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writes:My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question is.....is it possible for a girl to be drunk enough to have sex (mutual masturbation, oral sex, even intercourse) and not remember it?
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reader, asera42069 +, writes (4 April 2008):
i dont care how drunk they say they are they know what they are doin i work in a strip club as a stripper and i get drunk all the time and yes gus i find attractive come in but i know what im doin so i never become unfaithful to my husband i could be stummbling and slurring my words but i still have common sense and know what im doing so i believe its bs when people say i didnt mean to do it i was drunk its all just an excuse to try to get off without feeling as if they did anything wrong i hope i helped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): i dont care how drunk they say they are they know what they are doin i work in a strip club as a stripper and i get drunk all the time and yes gus i find attractive come in but i know what im doin so i never become unfaithful to my husband i could be stummbling and slurring my words but i still have common sense and know what im doing so i believe its bs when people say i didnt mean to do it i was drunk its all just an excuse to try to get off without feeling as if they did anything wrong i hope i helped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Never mind when she is drunk - she has admitted to being openly with this guy when sober?! You are supposed to be faithful when in a relationship like yours, anything that remotely resenble what you may do together should be absent from a mere friendship, ie; lying in bed with someone else in just knickers? I know what my Fiance would say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Whether she had sex or not (and I suspect that she did and she's copping out to avoid admitting it to you), I think you should break up with her.
Nevermind the specifics. You say she admits to "dating" someone else while you're engaged?
WTF?!?
She's giving you CLEAR warning signs that she's not being faithful. If she's already doing this stuff while you're engaged, then look out. Don't expect this to get better just because you become legally married or something.
Break off the engagement, pull back, and think very hard about this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Possible.
But unlikely.
If she was capable of getting drunk enough to lose every inhibition and sense of self she has then its worth keeping and eye on her as she clearly can't handle her drink.
If she did and it was just the once, forgive and let live. There is nothing to be gained from throwing away a relationship over a single, stupid mistake.
Flynn 24
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 Umm you usually can figure out if you did, there's always some fuzzy memory of it. But buddy, this is your fiance doing all that right?? Seems to me that there's some pretty big problems up ahead
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reader, Jmo +, writes (3 April 2008):
 YES, but usually there are enough clues and pieces you can put together to lead you to the conclusion "Oh shit! I think I had sex with him last night!" I know that probably sounds bad, but then again I'm a drunk. However if there is no doubt in her mind that she didn't have sex, believe her.
-Jmo
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 I agree with the boys. You do remember what you did, unless you lose consciousness.
Perhaps you remember it so well that you lie about it?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 April 2008):
 Anyone might get intoxicated enough to lose all inhibitions or do something that they would not normally do, but I think we would have adequate memory of having done it as long as we remained conscious.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (3 April 2008):
 It's highly unlikely. I doubt it. Doesn't mean it's not possible, though.Wishing you the best.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Rather unlikely, I feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): YES! It is possible, but it is also the excuse given by many to many.Did she give head/oral while doing this? It would be hard to find out she is not a virgin on your wedding night.
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