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writes:Hi friends,There is some thing happened in our life. Mine and my wife's. My brother came and stayed with us for 3 months. He was 19 and my wife was 22.She once told me that he is playing around and in a tricky way, as if happens accidentally or with out knowing, tries to hug, touch on her breasts etc...When it came to me I thought of my feelings during my age of 19 .. I felt it is alright and not needed to be taken with importance.Next week also she told me it is continuing and she does not know what to do. I had mixed feelings. Actually I am ok with such playing. I told her the same and told her if she feels it comfortable get going. further for some days nothing was told and later my wife told me that they are both getting closer and closer. i asked her about more details.I was shocked for a while, what she told was she once asked about what he was trying to do when he caught her breasts in a tricky way. then my younger brother became afraid and then she told him that she does not have a problem that if he wants to have some fun.There on they started having lot fun. When I am at work they used to be nude at home and they did lot of sexual explorations together. She tells that she also likes it though it was difficult for her to accept the idea initially. She did not allow him to penetrate but other than that they did almost everything about sex. She kind of guided him to different experiences of sex. She told that the guy was always in control and coped a lot. when ever he felt that urge to penetrate, he asks for a masturbation... .But though she enjoyed a lot, she feels guilty now.I want to get opinion about what we did is correct or not? Was she making me a fool telling me that she does not know how to handle his sexual advances in the initial times? How can I make her understand that that it is alright? I am always open to the idea that they enjoy... even alright even if she goes for a penetration. But my serious doubt is, what does she mean by she likes my brothers play with breasts better than mine? though I a open, there is an ego in me too. a bit or more of different face. She once was saying that she likes the idea of threesome.please put your suggestions.
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reader, FlyWoo-Man  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 It's a complicated situation. I think that when she tells you that he's a really good lover at the breast fondling I think she is trying to make you either jealous or to improve your technique. Personally I would feel bad if my husband doesn't share too much importance because my ego would be hurt as well, so I think in return she's trying to hurt yours. I'd suggest to try to stop this situation because you'll end up without a wife and having to give love to your brother. If you want a threesome try to do this with someone outside your family because you might loose your brother as well.Good Luck!
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reader, kaushal +, writes (19 September 2009):
its ok if they have relation u also join them have enjoy the fun of this lovely wife & life
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reader, CoolAndCoolest +, writes (16 September 2009):
CoolAndCoolest is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, they had it.
so when in a good mood if she tells we will describe more about it. now i am helping her to feel easy.
thanks
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Women tend to fall in love with sexual partners. That's the only problem that I can see. It may also be the reason why she is feeling guilty. Torn between two lovers? Torn between two brothers?
If you can reach some kind of conclusion, then you have the wisdom of Solomon.
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reader, CoolAndCoolest +, writes (12 September 2009):
CoolAndCoolest is verified as being by the original poster of the questionall,
things are going good at our end also.
she was telling that if things are going like this way she may give up for a penetration also.
it makes me even joyful.
need she sit and talk with my brother about his consent?
as things are going into deep roots, i want ensure that he is aware of what is happening and to convince him about the positives and negatives of such a relation.
what shall i do? how can i give some time for them both?
how can i signal her that I am ok with it?
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reader, hdell +, writes (11 September 2009):
I don't see what the problem is. As long as she doesn't let him go all the way, it should be okay with you. You love your brother and you want him to have as much fun as possible. Letting him feel your wife up is your gift to him. Evidently it is okay with your wife. She deserves to have fun too. Think how much fun she is having with two guys appreciating her body.
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reader, CoolAndCoolest +, writes (10 September 2009):
CoolAndCoolest is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes lolal,
you reply sees to be valid. even after seeing her worrying, i was also in trouble. she is important, the only important. once i asked her if she and him were involving in a complete love making what will she do and the answer was she will not accept it and she will be no more.
i was struck by this. i cannot loose her for any reason... any any any reason at all. it is not for the physical chastity that i love her for but i love her for the loyalty and helping hand between us. according to me chastity is an infatuation. many people feel to go and try out something out of their marriage and it is just for the social acceptance sake they hold back.
she is a great lover. very well caring. my brother does not know that i know everything that occurred. i don't want to make my little boy embarrassed. he is a good guy too, a very good guy. we never planned for a threesome with all of us together. i was just mentioning that she had such a fantasy. just to mention that she speaks those things openly.
she often tells that his hands are big enough to cover her entire frontage and thats something she likes and enjoys very much. that way she did not try to impress me. that way she is truthful. if the situation was vice versa i would have told a lie (but i can tell truth to her always).
we will decide some thing like not to drag my brother into this. he has got more than enough of an understanding or more of enjoyment...
Do I have to tell her some thing specific to take out this silly GUILT? and i feel that she was interested in having something with the boy and she was trying to get a consent from me in the beginning?
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (9 September 2009):
 You and your wife are far from the only ones to have had fantasies to have a threesome or to share your spouse/be shared with someone not your spouse (with spousal consent). Admittedly, your particular circumstances are more unique as it involves your blood relation.However, she has lied to no one, betrayed no one and has hurt no one. She does not need to feel guilty.That doesn't mean her guilt is abnormal. Because a woman often values her reputation, and I presume it is important to her to be a good wife (for example) and a good mother (if applicable), engaging in sexual activity outside of your marriage appears at face value, to contradict these roles.Her guilt is a common “after-reaction”, but as I’ve said, it does not mean it is an emotion she deserves to feel. Some people will masturbate and then feel guilty. It is because we are raised with the ideals that such behaviours are sinful or wrong, and once we have engaged in them, we have remorse. It may not be right, but it is normal.Simply continue to do what you are doing. Offer her as much support as she may need to overcome the guilt. If she wishes to invest a little more in the aspects of her life which are more widely acceptable in social circumstances, allow her that. If she would like to engage in more traditional forms of love-making, allow her that, too.Always remind her how you honour her, and she will put the guilt behind her.It is wonderful that you have been open and honest with each other through this experience. It is far too rare for couples to be frustrated within a marriage; to become disconnected because they are afraid to try something new together. You seem to be happy with the experience and are still very much in love. I have no doubt it has increased your emotional intimacy.Good for you.
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reader, CoolAndCoolest +, writes (9 September 2009):
CoolAndCoolest is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the replies. we are trying for a conclusion. I just wanted to have an understanding about how and what she is feeling about it. i am always in an appreciative mood and enjoys it. i know that we will be together for every thing. she had support from me. but i did not think that she will be this open to sex and stunned for some time when she told me. i never did questioned her.
this i feel like mine, wife's and my brother's fantasies getting fulfilled.
she did not cheat on me. she suggested about threesome well much before these incidents occur.
i just wanted to have an idea about what might be going around her mind. whether is she happy? her present guilt feel is some thing for me to assure her in some way that i am ok and loves her still? but how can i assure and prove her that i love her a lot and it was alright. she should not feel guilty?
as for my brother, it is good to think about him, i understand. we should not encourage him into this any more. but she tells that he does not ask any thing to her these days. but i don't think this was incest!
basically i want to assure her that she is not less in my mind. i think that sort of a thinking is some thing which causes a guilt..
-- as for the question that is it for my wife giving a hand job to him-i don't see it wrong. every body wants sex love and caring. she is very close to him and who else to understand him? In fact when I was at those ages I used to fascinate these things. and lack of it made me to some homo experiences. i thought let him be biased to the opposite sex..
people will call me a pervert.
opinions are always welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): Kudos to you for being so open! Now I dont know either you, your wife or your brother, but if you are fine with it, and your wife and brother are fine with it, then it isnt a problem. However, I am not sure I understood this right. Did she have all these sexual experiences with your brother behind your back? Or had you told her it was okay for her to take it further?
If she did it behind your back it is a problem. Thats cheating. The two of you need to be absolutely honest. Ask her how she feels about it. Even though she might have enjoyed it at the time, she might feel uncomfortable with the situation. Maybe she even wants you to say its not okay and demand her back as your wife?
Also consider your brothers maturity. 19 isnt that old, and he might not be ready to be involved in such a relationship. It would be healthier for him to have his own girlfriend, or he might start chasing after wives for the rest of his life? Consider his maturity! Is he ready for this?
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