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writes:Would you continue to date a guy who you where completely emotionally compatible with but intellectually it's not quite there???? I mean I love him but sometimes he says this that Make me think he's not intelligent. What so ya'll think?Physically and emotionally its perfect... but mentally not 100%??? Should I move on?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 March 2013):
 he may be smart but not educated.
IF you find his intellect lacking, eventually you may seek stimulation elsewhere... I've always said what drew me to my current husband was his brain...
so I would be wary of making a lifetime or permanent commitment to someone who does not stimulate your brain as well as your body.
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (22 March 2013):
This is about respect and feeling on the same level. It won't be any good if you are constantly finding him lacking in intelligence because you will be looking down on him.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (22 March 2013):
 Hi
If his not being your intellectual equal matters then have a fling and move on.
If its so bad you can't have a conversation or share interests and friends then he's not for you is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2013): give him a chance for a little longer, then if you feel the same, i'd advise you to move on. i didn't do so, and have been married for 4 years to a guy who is emotionally great, physically the hottest guy i've ever met&we have a great sex life, BUT is not intelligent and it does drive me crazy...we can't even have a conversation about a news story we've just seen on tv without him saying something really stupid! now, i love him, but i wish someone had told me looks/sex life will fade in the future 'cos thinking of having him as a companion&someone to chat with in old age is not a nice thought for me:( intellectual compatability matters for me. my man's other charms outweigh this problem for now, but i'm not confident this will remain the case in the years to come...unless i can get enough intellectual stimulation elsewhere. maybe the same is true of your guy? that you like him enough for now, but that he's not a longterm partner for you? which is fine if you both see this as a relationship for now but not forever?
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reader, R1 +, writes (22 March 2013):
 I think you could have a good relationship but it won't be forever, there will come a time when you will want someone on a level with you.
So either enjoy it for a while but remember its not forever or leave and find the one...
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