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writes:i'm pointing this question mostly at the guys (and ladies, if u had something similar going on)..i've been through a surgery in the past year, which left about 2cm scars all over my chest and back - i had to remove about 30-40 tiny skin tumors. i did it because the tumors really hurt my confidence and i wanted to get rid of them.i'm not in full health yet, but i'm treating the scars the best way possible (silicon bandages and stuffs)..and they're not infected or anything. i'm 25 and virgin- which doesn't add up much :Pthe scars that scare me the most are the ones on my chest,,i was just wondering do guys get really grossed at scars? what if they won't heal, do i still have a chance with any guy? :(-i'm glad i found this site, tnx for your time :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Some people might not like the scars, while others won't mind. Some other people might not like them at first, but they will not be turned off for them as time goes by. Of course, you want to be with the ones who won't mind, at first, or eventually.
Your scars are nothing to be ashamed of and they don't define who you are. This might not be the moment to do it, but there is always a possibility of having plastic surgery to hide them. Either way, don't worry.
If you get to the point of being naked with a guy, most probably that person will already know about your having undergone an operation and all that. So he won't be taken by surprise.
Keep going strong!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (17 April 2009):
 OK there seems to be a lack of guys answering this question.
Guys can be shallow and can be "grossed out" by scars, I know in a perfect world we'd all look past that and see your inner beauty!
I think for now meet guys and tell them about your scars, be honest, with them and they will probably look past it, the worst thing for a guy is if he sees something and didn't know about it or can't explain it, because in our stupid minds we won't think "oh she's had surgery how brave" we'll think "Oh is she a self harmer?" where as if you are upfront and honest and say you are self-conscious about it, any gentleman will look straight passed them.
The Girls are right though a bit of concealer while your man gets used to the idea will do no harm at all.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): you can always try bio oil etc to make them less noticable when they heal..or camoflarge make up (if they bother you that much) but to be honest, loads of women have things like stretch marks and guys don't even bat an eyelid. when you are reasy to sleep with a guy you could always tell them about your surgery and how the scars bother you. but i'm sure when you fall in love he'll fall in love wih all of you
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Guys don't mind scars! You'll be fine! They are a sign that you were brave! You can also conceal the ones which stick out a lot with derma blend concealor, ask your doctor to reccomend something and it will take practice to apply it correctly. X
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