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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 4 April 2010: @ stellaforstar :-)
... well I hope I haven't wasted time on the nails lol, ... I kinda thought guys liked a good manicure when your hand was wrapped around well you know what when your doing you know what ..lol.
Hmmn, .. I gunna throw this... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 4 April 2010: ...ah, but you have gotten your panties in a twist over a woman who dresses like a moron , ... or at least over a boyfriend who raves on about her, ... or you would not have written in about it in the first place. :-) Hopefully tho, you've vented ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Now that is a whole other story (your update) to what was originally portrayed. Having your hand forced and your head shoved down is definately being abusive, and I am sorry you gave in to this.
I've had a guy do the exact same thing to me (when... (read in full...)
Does the caneston duo oral pill affect the contraceptive pill?
Q. *OP's own title* Can caneston duo (The pill and the cream)(Thrush treatment) affect the contraceptive pill? Ive searched all over the internet and ive read through the leaflet that came with it 4 times, it mentions nothing. So im not too sure whet...
A. 3 April 2010: If you don't trust the product pamphlet to disclose all potential risks (and I imagine they would be required by law to do so) then your next port of call is a doctor for a proper medical opinion. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: If he did not physically force you or otherwise threaten you, you did it of your own free will and choice. A choice you clearly regret now, but if you did not want to do it, ... well, then you simply just should not have. Get assertive!
A lot... (read in full...)
Is he full of shit? Once a cheater always a cheater?
Q. I broke up with my b/f a month ago. Been together for 4 years. I finally caught him cheating. I have dealt with him dirty dancing with two other girls, sex texts to his friend(thats a girl) I have dealt with more sex texts from 3 different ...
A. 2 April 2010: I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater either, ... but I think your man always will be.
There is just something a little different (not in impact to others - but in where it 'came' from) when a guy has fallen back in with his ex or a wor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend shows off by getting into fights
Q. My boyfriend allwase gets in fights around me i dont know why but i think that he is defending me what if he is just showing off to me? Well i dont know because i didnt ask him and i dont have the guts to ask him....
A. 2 April 2010: Tell him that the only thing he is showing off is his ability to act like a meat head.
It is not impressive, does not get anyone anywhere, and he looks like an idiot with no control of his emotions or communication skills.
Maybe he will... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gaga for Gaga!
Q. Hi folks. This is a bit of a silly one but how do i get my stupid boyfriend from bringing up Lady Gaga every day? I had no problem with her apart from the idiotic and attention seeking things she does but obviously it doesn't affect me so it was ...
A. 1 April 2010: Sorry I wont be much help to your actual question, but I had to laugh coz my man is gaga for Gaga too.
So much so, he asked me a couple of weeks ago to buy a blonde wig, (the long straight blunt cut one she is wearing with the grey beaded t... (read in full...)
We have been in a relationship for 2 years but we have not had sex. What is going on?
Q. Hi, This is my first time ask question on this website. I am a chinese girl and live and work in Canada now. I have been in Canada almost 10 years and I like canada very much. I came to Canada and met my boyfriend who is German. I reall...
A. 1 April 2010: You could initiate sex yourself instead of waiting for him to make a move.... (read in full...)
What do women like done to their breasts?
Q. Ok random question i know but.......what feels good for girls breastwise. You see all these hyped up examples and now im not sure what to think. My girlfriend says that rubbing her breasts is slightly arousing but i dont know how much or what wil...
A. 1 April 2010: Obviously you need to ask your girlfriend what SHE likes coz I and others are partial to a bit of biting, pinching, etc, ..and then we have people like WiseAngela who does not like anything done and finds it painful.
How can we possibly know wha... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. i want to know if im still a virgin or not i had some sort of sex today lol his penis didnt go fully into my vagina, it just slide on my vagina, n mayb a tiny bit went inside, and that lasted like 2 minutes lol i still think im a virgin but i ...
A. 1 April 2010: I don't think bleeding has anything to do with it, just the act itself.
If the former was the case, then I was having sex for 20 years, had a baby, and was still a virgin until meeting my current partner coz he is the only person who has made tha... (read in full...)
He didn't rape me - but it sort of feels that way to me.
Q. ok here's what happened. I was making out with my guy friend who really likes me I like him too but he is kinda a ladys man so I don't want to be in a relationship with him cause I think it would just end bad I told him i'd rather just be friends ...
A. 1 April 2010: Sorry you have been traumatized by this but you need to get more assertive if you find yourself in a situation like this, even if it means taking physical action like a slap in the face.
A guy just blocked a doorway and cornered me once making h... (read in full...)
My first anal, will it hurt much?
Q. *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...
A. 1 April 2010: You betcha it will!
I know my comment after doing that was that breaking my arm in three places had hurt less, ..and that was super slow, stopping at times, and with bucket loads of lube.
Don't let that deter you tho. I didn't and get mind blo... (read in full...)
Do you think my friend is in an abusive relationship?
Q. You know I'm wondering about this I know this girl but her boyfriend is ALWAYS tell her I love you everyday or almost twice a day on facebook. He seems very possessive and obsessed with her cuz he seems to be on her profile everyday and posts I ...
A. 1 April 2010: Sounds like he is simply just head over heels with his new woman.
Sounds like you are too ;-) hehehehe... (read in full...)
Should I make this gigantic life change for the woman I love?
Q. So I impregnated a woman with 4 kids who is in a verbally and physically abusive marriage. I did not know most of the facts at the time and it was sort of a woops moment, but yea. We always went to my place, etc.. Plus she wanted it. Kept...
A. 31 March 2010: There are options besides latex condoms ya know????
If she is unaware of and/or did not use them, .. can you be absolutely certain this preganancy is even fathered by yourself?
In any case, .. until she chooses to leave her marriage, she is... (read in full...)
Would I make my boyfriend horny if I sat on his lap?
Q. My bf asked me to sit on his lap. Does that makes a guy horny if I do so?...
A. 31 March 2010: Depends on the guy, .. but sometimes them gtting a boner does not mean they want to neccessarily do anything with it.
Sometimes I am just talking to my man and he will start saying 'down boy'... coz his pants friend is listening, has a mind of ... (read in full...)
My mum's dark secret...
Q. I am very upset with my mother and I don't know how to handle this situation. My mother never gives me credit for what I remember. My dad was in the army and was being sent to vietnam. I was the oldest and my brother wasn't born yet. I remember ...
A. 30 March 2010: There was a LOT more stigma in those days regarding 'illegitimate' children.
Your mother may have soulght solace with another after your fathers departure / or passing, ended up with a new life out of it, and either through social shame or best ... (read in full...)
Should I be in love at 17 years of age?
Q. Hello im 17 and i had a boyfriend and we just finshed... i dont know what went wrong ..one day he just finshed everything.. i was heatbroken and cried for a day over him.. we talked about it but he still didnt say why we finshed but we are friends ...
A. 30 March 2010: I think a lot of people probably are in lust not love at young ages, .. but that said, I was with my ex at 18 (hardly any older than you) and spent as many more years with him.
We are not together as a couple anymore, ... I have a new man, ...... (read in full...)
Was I selfish because I concentrated on my career so much?
Q. Can someone help me out please? I was in a relationship for about 8 months last summer with a girl who i met at uni and lived close to my home. The relationship was amazing and we got along so well, never argued and spent all our time together. She ...
A. 30 March 2010: She could not stop you pursuing your career, ... you could not stop her choosing to not put her life on hold.
Look at it that way and she no more disregarded your feelings than you did hers. It was hurting her to have a long distance not physical... (read in full...)
We are throwing my sister a surprise engagement party, but it is the same weekend when I have planned a trip away! What do I do?
Q. I just found out that my sister is getting engaged this weekend. This is also the same weekend that I have a flight booked with my friend to go visit our other friend for the long weekend. I honestly don't know what I should do. My family is ...
A. 30 March 2010: Hopefully your sister only gets engaged once, ... where as you can visit your friend another time.
Once if a lifetime situation, ... vs ... could happen at another time situation.
I know it must suck to choose when you ahve planned and look... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cook and need some tips
Q. Ok I know this doesn't have anything to do with sex,relationship or love but I have to ask sombody...... well im 21 years old and I have a two year old and im preg.... I live with my boyfriend and my two year old. Well we always eat out, because ...
A. 30 March 2010: ...oh, and garlic, .. can't forget the garlic, ... I use that in just about everything - love it!... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cook and need some tips
Q. Ok I know this doesn't have anything to do with sex,relationship or love but I have to ask sombody...... well im 21 years old and I have a two year old and im preg.... I live with my boyfriend and my two year old. Well we always eat out, because ...
A. 30 March 2010: Here some staples you will prob use often.
General - salt, pepper, rosmary, sugar, season all, corn flour, stock cubes (in all flavours), mustard, honey.
If you like italian food - olive oil, tomato paste, basil, oregano, bay leaves, parmesan... (read in full...)
I cum too fast!
Q. So my problem is that, I cum too fast. The second my boyfriend sticks it in, I just cum and idk what I can do to keep myself from cuming so fast. Any tips? Is anything wrong with me? ...
A. 30 March 2010: ...and this is a problem because????? ....and too fast for what???? :-)
I know the poor guys would cop a bum wrap if they came so fast, but a girl doing it usally wont interfere with sex continuing. Once a woman has had an orgasm, second and subs... (read in full...)
I feel like I am raising a daughter rather than loving someone I hope to marry.
Q. She is 18 and I am 24. Right now I feel like I am raising a daughter rather than loving someone I hope to marry. She even said herself see feels like we are room mates than a couple. That being said I really don't know what to do. I have to teach ...
A. 29 March 2010: Gotta say no one likes being told what to do, ...so even tho you are doing it to try to help her, there most likely will come a point where she will get sick of it and start resenting being treated like a child. Then it is all downhill from there. ... (read in full...)
He won't have sex with me anymore...
Q. I had finally met him! The guy, the right guy. He was more than everything that I wanted, he was what I needed. We are both in our 30's and have been together now for over a year. While things are not always perfect, they are comfortable, safe ...
A. 29 March 2010: Knowing(3)people with the disorder I agree with the OCD suggestion 100%.... (read in full...)
Secret affair with a married straight man
Q. Hey I've known this str8 dude for 10 years now. As kid we've done things together. Sexually and even as adults. There's been a few time I had pay him but it still happened. Now he knows I love him and I know he uses that to his advantage. He has an ...
A. 29 March 2010: So he is married and has a girlfriend? Is straight but done sexual things with you? Yet you have not'kissed or anything like that'?
I think you might need to make this all a bit clearer/ detailed coz I for one am a bit confused.
????... (read in full...)
How long is too long to try getting back with somebody?
Q. How long is too long to try getting back with somebody? I broke up with my ex-boyfriend in March 2009 and recently I've been wanting to try and get him back. It was a long distance relationship and I don't think I was mature enough at the time to ...
A. 28 March 2010: I dont think there are any rules here.
My dad split up with his girlfried of a decade coz she cheated, ... spent another decade with another woman, ... split up with her, ... and a while after ended up back with the first woman. They were tog... (read in full...)
I want to fight!
Q. my name is Gillian i am 16 and i have a problem i cant solve, i am a normal girl into normal things except i love to fight, its all i dream about and think about all day, i just want it so much it is a massive thing for me. I especially want to ...
A. 28 March 2010: It seems you have an agressive streak that may be curbed by taking an anger management class.
Otherwise, join a contact sport - like boxing - that will give you an outlet with willing participants. Going around getting in to fights tho will onl... (read in full...)
What on earth is up with my teacher and the food?! please help
Q. My teacher brought in cake/sweets for our class because it was end of term. He does this usually, it is really lovely of him he has brought in things like Krispy Kremes for our year 12 (like 11th grade?) sixth form class before, and only us not the ...
A. 28 March 2010: I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill here. You mention no other behaviour to raise question, so I think he was simply trying to be hospitable (as he clearly is by bringing food in for students in the first place) and is really not a ... (read in full...)
Do female orgasms feel the same as male organsms?
Q. I was making love to my girlfriend, I was laying on my back and she was on top of me, she told me she was feeling that "urge-to-pee" sensation, which I almost instantly recognized as what girls feel when they're close to orgasm, or something like ...
A. 28 March 2010: This is a rather subjective question coz of course no one can catagorically be one sex and experience an orgasm from the perspective of the other sex.
From what I can figure from experience tho, is that yes it is possible both sexes could fe... (read in full...)
I am worried my brother in law's son might try something with me
Q. I m 37 having 2 kids. Both studing in 12th and 10th standard. I m house wife and my husband is a worker in oil factory. My husband met an accident and is in hospital from last 3 months. My brother-in-law and nephew has been paying all the hospital ...
A. 28 March 2010: Could you possibly go to a neighbours house or invite one over for the 2 hours that you are not with your kids? Even take a walk, go to the market, a park, a temple, ...anything that will keep you away from him for those periods of time?
Also ... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 28 March 2010: Since when do teachers make students strip? Sorry if I am wrong, but I don't believe you because of that line. Just incase tho, also look up 'body dysmorphia'. Either way, attention seeking is definately an issue you could seek some psychological ... (read in full...)
Large blood loss after anal sex. Could something be wrong?
Q. I had anal sex with my boyfriend n when were finished there was a large area on my bed soaked in blood,n now when I feel I have to go to the bathroom a lot of blood comes out. Will this go away on its own? Or could something serious be wrong now?...
A. 27 March 2010: Yes, I imagine something may well be very wrong. If you have torn the tissue in your anal passage to the degree it sounds you have, then you most likely need medical attention , and in a worst case scenario - possibly sugical repair.
I advise y... (read in full...)
I've been offered to appear in an adult film. Any advice as to what goes on behind the scenes?
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion, I have recently been offered ...
A. 27 March 2010: Sorry to go OT - but you crack me up IHateWomanBeaters with the way you never miss a chance to plug your superior sexual prowess.
ROFL :-)... (read in full...)
Once bitten, ..twice shy!
Q. Please hear me out... In February of this year, shortly (about 2 weeks) after meeting this really nice, awesome guy at work, I asked him out, he seemed taken aback, politely said he had other plans, and that was that. We continued our flirty b...
A. 27 March 2010: Isn't retrospect a bitch, ..coz I bet you are kicking yourself that you did not jump on the dinner invite comment and either ask him along or suggest dinner another night.
Still tho, he has given you the perfect avenue in, ..so just go up to hi... (read in full...)
I am the jealous type and his broken promises are depressing me.
Q. Ok so this guy, Sebastian, we've been dating for 2 weeks, and we already have teh most amazing connection ever, but im his first relationship in 3 years, he's slept with alot of women, and im afraid that ehs going to cheat, i am the jealous type so ...
A. 27 March 2010: Sorry, but from where I am sitting reading, it does not sound like the connection is as amazing from his side as you perhaps think it is or want it to be.
I know it is frustrating when people repeatedly don't do what they say they are going to... (read in full...)
My friends grandpa is dying, what steps should she take?
Q. I have a friend whose Grandfather may be dying. Her Grandmother is in denial, and her Mother, who lives 10 blocks from him, won't even stop in to see him. He says he hasn't been to a doctor in twenty years and doesn't need to go now. My friend...
A. 27 March 2010: I can only comment on what goes on in my country, but in Australia anyway, you pick the Power of Attorney forms up from any Post Office. Have them signed by the grandpa and the person taking power, witnessed by a Justice of the Peace, and then you ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the position my baby is in?
Q. 38+ weeks pregnant, saw midwife today she says she wants a second opinion from the hospital as she cant feel babys head in my pelvis and she wouldnt class it as in breach position however it is laying across my stomach.she said baby can come at any ...
A. 26 March 2010: If you go in to labour with the baby not in correct position, doctors and midwives will attempt to turn the baby manually - using their hands on the outside. It has a pretty good success rate, but should it fail they may opt for a ceaser.
Btw -... (read in full...)
Ladies... Fingers in your mouth during "passion". Yes or no?
Q. Lets say you are in the heat of the moment and he is being very passionate during sex..... Do you find it a turn on when your partner puts one or two fingers in your mouth to suck on? Or do you find it a bit weird? Of course, this is all duri...
A. 26 March 2010: Dont mind as long as it is brief - like 3- 5 seconds, and not repeated more than 2-3 times. ... (read in full...)
Would losing weight make my breasts smaller?
Q. I know this isn't about relationships but I hope you can help me. I would like to hear from anyone who has knowledge or experience about this. How much smaller would a person's boobs be likely to get if they lost 30 pounds? Would they be l...
A. 26 March 2010: I don't think you could guarantee it. See the post below for starters.
For myself, I put on weight and went up a cup size whilst pregnant - as you do. After having my son I lost the weight but still kept the larger cup size. Go figure. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants another child, ..but I am not sure I can cope with her mood swings.
Q. We have a two year old daughter..a bit minnxy..but very independent. trouble is, my wife would like another and although I'm quite keen, my wife does suffer terrible mood swings through period and did suffer extremely when pregnant before and I'm ...
A. 26 March 2010: Sounds a bit like me and my ex - tho I am not prone to mood swings.
He would not agree to a second child, ..and that was definately high up the list of why I just left him instead.
I may never have another child, but at least it is a possibil... (read in full...)
Burned foreskin, and what do women prefer?
Q. About two months ago I spilled some hot coffee in my lap and I burnt my genitals. Well it was very painful and took some time to heal but it finally healed. The problem I'm having is that I'm not circumcised and my foreskin is very tight. Sex is ...
A. 26 March 2010: I prefer the look of a circumcised penis, ...but prefer to play with an uncut one.
It would feel strange tho having had a foreskin for so long and then someone wanting to remove it but if that is what you need to do in order to not be in pain, th... (read in full...)
I haven't been able to bring him off?
Q. Hello people Ive been seeing my new guy for about 2 weeks ,we have slept together and hes never cum when doing anything what is all this about?? I no he does smoke weed and is always drinking down the pub ive just never experienced it with any ...
A. 25 March 2010: I would blame the alcohol before blaming weed.
Don't tho blame yourself for being bad in bed. His substance use would be the number one issue, but beyond that everyone is different and will therefore like different things. It is taking the time... (read in full...)
We're arguing over dumb stuff while she's ill
Q. My girlfriend and I argue. My girlfriend is going through an amputation of her leg soon and several surgeries before hand. She definately feels helpless and argues with her mother constantly. I love her so much and we've been arguing a lot. S...
A. 25 March 2010: Obviously she is angry about losing her leg and it is manifesting in outburts at others. Please try to be mindful of this which will help you overlook some of the behaviour.
Under the circumstances, with all else that must be weighing on her that... (read in full...)
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