Do you bleed the first time?
Q. I'm a virgin and what i'd like to know is if you definetly bleed the first time you have sex? And also if you bleed still when you've broke your virginity? Thanks...
A. 10 April 2007: There's no gaurantee you will bleed, there's a chance you wont. But you know, just cos you didn't bleed doesn't mean you wasn't a virgin. Google it, there's plenty of cases where the girl didn't bleed the first time.... (read in full...)
Am I hot or am I not?
Q. Are there any ways to tell if i am hot? Because i think i am (im not gloating) and when people say stuff, not about me, like "he's hot" and "he's fit", i think to myself: a)eww thats just wrong, why are you telling me this and b)well...
A. 9 April 2007: Dont worry about it, people have different opinions on whats hot. Its no big deal, I mean I know its a nice ego booster to have strangers say you're hot and stuff lol! but you know, people think differently... (read in full...)
What is generally more important: A successful, ideal career or a successful, life-long partnership?
Q. What is generally more important: a successful, ideal career or a successful, life-long partnership? Please, if you've any examples they'd be most appreciated...oh, and this is assuming it's either one or the other, and that they're not manageable ...
A. 9 April 2007: Hmmm I dont know... what if you find the ideal life-long partner but your job is so bad you end up living in a dump for the rest of your life... although we all try to keep money related issues from harming the relationship, fact is they do come ... (read in full...)
Question for the men: Would you consider a fulfilling sex life to be more of a priority over other aspects in a realtionship ?
Q. Question for the lads..Would you consider a fulfilling sex life with your partner as a top priority in your relationship or would other issues be more important to you ie companionship,compatibility etc? Comments appreciated....
A. 9 April 2007: I remember this old line I read somewhere "Show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I will show you a guy who is tired of sleeping with her" basically, if sex is the top priority and not much else, then eventually, the two people will lose ... (read in full...)
She just suddenly left me for someone else after 7 yrs, what should I do with all her stuff ?
Q. My girlfriend of 7yrs has walked out,offering no explanation and is seeing somebody she works with. I have tried to contact her,without stalking or phoning her all the time but she will not respond. I have to accept that the relationship has...
A. 7 April 2007: Send her a txt to pick up the stuff, leave a voicemail and email too. Include when you'll be changing the locks so she knows by when the stuff will become inaccessible. If she hasn't picked it up by then, do whatever you want with them ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14, I told him I'm pregnant, He laughed at me and called me a slag, But I thought we were in love!!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 19 months and i feel i really love him now. i am only 14 and so when i got with him i was young and i didnt know what love was but now i feel i do. i didnt sleep with him till i became 14 because i thought i was too ...
A. 5 April 2007: 17 huh? Send his ass to the courts for having sex with a minor. Some revenge will make you feel better. And are you sure you wanna keep it? Abortions are free to people under 18 and less than 24 weeks pregnant. In the end, its your decision but ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and really want to have sex with my 21 yr old boyfriend!!
Q. hi, im 14 years old and i have a 21 year old boyfriend, i see him all the time and i love him alot. its not really a problem though cause if i didnt want to see him i would of told him to **** off. anyways, my friend has been to his house with me,...
A. 5 April 2007: *sigh* this question seems to come up here a lot recently... and the answers are always the same. Wait till 16... (read in full...)
Found some explicit stuff on my future brother in law's computer! Should I tell my sister?
Q. My sister and I live together. She's been dating her boss in secret for over a year now. He is currently going through a divorce, during the process of which he moved in with us. Both have left relationships in order to be together. He can't ...
A. 5 April 2007: Its no big deal. So he has a thing for the singer, its not like he's doing anything with her right? So it doesn't seem like there's much to tell anyway. A question though, why did you bring up your sister seeing her boss in secret? That seems ... (read in full...)
Im considering becoming a prostitute as I fear its the only way out of my debt!!
Q. I'm so desperate for money right now, I owe so much out, I've been having thoughts that my only way out is prostitution. I really don't want to do this, is there any way round this? I need money asap and really have no other choice. Is it dangerous ...
A. 3 April 2007: Haven't you seen the TV adverts? 'Call debt matters today' - check www.debtmatters.co.uk
They'll create a payment plan you can afford and then using a little known government legislation, write off up to 75% of the debt you cant afford to pay. The... (read in full...)
When you are dancing with a girl and she is grinding you with her bum, what are the men supposed to do?
Q. this might sound like a stupid question, but when you are dancing with a girl and she is grinding you with her bum, what are the men supposed to do? just move with her while she does it? this happened to me on the weekend when i went out round the ...
A. 27 March 2007: lol @ home_land:-P go with it I say, just like the first poster. Of course, if they have a terrible butt that you dont want touching you, feel free to tell them to quit it... (read in full...)
How can I stop these funny phone calls?
Q. I've been getting funny phone calls and it's really getting annoying. If I take the phone number to the police are they able to tell who it is? Thanks....
A. 27 March 2007: If they're using a landline or contract phone (which I very much doubt) then yeah they'll be able to do something. Unfortunately, my guess is its just some punk kid using a pay as you go SIM. If you talk to your network, you might be able to get ... (read in full...)
If I don't have sex with her she says she'll break up with me, the problem is her age, she's only 14.
Q. I'm in love with a younger girl. I don't have a problem with the age gap because age is just a number to me, but I turn 19 this November, and she just turned 14. The thing is that I love her so much, but she wants to have sex. I object to this ...
A. 27 March 2007: Just a second, you're saying that you used to be dating a 13 year old??? Hmmm Gary Glitter molested two girls in Vietnam. One was aged 13 Why are you dating a child? Love my ass, you should never have allowed yourself to get to this stage so... (read in full...)
His son who no longer lives with us broke into our house!
Q. My husband of six years has two teenage sons (who do not live with us), one of whom has been mostly trouble since day one. My husband has never disciplined his kids or made them accountable for their mis-deeds, and now the troublesome 17 year-old ...
A. 25 March 2007: Personally, I think your husband is an ass with the way he lets his kids do anything. Ask anybody (with intelligence), kids need boundaries to know when they're doing something wrong (like smashing a window on accident) or totally wrong (like a ... (read in full...)
Can someone please give me info on the abortion pill ?
Q. Can anyone explain to me about the abortion pill. What is it?How can you get it? is it from hospital or doctors? how much is it in the uk? can you get it on the nhs? what effects does it have? Do you have to be a certain age to take ...
A. 22 March 2007: Check out Marie Stopes on google. The price and everything is there. But it is a private thingy so you'll have to pay for it. I can tell you now, its not cheap. If you're underage, you can get an abortion free on the NHS and it'll be all ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so upset that my bf grabbed this other woman's ass, when he was drinking?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years when out for a St. Patricks celebration with a couple of friends and one of our friends brought a co-worker with her, so as the night went on the drinks started hitting all of us and so I started dancing with the ...
A. 20 March 2007: Maybe its cos you were freaking with her, he thought it was ok? According to urbandictionary.com, freaking: dancing to simulate sex. So yeah, I'm guessing its what I just said... (read in full...)
While we had sex, he called me his ex gf's name! I am so upset and hurt-what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. We've pretty much lived together for 8 of the 10. The other night during sex he called me his ex's name! He was with her for 15 yrs. But they have been split for almost 5 years. I'm so hurt ...
A. 20 March 2007: As simple as other folks here have made it seem, I know it cant be that easy. If it was, everything would just break down to two choices, do or dont. They've been apart for 5 years now, a long time to not be calling your ex's name in bed. Ask him ... (read in full...)
I am so untrustworthy under the influence of alcohol.
Q. i am so untrustworthy under the influence of alcohol, i flirt and used to yrs ago just kiss men behind my bf back. i now have decided to give up alcohol because i also have blackouts and sometimes get fairly violent. my bf found out that i was ...
A. 20 March 2007: Give up drink permanently, not even once a month! Cos that one time is probably gonna make you do something crazy. And smashed your phone? Maybe learning some self control will help you in life more ways than one... (read in full...)
She was sexually molested by a male relative and now I find it gross touching her.
Q. Hello Ive been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and recently she came clean about being sexually molested by a male relative when she was 8-14 and now as horrible as it sounds i find myself kind of grossed out by her. everytime i touch her i ...
A. 20 March 2007: You need to leave her. When she confided in you, I'm guessing she wanted some comfort and support but instead you see her as damaged goods. Here's an idea, why not return her to the store? You might still be able to get your deposit back... (read in full...)
Since we broke up I've slept with 3 people, he knows about 1, should I tell him about the other 2 now we're back together?
Q. My boyfriend and I went out for 3 years... we split up for one year and kept getting together on and off. Now we are seeing how things go getting back together. While we were broken up I slept with 3 people, one of which he knows about... do i tell ...
A. 20 March 2007: Technically, you didn't cheat since this happened while you were broken up. He didn't ask so there's no pressure to tell. Although its up to you to tell him even if he does ask (and its not wise of him to ask anyway). The only problem is when he ... (read in full...)
I don’t even know completely what a breast looks like because I can’t bare to see (no joke).
Q. I am a 25-year-old man from central England who has Cerebral Palsy and uses a wheelchair. I am very scared of love, sex, sexual contact, and even typing "xx" in a message to my mates. Generally, if I fear that I’m about to see a boob or the other ...
A. 20 March 2007: Sorry I'm having trouble taking all this in. You ran to your room you say? In your wheelchair? You have cerebral palsy and you managed to type all that up with pretty zero spelling and grammar mistakes? From what I just read on wikipedia, you'd ... (read in full...)
I switched her contraceptive pill with sugar pills and now she's pregnant and crying all the time, I feel so guilty now, should I come clean and tell her what I did?
Q. [Moderator Note: If you don't have anything helpful to suggest then don't waste your time replying] Hi, I did something stupid, please don't judge. Right well, I've been with my girlfriend Vanessa for about 4 years now. I'm 32, she's 25. Ev...
A. 18 March 2007: I wont judge you on what you did, you admit you did real bad and thats a hopeful sign. Since having this baby was pretty much not her choice and since she doesn't want it, I guess there's always the option of abortion.
And like Eve said, dont tell... (read in full...)
What does this "Guy" want from me? Why did he put me here????
Q. I've had it with this guy I do the right things in life, and all I see is the people who do wrong and not live God like get everything they want. I mean what does this guy want from me, if he doesn't like me then why would he put me on this earth ...
A. 18 March 2007: While you're at it, maybe you should also watch the movie Signs starring Mel Gibson. Might help you to keep faith. But really though, rather than just praying, maybe you should do something to get what you want, something more productive... (read in full...)
He wants to go away and travel for 8 weeks, should I agree and let him go?
Q. Opinions needed from young people. I dated a guy long distance whilst he was at uni - he cheated kissing other girls at clubs (thats as far as he told me it went). So we split up in his third year. He graduated and came home so we decided to gi...
A. 16 March 2007: Seems to be that your guy went through a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' back at uni. And if he hasn't changed in that time all that much, then most likely he wont stay faithful (unless he's going to those nature places where there aren't that ... (read in full...)
If there really IS a God, why does he allow so much suffering?
Q. Do you believe in God? And if so why does he allow all the pain in the world. I’ve been brought up to believe in God and never doubt my belief. My family are not religious in the sense of going to church, my mother has always believed in God ...
A. 16 March 2007: Here's a line I hear is in the bible (heard it on Futurama) God helps those who help themselves. Maybe rather than simply praying to win the lottery, you should go buy a lottery ticket (metaphoric analogy) And I dont get why everybody sudden... (read in full...)
He said he was getting a new phone and would be out of touch for a while, I haven't heard from him since...
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and the feelings have been very mutual...After meeting up yesterday he told me he was going to get a new phone(assuming its the same #) and would be out of touch for a bit. I still haven't heard from him ...
A. 16 March 2007: Well he's getting a new phone and you dont know for sure that his number is the same. Give it some time. After getting a new phone, you have to leave it charging for like 14 hours otherwise the battery just craps out on you within a month. So I ... (read in full...)
A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?
Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...
A. 15 March 2007: Maybe you're seeing the wrong kind of men? Its probably cos when they reach those comfort zones, they no longer feel like they have to put in as much effort as they used to. Thats when things go into a downwards spiral where they end up looking ... (read in full...)
Is it a normal guy thing to get a thrill out of being able to subjugate many women?
Q. Is it a normal guy thing to get a thrill out of being able to subjugate many women? ...
A. 15 March 2007: No, why would you get a thrill out of subjugating women? Now subjugating a whole planet, like the false gods in stargate, now that would be a thrill!!... (read in full...)
Am I being a hypocrite???
Q. Dear Cupid am I being a hypocrite? I am 19 years old and dating a 45 year old man (3 wonderful weeks). Our relationship is very healthy and happy and wonderful and I couldn't ask for better. My younger cousin Elise is 18 and has been dating ...
A. 15 March 2007: Very hypocritical. Those few months you got on her make no difference whatsoever.... (read in full...)
Part of me really wants revenge and really likes the boy, the other part doesn't want to hurt my friend.
Q. Hello, I really like a guy, and he likes me too. The problem is that one of my friends also likes him. I know there's rules about not dating a guy who your friend likes too, but it's much more complicated. When I was still completely in lo...
A. 13 March 2007: Well your friend doesn't seem to have a problem with doing this kinda crap to you, why should you? But more importantly, if you like this guy then go for it, dont get with him just for revenge cos that really sucks and is cruel to him. But ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade her that the love of her life is ME... and not her boyfriend!
Q. Hey, i've been talking to this girl for like 5 weeks now over the internet, and we got to know each other really well, and she fancies me and i fancy her, so i want to make a shot at it, but...shes got a boy friend.i know i need to wait but is there ...
A. 12 March 2007: Haha Dr Reality Check, all you needed to do was post your name on this and it would've been the perfect advice right there:-P I second what Malyce Synn said... (read in full...)
He wants me to delete him off my contact list and never speak to him again although he does have reason. Is this fair?
Q. i'm 15. i almost cheated on my bf with a guy who is also my very good friend. i told him straight about it and he forgave me . i dont want any lies in this relationship. i am still friends with this guy but there is NOTHING going on. now my bf wants ...
A. 12 March 2007: If you dont do it, it'll kill the trust in your relationship and eventually you and the boyfriend will break up over it.
If you do it, then you'll lose the friend you almost cheated with. And its true in most cases (maybe not all), when a guy has ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has broken up with me and now I think I'm pregnant! Help!!!
Q. hi my boyfriend broken up with me about 2 months ago but i think im pregnant. i dont know what to do i took one doctors wee test and one home test both come back negitive i have had my period in 3 months but they was not like my normal period. ...
A. 12 March 2007: Take another test like cd said. But also you might wanna check out a condition called hysterical pregnancy. Its when the brain actually believes the person is pregnant and releases those hormones etc. It can even make your stomach larger. I ... (read in full...)
How can I have safe sex without condoms?
Q. I have 6 kids. And I am pregnant again. How can I have safe sex without using condoms?...
A. 12 March 2007: Sterilisation? If you think you've had enough kids and dont want anymore in the future, then that's a good way to go. Though I'd recommend your partner do it since its easier to get it done on a guy... (read in full...)
How can I exercise in a way that is fun for me?
Q. I'm 15 and i have recently been becoming quite chubby. i think it is because i like snacking, when ever i'm bored then i will just go into the kitchen and have a biscuit or a slice of cake or some toast or something, i have tried givin this up bu...
A. 12 March 2007: You need an exercise that's not only gonna get you to lose the weight but is also fun and relaxing. Running on a treadmill has nothing on running outside, its a totally different experience and one that is much more likely to keep you motivated to ... (read in full...)
Is it at all possible to be in love with two people at once?
Q. Is it possible to be in love with two people at once? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months, and are very happy. He's not the most romantic or thoughtful of people, but I love him to pieces, and I know that he loves me and needs me. ...
A. 12 March 2007: Before you decide to break up with your boyfriend, are u sure the other guy will treat you any better? The things you want your boyfriend to be can be changed and I'm sure he'd be happy to do romantic things if you told him about it. If you never ... (read in full...)
Should I be letting her past affect me like this?
Q. I have trouble with my gf past but the thing is she is a virgin and im just trouble by the fact that she has kiss 13 guys and give oral sex to 2 of her 3 past boyfriends but to me thats enough and it troubles me and especially the guys she has kiss ...
A. 12 March 2007: Dont go digging up the past, all you get is dirt. But if the past falls down all over you, then that's a different story. I know it bothers you right now, but really, nothing can be changed and nothing good can come from your feeling like this. I ... (read in full...)
What do i do, finish with my boyfriend and forget everything and move on, or remain depressed?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months and he has already proposed. weve not been getting on very well and were always arguing. but my ex boyfriend keeps coming round and telling me he still loves me and wants me back and that hes sorry for ...
A. 12 March 2007: I'm sorry for your loss and trauma, hope you get over it and stuff.. You kinda pointed out your two choices yourself, stay depressed or leave and move on. I'd go with leave and move on. Dont know the whole story about the ex (like is he still ... (read in full...)
Will he eventually stray if i can't put out? I feel he should even though it would break my heart.
Q. help! im a virgin and seeing my bf of nearly 1 yr, hes not a virgin by a long shot. anyway, ive tried to have sex and im terrified, its hurts he cant even put his finger in, as i just tense up, its come to the stage now where i feel i cant even be ...
A. 12 March 2007: Grr doctor pete beat me to it!!! I was thinking vaginismum too. I read an article on MSN once, its more to do with the mind than anything else. Therapists tend to have a high success rate with this kinda stuff. But it does take some time and ... (read in full...)
He's dated numerous other girls and slept with my sister but I can't stop loving him!!
Q. Well my boyfriend and I decided to break up and just stay friends. He says he needs to find himself. And he confessed to me about all his secrets that he had sex with my sister many times and so many other girls and it's not even that! It's the fact ...
A. 11 March 2007: You're not in touch with the logical (less nice) parts of your mind, the parts that demand vengeance and get a kick from watching stuff like world's greatest sporting disasters etc. This is what happens when people detach themselves from the rest ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think I am being paranoid or looking into things too much or am I being reasonable?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and have always had problems with his ex. At the start of our relationship he did the dirty on me and I found out that he was sleeping with his ex, we split up (Not the best start I know). We got back tog...
A. 11 March 2007: What cd said. This guy's being a total ass and is giving u so many reasons to not trust him. Good move on dumping him. Nicely done;-)... (read in full...)
How can I find somebody who is not 'money motivated'?
Q. How can I find Someone who is not money motivated?...
A. 11 March 2007: Dont pick up people in banks?... (read in full...)
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