We've been a couple for three years. Yet he's told me the thought of sex terrifies him. What do I say to discuss this problem with him?
Q. Ok, so I've been with this guy for about 3 years now. I'll be 18 in 4 days and he just turned 20 two months ago. He's is literally my best friend and we do everything together, we are inseperable. Its coming time to where hes getting his own plac...
A. 15 January 2013: Hi
He needs counselling, so a visit to his doctor is the first step.Then if/when you do move in together he will be able to have a normal loving sex life with you.
Its a natural part of loving somebody,showing them that love,and even th... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me, yet no one else can have me...Why?
Q. Hi everyone. So in a nutshell, I've been in love with my childhood sweetheart and now best friend for 14 years. Over these 14 years we have been drawn to each other like magnets after many failed relationships with others. I have always been v...
A. 14 January 2013: Hi
He has no right to kick off if you date others,he doesn't want to date,he wants no strings sex, so he has chosen his place and can't expect you to be exclusive.
I would cut him out of your life so you can move on for good and have a bette... (read in full...)
How do I chose between 2 great guys? Stuck between a rock and a hard place
Q. I dated a guy for 6 mos....we'll call him Bob. Bob and I are both from military backgrounds, stable financially, both have one daughter and 2 grandkids and we're both in our 50's. I am an eternal optimist and a hopeful romantic. I am very ...
A. 14 January 2013: Hi
Well unless 'Bob' changes to fit your ideal,that you can persuade him to alter his lifestyle for you, then will he ever be the right long term partner? He sounds a very kind man but set in his ways and you don't like his ways and went off with... (read in full...)
I promised my friend that we would have sex tomorrow but I didn't mean it!
Q. I have a neighbor who wants to have sex with me. Im not attracted to him, i just think he's a good friend. Today he came over for dinner and refused to go home after that saying we should have sex first. I lied that we will do it tomorrow so he has ...
A. 14 January 2013: Hi
You see him as just a friend but your teasing him - you know he wants sex so why pretend you do too.
I would suggest you end the friendship or cool it down ALOT and see him less.
Its a silly and dangerous game your playing here and I ... (read in full...)
Husband ignores me for days whenever we row. It's making me an emotional wreck. What can I do?
Q. Every time my husband and I row, he ignores me for days. It drives me crazy, I even say I'm sorry to mend things but he treats me as if I do not exist. He will come into a room and look at me to wait for me to respond then once I look at him back...
A. 14 January 2013:
"This time my husband and 2 children were out at a pub party, had arranged to walk home with my friend and her 2 children when it was over. It was 2 o'clock in the morning we all had too much to drink so no one could drive. My husbands mate said... (read in full...)
Husband ignores me for days whenever we row. It's making me an emotional wreck. What can I do?
Q. Every time my husband and I row, he ignores me for days. It drives me crazy, I even say I'm sorry to mend things but he treats me as if I do not exist. He will come into a room and look at me to wait for me to respond then once I look at him back...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi
I don't know how you have put up with this for years without getting couples counselling or professional help. Its no wonder your a wreck
What do you row about? Is it major things,relationship issues,or just any excuse?
... (read in full...)
I really like a guy. How do I approach him/ what should I put in a text?
Q. What should I text him? I really like him:(? There's guy that constantly stares at me but looks away when I catch him in the act.p /> •goes out of his way to open doors for me •Is really friendly and talks to everyone but NEVER talks to me...
A. 13 January 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-does-it-mean-if-he-stares-at.html... (read in full...)
Met a great guy but he's 20 years older and a "happy single". What should I do?
Q. Hi. I met this man online. I knew he was older than me (51yrs old, I'm 31) but and we became friends, we met up yesterday the first time and we went for a meal and I had a great time, and something else happened I realised I liked him more than ...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi
What you do is take your time,definately no sex, even date others or at least keep looking.
Make him an option not a priority for now.
If he wants a relationship with you then he will persue you.He may be happily single, or he may be 'op... (read in full...)
I really like a guy. How do I approach him/ what should I put in a text?
Q. What should I text him? I really like him:(? There's guy that constantly stares at me but looks away when I catch him in the act.p /> •goes out of his way to open doors for me •Is really friendly and talks to everyone but NEVER talks to me...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi
You again!
You say the same things about the same man at your work every time
TEXT HIM as you now have his number - even though he NEVER talks to you
- and take ALL the advice the Aunts and Uncles have given you when you have ask... (read in full...)
I really like a guy. How do I approach him/ what should I put in a text?
Q. What should I text him? I really like him:(? There's guy that constantly stares at me but looks away when I catch him in the act.p /> •goes out of his way to open doors for me •Is really friendly and talks to everyone but NEVER talks to me...
A. 13 January 2013: Hi
You again!
You say the same things about the same man at your work every time
TEXT HIM as you now have his number - even though he NEVER talks to you
- and take ALL the advice the Aunts and Uncles have given you when you have ask... (read in full...)
Would guys be put off because, at my age, I still rent, live with friends and don't earn a high salary?
Q. Please can i have some advice/feedback from the guys on this. I need to know if these things would put you off a girl, or if you actually do not care about these things and it wouldn't even be a factor in anything. i am 32 single, female a...
A. 12 January 2013: Hi
Most people in London share its so expensive to live here. And 30k a year is not shoddy at all - your living in the most expensive city in the UK so it won't go as far as say in east midlands.
The fact you have retrained and have a job from ... (read in full...)
Who? My controlling Bf? Or this sweet man who's my tutor, but he also has a Gf?
Q. I've had a problem concerning two guys for the past two and a half years. One of them is controlling, hates my friends, and puts me down a heck of a lot. We used to be great but things have just gone downhill since I started having a (in my ...
A. 12 January 2013: Hi
I would say neither, your leaving to go to university anyway, a whole new life. Whats so wrong with being single ?
Your clearly not happy with your boyfriend,your drinking to the extent he is unhappy with you.He probably sees this as par... (read in full...)
How can a man be so cold as to cut contact with his own son and then make a family with a child that isn't his?
Q. Please can somebody explain this to me... a few years ago when my son was 4. his father decided to cut contact. He pays money each month through the csa but doesn't have any contact with him. his girlfriend has a baby nephew and she is postin...
A. 11 January 2013: Hi
Well the first thing you need to do is stop checking up on him on FB, block the accounts you can see him on and find something else to do.
He is paying you money for him every month and who knows may one day regret not having his son i... (read in full...)
Can short guys have success with women? And if so how? I need advice on how to cope better with my height.
Q. I am a 5'4" male and i am very insecure about my height. I know that women love tall guys and that most of them turn their noses at the thought of dating a guy as short as me. However, I also know that some guys my height and shorter do have suc...
A. 11 January 2013: Hi
No I don't date short guys,but I am 5'8" and love heels and I don't feel relaxed with them.However I am usually one of the tallest when I go out with friends the others range from 4'9"ish upwards.
If nobody dated short men the world would ... (read in full...)
What I did destroyed my boyfriend. Now, how do I comfort my boyfriend?
Q. Hi! Well, this is going to be a long long story. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, we're both our firsts everything. We normally get along great, share the same hobbies, same college (but different careers), etc. Now I'm 19 and he's 21. ...
A. 11 January 2013: Hi
I don't think you can help him he just has to learn for himself.You are both in your first relationship and had no experience to fall back on.
While I think his reaction is over the top I can also understand how he feels.
No you should n... (read in full...)
Is change possible? What can I do to persuade my abusive husband to change?
Q. My husband is very controlling and abusive. I don't deserve to be treated this way. I left, thinking he would miss me and stop the abuse but he is just as bad if not worse. He still calls me names and degrades me. He accuses me of cheating on hi...
A. 11 January 2013: Hi
You say you have left? I hope you haven't gone back.
If you are still separated then file for a divorce. In the meantime you don't need to communicate with him.
If you have gone back, leave again,for your own sake and to get the chil... (read in full...)
I gave up my job, my apartment for him but his controlling wife won't let him go
Q. Since 2 years I am in a relationship with a man. After a while I found out that he is married and has a 9 years old daughter. We were leaving in different countries and he didnt tell me from the start that he is married and has a kid. His marriage...
A. 9 January 2013: hi
He cheated on his wife and she is understandably bitter,hurt,confused and is therefore going to get every penny she can off him.I don't blame her
They have a child and will always have contact plus why should the child suffer because t... (read in full...)
She lost interest in me because I let her pay for her part of the meal on our first date!
Q. I had a situation with a woman I really liked, and need you opinion on this. I 've met this girl in a building that I work at. She works for a different company, and I saw her several times at lunch before we started talking. We just talked for ...
A. 9 January 2013: Hi
I really don't imagine the average man goes on enough FIRST dates to bankrupt him if he pays for them.Especially if its just lunch or a coffee,even a few drinks
If you get into the equality argument you could start on alot of changes in da... (read in full...)
He's disparaging about others.Am I being too insensitive here or would anyone feel hurt?
Q. Hi there, everyone So i just wanted to hear objective thoughts on something that hurt me. I don't know if i'm being sensitive about it or what. Here's the story. I recently told my friend that i'm into him because my feelings were bigger ...
A. 9 January 2013: Hi
No your not being sensitive, he is showing you he thinks he's better than these women who have shown an interest in him. It's clear he has a very high opinion of himself and yes, he is behaving badly and talks to you like he would one of his m... (read in full...)
She lost interest in me because I let her pay for her part of the meal on our first date!
Q. I had a situation with a woman I really liked, and need you opinion on this. I 've met this girl in a building that I work at. She works for a different company, and I saw her several times at lunch before we started talking. We just talked for ...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi
Women don't have to be bought on a first date or impressed by money.
I have never had to pay for a meal on a first date,if I was expected to I would be put off too. I have bought a drink for a man after the restaurant though a few tim... (read in full...)
Update on I was expecting to hear from him but haven't heard a word for 2 days
Q. So for all who were following my story of the guy who I was expecting to come to my house but never showed up... (original story below for anyone else) Well it appears he's just fine. I didn't contact his parents or anyone, but I noticed he cha...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi
Don't worry about him there's more than a few of these types on dating sites. Some other girl probably took his fancy so he moved on because he can.You won't be the first he has done it too I bet,nor the last.He will change his pic so it looks... (read in full...)
She suggested we take things slowly after the first date. What do I do now?
Q. Hi all... I just took a girl on a date recently. We had exchanged numbers and we had previously gotten to know more about each other before via text message, so we had common ground and things to talk about. I don’t claim to be the best looking...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi
Couldn't have put it better than anon e mous - theres nothing there for you, plenty more fish in the sea too....... (read in full...)
Why does my gf act like an impossible and hysterical child during arguments?
Q. I can't seem to understand my girlfriends actions sometimes. We are from different countries, though I work and live in her country. We have been together for eight months, though she sort of left her previous boyfriend for me, who had cheated ...
A. 8 January 2013: Hi
It sounds like frustration and pressure getting to her, or even the dreaded PMT.
The fact her parents don't know she lives with you is a red flag and pressure - why doesn't she just tell them? How old is she?
Did she move in with you fro... (read in full...)
I always get anxious when talking to people, as I believe everyone is judging me by my hair color.
Q. Would be really grateful for help. Im a 21 year old bisexual guy, who unfortunately has ginger hair. This seems to be my main issue in life as I see it as the reason for having no confidence or self esteem. Iv never been in a relationship or ...
A. 7 January 2013: Hi
You just sound confused to me, your bisexual, anxious, no confidence or self esteem and consider your hair colour to blame.
Nobody really cares about the colour, so many dye their hair nowadays its hard to remember what their original c... (read in full...)
How can I get my fat girlfriend to lose weight?
Q. MOD NOTE: This was original poster's chosen title... Hi all Ive been with my OH (other half) for nearly 4 years now - when we first met she was 196lbs at 5ft 10 and it didnt bother me much. I was still attracted. Now, she is 219lbs! and thou...
A. 7 January 2013: Hi
I do Zumba and it's very energetic indeed, so if your girlfriend isn't overeating then I would suggest she gets checked out by her GP. The Pill or injection can cause weight gain,also thyroid problems.
It's not being cruel to find her unat... (read in full...)
I was expecting him to visit 2 days ago and haven't heard a word! I don't know what it means or what to do?
Q. Really confused by this guy's actions. We met on a dating site about a month ago. Really seemed like we hit it off. We started talking every day and we went on a several dates. We went out to dinner and I met his parents. He wanted me to hang ...
A. 6 January 2013: Hi
I have to say he/you moved pretty fast,you having already met his parents over a meal out within a month of meeting
If you hadn't had dates already,met his folks, then I would think he was just some sad wynd up.
To actually let you t... (read in full...)
Are public displays of affection at work OK or not? In disagreement with my BF over this.
Q. Hello! Hope you can help with some advice on this small issue. How much physical contact is OK/to be expected from your partner when at work? We work in different departments and when we met up for lunch he wanted to walk with his arm arou...
A. 6 January 2013: Hi
Definately no snogging sessions, maybe a peck on the cheek before you go into the building or as you leave him at lunchtime.Unless your in a cupboard ofcourse
I cant think of any couple that walk with their arms round each other at work, m... (read in full...)
Is this as sign that my husband is having an affair?
Q. My husband had a strand of hair wrapped around his penis. It wasn't mine. He says that our daughters hair that gets everywhere including our brushes in our room, has got caught in his clothes and worked its way down there. And that this is a common ...
A. 6 January 2013: Hi
You have great eyesight. If there are no other indications he is having an affair I would accept his word,definately.
You will now be more alert to his behaviour so if he is cheating, which I doubt very much,you will pick up on signs... (read in full...)
My husband has terminal cancer and has suggested we have a baby. I'm very confused about what to do.
Q. My fiancé has terminal cancer and has asked me if I want a baby to look after me when he's gone. I feel so confused because we had talked about getting married and having a child together before he was diagnosed and it was something we had both ...
A. 6 January 2013: Hi
So sorry to read this,how sad for you all and I can totally understand why he would suggest a baby.
Its emotional v practical isn't it? I really wouldn't want to give advice as it's only something you can decide.If you decided to go ah... (read in full...)
I went 'no contact' and he found somebody else!
Q. ok cutting a long story short as possible!!..the guy who i was chasing and then i decided to go no contact with..i recently heard from his 'friends' that he had met somebody else and that he was serious about her!!..(bearing in mind that he told me ...
A. 6 January 2013: Hi
This was a 'non-relationship' his red flags were flying for all to see, except you.
He was happy to accept sex,happy for you to chase him,but it didn't mean anything to him I am afraid.
Don't give either him or his sad friends anything... (read in full...)
I may have been too honest with her about my feelings, but I never thought I would find another woman who I could be with, and I don't know how to handle things.
Q. Right, after the awful life I've had and been put thru by my ex gf and struggling to do anything for last 2n half years, somehow I've managed to find another lady out of the blue, because she knows of my past and my dislike for women and seeing them ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hi
I remember the first guy I started seeing after my bad break up, he finished it because I was 'still hung up on my Ex'.
It was true but I hadn't realised.
So I stopped dating for a long while and when I started again I accepted my Ex w... (read in full...)
Why is she so curious about who is calling my phone?
Q. what does it mean when my GF is always wanting to know who is call my phone before i can even pull out of my pocket to see for myself? ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hi
Because she is nosey and insecure.Just reassure her and tell her she's got no reason not to trust you.... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: Hi
Who knows why she goes on them, to me if somebody uses them they are looking to meet somebody,thay are at the very least investing time in others to boost their ego.
Your right to be apart because she really doesn't get how to treat somebod... (read in full...)
He said we met at the wrong time. Then stopped talking to me. What should I do?
Q. Hello. I need advice on my four month relationship that my Man 'out of the blue' put a stop to three weeks ago. We are both 55yrs old, both been on our own for some time but wanted a relationship again. We instantly clicked and felt right togeth...
A. 5 January 2013: Hi
Sorry to hear this, sadly I think he has gone for good.
He either wants to be single and free to meet other women while working away or he already has a wife or girlfriend.
You don't give nearly enough information about him,how you met,if... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.
Q. Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...
A. 4 January 2013: Hi
I know somebody, a couple of years older than you, who lost everything he loved because he did as he wanted,always got the girl he was after.He was left devastated.He has grown up alot since,acknowledged his mistakes.Come to terms with it being... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 4 January 2013: Hi
No, your not being selfish or unreasonable at all. I wonder if he has actually thought this through from anyones view apart from his own.
As you say if he wanted to be close to her he would have moved,built his life there not miles away.B... (read in full...)
What does it mean if he stares at you but won't talk to you?
Q. Why would a guy do this? What does it mean? What does it mean •when a guy constantly stares at you, but looks away when you catch him in the act •goes out of his way to open doors for you •Is really friendly and talks to everyone b...
A. 4 January 2013:
PS
Its Valentines Day next month remember.....send a card with your number in it. That should sort this one way or another... (read in full...)
What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: hi
He wants to be your FWB, not boyfriend,he's testing the water.
Ignore it,don't risk messing up your new relationship.... (read in full...)
What does it mean if he stares at you but won't talk to you?
Q. Why would a guy do this? What does it mean? What does it mean •when a guy constantly stares at you, but looks away when you catch him in the act •goes out of his way to open doors for you •Is really friendly and talks to everyone b...
A. 3 January 2013: Hi
I would say he was a bit weird, if he won't talk to you even though you work together.What does he do, hang around doors to open them for you,but never speaks?
How do you know he constantly stares at you, are you watching him?
I would... (read in full...)
PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: Hi
Read about it here
http://www.military.com/benefits/survivor-benefits/survivor-benefits-terms-and-definitions.html... (read in full...)
PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: Hi
It means Primary Next Of Kin. In other words if anything should happen to him it would be you the army contacts,his next of kin.
You don't send money. ... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.
Q. Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...
A. 17 November 2012: Hi
'some silly mistakes I made just flirting thru emails texts and so on'
Thats not a silly mistake thats disrespecting your 'soul mate' thats in effect cheating.You broke the trust and for what? You do not do that to people you love.She mus... (read in full...)
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