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writes:I recently spent a weekend at the beach with my BF. I didn't wear any makeup and didn't do my hair either. When we returned home I got back into my 'beauty' routine and he then told me he likes me the best with no make up and wild hair.I think I look better with makeup and a proper hairstyle. Why would he like me better with none of that stuff? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): "One bonus tho, I can wake up with baggy eyes and hair everywhere and know he will be thinking I am at my finest :-)"
"Talk to a man and they'll almost unanimously agree that this is when a woman looks best- after-sex hair and a bare morning face, ready for some nooky." (or just cuddling)
Exactly ladies. That is the way we want to see you and that is one reason why my wife never wears make-up around the house. She wears a minimal amount when we go out and then washes it off as soon as we get home, even if it is in the middle of the afternoon. We are both happy with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): I have always felt the same - the less makeup the better. I want to see the real person who I am with and I think a woman is more attractive without makeup or styled hair. There is nothing like the natural look for me. If it is a big event then moderate make-up and a nice hair style is in order though. But not for every day going out shopping or to lunch, etc.
I do think that makeup does make you look more noticeable from across the room, so it possibly makes it more likely to attract attention at a party or bar. However, once I started to date someone then I wanted to see her without makeup when we went out. Even when noticing someone for the first time, too much makeup is still a turn-off for me.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 First off, even though you don't understand it, you should feel really good about yourself right now. You can be who you are, dressed down, unmarked and completely bare, and he thinks you're hottest that way.
The reason behind it is that women never look made up and properly dressed after sex. Never. Talk to a man and they'll almost unanimously agree that this is when a woman looks best- after-sex hair and a bare morning face, ready for some nooky. My husband says the same thing.
But you know what? Just because he likes you that way and even though he prefers you that way, he never said he didn't like you the way you prefer to be seen. Give him a treat now and again and do it his way- but he'll love you either way.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (11 February 2010):
 One of the things that attracted my bf in the first place was that he said I looked natural.
I very rarely wear make up, and if I do it is so slight that my female friends will question if I am or not, ..but he will spot it in a split second and question why I would put anything on my face.
Yesterday I got my hair cut, saw a few people on the way home who all commented how nice it looks, ... but my bf walked in the door and said, 'oh, no, what did you go and do that to yourself for?, (and I did not even do anything drastic -just had some layers cut in to it) I said, 'sorry you don't like it, but bad luck coz I do'. His response was, it does suit you and your very cute, but I fell for a beautiful natural woman with long plain hair, ..how long will it take to grow back to normal?' ..lol.
Obviously natural and normal are synonymous to him, and pretty much mean doing absolutely nothing to my hair or face.
One bonus tho, I can wake up with baggy eyes and hair everywhere and know he will be thinking I am at my finest :-)
Consider yourself lucky not to have to put on an 'appearance'(physically) to please your man!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Most men feel this way - men prefer a woman to be naturally beautiful and hate that make-up and hair products mask the real you. As my boyfriend always says - he doesnt want to see make-up, he wants to see me. He will of course always compliment me when I get dressed up to go out and spend time on my hair & make-up, but he still tells me I look better when I wake up next to him in the morning with messy hair and no make-up!
It is typical - us girls spend ages doing ourselves up to look nice when really men would rather we didnt bother!
Now I still wear make-up pretty much every day, and do my hair each morning because I am not comfortable facing the world looking a mess! But it is nice to know that when you take your make-up off at the end of the day I have my boyfriend there who thinks I still look gorgeous.
So dont worry about what your boyfriend said - it is pretty common for men to think this way and it is a compliment to you.
I always think that us girls dress for ourselves and other women - it is only another girl that would notice if we hadnt done our hair, had our nails done, wearing mascara etc. Men dont notice this sort of stuff unless you have really done yourself up for a night out! Women will always feel better with make-up on and a nice hairstyle as it makes us feel more confident and it is almost like a "face" we put on the face to the world. Whereas men like us to be natural and want to see the real person, not the made-up pretend version.
But either way, it doesnt really matter! Your boyfriend thinks you are beautiful, and he will still love you no matter what make up you do or dont have on!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Its a compliment but don't stop being you - if you like make up and stuff then wear it for you. Just be a little 'wild' every now and then ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): I agree with MarieFly, you should do what you think looks best. What you do in life and especially with the way you look, should be about what you like and what makes you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Do you mean you always wear makeup!?
It may be fun to try to be who you are once in a while... once a week or always at home, sans any make up or hair tricks.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 There's a certain wild, natural, confident beauty from a woman who's showing off her real skin. Honestly, I agree that many women look best natural. My ex was at her most REAL for those few moments after waking up, her hair a mess, her face without any makeup. There's no pretense, no falseness, no hiding, just inner beauty showing through that many men find irresistible.
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reader, MarieFly +, writes (11 February 2010):
He obviously thinks your a beautiful girl, and he wants likes your natural beauty. Maybe you could compromise and tone done your makeup, and try wearing you hair 'wild ' once in awhile
But in the end you should do what you think looks best =]
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