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How can I find somebody who is not 'money motivated'?

Q.   How can I find Someone who is not money motivated?...

A.   11 March 2007: Dont pick up people in banks?... (read in full...)

Did he leave his cell in his truck to make me feel more important or to hide something from me???

Q.   my boyfriend ALWAYS has is cellphone with him...a few days ago he cheated on me, i found out by looking thru his phone when he was asleep because i had a severe gut feeling...and confronted him, he admitted it and were trying to work things out ...

A.   11 March 2007: Hmmm it sounds dodgy. I dont have a clue how it would make you feel more important by leaving his phone, but I know one thing's for sure: if he doesn't have his phone on him, u cant check through it again like last time... (read in full...)

He's into extreme fetish porn and I'm terrified it will ruin our relationship!

Q.   I've recently found out my fiance is into extreme fetish porn, such as "scat" and "watersports" and it absolutely sickens me. I want to talk to him about it and let him know it bothers me, but I found it out by hacking into his computer looking for ...

A.   11 March 2007: Of all the porn in the world, that has got to be the sickest stuff in existence!!! To hell with the fact you've spied on him (its not really a big deal, if we didn't spy on Iran, we'd never know what's happening there) this stuff is gross like ... (read in full...)

Do you think I should ask him to cheat on her with me again?

Q.   Hey, Im 14 and I really like this guy who's a year older than me. He went out with this girl a month or two ago but he really liked me and we were going to organise it so we could see each other without her knowing. Please don't tell me that was...

A.   11 March 2007: Well since you asked what I would do, I wouldn't cheat. Its totally evil (in the wrong way, not in the cool way), really low and lacking in decency to the max (and a whole bunch of crap that I dont wanna get into now). You're almost at the age ... (read in full...)

I think I just told my mate's boyfriend something I shouldn't have! Should I have kept my mouth shut?

Q.   omg i just told my mates boyfriend ( who's also my mate) that last night she went on msn and watched some 20 year old wank on webcam . do you think i did the rite thing , they might not break up over it , but it is possible ! x x ...

A.   11 March 2007: Well yeah you should've kept your mouth shut. But its too late to do anything about it now but to let this train wreck crash and burn. Who knows, everyone might still be alive at the end of it. But probably not. From a personal point of view, I ... (read in full...)

His friend is a coke addict who gets into trouble. Is it wrong for me to not want him to hang out with him?

Q.   Is it wrong for me to NOT want my boyfriend to go hang out with coke addict friend for a night? My boyfriend has done coke before, but hasn't for awhile. I'm afraid if he goes and hangs out with him, he'll do it and his friend has a habit of getting ...

A.   10 March 2007: You wanna stop him, break his legs lol! No really though, talk to him and say it nicely how much it means to you that he's not a crack head and that you'll trust him not to do any drugs while he's there. That'd probably be the best way to prevent ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a guy but he has MOOBS!

Q.   Hello I'm in love with this bloke but he has MOOBS! (That's man boobs for those of you who don't know) I don't want to sound shallow but we all know that looks play an important role in attraction. I don't care about race, colour, nationality, rel...

A.   9 March 2007: I'm with martini on this one, looks do play a large part. Especially in this case when it can all be changed for the better (except the nose, that was pretty harsh!:-p) instead of telling him his haircut is ugly and his gaining weight, why not ... (read in full...)

What would be the difference between a confident flirt and a Jerk?

Q.   What would be the difference between a confident flirt and a Jerk? In what case would they become the same ?...

A.   8 March 2007: Hmm fair question. In my opinion, a jerk would be someone who's totally up his own a$$ lol! Here's a chat line you should definietly not use: "I could have any woman in here I want but I chose you" (thankfully, I didn't get learn that from ... (read in full...)

I would like to know does anyone know how to trim down the stomach from flabby to firm??

Q.   dear people I would like to know does anyone know how to trim down the stomach from flabby to firm?? also can some-one give me any links to site that tell you how to do sit-ups or crunches properly, and i also how long will it take for my stom...

A.   8 March 2007: Its impossible to spot burn like IDontLie said. The only way to get rid of fat is to burn up more calories than you take in. If your body doesn't get enough calories, it will start burning the excess fat. Unfortunately, that means going on a ... (read in full...)

How can I stop looking at too much porn?

Q.   Help, i look at porn and i am just 13. i need to stop because it is slowly eating away at me. I know god hates it. Any advice plz....

A.   8 March 2007: Porn a good way to explore your sexual etc? Please!! Fisting? Come on ladies (or gents), how many of you out there regularly perform that? Thats the sort of extreme crap porn is all about these days, totally degrading to women and pretty ... (read in full...)

He gave my clothes to a hooker! I am hurt and he thinks I am crazy to feel this way...help?

Q.   My longtime boyfriend of eight years has given clothing of mine to someone who I know is a hooker, drug user and possibly involved with my boyfriend. I feel totally betrayed and am emotionaly angry and hurt. My boyfriend thinks I'm crazy. Help?...

A.   8 March 2007: I think its your boyfriend that's crazy. It happens so often, men who screw hookers start thinking they can save them and the hooker will live happily ever after with them. Most hookers do it cos they want to do it, its an easy way out for them; ... (read in full...)

I've been trying but nothing comes out... How do you masturbate???

Q.   How do you masturbate? I dont know how to? I've been trying but nothin comes out an I didnt cum - is sumthing wrong? many of my friends can do it. i barely do and nothing happens! Do I have a problem? What is wrong?...

A.   8 March 2007: You got the internet right? Porn can be pretty educational for this kinda thing. And if you cant find porn on the internet when the web is swimming in that stuff...... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and had sex with a lad in the school toilets, now I think I'm pregnant and don't know what to do?

Q.   Hey, Ive just done something wrong.. I just had sex with a lad in my class.. We were in science lesson at school and I noticed he was masturbating and I told him that I could see him and he told me to ask for the loo and meet him outside in 5 mins.. ...

A.   6 March 2007: You're in the UK and underage so you get a free abortion courtesy of good honest taxpayers like me (who'd be footing the bill to raise your baby if you had one too) so dont get too worried since you dont even need to involve anyone else. Just go to ... (read in full...)

I met this guy online, he said sex is necessary in a relationship and if we don't have sex first time then he has no choice but to give up! Does he just want me for sex?

Q.   I am a 20-yead-old girl in Asia and I met this 25-year-old guy from Europe on the internet in the end of 2005. After some talks on MSN and phone he asked me to be his gf and I agreed. I know it sounds stupid since we haven't met but my feeling is ...

A.   6 March 2007: If he's from eastern europe then beware like hell! There's a huge market for trafficked far eastern women who then get forced into the sex industry. Who knows, maybe he wants to 'sample' you first? But whatever, he's definitely not worth it.... (read in full...)

Could a couple of 'slips' make my gf pregnant??

Q.   okay, I've been freaking out for the past 2 days now. Me and my girlfriend spent the weekend togather on holiday and we were fooling around when we went to bed and then she went on top of me and and we started to have sex but it was literall...

A.   5 March 2007: Rhythmandblues2, just a little mistake on your info, condoms have a failure rate of only 0.02% per year when used consistently and correctly http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fscondom.htm as for kurt's problem, its very unl... (read in full...)

He has a disgusting habit of burping and farting and wants ME to do it too, he says it turns him on... is this normal?

Q.   im feeling a bit confused coz my bf trys to make me pass wind through either burping or farting but i dont like to as it very unlady like. i burped in front of him once and he said it turned him on ever since he farts then ask me to do the same. is ...

A.   5 March 2007: Ewww I know fetishes are supposed to be a little wierd but this is pretty gross! If you dont feel comfortable doing it then dont, you're not the only one who thinks this is pretty disgusting.... (read in full...)

I'm 16, and I've been offered money to do a dominatrix/fetish photo shoot.

Q.   I'm 16, and I've been offered money to do a dominatrix/fetish photo shoot. I signed up to a free modelling site a few months ago (perfectly legitimate, not porn type stuff) and this guy has contacted me through that. I told him I was 16 and that I ...

A.   5 March 2007: What India said. The rules are the same here. Just make sure he's some legitimate guy and dont be pushed into stuff you dont feel comfortable with. But if the male model is gonna be nude, then I dont know if thats legal. Either way, you wont get ... (read in full...)

i seem to have man boobs, is this normal and does it go away when you lose weight?

Q.   dear agony aunts im the guy that previously posted about my parents arguing because of me. i would like to give you guys an update and say that they worked things out this morning and started talking with each other. my other problem is, i se...

A.   5 March 2007: Dont worry dude, ask for all the advice you want;-) as for the weight thing, the exercises kenny pointed out will do you wonders! If you dont have dumbells at home, I would seriously recommend in getting some. But dont worry if you cant get them, ... (read in full...)

Now I'm Really Worried And Regret Been Soo Stupid, What Should I Do?

Q.   Hello, I Have Taken 4 Paracetemols Together In The Past Couple Of Days, And I Was Reading Something On The Internet About Toxicity. Now I'm Really Worried And Regret Been Soo Stupid, What Should I Do?...

A.   5 March 2007: Well if you're not in any trouble now, then you'll be fine. Dont take any more of those. Why would u wanna take so many of those anyway?... (read in full...)

I already have a girlfriend but have just got with this other girl, now I like both of them. Who do I choose?

Q.   What do i do? I've just got with this girl while I've already got another girlfriend! Who do I choose?...

A.   5 March 2007: You've given very little info to receieve any real advice about which one to choose here so I say flip a coin. Also, you're a jerk... (read in full...)

This might sound silly but I have been married 17 years and I feel my wife and I are closer than ever. Is this normal?

Q.   hi i know this might be a stupid question but me and my wife have been together for 17 years, close friends all our life and married for 7 years. Is it normal for me to feel that way i do for her becuase loads of other poeple who have been together ...

A.   4 March 2007: Looks like you're doing very well in your relationship! Maybe you should join this site and give advice to others;-)... (read in full...)

This might sound silly but I have been married 17 years and I feel my wife and I are closer than ever. Is this normal?

Q.   hi i know this might be a stupid question but me and my wife have been together for 17 years, close friends all our life and married for 7 years. Is it normal for me to feel that way i do for her becuase loads of other poeple who have been together ...

A.   4 March 2007: Looks like you're doing very well in your relationship! Maybe you should join this site and give advice to others;-)... (read in full...)

He's married and we have been together for 4 years! He claims he doesn't sleep with his wife..is this true?

Q.   I have been with a married man four two years and he say he has not slept with his wife at all. i just find that hard 2 believe cause we have sex like crazy i need some help....

A.   4 March 2007: Ummm four two years? Which one is it exactly? But that's irrelevant. Of course he's screwing his wife. You think if he hasn't been for so many years, his wife wouldn't ask questions? Unless they're in an open marriage, which I very much doubt, ... (read in full...)

I don't want a heroin addict or alcoholic in my house! What the hell do I do here?

Q.   should you give up on love because of children? Me and my wife have been married for 8 years and have kids from previous marriges. She and her son left 2 months ago.We have been talking every day and spending weekends together. We are very much in ...

A.   4 March 2007: Heroin addicts are a huge deal for a family, he might influence your own kids! Its very decent of you to not want that kind of scum in your house. Its pretty obvious he wont get help and his mother really isn't helping him. Have u talked to her ... (read in full...)

Do men have equal rights to be able to say no when a woman they don't fancy comes on to them?

Q.   Do men have an equal right to not allow women to let her touch the guys body parts when he doesn't really want her to or dislikes it? In case, someone forces herself on to you, what would be a proper reaction? I feel like i have been programmed to ...

A.   4 March 2007: Programmed to believe that huh? Maybe you should get reprogrammed! Are you coded in C++? Cos I'm really good with that language, could help you out lol!... (read in full...)

I need a man desperately!! Help!

Q.   Helppppppppppppppppppppppppppp.... im 35 and be 36 this coming december. i have my 2 kids from the past and i taking care of them alone, and i need a boy friend to be my fiancee to be married with and to be my husband not only for the time ...

A.   4 March 2007: I wont bother you with info on why you dont need a husband since you clearly said you need help in getting one. This is the wrong place for that kind of post. Most readers here are from the west, which is a long distance from Thailand. I ... (read in full...)

Soon to be married and I need to decide...my fiancee or this other man? What should I do?

Q.   Has it changed everything forever? I'm very confused. 6 months away from my wedding and I know someone who has turned my world upside down. He has highlighted problems that have existed in my relationship that were always there but have never been ...

A.   4 March 2007: Why are you even asking? Obviously if you have to ask (and cheat) then you're future marriage is a stillbirth (like my lousy xbox 360 which didn't work straight after I bought it:-/) Start fresh, leave them both or something. One thing's for sure... (read in full...)

Do all men like pert boobs ?

Q.   Hay - this is a question mainly for the blokes. What are your thoughts on boobs, i mean is it really that important if there not completely pert? Cause mine aren't and im really scared to take my top off infront of men let alone have sex topless ...

A.   3 March 2007: When you're about to have sex with some guy, I doubt very much he'll just switch off after seeing your boobs! Relax and enjoy... (read in full...)

This boy says he loves me but he's ugly, I would get slagged off my mates if I went out with him, what do I do?

Q.   Hiyah well theres this boy and he told my mate that he said he loves me. The only thing iz .. he's ugly and i know that sounds so bad and shallow but i would get sooo slagged for going out with him what do i do?? Please Reply, Babyemm xx...

A.   3 March 2007: If you lost your friends over him, I doubt you'd be happy especially since at this age, you tend to change boyfriends pretty often. Besides, if you think he's ugly, what's the problem? Just say you wont date him. And seriously, forget all the ... (read in full...)

If you had the chance to spend one night with Angelina Jolie... would you?

Q.   I have a question that I'm dying to ask. I have a notion that almost everyone with eyes and a libido would love to have sex with Angelina Jolie. I know I would!!! Anytime. Any day. Any way. Oh yeah. So, here goes, if you had the chance to spend ...

A.   3 March 2007: If I was single, no cos I dont think she's hot. Gimme Jennifer Love Hewitt any day (that I'm single!)!!!:-P... (read in full...)

My fiance went to the doctors for a check up. According to him this 'hot' female doctor smiled when she touched his penis! The nerve!

Q.   Am I being unreasonable? My fiance told me that this summer (before we got together) he went to a female doctor to get things checked out down there and he said that she was hot and she put her hand around his thing and smiled. Just picturing it ...

A.   3 March 2007: For the first time on this, I disagree with eddie:-P but only slightly! I dont think you sound insecure cos that sorta boasting will definitely bug most people. But eddie definitely got it right about wishful thinking. Think about it, she had to ... (read in full...)

Would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female.

Q.   open question would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female....

A.   26 February 2007: Well since I dont think about it while I'm doing it, yes. But now that you bring it up and force me to think about it:-P its kinda gross... thankfully I dont think about it when I do it though!:-) past is never the past; past, present and futu... (read in full...)

How do I catch a cheater?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Do you think it is alright to accuse someone if they recently started not coming home from work and coming home late when they have not done it before? What should I do stop accusing him until I get proof. Any advice on how to catch ...

A.   26 February 2007: Eve, are you a private eye by any chance? Those are brilliant suggestions I have to say! But turns out snooping is such a big deal these days (not for me thankfully, me and my partner are totally open so never have to worry about that!) but screw ... (read in full...)

I need different sexual positions to spice up our love life, any ideas?

Q.   ive been with my fiance since i was 13 and im now 21 and we have had regular sex since then but i want to try something different maby different positons and things!!!! buti dont want to say anything to him as he might think im getting bored help? x...

A.   26 February 2007: Karma Sutra's so over rated... its basically the same thing over and over again. Just go with what you feel like, come up with something yourself. The Karma Sutra varies three standard positions, they're all based on standing, lying or sitting. ... (read in full...)

Any dangers involved in getting 'love bites' or 'hickeys'? How long do they last?

Q.   hi i have few question about love bites if you can answer them all or even one i will happy... thnx 1. ow long do they last? 2. ow do you give one? 3. wat should i do whn im bein given one? 4. are there any dangers involved? thnx ...

A.   25 February 2007: Depends on your age. When I was about 13-15, it wasn't considered bad (dont know if it is at 20 but I dont do that no more so dont really care:-P) but if you're still in that age range I mentioned, I dont see the harm in going ahead with it. ... (read in full...)

Should I break up with my girlfriend and go out with this other girl instead?

Q.   I just got this new girlfriend about a week ago but i like this other girl who has been showing signs of interest in me. I don't know if to break up with my girlfriend and see if it'll work out with the other girl. What should i do?...

A.   25 February 2007: You've had her for a week so its not even a proper thing yet. Besides, this kind of stuff is common and probably normal for someone your age so I say go ahead and do what you feel is right for you... (read in full...)

I'm 5 foot 3ish and weigh 133lbs, am I fat?

Q.   Help! I am 5'2/5'3ish and I weigh 133 lbs. I feel like I'm fat. It's getting out of control, I think about not eating and I've thrown up a couple of times.. ....

A.   23 February 2007: India, boosting someone's self esteem till they think they're gods or something is seriously not the way to go. How do you know she's beautiful? Have you seen her? Throwing up is not the way to go since thats just gross and seriously envi... (read in full...)

What is the best form of exercise for my thighs and butt?

Q.   hi, im wondering if any1 can gve me some advice pls? basically, last year i was a size 12-14 and thought i was "too fat" i dieted down(without exercise just cutting calories) to a size 10-12. i have a big bone structure and am quite heavy boned ...

A.   23 February 2007: Parks are good for running. Running's good for butt and thigh toning. Butt and thigh tonings are good for getting body into proportion etc etc. Go running!:-) if you need more info or tips on running properly, let me know... (read in full...)

Cops have caught us, making out---twice! Will my parents find out? Will I be kicked out of school? Help!

Q.   My boyfriend n I are super worried! Last december {we go to a community college} we were caught making out in the parking lot..the cop was very nice and just asked if I was 18 n I said yes..n if I was there on my own will..n I said yes..n he lets us ...

A.   22 February 2007: Wasn't a church parking lot was it? I remember watching a TV show (some hidden camera stint) where a guy was making out with some girl (think she was a hooker) in the church parking lot. Two cops came over and beat the living hell out of the guy!... (read in full...)

Hubby had an affair and I just found out! Do I throw 10 years away or give him a chance?

Q.   I found out three weeks ago my husband has had an affair. We have been married for 10 yrs and he has just turned 40. he has spent since christmas being very moody and distant and said it was just things getting him down, fed up etc, however 3 weeks ...

A.   22 February 2007: He's a liar and a cheat. Is there anything worse? Get over him while you still can and find someone who would treat you right. Maybe it was a midlife crisis that made him do that but personally, who gives a crap. He cheated and then lied and ... (read in full...)

He inserted into me briefly for a minute or two...no condoms! Could I get pregnant?

Q.   i slept at my boyfriends the other night. i have slept with him before and we have always been careful using condoms but the other night we got carried away and he ended up inserting into me. it was only for a minutw or 2 but is it possible for me ...

A.   22 February 2007: Well relax for now (unless its not too late to get the morning after pill, in which case, do so quick!) didn't u say you was also on your period in another post? If its past three days then there's nothing you can do for now except wait till your ... (read in full...)

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