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30-35,
anonymous
writes:whats wrong with me... im in love with a player. hes cheated on his past two girlfriends. he used to like me but when i didnt do what he wanted like kiss him or whatever he called me boring. i havent done anything with him ima virgin. i know its wrong to like him. but we go to school n church together. in the begining of jan we had a big falling out cause he publicly called me boring caus i rejected him and we havent spoken since. we go to college together and im always tryin to run see him. i always dream about him n when i dnt see him for some time i cant sleep. n when i do know i am gonna see him i get overly excited. i knowwww i shouldnt like him but i dobt know what to do. i fantasize about him alll the time! what to do?
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 IMO, a degree of arrogance can sometimes run a fine line between coming off as confidence and being super attractive, and coming off as 'smart arse' and being a total turn off. Depends on the guy, how they project it, and what else they have got going for them.
Obvioulsy this guy is tipping in on the attractive side, ..but trust me, if you dated him that would eventually wear off, the ugly bullshit would become more aparent, and you would walk off kicking yourself in the arse for ever being silly enough to let it get the better of you.
Don't let a guy like this have your virginity, it will just be an ego boosting conquest to him, a story to tell his mates, and nothing more. If you want any chance of ever getting his respect, don't give him an inch on the games, and don't let him get in your pants.
Sometimes it is fun to play with the bad boys, but it's the good guys that you should take home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): I'm in a similar situation but I've gone so far as to become involved. The attration is so insanely intense on my part and he feeds off of that. I'm having some issues because he's a player. I've gathered more self respect lately and he's more respectful of me since I don't chase him. I've tried to cut off relations but he get's me back because I have the guts to try to leave. The more you try to distance seems to entice a player, but it may be because we are intimate. Please be careful!!!, my path has been filled with years of wanting, wondering, loneliness, the only redeeming quality are the fleeting moments of intense feelings we have when we get together.
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