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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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The sex is very bad. I have to keep reassuring him about his penis, he has some annoying habits in bed and he keeps forgetting where my clitoris is! I'm tired of faking it!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend he does some really annoying things. He likes to listen to the radio and sing in my ear while he's on top of me. I hate that. I told him that I didn't like that and he got his feelings hurt. So every now and ...
A. 14 April 2010: If you dont want to come out with something that he will take as criticism, then start kissing him when he sings so he cant keep doing it, ... if he wanders during oral just wiggle yourself in to the right spot again, tell him to keep doing exactly ... (read in full...)
Since we moved in together we have been growing apart.
Q. i meet my bf on a dating site 2 years ago. i moved into my boyfriend's apartment last year. since i moved in it seems like we are growing apart. we used to be flirtasious, intimate, romantic daily. it is like we are strangers now. we haven't been ...
A. 14 April 2010: It can be that sometimes when we live with someone we lose the spark and excitement of looking fwd to seeing them because they are always there. Familiarity can lead to taking each other for granted.
I am not buying the breathing problem as a rea... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from oral sex?
Q. I recently gave my boyfriend oral sex and he did the same for me, but since then I've been feeling strange. Could I be pregnant?...
A. 14 April 2010: No, you can't get pregnant from oral sex.
Really tho, ...You should not be engaging in such activities if you do not know the basics of how pregnancy occurs or how to protect yourself from that as well as std's.
Maybe go learn some sex ed theo... (read in full...)
I take care of the kids, pay for everything, and he tells me he wants a girl on the side??
Q. i wanna to leave my husband because im not happy all we do is argue and i tired of it i support him my two kids and his son every time i turn around im paying for something like child support he can't think for him self i have to do every thing ...
A. 14 April 2010: He needs a reality check! Divorce him and let him find a 'girl on the side' to pay for everything for him. ... (read in full...)
Did my past infidelities cause my wife's cervical cancer. This guilt is eating me alive! Help!
Q. I am married and have been unfaithful to my wife through out our whole marriage, and not with the same girl. I always used protection because I did not want to be responsible for an STD. I have changed and now I am a new man thanks to my religion I ...
A. 13 April 2010: I am so sorry, both for your wife's condition and the questioning you are putting yourself through.
Unless you were her only partner, you can't know for certain where she picked HPV up from, or if you unknowingly already had it prior to meeting ... (read in full...)
Trouble sharing the bed!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a ton of trouble sharing a bed. Luckily neither of us snores, but he tosses and turns constantly and wakes me up, which means I get angry and wake him up. Whenever I suggest sleeping separately he gets really offended, plus ...
A. 13 April 2010: I used to have a memory foam mattress (when with my ex) and they really are fantastic, ...and No, you don't really notice the other person moving about when sleping on them. I'd definately reccomend giving one a go. I intend to get another one, or ... (read in full...)
If college is the best time of your life then why am I miserable?
Q. I can hear my roommate having sex with a girl that I like through the walls... I hate college so much and I hate everyone here. How am I supposed to make it through my degree when I have to put up with sick shit like this? Why are the girls and ...
A. 13 April 2010: Perhpas it would help if you joined some social clubs and got to make friends with people that have shared interests.
You may also benefit from speaking to the school councellor about how you feel.
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Was she a virgin?
Q. Last year, I slept with this girl once, which was supposedly both of our first times. Although, I never saw any blood from her(which I've always heard indicates her "deblossoming") and she seemed to be not in pain during. She was black, as I am ...
A. 13 April 2010: No, blood is not always an indication of virginity. Some girls can break their hymen from other activities (gymnastics, horse riding, etc) long before having sex and consequently wont bleed, ... others can bleed long after losing their virginty. It ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boss a hot kinky time?
Q. I posted on here a few days ago regarding my casual sex relationship with my 33 year old boss. Today, she expressed an interest to visit me one night. So far we have only been having sex around hers but she wanted to spice it up a little. My parents ...
A. 13 April 2010: ...and as for your coffee table question, it really depends what it is made of on top, and how well made/solid it is at the joins.
You could get her on all fours on the coffee table and remain standing yourself if you don't want to test the tabl... (read in full...)
How can I show my boss a hot kinky time?
Q. I posted on here a few days ago regarding my casual sex relationship with my 33 year old boss. Today, she expressed an interest to visit me one night. So far we have only been having sex around hers but she wanted to spice it up a little. My parents ...
A. 13 April 2010: Rofl - hardly.
The clincher in leaving my partner of 18 years was coz he did not want to have sex anymore, ...so I've done my prudish and tame days, plently of them, and I'll be damned if I am not just gunna make up for lost time and have a go at ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when my husband says "take what you can get"?
Q. me and my huddy been together for 7years and got wed when we make 4 1/2 years .our relationship been ok i think but lately it feel like he is not in love with me .i can not tell him how i feel about everything don't even talk about sex. he said i ...
A. 13 April 2010: Sounds to me like he is saying that is all he can last, that is all you can get, like it or lump it, nothing else on offer, that is all your gunna get, ... so might as well take it and no point complaining about it.
There are techniques he can w... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't recognise my voice when I call him from a different line.
Q. I knw it might sound crazy but is a big problem to me. .my bf does not recognise my voice when i call from a different line. .its so confusing and suspicious considering the fact that i talk with him 3 to 4 times a day nd he stil don't recognise my ...
A. 13 April 2010: Different phone lines, (landlines , voip, mobile) can give slight and subtle differences to the voices carried over them. You may just not sound quite like you.
I cant count the amount of times in phone calls I have thought a friends son was the ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boss a hot kinky time?
Q. I posted on here a few days ago regarding my casual sex relationship with my 33 year old boss. Today, she expressed an interest to visit me one night. So far we have only been having sex around hers but she wanted to spice it up a little. My parents ...
A. 13 April 2010: You don't have to lift her against a wall. You can lift just one leg. Like wise if you bend her over a bit and go from behind - just give her something to be able to hang on to so she does not fall fwd. You are not going to want too much height ... (read in full...)
Passing gas
Q. is it awkward to fart in front of your boyfriend? Does it turn them off?...
A. 12 April 2010: That is a no go zone for me, ..wouldn't do it in front of anyone, least of all the guy who is supposed to be thinking me all pure and beautiful and stuff lol.
I dont mind anyone else doing them somewhere in my vicinty as long as there is enough d... (read in full...)
I would not give him sex so he got it elsewhere.
Q. Dear Cupid Than you for welcoming me, you know what I was in love with a guy for 3 months and I didnt slept with him so he cheated on me for not being sleeping with him and when I said its over he accepted it and said he cant carry on with me , I w...
A. 12 April 2010: Instead of sitting there pining for him, ... think about what a dog he was to you. That might help you get peeved and shake the love bug off so you can move on faster. ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boss a hot kinky time?
Q. I posted on here a few days ago regarding my casual sex relationship with my 33 year old boss. Today, she expressed an interest to visit me one night. So far we have only been having sex around hers but she wanted to spice it up a little. My parents ...
A. 12 April 2010: Has she actually said she would find sex in your parents bed a turn on?
Just thought I'd mention it coz I would find that a major turn off, so if you have not asked her, maybe you should incase the idea of doing it where your oldies do grosses ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed about what I weigh...
Q. Hi all last week i took two home pregnancy tests because my period was 2 weeks late , i took one in the afternoon which came up postive really quickly, then i took another one the next morning just to be sure and that also came up positive right aw...
A. 12 April 2010: I take it if he has managed to father a child with you that he has gotten a pretty god look at your body, so what is a number assigned to it gunna change? It is not like he is going to suddenly turn off you to know what the body he already likes ... (read in full...)
Should I do something or stay out of it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I went to a birthday party of someone, #30, I know from a theater group my son belongs to. The birthday girl's party started at her house, then went to a local bar. There was a small group of people there including one father, whose so...
A. 12 April 2010: I think you should stay out of it. You really don't know what the dynamic with her husband is, or why she has chosen to get involved with another man. In any case tho, it is not your problem, or your business.
Don't meddle in this just because ... (read in full...)
Are there love spells you can cast that actually work?
Q. hi there are many webistes online claming to cast spells that would really work.there is this spell casting women named ashra she is the us top most american cast speller of 2009 do u think he can really cast a love spell that will work? Please...
A. 12 April 2010: You have read me wrong Laura. I have plenty of first hand evidence of spirit existing - I don't have to 'believe' in them, ... I 'know' they exist. :-)... (read in full...)
Are there love spells you can cast that actually work?
Q. hi there are many webistes online claming to cast spells that would really work.there is this spell casting women named ashra she is the us top most american cast speller of 2009 do u think he can really cast a love spell that will work? Please...
A. 12 April 2010: People dont lose their free will when they loose their physical body (die) and are not at the beck and call of anyone here. People who think they can make spirits come and do what they want and effect the free will of other people here (like making ... (read in full...)
Are there love spells you can cast that actually work?
Q. hi there are many webistes online claming to cast spells that would really work.there is this spell casting women named ashra she is the us top most american cast speller of 2009 do u think he can really cast a love spell that will work? Please...
A. 12 April 2010: What a crock of crud!
I am quite heavily in to paranormal, spiritual, psychic/medium type things so I am pooh poohing this having formally studied such things and being quite well informed of that which has any basis in fact and what has no subst... (read in full...)
Breaking up by text message. I find it rude and immature!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. ...
A. 12 April 2010: If she really wanted to be with you one would think she would make some small amount of time to make it work.
If she is not planning to go to school and then spend ALL the rest of her time studying, not going out, not taking calls, not seeing f... (read in full...)
Hard after ejaculation - is this normal?
Q. *OP's own title* Hiya I'm a 16 year-old girl, my boyfriend is 18 and we've been dating for a long while. Recently I started giving him handjobs... But after he cums he stays hard. Is this normal?...
A. 11 April 2010: Well how long after are we talking? It can take a few minutes for an erection to subside after orgasm, which is not abnormal.
If this is a really long period of time, or if he experiences prolonged erections at other times, may I suggest (if he i... (read in full...)
Breaking up by text message. I find it rude and immature!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. ...
A. 11 April 2010: I think don't let her off the hook so easily! I have long disliked text messaging, but hearing the things I do on this site strengthens my resolve that we would be better off with out this technology since people cant seem to behave decently and ... (read in full...)
She told me to text her, I did, but so far no answer
Q. Hi, i'd really appreciate your views on my situation. Basically, i've been on 2 dates with a girl. First date we had a couple of drinks at a local pub and ended up having a kiss at the end of the evening. Second date we both ended up getting drunk...
A. 11 April 2010: Oh, yeah, I agree that two days in a row could give the wrong impression, ... and yes, it could be something as simple as phone credit. Did not think of that one coz I myself have a billed account - not pre paid.
I would suggest waiting till mid... (read in full...)
I am considering being a non sexual escort
Q. hi, iv split up with my bf recently and im not taking it very well...i have no interest in any physical contact and think just going on dates would help...with no contact and i dont want it to go any where so is it wrong if i become an escort? on a ...
A. 11 April 2010: When I was 17 I lived with an escort (I moved out of home young) and whilst I will say that over half the time she did not actually have sex with her 'date', .. it was expected as part of her job that she did have to if the client wanted to.
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She told me to text her, I did, but so far no answer
Q. Hi, i'd really appreciate your views on my situation. Basically, i've been on 2 dates with a girl. First date we had a couple of drinks at a local pub and ended up having a kiss at the end of the evening. Second date we both ended up getting drunk...
A. 11 April 2010: I may be way off base here, but, .... Maybe she is worried that you are not really attracted to her because you didn't 'rise to the occassion'.
Now of course it is fairly commonly known that alcohol can affect the ability to get a boner, ..hence ... (read in full...)
Is this classed as rape?
Q. if a male is 17 and a female is 15 and they have sex and get pregnant, is it rape?...
A. 10 April 2010: Depends where you live and the laws there.
If it was consensual sex, it could be classes as 'statutory rape' regardless. This is not as serious as a rape charge due to the consent factor, and carries lighter penalties, ... possibly (and usually)... (read in full...)
If I watch lesbian porn does that mean I am a lesbian?
Q. dear cupid, I regularly watch lesbian porn. i am a girl aswell. I dont know if i'm a lesbian or not because i'm still attracted to boys. But not attracted to girls. i don't know what to do! help!...
A. 10 April 2010: No, I dont think it makes you a lesbian, ... if you're not sexually attracted to women then that is that, and your not a lesbian.
Perhaps what you like about watching it is the visual of things that get done to you (by men) rather than the idea... (read in full...)
How do I persuade my mum to let me go on holiday with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi. I'm seventeen and my boyfriend has asked me to go away with him for a few days in the summer. We wouldn't be going far, just to the coast about 2 hours drive away, and only for a few days - a week maximum - and by then I'd be nearly 18. I ...
A. 10 April 2010: Well if the issue is not her worrying you guys might bump uglies, and she adores the boyfriend, ... then I would suggest you address all the other things that could make a mother worry.
Promise to call her every morning and every evening to let h... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to google a guy your dating to find out info on him?
Q. Hi everyone. So I posted yesterday about me finding out that the guy I'd been seeing had lied to me about his age. I googled him because I do that with guys I date just as a precaution because I like to know who I'm dating, about a year ago I w...
A. 10 April 2010: No, I dont think it is wrong to check out someone your seeing. If they don't want their info seen, then it is pretty simple really, ... dont plaster their stuff all over th net. If they wanna lie about stuff, then don't be so stupid as to leave a ... (read in full...)
I lied to my g/f because I had to, not because I wanted to
Q. Hello everyone. I've this massive problem bugging me. My relationship with my girlfriend has been rocky these days and i'm not sure of what to think of now. Oh and she has trust issues because of her ex. Okay, direct to the point. My parents doe...
A. 10 April 2010: You did not HAVE to lie to her, ... you simply could have told your parents that you had a girlfriend wether they liked it or not. At 18 (or over as you have indicated as your age), you are practically an adult and need to man up, make your ow... (read in full...)
Girlfriends sexual abuse, I need closure but I don't know how
Q. Hey guys, my problem is i cant get over my girlfriend being sexually abused up until she was 14 by her sick f_ck uncle. i got her to seek therapy and i have been the main person in her healing and recently she has told me that i have taken away ...
A. 10 April 2010: Can't you call the Broken Hill Police instead? It's the arse end of nowhere so it is not like he would be able to hide out from them there or anything. That said,this is really your girlfriends choice. She is doing well in her healing by the s... (read in full...)
Which do women prefer?
Q. I have a question for sexually exspearinced woman...Do woman prefer an uncircumsized male or circumsized? To those woman who have encountered a foreskin, why do most woman pull it all the way down and pretend its not there, is it because you think ...
A. 10 April 2010: Being honest I have prefered the look of a circumcised penis, but probably only because that was what I had been used to. My current partner is the first uncut guy I have been with, so yeah the visual difference was very noticed, ..but certainly not ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him now or at the prom that I really don't like him?
Q. This guy asked me to prom a few weeks ago now but I pretended that I'd promised to go with my friends. I really don't like this guy like that or in any way really but because as my friends say, I'm to nice for my own good I agreed to dance with him ...
A. 9 April 2010: Tell him now rather than spoil his memories of prom night.
You don't have to be mean about it, just tell him you want to make it clear to avoid any awkward moments on the night that you are not interested in him in that way.
If he takes it well... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriends reoccurring dreams?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether someone could give me their opinion on what my ex boyfriend's recurring dreams mean? Ok, so to explain the situation. My ex and I have been in each other's lives for the past eight years. For the last year it was sket...
A. 9 April 2010: I'm glad that made sense to you and your situation :-)
It is facinating how much can be gleaned about persons deepest thoughts from a pile of seemingly nonsense subconscious dream imagery, ... but that is why it can sometimes be helpful to ask a... (read in full...)
He's got a gorgeous girlfriend but I want him!
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster stated they are 13, but it says 30 in age. I'm 13 years old and I have noticed I have turned bi-sexual and I an deeply in love with a 14 year old boy. I would die for him I feel there is a connection between us, but he's scared t...
A. 9 April 2010: You do nothing! You are not certain if he is bi and considering most people are not, consider it a no go zone unless established otherwise.
Even on the off chance that he is, (if he is)you can;t make him face it or admit it unless /until he is re... (read in full...)
Dreams... or premonitions?
Q. Since i have been going out with my boyfriend i seem to have dreams about him that keep coming true. he had the string to my prom dress cause he was trying to get a tie the same color and i had a dream one night that he lost it , and he called me ...
A. 9 April 2010: The problem with precognitive dreams (and psychic hunches) is that unless you have trained to develop your innate instincts to the degree where you can implicity trust your inner senses and just KNOW (like a smack in the head) through your whole ... (read in full...)
Would handsome Hollywood ask out normal pretty girl or woman who is not actress
Q. i have fairy tale question would Hollywood actor go out with normal average pretty girl or woman real or would prefer Hollywood actress who is fake and plastic or real person...
A. 9 April 2010: Julia Roberts married cameraman Danny Moder
Matt Damon married some unknown bar tender
Mel Gibson and wife (maybe ex now) Robyn
Samuel L Jackson has an unknown wife
Britney Spears was married to dancer Kevin Federline - unknown at the time
Hug... (read in full...)
Concert woes!
Q. I went to a concert last night, and one of their opening acts was Cavo. I met them after the concert and they were amazing. Their music is great and their personalities are too. They are so nice and just ahh. They are coming again May 21st and I ...
A. 9 April 2010: Only you can decide if you like these bands enough to pay to see them twice.
As for giving them your number, given your age, I don't think so. They probably flirt with everyone and have a tonne of girls giving them numbers and I'm bettin they wou... (read in full...)
How can I squirt without peeing?
Q. Everytime i masturbate with a sex toy i got to pee after iam done. I been trying to practice female ejaculation. I happened to do it today. But it smell like pee but it didn't look like pee. How can i squirt without peeing if it is pee? Or is it FE...
A. 8 April 2010: Sorry, but women CAN pee during orgasm. Usually it is coz of urinary stress incontinence caused by weak pelvic floor muscles. Google it.
That is not to say some women can't experienc FE - coz they certainly can and yes the orgasms are out of this ... (read in full...)
How can I squirt without peeing?
Q. Everytime i masturbate with a sex toy i got to pee after iam done. I been trying to practice female ejaculation. I happened to do it today. But it smell like pee but it didn't look like pee. How can i squirt without peeing if it is pee? Or is it FE...
A. 7 April 2010: Empty your bladder first.
Female ejaculate is colorless and odourless. If it smelt like pee then you probably pee'd. ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriends reoccurring dreams?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether someone could give me their opinion on what my ex boyfriend's recurring dreams mean? Ok, so to explain the situation. My ex and I have been in each other's lives for the past eight years. For the last year it was sket...
A. 5 April 2010: In dreams - Water typicaly represents emotions, ... so wether the water is rough or calm may be telling as to what was coming out of his subconscious as an idea of how either himself or you would feel inthis situation.
In any case, you jumping ... (read in full...)
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