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Does a number really matter if both people are equally interested in one another ?

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Question - (16 April 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *oxy_lady16 writes:

hi, im a 17 year old nearly 18 year old seeing a just turned 27 year old, we've been dating for a month now, ive told my parents about this and they seem to think that he is using me and repeatedly say "why would a 27 year old be interested in a kid" but he doesnt seem 27 hes young looking, he acts about 24, we get on really well, plus hes more mature then men/boys my age. my last boyfriend was 24 and i never thought about the age difference, because i feel older than 17, i feel 19, does a number really matter, if both people are interested in each other equally?

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A female reader, Just a Girl... United Kingdom +, writes (1 May 2007):

Just a Girl... agony auntHi huni x

im 16 and my boyfriends 25, so i know this situation so well.

My mum wasnt cool with the relaionship at first for obvious resons but once she got to know the person and not the age she relised that he really is an amazing guy.

Isnt it better that you be with saomeone who treats you great n relly makes you happi even if he is older than be woith someone who is horrible n makes you miserable n is your age?? which would your parents prefere???

age shoudnt matter because thats only on the surface. as long as your able to cope with peoples critism ( Which can change oevr time once they relise how happy you are) then i say no, age doesnt matter, its the relaionship between two people that matters not their birthdays!!

gud luck huni!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007):

I met my husband to be when I was 17, he at the time was 29 - 7 days later he turned 30! Like your chap he doesn't look his age. I was personally suprized at his age but for me it was never a problem. We have now been together for nearly four years and we are engaged. At first my Father did not like this at all when I disclosed the age of my partner, but over the years my partner and Father have become good friends. So it has worked out well for me. If I'd listened to others I would've missed out on so much. I think it's best that you try - if it doesn't work out at least you know for yourself - instead of listening to others now and regretting it and constantly thinking what if this and what if that. Live your life a bit and see where it takes you. Just take things slow and don't rush into to much to soon. Hope things work out whatever you decide to do. Sticking by who I'd fallen for was the best thing I ever did.

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A male reader, maxsteel86 United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2007):

maxsteel86 agony auntHere's the reality of the situation, age doesn't matter to you, but it does bother people who aren't directly involved in the relationship (parents, friends, strangers on the streets might think things too)

Unfortunately for everyone in a similar situation, that isn't likely to change any time soon. Fortunately, the decision is yours to make so you know, do what feels right

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007):

No way! I'm in love with a man who's 21 years older than me. I don't belive that it matters. Besides the man I love acts and looks younger than he is. You should do what you want and not what your parents want.

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A male reader, Royofthe Rovers United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2007):

Royofthe Rovers agony auntI have to agree with juliet. Age difference usually isnt an issue unless its in your case.

This takes nothing away from what you feel and what you want, but just be aware that you WILL change over the years in one way or another so be aware of that.

All the best..

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (16 April 2007):

deejuliet agony auntA number is only a number, however you have to keep in mind that your number is still very small and you are going to go through a lot of changes in the next couple years. Take it slow. If it is meant to be, taking your time and waiting awhile wont really matter. I met my current boyfriend when I was 13 and he was 20. My parents wouldnt allow us to date because of the age differance. We remained friends for a long time before losing touch. About 3 years ago we reconnected and guess what! We have now been together for 2 years!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007):

I don't think age matters at all. I know of a couple that have about a 14 year age difference, and they love each other to bits.

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A female reader, Kittycat1986 United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2007):

Hi, im 21 and my partner fiance is 35. We have been together for 3 years now. The age gap has not been a problem at all. My family accepted him straight away! All they wanted was for me to be happy and i am. If you really like this guy go for it! Its you that will be having a relationship with him not your family but still try and talk to them and tell them you really like him and that you would like them to support your decision.

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A female reader, sizzlepops2007 United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2007):

i have been through wot u are i was 26 and my partner was 17 i use 2 get assaulted through this and people use to say why would a 26 year old want with a 17 year old, but what it was we cared for each other and had good times you do what you feel is best for you both, dont listen to no other people coments!

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