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writes:My girl friend of a few months has decided to go for a face surgery without discussing the consequences with me. She has even gone to an extent where she would like to let go of this relationship fearing that I would not lover her anymore if the surgery failed. How would I handle this situation?
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 I would presume her face is not the only reason you chose to get involved with this girl. If so, then I doubt the relationship will last. Faces change whether we have surgery or not.
"My girl friend of a few months has decided to go for a face surgery without discussing the consequences with me."
I am having trouble seeing what there is to discuss. What consequences? Are you concerned about her physical health and well-being, or are you concerned you won't think she is as pretty anymore?
I mean, if you'd have been with her for a long time... years... married with children? Then, yes, have a discussion about it.
She has lived with her face her entire life and she has been with you for only a few months. You don't have any input. This is her decision.
Now that I've said this, scroll down to Beingblack and sexlessintheuk and follow their advice.
Good luck!
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 Although I do not agree with any type of cosmetic surgery, I think you need to sympathise with your girlfriend a little.
Her mind is at a stage where facial surgery is all consuming, and vital. It is so important that she has set money aside and is willing to cast you aside. So where is her mindset at right now? What dreadful thoughts are causing her to even consider changing her facial appearance, the very thing that other people recognise us by?
If you can get an idea of her state of mind, then you will be halfway to understanding her actions.
Support her in any way that you can, but I would re-assure her of the reasons why you are with her now, and what makes her a person that you want.
I would also stress to her that you will not change how you feel after the surgery.
Best of luck.
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