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writes:I'm a sophomore in college. At the beginning of my freshman year I met this guy who was cute and really easy to talk to, there was obviously chemistry between us but we both had significant others at the time. We kind of fell out of touch because of some mutual friend drama.Fast forward to now. I joined a sorority this year, and some of my new friends in it turned out to be friends with him, so we reconnected. The chemistry is still there. The problem? One of these girls had a "fling" with him during the time we weren't in contact, and I guess she had more feelings for him than he did her, so it ended kind of badly. Now she has a new BF that she really likes, but I don't think she ever got beyond the hurt feelings leftover. Now here's the even bigger problem. He and I have been talking, and while were all drinking together she told me I should go for him because he likes me. He and I ended up making out and cuddling and he told me he had liked me since we met, but the next morning I wasn't sure how she'd handle it so I didn't tell her. Now a week has passed and I don't know what to do. He wants to take me out to lunch and Friday we're all going out as a group...How do I tell her? What do I do if she's not okay with it? He likes me, but I'm afraid she might still like him a little bit...now I'm just caught in the middle Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Ditto what Caring Guy said!
Perhaps tho, make an approach that includes saying you took her advice re .... and that something has happened. Then thank her for her blessing in the same breath so you have pointed out both reasons why SHE gave you the impression this was ok before she even has a chance to respond.
Hopefully, with it presented like that, she will stop and think a second before reacting. That said, ...maybe she just won't react - Maybe she has a new boyfriend coz she really has moved on!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 February 2010):
Two things. One, she has a boyfriend anyway. Two, she gave you her blessing when she said go for it. So it's not longer your problem. If she doesn't like it, remind her she has a boyfriend and remind her that she said you could go for it. She gave you her blessing, so it's not an issue.
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