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writes:Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i actually really like him. I'm wondering if theres a way to get around or overcome this or if he's always just going to be like that.Any help appreciated thankyou x :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): you shouldn't ever get in a situation hoping somone will change, you'll get hurt every time.
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reader, puffyfluffy  +, writes (6 February 2010):
ummm at his age now... no. but ...the only time a male slut changes is when they find the right girl.THAT girl.Because they do change. and they know what they want but the reason why a guy is a maleslut is because they see how gurls are so easy now days and havent found one worth it. or worthy or everything they ever wanted.this is what to do. if you like him... see if you can change him. change his lifestyle. make him fall for you. but ofcourse you have to be good at it.see if you can make him fall for you.its not going to be easy. i tried it before. there are days you wolud wana give up. jus be submissive and smart and see if can change his ways.find out about him. what type of girls he likes.and it will work. it takes time tho.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 February 2010):
You know he won't change. It takes a huge amount of will for a man to change, and at his age he will only be interested in getting with as many women as he can. If you think for one moment he will change for you, then you will get hurt.
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reader, Sunrunner  +, writes (6 February 2010):
Many men can only reach a high level of sexual desire when a relationship is new. And after a number of sexual encounters their desire levels begin to drop as the "newness" wears off. When this tipping point happens varies. In some men it can take a few months, in others a few weeks or even a few days. And for some just one or two sexual encounters will cause them to start to lose their desire for any given woman. They themselves often see this as simply a low sexual boredom threshold but it most likely goes deep than that and could be caused by intimacy or self esteem issues. For the men themselves this is not really looked upon as a problem unless they meet someone they care about more than usual. Then this need for newness and variety in order to get aroused begins to backfire and in some cases if the man attempts to stay on and try to build a relationship, ignoring his dropping desire levels, he may find himself suffering from sexual dysfunctions such as the inability to ejaculate during intercourse or the inability to get or keep an erection. But for most men like this long term relationships are not what they seek so they simply change partners when their sexual desire levels for a partner start to drop. When this becomes a real problem is when these men marry and attempt to have a normal sexual relationship with their wives. When desire starts to drop for his wife the marriage can be in serious trouble if the man turns to affairs or porn and masturbation in order to reach desire levels high enough to be able to get an erection and have an orgasm. Unless he seeks therapy many of these kinds of marriages become sexless and often end in divorce.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (6 February 2010):
What does "after a few drinks we pulled" mean? LOL
I agree with the aunts & uncles, men change when men want to change. The irony is the biggest mansluts usually end up being the most devoted BF's once they finally do settle down. You aren't going to change him. All you can do is be a strong, confident, fun woman who is clear about what she wants and stands firm on the ground that she's not going to get involved with a "player". The rest is up to him.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (6 February 2010):
 My experience is that yes they will change but only if there is a reason to change. I knew a guy who was like that until he met a woman he liked, thought he could have her like he had the rest of them. He chased her and she kept telling him she was not interested in being with a man who was only interested in notches on his belt. She was better than that. He continued to chase her and she continued to stick to her guns. He did change for her and eventually they got together in college. Once he fell into a relationship (she held off sex until she was sure he was sincere), he changed. Their relationship didn't last but he never went back to his trampy ways.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 My guy was a major major man whore slut between 15 and 21, ... but between 21 and 38 has only been with his ex and myself.
I have witnessed teenage girls, women in their 50's, and everything in between blatantly flirting, or just straight out propositioning him for sex. A couple of skanky flashers and creepy relatives in there too. Ewww. So it is definately not through a lack of options that he is no longer interested in being like that. So yeah depending on why they are he-whoring, they definately can change.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 February 2010):
 People can change, but often go through phases, he's obviously enjoying being a manslut, I would stay away until he grows out of this phase or you'll end up being another notch on the bedpost x
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reader, jaime90 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 your age says 16-17.. if he is the same age probably wont change for a few years.. thats my experience anyway!
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reader, boo22 +, writes (6 February 2010):
 You like him , lots of other girls like him too. That's how he's become a man slut.
Some guys just have it going on and he can have his pick.
Looking at your age group, this guy sounds like he'll be too young yet to settle down and be exclusive.
Your best bet is to not make yourself too available to him and make him chase you. Something he's probably not used to.
Good luck
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 If he wants to change, sure. But why would he?
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