.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is another woman's 'back up guy' in case they're not married by 40! How would you feel about this?
Q. Dear All, How would you act if your boyfriend told you he was another girls back up guy and if there both still 40 they would get married as his rich and reliable? I feel this is disrespectful and it"s upset me but he can't see why? Opinions p...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
I think it's quite funny, he is saying if nobody else wants him he has a Plan B. I have said the same in the past,if still single at...I wasn't serious,its just something you say to somebody you don't want a relationship with,but like.You... (read in full...)
I just really wish I knew if he really likes me or if I'm just being used.
Q. I really like this guy, we work together and know each other for about two years. All we are right now is friends. About six months ago we started to have sex and he doesn't want anyone to know because its no ones business. Well we still do and we ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
Next time he wants sex tell him no thanks I have had enough of being used.Next time he asks for money tell him to go ask some other idiot because your not lending another penny.
How dare he make you his little secret, just stop the whole t... (read in full...)
Caught fiancee cheating whilst I was pregnant now I am sleeping with his boss
Q. Me and my now EX fiance where dating for 1 and a half years and i became pregnant and we were excited but 6 months into my pregnancy i came home early from my part time job as i wasn't feeling to good so i come home and i hear him shouting out my ...
A. 27 January 2013: Hi
Your Ex doesn't want to get involved because he is too young to be a Dad or in a serious relationship. He is an immature jerk.If he sees his baby he would have to see you and he doesn't want to,I hope his family DO though.Just make sure he ... (read in full...)
Out of the blue he says he loves me but can't be with me. I don't know what happened!
Q. i met this guy on a dating site.we are talking by mails and on the phone before to meet 5 mnths ago.was a romantic trip.after that we met few more times.he wanted me to be a part of his life and share everythings with me.met me with his friends and ...
A. 26 January 2013: Hi
A dating site cheat, he is probably married.When you go on these dating sites you need to be aware that alot men and women, are not honest and are there for their own ends.
Its best not to have sex, to do a check on them if you can,ask abou... (read in full...)
What does friends with benefits mean to you?
Q. I have a question for you lovely people.. Me and my ex stopped talking for a long time all of a sudden he missed me ( so he says) he asked me did I wanna be friends with benefits and told me I can't sleep with nobody but him... What is friends with ...
A. 26 January 2013: Hi
Friends with Benefits = in this case, he benefits.
You have feelings for him which is why he made the proposition,he thought you would fall into bed with him, then when he found a GIRLFRIEND he could vanish.
Leave him where he belongs, in... (read in full...)
I think my wife is cheating on me. We have 3 children together. What's my next step to deal with this?
Q. born in 1981 met her 1996 married her in 2004 we have three kids oldest is 11 years old it is now 2013 next month is our meeting each other anniversery. I suspect and i think she's cheating on me. Anyone care to conversate on the matter? i ho...
A. 26 January 2013: Hi
Not much detail here really to go on, if you have proof she is cheating then confront her with it. She will probably lie or bluff if you have nothing concrete.
If you just THINK she may be cheating then something must have triggered that t... (read in full...)
Three years together, but last few months he's been depressed and pushing me away. How can I help?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years we had a great relationship but the last four months hes been really withdrawn and not speaking to me . i have since found out he had debt of five grand that he's kept secret from me and his ...
A. 26 January 2013: Hi
If his folks don't know about his frame of mind or the debt, please tell at least one of them because he sounds like he needs help with depression and to sort his finances.
He can pay it off,even go for a Debt Relief Order or Bankruptcy,he... (read in full...)
How can I convince my Boyfriend that his smoking weed is a deal breaker for me?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. When we first met i didnt know he smoked weed, but as time went on he seemed to smoke more and more to the point where i said it was bothering me. His personality has changed and the smell drives me ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
He is avoiding you till you calm down, he knows you will forgive him and put up with his habit, you have done so far.
All you can do is end this relationship if it IS a dealbreaker because until,if ever, he is ready, he won't stop.If yo... (read in full...)
A weekend away together, he grew cold on the way home and now has totally frozen me out. Why?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 2 months. Things were going great. Just two weeks ago, during my drive home after hanging out with him, he sent me a text that said, "I think we should take this relationship to a new level, will you be my facebook ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
I think asking you to be his FB friend which he saw as taking it to a new level, shows he was't taking things that seriously.
He saw the weekend as getting away,sex on tap,getting to know you maybe a bit better,it probably sounded good in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to know if he can go to a party where his ex will be. What do I say?
Q. My bf met up with his ex behind my back 2 years ago. He lied about it but the truth eventually came out. Not only that he'd saved semi naked (recent) photos on his computer from her facebook. We had a massive argument and had a break but I ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
Yes,I agree ask to go with him.If he has nothing to hide he won't mind... (read in full...)
Should I marry my long term bf despite lack of physical attraction & chemistry? please help.
Q. hello, i am in emotional dilemma right now. to be honest that is an understatement. i am in hell because everything that is going on with my life is in turmoil. i don't know if i should marry my bf for 10 years. i don't know what to do? i only ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
You don't HAVE to marry him at all, you are pretty confused now too and the other guy is not the answer.
Maybe you should try being single and not depending on a man to make you happy.You don't need to lean on anyone, you can survive bein... (read in full...)
He was in an open relationship previously and my friends don't approve of our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I started seeing each other a year ago. He was in an open relationship at the time but that ended last May and we have been exclusive since so officially we've been together about 8 months. My problem is my friends are still so...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
I am surprised your friends still doubt him when you two have been together and exclusive for 8 months.
If he has never let you down in that time, you trust him and are happy and in love, then go for it.Your friends may want to look out... (read in full...)
Who could care and have feelings for 3 year affair?
Q. Is it easy for a man to have a 3yr sex fling with a woman and care nothing for her? My husband has been sleeping with this hoe for 3yrs.I know its only sex. She now has feelings for him but he cares nothing for her. She can't get that through her ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
How do you know he doesn't care about her, because if he didn't care then he would be home with his wife,you, not seeing her for 3 years for sex.
It's easy for him because you AND the other woman let him get away with it for some reason.
... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think his sex addiction is a problem
Q. My boyfriend has been telling me that he is thinking about having sex with other girls. He thinks about how exciting it would be and what kind of things he can do to other girls. We are both aware that he is addicted to sex, and he falls into the ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
I think you should worry more about yourself and ask why you are willing to tolerate a boyfriend who cheats, tells you he still wants sex with other girls and what he wants to do, in other words,totally disrespects you.
He MIGHT have an ad... (read in full...)
How can I get through this bitter breakup? I don't know how to cope.
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years and things are disturbingly bitter, so much so that I don't know how to get over this whole experience. I had to break it off, I didn't trust him at all and I felt taken for granted. We are currentl...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
You will get over it in time. It is good you are in no contact, that's hard but best for you.
Just write a list of reasons you finished it and put it in a drawer, everytime you weaken or doubt yourself, look at it and know you did the righ... (read in full...)
Another does he like me type question
Q. I fell for a younger and local guy (I'm late 20's and he's 18) while I was on holiday, he seems to like me to but he's never asked me out. He seemed shy at first as he’d always smile and look over but avoided talking to me even though he was chatty ...
A. 25 January 2013: Hi
I don't think he wanted anymore than sex.He is only 18 and probably thought you would be up for a holiday fling.Now your back home he will have forgotten you and carried on with his life.
You will forget him soon enough,so start deciding w... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 24 January 2013: Good luck honey ... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 23 January 2013: Hi
Yes, confront her, admit you have seen the texts and tell her you don't trust her.
She shouldn't be telling the girls their dad is a 'mummys friend' either,they should be told the truth.
All sounds a bit messy to me and you should consid... (read in full...)
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