Once i'm triggered, i'm really aggressive! How do I stop doing this?
Q. Hi there, i have just failed in another relationship after 6 months, my problem is i become very jealous, insecure, etc when my partner and i are in a social environment, i try to drink before hand to help me relax, but then once something triggers ...
A. 7 January 2007: Maybe you'll be in more control of yourself if you didn't drink beforehand? Alcohol tends to lower your inhibitions so in your case, maybe its the thing that stops you from holding back.... (read in full...)
Should I still remain in a marriage that I am in, just for the satisfaction of my family?
Q. I have been married for 18 years and we have 3 teenagers. I have only been "content" in my marriage, not really happy. I have been friends with a another man for about 7 years. He was in a bad marriage and is now going through a divorce. Seven ...
A. 6 January 2007: Just a thought, but do you think your friendship with this other guy might have had anything to do with your feelings changing for your husband? Surely it couldn't have always been so crappy with your husband, why else would you have married him? ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian. Please need advice.
Q. hello i am quite young and i do not know if i am a lesbian or straight i really want to be straight but when i see pictures of naked girls i want to have lesbian sex and things does this mean im a lesbian? please help...
A. 6 January 2007: Aren't you a little young to be looking at nude women? Go play outside with your friends more. Or if you live in london, stay indoors and stay outta trouble lol! Really though, its way too early to tell or be worryong over that kinda stuff... (read in full...)
I know it makes you blind, but is this another side effect?
Q. Is it true that when you masturbate it kills thousnads of brain cells?...
A. 6 January 2007: Maybe if you hold your breath the whole time, that might kill brain cells... (read in full...)
Why do they always shoot their load so soon? Is it me?
Q. Why is it that everytime i have sex with a man they always ejaculate too quickly? Is it me or what? Im getting rather frustrated over this....
A. 5 January 2007: I dont know... you haven't given up any real info. Perhaps they're inexperienced... (read in full...)
We've dated a few times and he's telling me to change my hair! Should I be wary and do I need to change for him?
Q. Iv been seeing this man a few times and we get on really well,he told me that he found me very attractive and intelligent.Now my problem is this,a couple of times he has said that i would look better without my fringe and to cut my hair shorter and ...
A. 5 January 2007: You dont have to change for anybody. Since you dont want to change yourself, just tell him thanks for the suggestions but you disagree.... (read in full...)
Someone in my family is watching animal porn. Is there something wrong with him?
Q. Should I be concerned if someone in my family is watching animal porn? Is there something wrong with him or is there a reason why they like to watch that? It makes me feel sick about it, but i'm not sure what i'm supposed to think about that. ...
A. 4 January 2007: I was a little unclear on this. Are we talking animals screwing humans? Or your family member getting off on animals screwing within their own species?... (read in full...)
I thought my bf was playing an innocent online game, but I found out it's just about sex, sex, sex!! I'm fuming!
Q. please tell me if im being totally ridiculous. My boyfriend is part of an online reality game, called second life. Hes joined for free so can only 'make money' by winning games etc, which is hard. Every little bit is like treasure to him....
A. 4 January 2007: I know the game you're talking about. You use real money to buy game money. Did your boyfriend spend $20 in real money to tip? That's pretty low... $20 for pixelated porn??? I agree it is a form of cheating. Obviously not as bad as the real ... (read in full...)
I want to live with him, but I have trust issues with his compromise! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some advice I want to live with my boyfriend of 5 years, but he said the only way we can live to together is if I work and pay the bills for 6 months and then he works and pays the bills because he said that he wants to go to s...
A. 3 January 2007: Switching job thing doesn't seem like a great idea. Why dont you just wait till he finishes his school thing? It would really help speed him up to finishing if he doesn't have to take a break from it every six months plus you can find a stable job ... (read in full...)
Turns out my husband had a bj in the toilets at work because "it was on offer"... can men just not say no?
Q. I have just gone back to my husband following a break of 2 years. I left him for various reasons but i have never really got over him. We have a child and both want whats best for her obviously. I have had one serious relationship dur...
A. 3 January 2007: Wait, I'm sleepy right now so maybe I didn't read it properly but where did she say she cheated? I thought the other partners were during the break?
Anyway, its definitely not a guy thing. I'm sure most guys would turn down an offer for a bj (an... (read in full...)
did i impregnate my girlfriend?
Q. can somebody help me please. new years eve i was really stupid and had sex with my girfriend and didnt use a condom. however, i didnt ejaculate and i pulled out. i am not really worrying if my girlfriend is pregnant or not. can somebody tell me the ...
A. 1 January 2007: Well it mainly depends on what time of month it was for her. I would say get the morning after pill just to be safe since there is some chance of her gettin pregnant. But be fast, its only good for the first 72 hours. And next time, be more ... (read in full...)
does sex hurt the uncircumsized male?
Q. does sex hurt when you are not circumcised?...
A. 1 January 2007: I dont think so unless you have a really tight foreskin... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a week he stares at porn the rest of the time!
Q. My significant other watches a lot of porn and we have sex about once a week. I want to be with him more. I feel like hes cheating on me because he is fantisizing about other woman. I feel very low and disgusting although I have very men hit on me ...
A. 1 January 2007: Your guy in my opinion, sounds a bit wierd. Why would he prefer porn over a real life beautiful person who loves him? I dont know the whole story but there's two possibilities I can think of. He's either addicted or he's not being satisfied in ... (read in full...)
Former sex industry worker to mistress to my boss!
Q. I am a former employee of the sex industry trying to get my life back on track. I recently went back to a day job which I love. It had gotten around the office what my former occupation was. One of the boss's (not mine directly) started asking me ...
A. 31 December 2006: You do things you know are wrong and feel no guilt about them? Reminds me of another group of people: psychopaths. But atleast they have a reason for doing what they do (people keep getting in ther way). What's yours? I'm not judging you there, ... (read in full...)
MArriage is about to end because...she had the front flap of her ear pierced!
Q. I need some help and advice as I think my marriage of 7 years is almost at an end and I'm not sure what to do. Let me start with some background - been with my wife for almost 11 years now and she's known for pretty much all those 11 years t...
A. 29 December 2006: All of you talking about choices, let me ask you this: if your partner wanted to get their leg removed (some people have this idea a certain part of their body causes all their unhapiness) would you be ok with it? After all, its their choice, why ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish because I didn't have sex with him when he wanted it?
Q. I decided to end my 3 year relationship with my boyfriend because i felt we weren't getting anywhere etc.He txt me asking for me to see him before he goes away for 2 months to the middle east as he's a service man in the RAF.I went to meet him ...
A. 21 December 2006: Dont worry, you wasn't being selfish. You're not obliged to have sex with him just cos you USED to date him. Well done for sticking up for yourself. You held on to your position and didn't let his sap talk drive you into doing something your ... (read in full...)
After he sent me these obscene messages..I get the feeling he doesn't like me anymore. Any advice?
Q. This is what my bf wrote on a text message after we got into an arguement. I was just asking him to stay on the phone with me longer because I felt lonely and he got frustrated and hung up on my face. Here is what he wrote on his text message "You ...
A. 21 December 2006: The text messages are enough. Forget this bum, he's a total worthless ass. If you need money desperately, borrow it off friends or take out an overdraft. Being in debt to the bank is way better than being in debt to a scumbag who says all that ... (read in full...)
I want to have my first child when I reach 17...any advice?
Q. hi im 16 nearly 17 years old, im not in a relationship at the moment but would really love to have my first child at 17 just wanted some advice please..........
A. 17 December 2006: This isn't to get on benefits and a free house is it? Cos that only works for under 16s. Dont have a kid at that age. Have you thought of all the sleepless nights? The money problems (I'm assuming you're not filthy rich)? The responsibility? ... (read in full...)
If a guy didnt want to kiss his ex he wouldnt have right?
Q. If a guy didnt want to kiss his ex he wouldnt have right? ...
A. 17 December 2006: So long as he wasn't forced somehow, then no. I dont see how else he could've kissed his ex if he didn't want to. Was he really hungry and she had peanut butter stuck on her teeth or something:-P?... (read in full...)
Had sex with no protection! Should I take a morning after pill?
Q. I had unportected sex with my long term boyfriend and don't know what to do! should i take the morning after pill?...
A. 17 December 2006: Take the pill unless you want to get pregnant.
Also just a note on the last poster, it doesn't necessarily end there and then for the guy. If the baby is his, he has to pay maintenance. But thats another story. Take the pill and hurry... (read in full...)
Whos' telling the truth? My bf or this other 'girl'?
Q. I dont no whether to beleive my long term boyfriend....or the 'girl' .My boyfriend told me that this girl has liked him for a long time, but my boyfriend had chose my over her, she now tells all her friends that my boyfriend has been texting ...
A. 17 December 2006: Here's what you do. Let this subject drop for a week. By then, he's bound to have texted that other girl agin (assuming he did in the first place, which I really doubt!). Then take a look at the sent messages folder on his mobile phone. You'll ... (read in full...)
I've done porn, lapdancing, and led a promiscuous lifestyle. Should I stop all this?
Q. dear cupid, i think that i'm too dirty. you see, i have done 3 porn movies, i have been a lapdancer, pole dancer, and i have slept with 2 people at the same time for money. i also go on a lot of porn websites and i sometimes film myself when hav...
A. 17 December 2006: Surely you knew people wouldn't react too well to your lifestyle when you took it up right? It didn't bother you back then so why does it bother you now? If you enjoy what you do, then stick with it but be prepared to receive some negative ... (read in full...)
I've had more sexual partners than him in my past and heasn't asked me about it. Should I worry that he will want to know?
Q. I am worried if my boyfriend knew of my sexual past he will stop loving me and think I am a slut. We have been together for 2 years and I only found out recently that I am the 4th person he has kissed. I have kissed a lot more people than that. ...
A. 16 December 2006: Here's some advice I was once given by a psychology student (though I never had to use it!): come up with a lower number but for crying out loud, remember that number!!!
I know its not exactly honest but some things are probably best left unsaid. ... (read in full...)
Watching her give birth has turned me off giving her oral sex! What can I do?
Q. Can't give her oral sex any more............ Hi, my wife just had a baby about 10 months ago, a wonderful little girl. I was in the operating room and seeing her going thru delivery left me with these images in my head. Before I used to...
A. 16 December 2006: I totally understand how you feel (to some extent). I saw this video of a woman giving birth. It totall grossed me out!!! I dont even joke about having a baby anymore with my girlfriend! But I can tell you that by taking it slowly you'll ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to become a stripper. I am not sure if I am ok with it.
Q. My girlfriend wants to be a stripper. She has started working in a peep show. i.e women behind glass dancing together. I think she wants to do this as part of her sexual growth and exploration. She mentioned that she is thinking of working in a ...
A. 16 December 2006: You're thinking of a psycho. A loser is basically someone who's totally uncool and can never get any good attention so they go about insulting every one else in the hopes of making themselves feel better. If you're the best friend of hookers and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to become a stripper. I am not sure if I am ok with it.
Q. My girlfriend wants to be a stripper. She has started working in a peep show. i.e women behind glass dancing together. I think she wants to do this as part of her sexual growth and exploration. She mentioned that she is thinking of working in a ...
A. 16 December 2006: Just a thought for the last guy. How do you define LOSER? You're out there judging folks on their opinion. You think your opinion is superior? In what way exactly? I thought this was a place where people give advice, not go around dishing out ... (read in full...)
Found something unusual about my vagina! Can you tell if this is normal?
Q. hiya i need help and its a kinda embarrassing question i went with some advice on here to try tampons. so i went on the tampax website to give me advice on how to use them. I found my vagina opening (the bottom part were u get the period) and it h...
A. 15 December 2006: Maybe its the hymen??? I hear when its a perforated hymen, there's holes in it. Dont know about thickness though... (read in full...)
What can my 13 year old friend do about her pregnancy?
Q. Hiya my friend is 13 years old and has taken a pregnancy test and its positive . she is pregnant and she thinks she wants to get rid of it because she says she can't have a baby at 13. I told her i would write this for her to see if anybody has ...
A. 15 December 2006: If she has a really good relationship with her parents, it might help to tell them. If she doesn't, then its better to keep it to herself (everybody knows this kinda crap isn't easy to talk to with parents).
If she's in the UK, abortions are free... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't trust me because I cheated on him 12 years ago. How do I prove to him I am trustworthy?
Q. I am dating a guy that I dated 12 years ago. We were apart for almost 10 years. He was married I was married. We knew who we wanted to be with and finally we are together. He has a real problem with trust because 12 years ago I cheated. The ...
A. 14 December 2006: This problem sounds like it requires some professional help. Twelve years is a long time to be holding his feelings, he may have gotten used to them. I really think counselling could help here because it doesn't seem likely he'll get over it by ... (read in full...)
I'm married but going to live with my lover, would like going from riches to rags! What should I do?
Q. I am married but I am in love with another wonderful man, and he feels the same way about me he wants me to leave and come to live with him but its very hard for me to leave everything I have here just for love. what do I do? he lives in a one ...
A. 14 December 2006: Try working on your marriage rather than spending the time with this other guy. Things look a lot nicer right now when you have such an ace place to live in but also the love the guy brings you. Once you move in and realise what you gave up, ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...
A. 11 December 2006: If you dont feel good about it, tell him to take a hike:-P well since he's brought it up, I guess it'll affect your friendship somewhat. Atleast its not your fault!... (read in full...)
Was it a man talking in the background or a woman with a deep voice? Could she be cheating?
Q. As My Girlfiend Cheated On Me or am i being silly? last night my girlfriend planed a night out with some work friend's. she went out 9.30pm she was going to the night club down town. i agreed she could go i give her money 2 go. at 3am the nigh...
A. 10 December 2006: Sorry to tell you but it sounds like you got a crappy relationship going. So many problems between you two. Doesn't sound like much respect going on neither. Surely you both want better right?... (read in full...)
Does thinking too much leave you paranoid ? How do I stop this over thinking all the time?
Q. dear cupid I am in my teens and am 16 years old and i seem to be worrying and thinking about things every single day and i dnt know how to stop, i sometimes cry with because of thinking to much, my main concern now is "does thinking too muc...
A. 9 December 2006: all these posters seem to anti thought for some reason... whats up with that? There's nothing wrong with thinking. The more you think, the sharper your mind becomes. It does NOT turn you gay or leave you in a mental institute. Otherwise, the ... (read in full...)
He had a vasectomy but...I want children with my husband and it's depressing me!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 34 years old and I have been married to my husband for 10 years now - he is 51 years old. I have brought up his 2 daughters and both have moved out now. My husband had a vasectomy and has tried a reversal about 5 years ago - t...
A. 9 December 2006: Hmmm keeping it all bottled up will eventually make you resent him. I dont know if the vasectomy can be reversed but surely there's some other method? Like taking out the sperm and injecting into the egg?
Tell him about how you're feeling.... (read in full...)
He's been taking viagra! And I didn't know it..I'm devastated! Help
Q. when i first met my boyfriend(18months)i found out that he was taking viagra of course he denied this,as time moved on for us i didnt think he'd need to take it as we have a great sex life(so i thought)i found viagra in his pocket accidently,this ...
A. 9 December 2006: Sure he doesn't have some kind of impotency problem? Maybe you shouldn't make assumptions like that without knowing all the facts. I mean, would he be with you if he found you unattractive? I think an open discussion would help, telling him you ... (read in full...)
My BF is two-timing me and no, don't tell me to dump him!
Q. i have this bf that i love with all my heart and he says he feels the same but he has another girlfriend. he claims he wants to leave her but shown little signs of doing it. i have the girls home number and email address and i very tempted to ...
A. 6 December 2006: Well your solution might work. But then what's to stop him from doing the same thing with another girl?
Since you dont want to ditch him, you might as well tell the other girl what's happening. Yes, there is a chance they'll sort somethin... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and this man from Turkey tells me he loves me...on MSN. What should I do?
Q. Ok, im 13 right? This man from Turkey added me on MSN and we have been speaking for around a month or two, and he tells me he loves me, he is 18, and i know he is because he showed me his ID and he also speaks turkish and lives in Istanbul, Digorlu....
A. 4 December 2006: lol! Sorry, cant help but laugh! Only thought people like you existed on a very badly scripted British soap:-P
Here's the advice, delete him off your messenger list, kid. Then dont add any wierdos on your contact list. I mean, do you not have... (read in full...)
I dont think i can tell him I'm pregnant
Q. Hi I have just found out i am pregnant, and i am absolutely thrilled a little bit scared, but still, so happy i suppose thats only natural however, it was not planned, i wasnt on the pill, but i got drunk and ended up taking a risk an...
A. 3 December 2006: I think you should tell him. If he's sleeping with you while he's got a girlfriend, then you'll probably be doing her a favour! I guess it'll be pretty tough but atleast you know that if you want to keep the baby, there's nothing he can do to stop ... (read in full...)
He forgave me after the first cheat...now I did it again! Should I tell him before we get married in 2 weeks?
Q. I have been with my fiance for three years and about a year and half ago i cheated on him...i told him and he forgave me. he recently left to the army and i cheated again! not because i dont want him, because i love him. i just made the worst ...
A. 1 December 2006: If you do tell him, most likely he'll leave you as its super likely that you'll do it again some time in the future. Personally I think you should tell him and let whatever happens to happen. Its just so dishonest and stuff to get married with ... (read in full...)
The guy I date won't leave the place he lives because--he lives with his current gf and her Mother! and he'd be homeless!
Q. i have this bf and i really like him as he like the male version of me we been together a month but the problem is he live with his other gf and her mum he says he wants to leave her for me but if he does he will be homeless also he good friends ...
A. 26 November 2006: Umm he's living with the girlfriend and her mother. I dont think they'll let him stay there if they find out what he's been upto. I seriously recommend you just find someone who's unattached. It would be a whole lot less messy for everyone ... (read in full...)
Need advice on the best type of condom to use...
Q. What is the best kind of condom to use in sex....
A. 21 November 2006: Dont know about brands but the extra sensitive ones feel less rubbery and give more sensation for both partners... (read in full...)
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