I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 13 February 2013: Hi
I do like a happy ending. All the very best to you and your lovely husband ... (read in full...)
New town. His town. How do I overcome problems with making friends with my partner's buddies? They don't seem to like me
Q. I've been with my partner for two years. He was unhappy in the town we lived in (where we met) so I agreed to move with him back to the town he lived in previously, where he has lots of friends and was happier. I am freelance and work from home s...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
You have to read Brand New Friend by Mike Gayle, I got it out from the library recently,you can buy it online.Its actually about a man in your exact situation and the author used to be an agony uncle.
I don't think your boyfriend is hel... (read in full...)
Is tough love the answer? My 27 year old son doesn't think so.
Q. I have a 27 year old son who has been living on his own for 2 years, he quit his job 2 months ago, I paid a month of his rent which my husband ( his stepfather ) does not know about because I have helped him so many times in the past and he feels ...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
Its difficult for a mum because you want to help, you don't want him on the street,he's still your baby.
I have helped 2 of mine when in need,had one back home too, he moved out once he had a job.I was able to police his job hunt as he was a... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't like it when he calls me bad names, but I'm also scared of him.
Q. I have been hanging out with this man for about 5 months, he says we are just friends but we act more like a couple, heres my question!! I have been giving him b j a lot and there have been times he pushes my head down and he calls me bad names a ...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
You should finish this relationship, he may call you names cos thats how he gets his kicks, but it's offensive and your frightened.
You should definately NOT be scared of him.
Just tell him it's over, if you think he will harm you do it b... (read in full...)
My b/f knew I was ill but told a friend how dirty and smelly I was!
Q. When I started going out with him, I was going under some medication, due to an infection I showed him my medical test result and how am taking care of myself, due to the infection, when I pee I had a bad odour, but I had been to see a Doctor. My doc...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
There's 'sharing' and there's 'too much information'.
You gave way too much information,he did not need to know your 5 day medical problem, I am sure he wasn't going to join you in the bathroom at that early stage.
He probably freaked o... (read in full...)
How do others cope with similar? My family gatherings bother me. There is just small talk. And my grandfather's eating habits appall me.
Q. hey all,I love my family but when we all join each other around the dinner table i literally feel as depressed and hateful as ever (i know this may sound stupid) but my grandad (who i have no real relationship with due to family circumst...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
Yes my dad liked a drink so meals were a bit tense or messy,they were hot on table manners too so it wasn't a relaxed thing.I just missed out some of the meals,went to friends or bought take-aways sometimes.
Once you leave home you can mak... (read in full...)
How can he be in love with me since we've never met? And how do I tell him this online relationship isn't the right thing for me?
Q. Hi, I've been chatting to this guy online, we a have a couple of mutual friends but we've never met. I like him, but he's recently said he's in love me with - which I think is a bit much considering we've never met. He wants me to meet up with him...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
He can't be *in* love your right, he has built up a fantasy and now wants to meet.He clearly likes you so its the next step to move to the real world.
If it's really not what you want then tell him so,be honest with him. As you have mutual ... (read in full...)
How can he be in love with me since we've never met? And how do I tell him this online relationship isn't the right thing for me?
Q. Hi, I've been chatting to this guy online, we a have a couple of mutual friends but we've never met. I like him, but he's recently said he's in love me with - which I think is a bit much considering we've never met. He wants me to meet up with him...
A. 9 February 2013: Hi
He can't be *in* love your right, he has built up a fantasy and now wants to meet.He clearly likes you so its the next step to move to the real world.
If it's really not what you want then tell him so,be honest with him. As you have mutual ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to tactile men but how can I stop them being too tactile, too soon?
Q. I would like to ask this to both male and females out there. I've just recently been on a date with a guy I met online. I'm a single mum and my job is 99% female so I find it difficult to meet men the normal way eg through work ,bars etc .I always s...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi
This is the nature of online dating, even if you don't advertise the fact you are attracted to tactile men on your profile,they will still give it a go.
I found the majority of men on these sites thought single women equalled 'gaggin... (read in full...)
Guys, do you prefer shaved or natural/trimmed pubic hair?
Q. Dear guys, This is just a question for you: Do you prefer women to be all hairless/shaved/waxed in the pubic area or is it also okay for you if a woman is just a little trimmed or even completely natural? Would it be a turn off for you if you ...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi
I bet as long as they are clean and fresh and say 'Yes' none will mind either way... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 8 February 2013:
Hi
Good luck,
But you know your giving her the choice again, too many red flags here already and only when YOU say 'No more' will it ever change.Until then she will be the person who rules you and your heart... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi
No it's not weird at all, nor is the fact he spent money on himself on your birthday. He got you a birthday present so he didn't forget it did he.
If I saw something I liked while buying a present for somebody,I would get it for myself.Its r... (read in full...)
Struggling with the maintenance payments to my ex and worried about losing my girlfriend over this!
Q. Hi has anyone been in my situation? Any advice? I have been divorced 6 years and pay maintenance to ex and for 1 child, but in past 3 years changes at work meant no raise and no bonuses for that time-I've looked for another job but nothing yet. I ...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi
I do actually sympathise,but yes your main concern is paying for your child - and you are.
As you have moved back in with your Mum your outgoings have decreased, so if you try to get your payments reduced this will be taken into account.If ... (read in full...)
She has started going on dating sites, in front of me. She tells me there is better than me out there. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my girlfriend for 5 years. We have both decided against getting married and have no children (she doesnt want any). Everything has been steady and we have always got on. Over the past 6 months she has got into a twice weekly g...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi
Sounds like the 'friend' wants a playmate to go out on the pull with.She is drip feeding your girlfriend with all this garbage and your girlfriend is listening, believing and acting on it.
If I was you I would dump her,tell her to go find '... (read in full...)
We have children. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. Will he ever change? All his money goes on his lifestyle and we struggle at the best of times
Q. I guess like a lot of girls do, I thought I could change my boyfriend. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. His friends are no good and he doesn't look after me or our children as he should. I don't work as my youngest is 3 weeks old, and my olde...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi
You don't say if he has a job or not, he seems to have alot of time to drink and smoke, time he could spend helping you out with the children.
He has chosen his lifestyle,but bought 2 kids into the world, now he isn't man enough to accept... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: Hi
A) you shouldn't be sneaking looks at his emails
B) unless it's your money he is spending it has nothing to do with you what or how much he buys.
Do you live together and if so is he not paying his contribution to bills ? If no to this, t... (read in full...)
Was it appropriate for my Gf to start giving my (male) visitor a body massage while I was absent from the room?
Q. I was getting my phone the other night and it turned out to be a long call from my daughter. when I came back to the living room my girlfriend had my friend's shirt off and was giving him a thorough massage. my friend had told me earlier he gets...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi
Dump her,it was entirely inappropriate. She is no loss and your friend is no friend.They crossed a line.... (read in full...)
Would you be annoyed if your friend drunkenly felt your boyfriend's butt?
Q. Silly question....Is it normal to be very annoyed at a good friend for feeling up ur boyfriends ass??? my good friend had too much to drink so she started touching his ass. Should i be annoyed?? because I am:( I would not do that to her boyfriend no ...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi
No. It would make me laugh or I would be equally as trashed and not even have noticed.
Let it go, or make a joke of it so she knows you know if you feel you have to.... (read in full...)
How do you cope with an annoyed partner?
Q. How do you cope with an annoyed partner - he's annoyed basically because his brother in law (my brother) has not yet bought his Christmas present (yes, Christmas just gone). I'm fed up with hearing about it - although I do agree with him to an e...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi
Well as it's your brother,can't you talk to him.Ask him whats happened to the Xmas pressie that was promised your partner.
Do it in a light humerous way,not serious,over the phone and before the next get together.
Then tell your partne... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi
Seriously,I would spend about 100 euro on a ring no more. She will probably,going by her track record,walk away from you and sell it within a month.
I think your too forgiving, I think your blinded by love and can't see how she is or how ba... (read in full...)
Is it or is it not disrespectful to a wife when a man chats it up with some strange woman and ignores you completely.
Q. I do not know how to add my age to my account but I am 43 years old and my husband is 49. My husband was single for many years after his divorce. I was single for a 2 years before we met, then we were together 4 years before getting married. Yet ...
A. 5 February 2013: Hi
I wouldn't be happy about it no, maybe once or twice i would have let go but not every single time.
He makes himself look stupid too,chatting away and not introducing the woman who is actually with him,his wife.It must make for a weird situ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel cursed?
Q. I wonder if anybody has the same experience I do? It is very hard to find any info on this subject, and Im hoping someone might knows the right resources for me, So I have this strong feeling, that I have been ''cursed'' or something like that. So...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
Normally when you get in this cycle it comes to an end. Some do have bad luck, like somebodys cursed them, but if you tend to be a half full type person, then maybe your mindset is set to expecting bad things now.
I have had times when I tho... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing in deciding not to get back with my ex?
Q. Ive written questions on this board before and I really appreciated the help. Im at a different stage now and I would be grateful for some advice again. I am currently divorcing my second Husband, the relationship was terrible. I have one child ag...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
Totally the right thing, you have been honest with your first ex too and given him no reason to think you will ever be more than friends.
As for your children,all kids would probably like their parents back together, but you can't do it ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as attraction-karma?
Q. Do some people just attract the opposite sex even when they aren't trying? Is there such a thing as attraction-karma? My husband and I are both nice looking (so I hear) but when ever we go out to parties or events, women seem to descend on him the ...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
He must be something special and charismatic to attract all these women.
I don't think there is any reason it has anything to do with you or your previous relationship.A few years ago you were younger,that would help the attraction these... (read in full...)
I feel like my dream has turned into a nightmare with this girl! What would you do?
Q. Okay, I met a girl through the internet about 5 months ago. We talked for days on end and when i met her in real life instantly i felt a connection with her. Ended up going to dinner with her the first night and then talking all night on her bed ...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
First I can understand her views on her parents, if they are very traditional she will be the dutiful daughter and kept in the dark.She has invited you to go with her though and you will be introduced I take it? This is a good sign.
As for ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant how do I tell my boyfriend its not his?
Q. Hey Cupids, got my self in a little bit of trouble and need some Help and advice. I had a one night stand January 26th early morning January 27th. The guy i had the one night stand was without a condom. We were both having a few social drink...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
First thing you must do is calm down. Then buy a Pregnancy Test. Do the test.Or see your GP and have one done as soon as possible,like do it today..
Don't panic until you know for sure,you can't make any choices until you know.
Have y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me because of my depression and distance. Should I wait to see if he'll come back?
Q. My ex and I were at school together in Norway when we were seven. Years later due to the wonders of facebook, we got in contact again. We found out we both loved hill walking, etc…so a couple of summers later we went on a walking holiday in Norway ...
A. 4 February 2013: Hi
Yes, do get on with your own life,get back into running and eating healthy for YOU and your well-being. I don't what you were like when you were 'the girl he fell in love with' but something made you change,maybe it was the relation... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I think his goals are holding me back
Q. I am in a long term serious relationship, like any relationship we have our ups and downs but we've grown to love and respect one another and have become very close planning a future together. My problem is I am a bit younger, my boyfriend is settl...
A. 3 February 2013: Hi
You sound so totally different and incompatible, I don't know how you even have a relationship or what your future plans together are.
Do what YOU need to do in your life,he has his own path,his life is sorted.
IF you want to travel,start... (read in full...)
My partner's ex has thrown out her son and he is living with my ex. Its not his son and he doesn't know how to help the situation!
Q. Hope you can help me... I feel so so sorry and helpless for my other half. He split up from his ex around 5 years ago who had a son (not his). Over Xmas, she decided she didn't want him so threw her son out as he was just being a typical teenager...
A. 3 February 2013: Hi
I would say the lads biological Dad is the answer here, his Mum doesn't want him at home so she threw him out.She really doesn't have a leg to stand on and is damn lucky he had somewhere to go.If you can find out where his Dad is,conta... (read in full...)
Date night with boyfriend turned into a lads night out. Should I be upset?
Q. I'd like an outside opinion on this if possible please. My boyfriend and I only see each other once or twice per week max due to our working schedules. We had arranged to go on a date night to the cinema tonight after he finished work. However, he ...
A. 3 February 2013: Hi
I think most girls would be upset,he just had the tempting offer of a drink with friends,then phoned you.He in his mind did the right thing,he invited you along,but as you say a night with 3 drunk men is not your idea of a romantic date.
... (read in full...)
I wanted to spend my life with him but alcoholic b/f broke things off. I'm devastated!
Q. Long story shortnened for sake of this posting. I am madly (still) in love with a man who has severe issues. (alcoholism, child custody drama) but who I feel such a special connection with I cant move on. We were friends for a while then start...
A. 3 February 2013: Hi
He has alot going on and your clearly a caring person.Thing is you want to help him and he isn't ready or doesn't want to be helped.Only he can sort his life out.
Much as you want to be with him, he is right,he did the right thing for you,to... (read in full...)
I think I'm developing feelings for this online guy. How to handle this? He tells me lots about him but never asks much about me
Q. I "think" I am developing feelings for a guy online.. There's obviously a few issues with that other than the very obvious one of it been an "online" friendship but also he lives in America... I again think the feeling is mutual but have no idea ...
A. 2 February 2013: Hi
He's across the world, he's merely a person you chat to, a friend.Leave it like that.Chat if he's there, don't worry if he isn't. Keep it light.
Think of the qualities you like in him,why you like him, and find a guy closer to home that has... (read in full...)
Online girl I met says she has a b/f yet sends sexual pictures to me and then gets angry! What gives?
Q. hi people i need advice and insight as to what's been going on between me and this lovely and sweet, caring girl i met a few months ago playing video games... LONG STORY SHORT. she's 18. met her online but never met in person but plan on ...
A. 2 February 2013: Hi
She isn't a lovely sweet caring girl, she has a boyfriend and spends her free time teasing you.
She is very lucky your decent and haven't plastered her photos around the Net or let your mates see her webcam efforts.
Personally I think it... (read in full...)
Why would anyone refuse a free trip to a tropical paradise? Why won't my boyfriend come to see my family with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we've been living together, with his family, for a long time. I got a big promotion at work and finally was able to buy plane tickets to see my little brother and mother in Florida. I've been so ...
A. 2 February 2013: Hi
To me a normal reaction from somebody you live with and loves you would be to go,to know how you have missed your family and look forward to the trip too.
Time for a calm,quiet talk with him to find out whats what,to explain why you want him... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable still living at home at 27 but its a necessity right now. Any advice?
Q. I am currently 27 and living with my parents. I am doing it while I sort out my finances which are a mess (long story short, I took out a loan with my ex fiancé to help him clear his massive debts but he committed suicide shortly afterwards leaving ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
That must have been a massive loan and so awful to go through losing your fiancee like you did.
Is there any way you can reduce the payments so you get out more,or even move out, if you have a good job then I am assuming your paying back... (read in full...)
How do I tell my three children that I'm going to have another baby?
Q. dear aunts and uncles .. i have found myself in somewhat of a mess , first of all let me tell you a little bit of my story ,, i seperated from my husband about 9 months ago after a long hard marriage and about 8 weeks ago i met a lovely man .. we ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
I just hope you don't get left with four children and this very new man and yourself continue to be 'in love'.
As to how you tell the children your pregnant,sit down with your new man, over a take-away maybe so your relaxed,then jus... (read in full...)
Menu ideas for a romantic dinner?
Q. hi guys just looking for a tad bit of help. been with my partner for 5 half years now. been engaged a year and this september were getting married. :-) my partner is in the merchant navy with a pretty good rota..he works 3weeks away and 3 weeks...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
You don't want to be slaving away so do a starter thats quick,and things you can prepare the day before like a casserole of some sort
Have a look at allrecipes.co.uk... (read in full...)
Ten years with a man only to be cheated on then left for her, so why cant I move on??
Q. Well, I am 26 years of age and about 1 year ago I got out of a 10 year relationship. He left me for another woman! He had also been sleeping with her for a month or who knows how much longer before we actually broke up. I spent my life loving this ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
Because it takes time,I had 2 children and my ex left for somebody else after 10yrs or so.It took 2 years before I even considered dating let alone sex.Others I know get straight back into dating,go wild, to get over someone.
Thing is they... (read in full...)
Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?
Q. Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
What disability does he have?
He won't have alot of cash so a big shop is out, which is probably why he uses a shower elsewhere and eats at the Centre,to save money.
If his cash is going on fags,drink and pets then his problem is not ... (read in full...)
How can I help my husband have better communication skills?
Q. I post this question if anione know of any service s that help with communication skills. My husband is a very nice man, and most of the time we get alone. The way he communicates with people around him and his customers needs improvement. He is a ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
Has he any interest in Amatuer Dramatics,a local theatre group? It would give him the chance to talk and to have to learn lines and speak in turn? It would maybe re-train him a bit and his focus would be on a new pastime.
As for explaining t... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him in a few weeks. Does that mean he wasn't interested?
Q. I met someone a few months ago. He is a lot older than me (15 years) and when I met him he was just finishing a relationship and we had a few dates. We spent the night together a few weeks ago but he wasn't sure about it because of just coming out ...
A. 1 February 2013: Hi
Sounds like he was still in the relationship or decided not to end it and therefore won't be in touch.
Its nothing to do with you, no reflection on anything you have done. Next time though,wait before having sex until your 100% sure they a... (read in full...)
I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 31 January 2013: HI
Well at least you have seperated from your husband.
I really hope this man has split from his girlfriend too.
Your being sensible not wanting to rush into living with him, don't let him push you.
I find it strange you haven't been inti... (read in full...)
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