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writes:My bf and I are very much in love with each other and planning a long term future together, only problem is he says he has a very low sex drive. We only have sex about once a month which to be honest is not my usual way, as I have quite a high sex drive. He said that his ex used to make him keep going for a long time to satisfy her and she had no interest in his enjoyment.I don't actually believe that but maybe it's true. Then he told me that she used to insist on sex during her period, which really put him off. I don't know what to think. He gets quite upset when we talk about it, and really becomes quite defensive. Is there any way that I can make him more interested? He is also very shy about nudity. He always covers his privates when around me and when we do have sex he likes the light off. I don't know, I thought about the gay possibility but I'm pretty sure its not the case. Anyone got any insight? I would be very grateful to hear. Thanks.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 your boyfriend doesn't know what he's giving up. soon he'll be 40 (i'm guessing he's around the age you've indicated you are) and his sex drive's gonna totally disappear at this rate, then he'll just regret not having enough sex when he had the chance. maybe you should bring that up with him?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 What is the reason that he has a reduced interest in making love?
This website has a wide range of explanations about this problem. I hope you can find your answers there.http://web4health.info/en/answers/sex-no-desire-causes.htm
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (30 January 2008):
 You obviously have contrasting levels of sex drive and that's not a lot you can do, although the more you do it, the more he's likely to be ready for it! But he obviously needs to feel loved and not forced into it. I think he feels unattractive! Do try to take charge, kiss him and stroke his body when you are out of the bedroom. Talk to him and tell him how sexy you find him. Kiss him passionately in broad daylight and ondo his shirt while you do! He'll find himself turned on and naked before he can turn the lights out! Be patient with him and also tell him you need him more often... You might just have to initiate more often than not. If you love him and he's the man you want, sex shouldn't get in the way. After all, sex should be a way of communicating your love for each other more than a physical need (although I know that's easyer said than done!)
God bless you both and good luck!
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