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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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Ex boyfriends reoccurring dreams?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether someone could give me their opinion on what my ex boyfriend's recurring dreams mean? Ok, so to explain the situation. My ex and I have been in each other's lives for the past eight years. For the last year it was sket...
A. 9 April 2010: I'm glad that made sense to you and your situation :-)
It is facinating how much can be gleaned about persons deepest thoughts from a pile of seemingly nonsense subconscious dream imagery, ... but that is why it can sometimes be helpful to ask a... (read in full...)
How can I squirt without peeing?
Q. Everytime i masturbate with a sex toy i got to pee after iam done. I been trying to practice female ejaculation. I happened to do it today. But it smell like pee but it didn't look like pee. How can i squirt without peeing if it is pee? Or is it FE...
A. 8 April 2010: Sorry, but women CAN pee during orgasm. Usually it is coz of urinary stress incontinence caused by weak pelvic floor muscles. Google it.
That is not to say some women can't experienc FE - coz they certainly can and yes the orgasms are out of this ... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to give him his Christmas presents otherwise I have to give my gifts back! What can I do?
Q. Heyy everyone, bit of a problem.. Right, me and my boyfriend broke up like three months ago, just after christmas and before new year, which wasnt good really, great start to the new year ey :) Anyway, he gave me his gift just before christmas...
A. 8 April 2010: I must say I am one of those people who return everything from a ring right down to a crappy cd, ...but I don't see why you should have to. It's just a 'me' thing, but I dont think anyoone else should just coz I would. Do what sits with you in this ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to belive I might be pregnant
Q. hi im 1 week and 4 days late on my period. today i took a pregnancy test and it came out positive straight away, two dark pink lines. i went to the docs and got a midwife appointment. does this actually mean im pregnant? im finding it hard to be...
A. 8 April 2010: Home pregnancy tests are far more likely to show up a false negative than a false positive as the positive indicator only colors up when detecting HCG which is normally only present during pregnancy.
Sometimes it wont detect it in early stages b... (read in full...)
Giving him head makes me puke!
Q. I have been with this guy for almost a year and i still cant give him head like i have to my other bf i dont know why, i start fine and when i start to go deeper i puke. Someone help me plz. P.S. he is the biggest guy i been with but i could ta...
A. 8 April 2010: It is caused by your gag reflex which automatically kicks in when something starts to enter your throat. It is a stronger or weaker reaction in different people but takes practice to be able to supress this from occuring, ...and of course like ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad thing to tell her I love her even though she has a boyfriend?
Q. I'm in love with a girl since 8 months and i've had a crush on her since 17 months. We study in the same college. She has a boyfriend since 5 months who studies in her class. I didnt know she was in a relationship until last month.She wants a long t...
A. 8 April 2010: I really dont see the point in people declaring love to people they are not with. What does it actually achieve? Can't people feel that way about someone and not have to say it when the other party is unavailable, not intrested enough to make ... (read in full...)
Everyone says he wants to break up with me, but he does not do it.
Q. ok well,my boyfriend(ps:astrology belivers welcomed)he is a virgo and im a gemini, he is very demanding and im free spirited. hes passionate im not. we've always worked through it, but lately we've been having some troubles. well in highscho...
A. 8 April 2010: Maybe he is scared to tell you to your face because you used physical aggression on him when you started shoving and pulling him around.
Maybe his plan is to keep his distance until you back off by yourself rather than face your obvious wrath. ... (read in full...)
Mixed bag of random questions.
Q. Can someone please answers some of my curious questions!! (as many as you can, maybe? Just write the number by it and state your answer) 1. When do boys start getting horny and turned on and get erections? 2. Do you have to pop your cherry befo...
A. 8 April 2010: 1/ Even babies can get erections, ..but generally the horniness starts around puberty so 12-15 give or take.
2/No, you dont have to loose your virginity before having your period. The vast majority of females don't have sex until after hitting ... (read in full...)
How can I squirt without peeing?
Q. Everytime i masturbate with a sex toy i got to pee after iam done. I been trying to practice female ejaculation. I happened to do it today. But it smell like pee but it didn't look like pee. How can i squirt without peeing if it is pee? Or is it FE...
A. 7 April 2010: Empty your bladder first.
Female ejaculate is colorless and odourless. If it smelt like pee then you probably pee'd. ... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: This link may be useful -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_color... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: My mother has blue eyes, my father brown eyes, and I have green eyes. So yep, it's possible,for a brown eyes parent to produce a green eyes child, .. but you know that because your own father had brown eyes and you have green.
My ex has medium b... (read in full...)
Anal sex problem!
Q. I had anal sex for the first time it didn't hurt and I don't know if he was even all the way in, but i felt him go off... about 40 minutes later i had cramping and diahorrea, is that normal?...
A. 7 April 2010: No, I don't believe that is normal or typical. It could have happened for an entirely unrelated reason, tho as the last poster said, if it does become a common after effect for you then I guess you need to think twice about wether you want to have ... (read in full...)
His lack of responses to my text messages has me concerned. What should I do?
Q. Ok ill make this quick- i recently have been texting a guy, in which we both have the intention to see where things go. Be it just friendship, sex, or more. I really sense he's a genuine guy from what i previously gathered and learned from talking ...
A. 7 April 2010: Simple, ..dial the number instead of texting it, then you can talk to him, ask if he is ok, if he has gotten your messages, etc, etc.
Should not be a biggy, ... just explain you thought the messages might not have been getting through and you ... (read in full...)
Any insight into itchiness after sex?
Q. I sometimes get an itchy foreskin after intercourse with my girlfriend of over 3 years. It affects the exterior AND interior (tip) of the foreskin. We have unprotected sex and use lubricant every time. It sometimes occurs after masturbation as ...
A. 7 April 2010: Yay - excellent, that is great to hear! :-)... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 7 April 2010: At the end of the day, if you think you are being respectful, and doing nothing wrong, then keep 'doing' them, ... and let their criticism be water of a ducks back. Your not doing anything wrong - right?
If you are not misrepresenting the situatio... (read in full...)
Does the vagina change after giving birth?
Q. Hi, I'm 4 months pregnant. I'm thinking of going for a natural birth if my health is good at the time of delivery. But I have some serious concerns. Does the vagina change after a natural birth? Does it affect the sex life later on? Does the vagi...
A. 6 April 2010: I am presuming the general consensus will be that a vaginal birth does cause a weakening of the pelvic floor muscles causing a loss of tightness and tone, ... however maybe I am a freak or something, but I had the opposite occur.
My son was born... (read in full...)
He was too rough and now I'm bleeding
Q. I had sex with this guy on saturday. He likes to use his fingers and he went a bit rough and deep he tried to put his fist in and i was bleeding.. He also said there was like a wall there.. I have been spot bleeding since saturday and dont know why? ...
A. 5 April 2010: *bleeding* - typo... (read in full...)
He was too rough and now I'm bleeding
Q. I had sex with this guy on saturday. He likes to use his fingers and he went a bit rough and deep he tried to put his fist in and i was bleeding.. He also said there was like a wall there.. I have been spot bleeding since saturday and dont know why? ...
A. 5 April 2010: err, umm, what on earth is a guy doing trying to put a fist up you?
I know people do that, but I have even had a baby and i find that totally unimaginable.
He would be bledeog - not me - coz I'd probably have punched him in the nose before ... (read in full...)
My fiancee wont let me contact her or my sons. I am at the end of my tether!
Q. Dear Cupid I've got a massive problem, my fiancé and I haven't spoke to each for over a month and I also haven't seen my 2 little boys. We have been having problems for a while and as a result I left our family home, we have been trying to sort ...
A. 5 April 2010: Fathers DO have the right to see their childen! You live in the UK where courts protect and respect the rights of children to maintain a relationship with BOTH parents!
If your ex is making an issue out of this, then not only is she way out of l... (read in full...)
I want to talk to him when we are not drunk, ... should I, ... or should I just leave him alone?
Q. Hey just after a bit of advice. I met this guy about 6 months ago after seeing him around a bit. At first he was really keen texting me etc and went to his house a couple of times after meeting up out (didn't have sex though). Then he started to ...
A. 5 April 2010: oh lord, ... his name is not Wiki is it?
Anyway, yes, have sober interactions to find out where you are with each other. ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 5 April 2010: Oh, .... it's 34D here (never mind my name - just want you to 'respect' me and make a proper respectful association in your brain) ... screw anything else I am about, .. paying that much attention would be too hard basket yeah?, ... so I'll remember ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriends reoccurring dreams?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether someone could give me their opinion on what my ex boyfriend's recurring dreams mean? Ok, so to explain the situation. My ex and I have been in each other's lives for the past eight years. For the last year it was sket...
A. 5 April 2010: In dreams - Water typicaly represents emotions, ... so wether the water is rough or calm may be telling as to what was coming out of his subconscious as an idea of how either himself or you would feel inthis situation.
In any case, you jumping ... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my older Husband
Q. I am 24 and recently married my best friend and the most perfect man. He is 65 and we dated for 4 years before we married. I have a 6 year old from my first marriage and he has 3 grown children and we all get along great. I recently have ...
A. 5 April 2010: I seriously think you should better research reversing vasectomies, coz success after 20 years is so very highly unlikely that it is almost not worth debating.
I can understand your desire for another child (I want one myself but am in the same... (read in full...)
He did not answer my text msg, .. should I move on?
Q. Met a man online. I almost did not go as I have been having terrible dates from online. Surprisingly, I go on the first date and we hit it off. We had alot of laughs , I am sure the alcohol helped. We held hands and had a quick goodnight kiss. The ...
A. 5 April 2010: Umm, we are talking about one message unanswered yeah, .. on a holiday weekend, ..whilst you know he is away, ... with his child, ... right?
If so, then it means nothing imo, he could be busy, out of mobile range, devoting all his time to his chil... (read in full...)
Please help with the guilt of a breakup!
Q. i feel super guilty about breaking up with my bf of a year and a half. the last 2 months we were fighting constantly, and even though we both loved each other, we weren't happy. i felt he only had time when it was convenient for him, and when i was ...
A. 5 April 2010: Break up with people in person so all the emotions, expressions, vocal tones, etc are demonstrated to make the emotionless words of a text or facebook communication clear. Besides, it is just courtesy to dump someone to their face rather than by ... (read in full...)
He told me he may even let me rape him..what is that all about??
Q. Hi all I have a bit of a problams im kinda falling for this guy i met through a friend who told me 2 add this guy on facebook Yes i no its also bad but i have already slept with him, but i dont regret it one bit Anyway my problam is im not ...
A. 5 April 2010: I think he definately likes you and is being light hearted and funning with ya.
I call people nob's/knob's, both male and female and dont mean anything by it - just that they have done, thought, or said, something a bit silly. I would not say ... (read in full...)
Is it good enough protection to only use a condom upon insertion?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend insisted having sex with me and we landed up having an intercourse, but i stopped him before he could insert inside me. During the course of intercourse he he used condoms on and off... Is it good enough to use condoms only at ...
A. 5 April 2010: In order to not get pregnant or catch sti's/std's, protection is neccessary for the duration of intercourse, ... and even during foreplay.
The beginning of intercourse is far less risky for pregnancy than later stages when male ejaculat... (read in full...)
Is my weight gain since marriage a cause to worry about my husbands interest in me?
Q. hi am married for two years now and have put on a lot of weight which my husband does not like he would tell me i look fat and looked good when we were newly married and at times he would look at other girls who are look really slim and compare me. ...
A. 5 April 2010: "When you live with a man , you will gain weight because you will eat more carbohydrates"
huh? how does living with a man cause women to eat more carbs?... (read in full...)
Slipping Out! Why?
Q. This is very embarassing to ask but I really need some advice. My boyfriend and I were having sex. We've only done it a few times before so we're fairly new to this but for some reason he couldn't get in me for a long time. Or as soon as he got ...
A. 5 April 2010: Could be the angle, position, the relative sizes of the respective partners, he may not be fully erect/hard, either of you (depending on the position) may be simply moving too much for the penis length and inadvertantly withdrawing it fully. No ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt males to loose their virginity?
Q. i have been thinking about sex and i am scared. will something happen to my penus if i lose my virginity. will it hurt...
A. 5 April 2010: It depends on a number of factors, ..but generally no, it is not typical for it to hurt a guy, ..and in most cases, precluding underlying medical conditions, it would be a minimal and fleeting discomfort, ... nothing on par with what many girls have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is to be our friends child's godfather, and I feel left out.
Q. my friend has just had a kid, but i haven't seen her for ages because i've been at uni. anyway, her kids father is my boyfriends best friend.. and he's asked to be god father. it just seems like i'm completely excluded. he has arranged things w...
A. 4 April 2010: Don't take it out on your boyfriend too much. He did not ask to be in this position, ...but it is quite an honor for him, and if he has to put some time in to fulfilling that role, then so be it.
Same sort of thing happens when someone is asked... (read in full...)
Does true love exist?
Q. how do you know when true love is true love? or does it even exist? please comment...
A. 4 April 2010: True love I feel is what *most* parents have for their children. So yeah it is everywhere, it has no bounds, it takes all sorts of crap and never wavers, never dies, it is eternal.
When we are lucky, we get to find this with partners too! :-)... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 4 April 2010: @ stellaforstar :-)
... well I hope I haven't wasted time on the nails lol, ... I kinda thought guys liked a good manicure when your hand was wrapped around well you know what when your doing you know what ..lol.
Hmmn, .. I gunna throw this... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 4 April 2010: ...ah, but you have gotten your panties in a twist over a woman who dresses like a moron , ... or at least over a boyfriend who raves on about her, ... or you would not have written in about it in the first place. :-) Hopefully tho, you've vented ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 4 April 2010: I could have seen your side on this and not thought less of you for wanting to play the field if you made your intentions clear, ... but you just started referring and describing various women as tit sizes, .. so now you really do sound like a jerk. ... (read in full...)
Any insight into itchiness after sex?
Q. I sometimes get an itchy foreskin after intercourse with my girlfriend of over 3 years. It affects the exterior AND interior (tip) of the foreskin. We have unprotected sex and use lubricant every time. It sometimes occurs after masturbation as ...
A. 3 April 2010: Well if it happens with masturbation too, not just sex, I would try changing lubricants. Perhpas you are sensitive to it. Avoid warming, cooling, tingling, scented, type stuff with extra additives, and try some different no frills water based lubes. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Now that is a whole other story (your update) to what was originally portrayed. Having your hand forced and your head shoved down is definately being abusive, and I am sorry you gave in to this.
I've had a guy do the exact same thing to me (when... (read in full...)
A kiss, ...with a twist. How should I spice it up?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 6 months and i want to kiss him a little differently to normal to make things a bit more fun. any ideas? x...
A. 3 April 2010: If your not doing it, you could maybe try getting some tounge action going, gentle lip nibbling/ tugging, touching, ...you can even just spice it up with the level of passion you put in to it, ... you could do it extra tender, teasingly, become ... (read in full...)
My friend is hurting me with his behavior and doesn't seem to get it!
Q. I talked to my friend last night telling him that he hurt me by being distant. He said that the reason why e doesn’t talk to me is because he doesn’t carry his phone every where and sometimes he is signed on online but he’s not at his computer. Plus ...
A. 3 April 2010: How is he playng you? I am not sure I understand the context you mean this in in this instance/situation?
No, people don't always have their phones on them, ....yes people sometimes are on line and not neccessarily at the PC,... yes sometime... (read in full...)
Should I approach an eavesdropper to clarify the context of what she may have overheard?
Q. I feel guilty because I was at this casual party/picnic at church last night and I was talking to my new friend about how I felt uneasy last year when I had no money and this specific group at church that collects items for the poor kept asking for ...
A. 3 April 2010: Yeah it was something bad, .. you were being pressured to give when you were not in the position to, and these charitable types never had it occur to them that you would have if you could have (discrediting your nature in the process) and to leave ... (read in full...)
Am I leading him on?
Q. I don't understand what this is supposed to mean? One of my guy friends and me (well I like him, I think - he's 17, I'm 15, we've known each other vaguely since we were about 4 but have been talking for about 6 months) met up yesterday, and l...
A. 3 April 2010: Of course he likes you - guys don't lie around hugging women and touching their face for four hours coz it is their idea of being friendly.
Your comfortable with it, you think you like him, ...so if it would not freak you out to kiss him as a nex... (read in full...)
Does the caneston duo oral pill affect the contraceptive pill?
Q. *OP's own title* Can caneston duo (The pill and the cream)(Thrush treatment) affect the contraceptive pill? Ive searched all over the internet and ive read through the leaflet that came with it 4 times, it mentions nothing. So im not too sure whet...
A. 3 April 2010: If you don't trust the product pamphlet to disclose all potential risks (and I imagine they would be required by law to do so) then your next port of call is a doctor for a proper medical opinion. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: If he did not physically force you or otherwise threaten you, you did it of your own free will and choice. A choice you clearly regret now, but if you did not want to do it, ... well, then you simply just should not have. Get assertive!
A lot... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 1 April 2010: Sorry I wont be much help to your actual question, but I had to laugh coz my man is gaga for Gaga too.
So much so, he asked me a couple of weeks ago to buy a blonde wig, (the long straight blunt cut one she is wearing with the grey beaded t... (read in full...)
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