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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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I think I'm adopted, what do I need for DNA tests?
Q. hi there everyone i think that i am adopted but i am not sure i don't want to ask my parents because they may get upset if i am wrong and if i am right they may deny it. i was going to have a dna test but i was thinking that do i need my mum a...
A. 25 February 2010: Sorry to put a dampner on all, ..but my adopted ex's birth certificate has his adoptive parents name's on it.
There is an original with the biological parents and his birth name,... but once the adoption was legalized in court, another BC was i... (read in full...)
My friend always says hurtful things to me, why does she act like this?
Q. When I hang out with my friend, she always has some little put downs to say to me. Like insisting that my hairstyle is bad, implying I'm stupid, her job is more difficult than mine, etc. And these things started escalating, to the point where I ...
A. 24 February 2010: People usually are critical and nit pick at others when they are insecure and/or jealous. It helps them feel better about themselves/their lot in life to place others 'beneath' them.
She get's defensive because your touching a raw nerve by bring... (read in full...)
My parents are separated and I don't wish to see my mother, she is the only bad thing in my life!?
Q. Ok i know what everyone is going to say but i genuinely hate my mum. She walked out on my and my sister about a year ago to be with another guy leaving my dad with all her mountains of debt and responsibilty for the both of us. She apparently ...
A. 24 February 2010: Ok, ..so one day, down the track, you are married, have a couple of kids, feel your needs/wants are not being met by your wife, your miserable, your living the life everyone else expects of you, no one is caring what you actually want for yourself, ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me I would be a terrible person to have around during childbirth! Why does she have something against me?
Q. Just a quick one cos i am completely clueless... My gf and I were watching a delivery program tonight following various women through their labours and births. During the show she remarked that I would be a terrible person to have around and i pro...
A. 24 February 2010: I think she was a bit over the top, ..but what is probably underlying such comments, is her perhaps feeling you don't go all out to support her already in minor things let alone with something major like giving birth. Seems she may be worried if she ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her we are dating? And what do I do if she's not okay with it?
Q. I'm a sophomore in college. At the beginning of my freshman year I met this guy who was cute and really easy to talk to, there was obviously chemistry between us but we both had significant others at the time. We kind of fell out of touch because of ...
A. 24 February 2010: Ditto what Caring Guy said!
Perhaps tho, make an approach that includes saying you took her advice re .... and that something has happened. Then thank her for her blessing in the same breath so you have pointed out both reasons why SHE gave you... (read in full...)
Should cheaters get a second chance?
Q. I found out my boyfriend cheated on me because I checked his email. He has since then apologized, said he really wants to be with me, and has treated me much better like when we first started dating. (I knew something was different when he was with ...
A. 24 February 2010: Some do change! I stayed with my ex another 16 years after he got caught out having an affair. I have zero doubt that he was 100% faithful after the fact too.
In his (my ex's) words, .... he was an immature, selfish, greedy, little boy, but seei... (read in full...)
Does dating a guy from a different school work out?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, A couple of day of go, I met this guy named Oscar. He's dominican and we both speak spanish. He's so adorable and I love the way his face lights up whenever he smiles. We go to different schools though, but we live right next ...
A. 24 February 2010: I've never gone to school with a person I have dated so I really don't see why attending the same school has anything to do with it. Likewise, people typically (in most instances anyway) don't date people they work with.
You either choose t... (read in full...)
Everytime I think about sex I get a mental block because of my past.
Q. Hi. My question is basically how do I get over my bad sexual experiences and give sex a fresh start with an open mind? This is my sex experience so far though...I grew up next door to my cousins who were a couple years older than me. When i was ...
A. 21 February 2010: IMO, You need professional help to work through this. You clearly have a deeply ingrained psychological scar that would benefit more from ongoing therapy,than advise from here. I am prety sure no one is going to have a magic few words that will just ... (read in full...)
I think I'm adopted, what do I need for DNA tests?
Q. hi there everyone i think that i am adopted but i am not sure i don't want to ask my parents because they may get upset if i am wrong and if i am right they may deny it. i was going to have a dna test but i was thinking that do i need my mum a...
A. 13 February 2010: All adoptions are on record. There should be a central body that assists people wanting to get in contact with birth relatives. You don;t have to follow through with that part if you don't wish, but they should be able to provide you with ... (read in full...)
I am 4 inches erect. Will I be able to please her?
Q. About sex I know she has given head to two other guys and there both older and taller and bigger than me I'm not sure if you get a girl excited enough that a smaller dick than what she is used to will satisfy her. I'm 15 and I'm 4 inches erect I ...
A. 12 February 2010: One thing to note is that you have not stopped growing yet, so expect a bit more in the package by the time you finish your teens. Dont neccessarily go on body size tho when comparing yourself to these other guys - it does not necessarily corrospond ... (read in full...)
I don't understand religion and why we should be forced to put up with it.
Q. hi, im 14 and an atheist but i respect religious people who are open to another persons point of view, but the other side of that coin is that ignorance and single mindedness makes me really really angry. i just dont understand religion, i mean no ...
A. 12 February 2010: Religion in it's purest form is not the problem imo. We are all spiritual beings as far as I am concerned no matter what labels and dogma's we want to apply for ourselves.
On the whole tho, religions generally mean well, all have the basic co... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I intentionally get erect when I see her naked! How can I stop myself?
Q. I always erect when I see my girl naked, I want to stop it. Pliz help! She thinks I do it intentionally....
A. 12 February 2010: I don't see the problem unless she get's offended by it, ..in which case gather up some literature to show her that it is not a consciously controlled response and therefore you can't stop it unless you can stop yourself being attracted to her.
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Will my army love come back for me?
Q. I am not really sure I want to be writing for advice. Reality is, the more people discourage me, the more strongly I feel they are wrong. I am completely aware of how unlogical everything is about to sound. Something I have had a hard time facing...
A. 12 February 2010: Others have focused on the body of your post, so I will just throw some stuff in about the psychic prediction part.
I have absolutely zero doubt about psychic ability, ..what I do doubt tho is whether many of the people claiming to be of a profic... (read in full...)
Wild look!!!
Q. I recently spent a weekend at the beach with my BF. I didn't wear any makeup and didn't do my hair either. When we returned home I got back into my 'beauty' routine and he then told me he likes me the best with no make up and wild hair. I ...
A. 11 February 2010: One of the things that attracted my bf in the first place was that he said I looked natural.
I very rarely wear make up, and if I do it is so slight that my female friends will question if I am or not, ..but he will spot it in a split second a... (read in full...)
My dog eats my undies!
Q. I know that when you're first going through puberty that you discharge frequently; but I'm 18 and still do. I know this sounds gross and believe me...ticks me off, my dog will chew through the crotches of ALL my underwear. 1. is it normal to con...
A. 10 February 2010: I suggest you investigate the salt thing a little more before putting what may be a harmful excess in to your dogs dinner.
If you go and compare a premium dry dog food (at a pet shop or vet clinic)to the quality of stuff they sell in supermar... (read in full...)
My dog eats my undies!
Q. I know that when you're first going through puberty that you discharge frequently; but I'm 18 and still do. I know this sounds gross and believe me...ticks me off, my dog will chew through the crotches of ALL my underwear. 1. is it normal to con...
A. 10 February 2010: Discharge tends to happen more when ovuluating so as long as you are having periods expect an increase at certain times of the month.
As for the dog with the undie eating fetish - Put your underwear in the laundry basket and shut the laundry ... (read in full...)
I need advice on repairing a mother-daughter relationship!
Q. Ok, this has nothing to do with a romantic relationship. I need some advise on how to repair a mother daughter relationship. I just recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, it is my moms first grandchild and she is thrilled to be a new gran...
A. 10 February 2010: I think you should acknowledge her pain but also tell her that NOT posting the pics may have hurt your dad's feelings instead and just because things did not work out between them, you don't want to feel like you have to choose one parent over ... (read in full...)
She wants to kick things up a notch and have sex!
Q. ok new problem i have been seen this girl for a while now and its going great. she want to kick things up a notch as she want to have sex. we have done some of the other stuff like kissing and feeling each other but that was about it. i have been ...
A. 9 February 2010: If you cant manage a condom then don't delude yourself that you can manage a child when you are both still children yourself.
I suggest you wait until you are both mature enough to do it responsibly.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...
A. 9 February 2010: What a special person you are, ... and what a twit your boyfriend is to risk losing you.
I think you need to insist your man enforce a few things tho because you don't deserve to continue suffering after all you have graciously put up with.
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Do women like ass hair? Need an answer for tonight!
Q. My question is for the woman out there. When your having sex with a man do you like it if they have ass hair or do you like it more when there is none? A quick answer would be good since i need a answer for tonight thanks....
A. 9 February 2010: I like hairy men overall, ..but I do like a smooth butt. That said, I am not turned off if there is hair there, .. I just prefer there isn't. No biggy either way tho. ... (read in full...)
He seemed shocked when I asked him to cum in my mouth! I thought this was common.
Q. Ok im really confused becuase i thought guys like it when you let them cum in your mouth. I never did it before and my bf asked me where he should cum and i said my mouth cause i wanted to taste it for myself. He seemed shocked kinda and i asked him ...
A. 9 February 2010: Don't be surprised if he changes his mind.
My guy claimed to not even like BJ's when we first got together but I assured him I could change his mind - now he loves them.
Then I had to coax him in to watching while I was doing it and now he is... (read in full...)
Should women make the first move?
Q. Should women make the first move? There is a guy I really like a lot. We are good friends, but I would love to have a deeper relationship with him. We are both shy, and although we flirt etc, nothing has ever happened. We are both single, and have...
A. 7 February 2010: I made the first move on the last 3 guys I have been with ... so that spans 20 years - mostly in relationships - and never was thought of as a tart. (hardly raking up numbers there)
I just trust my instincts in that dept and took the chance, ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 7 February 2010: Rofl - your ruining MY sex life now! I was just being naughty with my man and nearly bit him where I shouldn;t coz this thread suddenly 'sprouted' to mind and I cracked up laughing, ... think it was the whole 'stump' in my mouth thing lol. Tis true ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: Oh, I am big and ugly enough now to deal with it, ... but thank you :-)
I still agree with your prior post tho, .. kids not being toys and wot not, .. immaturity , sacrifices, .. but I guess shit happens whatever way you look at it huh! :-)... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 7 February 2010: Turning over a new leaf may not be so easy, .. it depends on your roots :-)
Sorry OP that we are 'sapping' ya here, but hey at least you don't have to face any of us on a daily basis. Take heed tho, and imagine what it might be like if you actu... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: I agree with Miamine - my owm mum chose a man over me, and ya know what I did, I moved out of home at 17 in disgust.
There were numerous incidents of her doing such things , I had consequently lost all respect for her, and when her latest b... (read in full...)
Is it possible to kiss a girl's breast during sex or foreplay?
Q. I want to ask a question about this. It confused me sometimes whenever i want to do it. The thing is that i want to suck or kiss my girl friend breast during sex or foreplay, i wonder maybe i might taste the milk during sucking or kissing her ...
A. 7 February 2010: As mentioned - a woman only lactates if in late stages of pregnancy (not always tho - I didn't) or breast feeding after birth.
Each to their own, and it was not an issue for me coz my ex stopped having sex with me anyway pretty much as soon as ... (read in full...)
Have to go swimming but have my period!
Q. Hello. I have a minor problem that isn't life changing but it currently feels like a big problem! Tomorrow I have to go swimming. I really have no choice in it. But I woke up this morning and my period had started unexpectedly. I don't know what ...
A. 7 February 2010: I went to an all girls school, but we co-ordinated with the 2 other schools in the vicinity for classes which saw me landed in an all male Phys Ed class at a predominately male Tech School, ... just walking down the corridoors there sucked, ...but ... (read in full...)
We have broken up so many times before and she has always come home, but I'm worried that this time it is different!
Q. Hi, I have recently split up from my fiance of nearly 4 years and im finding it extremely hard. we have a 2 year old son together and have not long moved into a new house. this month i have made mistake after mistake and she had had enough and left ...
A. 7 February 2010: If you want my opinion, you are deluding yourself if you think there is any long term future so long as try to woo her back INSTEAD of fixing the issues that made her leave in the first place.
It might be hard, scary, ugly, whatever to face the... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 7 February 2010: Ahhh, so is that why they call it 'having a woody?' :-)... (read in full...)
Is there a way to be married before God by man of the cloth and take vows but not file the paperwork and she still change her last name?
Q. I've been married and divorced. I want to eventually marry my new girlfriend, but we have a difference in marriage processes. She wants to be married the "right" way which is being registered with the state. However, I do not believe in the ...
A. 7 February 2010: If you are planning to spend any considerable length of time with her, you will be considered by law to be in a common law marriage (defacto) and would each be entitled to have your union viewed in the same context as a legal marriage. In Australia ... (read in full...)
How do I make "sexting" more interesting?
Q. Ok i have this problem my boyfriend knows alot about sexting (saying sexual stuff you want to do through text)and hes alot better at it then me. I think cause iv never realy done it before. I like know the basics saying i want to have .... with you ...
A. 7 February 2010: Here is an idea, ...stop wasting money on back and forth text messages and just pick up the phone and make a voice call. How UN-SEXY imo, to be concentrating on pushing phone buttons to send messages when you can just talk without distraction.
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Oral Sex Odour - Is it normal?
Q. hi, so the thing is that when i give my bf a blow job his cock smells HORRIBLE, like really nastly, kinda like fishy or of pee a bit..... is that normal?? thankyouu x...
A. 7 February 2010: I agree, ..there is no reason for a healthy (no STI) hygenic (washed) guy to smell offensive, ... and I will say the same for women.
If they have had sex or urinated recently prior to a subsequent wash, then yeah, you might get exposed to the s... (read in full...)
Are stretch marks a huge turn off?
Q. hi all ok heres the problem, i have a lot of stretch marks. actually they are alot but the worst ones are on my back, stomach and sides of my upper body. i also got very light skin which makes em look worse. And i heard u cant get rid of these,...
A. 7 February 2010: Having light skin will actually go in your favor in the long run (if you don;t keep putting on more weight) as they tend to fade to a silvery white color which will not be so noticeable on light skin.
In the mean time, there are some creams a... (read in full...)
Why am I in love with a player??
Q. whats wrong with me... im in love with a player. hes cheated on his past two girlfriends. he used to like me but when i didnt do what he wanted like kiss him or whatever he called me boring. i havent done anything with him ima virgin. i know its ...
A. 7 February 2010: IMO, a degree of arrogance can sometimes run a fine line between coming off as confidence and being super attractive, and coming off as 'smart arse' and being a total turn off. Depends on the guy, how they project it, and what else they have got ... (read in full...)
Do "mansluts" ever change or will he always be like that
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i ...
A. 6 February 2010: My guy was a major major man whore slut between 15 and 21, ... but between 21 and 38 has only been with his ex and myself.
I have witnessed teenage girls, women in their 50's, and everything in between blatantly flirting, or just straight... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday with my b/f and wondering if I can wear a bikini
Q. hey, Im a size 16 and im going on my first sun holiday this summer!! Im going with my bf so i want to look really good but im so worried about bikinis. Can someone please tell me wear i can get ones that will flatter my body but still look r...
A. 6 February 2010: Look up 'miracle suits', ... not sure they have traditional style bikini's (maybe tho) but they definately do have tankini's. Bit pricey as far as swim wear goes, but definately worth it! They suck you in, in all the right places :-)... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 6 February 2010: You may not be able to help how you feel, but you can choose how you act.
A good action for starters would be changing gym's and not buying other women presents.... (read in full...)
For anyone out there who has been cheated on.. can you tell me when the pain starts to subside?
Q. Hi everyone, For anyone out there who has been cheated on.. can you tell me when the pain starts to subside? Only three weeks ago, I found out my boyfriend of eight years has been having an affair for the past year - and possibly the ent...
A. 6 February 2010: For me the worst of it lessened over several months, took a good few years to really get over, and we did stay together another 16 years, ... but I had to suffer annual reminders because I found out about it on our anniverssay.
I ended up no longe... (read in full...)
I am worried about hair in the nether regions
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old female who is suffering from hair on my butt, not my cheeks, it's inside of my cheeks around my hole. ( I apologize for graphis terms). I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, and we haven't really gotten to the sexual area ...
A. 6 February 2010: I rekon shving it would be like walking around with sandpaper in your arse when it grew back spiky. I would suggest waxing, epilating, or a depilatory cream as better options. ... (read in full...)
What should she being doing during foreplay so I can come in 5-6 min of penetration?
Q. what type of a foreplay can arouse the couple to have enjoyable sex ... in the past i've been addicted to porn and masturbation, as a result got the problem of delayed ejaculation, I still have tht prob. I've been reading alot about what women want, ...
A. 5 February 2010: Sorry, but if my guy made a habit out of blowing in 5-6 minutes we would have some issues to be worked on.
Are you sure this is what she would want and be satisfied with?
If yes, then you tell her what does it for you coz I don't suppose sh... (read in full...)
Is it must for a girl to cum during sex?
Q. I want to ask a question. Is it must for a girl to cum during sex. and how do you make a girl cum?...
A. 5 February 2010: It is not an absolute must in every single instance, ... but ideally both partner should be getting satisfaction.
If one missing out becomes a regular feature then there need to be some discusion, effort, or otherwise, put in to altering the situ... (read in full...)
We have broken up so many times before and she has always come home, but I'm worried that this time it is different!
Q. Hi, I have recently split up from my fiance of nearly 4 years and im finding it extremely hard. we have a 2 year old son together and have not long moved into a new house. this month i have made mistake after mistake and she had had enough and left ...
A. 5 February 2010: I am just gunna tell it like it is, and hopefully you will see the positve possibilities without having sunshine blown up your arse that may cause you to rest on your laurels!
Admitting the problems are the first step in solving them, ..so pat... (read in full...)
We have broken up so many times before and she has always come home, but I'm worried that this time it is different!
Q. Hi, I have recently split up from my fiance of nearly 4 years and im finding it extremely hard. we have a 2 year old son together and have not long moved into a new house. this month i have made mistake after mistake and she had had enough and left ...
A. 4 February 2010: At this point I think you need to give her a little space, and also start attending AA meetings. Whether you think you need them or not, ... You do need to show her you are taking positive action (not talking, not promising, simply just doing) ... (read in full...)
We have broken up so many times before and she has always come home, but I'm worried that this time it is different!
Q. Hi, I have recently split up from my fiance of nearly 4 years and im finding it extremely hard. we have a 2 year old son together and have not long moved into a new house. this month i have made mistake after mistake and she had had enough and left ...
A. 2 February 2010: The only help I could offer you is to tell you to help yourself. Don't just say you will change, ... actually do it (now not later) and let her see that you are actually working on it, (get external help if need be) not just talking about planning ... (read in full...)
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